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August 2020 Moms
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Due Week 3: Role Call, Chatter, GTKY, etc.
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If you are due in the Third Week of August 2020, (<b>8/16-8/22</b>), this is a spot for you!
For now just say, hey there, <i><b>remind us of your EDD,</b></i> and we can get everyone added to the list. As time goes along, hopefully we can continue to chatter and connect here. ❤️
<b>GTKY: DD (Dear Diary) -- How are you feeling?</b>
<b>Questions: </b>
Ladies of Week 3:
@wildrainbow EDD 8/16
@tanhabanana EDD 8/16
@RedBaramid EDD 8/16
@faith_2911 EDD 8/17
@lachnessmomster EDD 8/18
@tara4910 EDD 8/18
@littlekatiesworld EDD 8/20
@gladmamma EDD 8/21
@BusinessWife EDD 8/21
@moguippy EDD 8/22
For now just say, hey there, <i><b>remind us of your EDD,</b></i> and we can get everyone added to the list. As time goes along, hopefully we can continue to chatter and connect here. ❤️
<b>GTKY: DD (Dear Diary) -- How are you feeling?</b>
<b>Questions: </b>
Ladies of Week 3:
@wildrainbow EDD 8/16
@tanhabanana EDD 8/16
@RedBaramid EDD 8/16
@faith_2911 EDD 8/17
@lachnessmomster EDD 8/18
@tara4910 EDD 8/18
@littlekatiesworld EDD 8/20
@gladmamma EDD 8/21
@BusinessWife EDD 8/21
@moguippy EDD 8/22
Re: Due Week 3: Role Call, Chatter, GTKY, etc.
@wildrainbow the flu and bronchitis back to back sounds so awful. I’m sorry!
@lachnessmomster I think we have the same EDD but you put November 😂😂 pregnancy brain is real
@tara4910 @wildrainbow @lachnessmomster lol we are all sick! I have a cold...sore throat came over me yesterday after chills for a couple of nights in a row...today i'm a little better but super tired and a little stuffy.
other symptoms: fatigue/insomnia (falling asleep at 9pm and then waking up without fail around 230am or 3am for an hour or so before falling back asleep. super irritating) last 2 weeks i was having mild cramps pretty consistently that felt sort of like premenstrual cramps but a little "off" - just pressure in that area i guess with the occasional sharper quick sensation...cramps seem to have dissipated for now....bloated and gassy and constipated, so fun...what else? yesterday my boobs starting feeling a little sore and heavy, especially when walking up and down stairs. And I've been extremely hungry! Overall I would say I'm doing okay, I just really want this cold to pass!
@tara4910 See what I mean!? I mentally haven’t moved past November. Lolol. But yes. I meant August 18th! Sorry, ladies!
@gladmamma I'm so glad you're feeling better. It's the worst being sick on top of being newly pregnant!
Hey ladies!!! I just realised, I go here! Lol and I am right there with you on the sleep schedule, sleeping hot and horribly. The other night I went to bed at 830 with the baby and then was up at 230 for the day! 😳 Yikes.
I am also paranoid about waking up with semi night sweats, like can I sleep too hot so as to harm the baby??? I'm really hoping it's all just normal hormone stuff and nothing to be worried about... :/
I do think it will be adjusted to the last week of August once I have my U/S mid-January--based on when I think I ovulated, EDD is 8/23
I'm feeling good! I teach and we just began winter break, so I'm very excited. But for some reason today I can't seem to stay warm. It's not even that cold outside and I'm in my house with a long-sleeved shirt plus two thick sweaters, huddled under blankets, and my hands are like ice! This morning I took my temperature expecting it to be a little elevated since I'm pregnant and instead it was 96.4... Anyone else colder than usual?
@wildrainbow @tara4910 @gladmamma Wow! Hope you guys feel better soon.
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
@lachnessmomster I'm sorry it sounds like you had a bit of a traumatic birth experience. Feel free if you care to share. ❤️ I'm not sure I would call mine traumatic exactly, but not what I had hoped for, for various reasons. Some of which I may have been able to prevent, or not. 🤷 There were definitely aspects of the management of my pregnancy tho that I feel left a bit to be desired, so as of now I'm planning to switch practices and hospitals for this one. We shall see if it makes a difference...
@tara4910 How's it going with the cold / nausea? Hope you're feeling better. :)
@gladmamma how are you doing? Are you managing to sleep any better?
@faith_2911 I have had the opposite problem actually, running hot! Bun in the oven, I guess. Lol But literally walking around the house on one of the coldest days of the year with just my tank top (no usual nightgown layer overtop) and half the day, not even with socks on my feet! Normally I am always cold, but I've been waking up hot almost every night, too. So weird.
Anyone else having issues drinking plain water? I can't. Like my body just hates it right now, which sucks because I usually drink water all the time.
adjusted by one day so I hopped over to this post. Went to the er last night, guess I have a uti. Other than that feeling good. Got to see the ultrasound and heartbeat! A little nausea, bloating, and I can’t drink enough. I’m so thirsty.
My two labor experiences have been bananas. The first one was supposed to be a calm, birth center water birth that ended up in an emergency c-section. The second, I labored at home for too long and barely made it to the hospital, and not the hospital that I originally chose. I was basically crowning en route, so they just took me to the nearest one. DD was nearly born on the bathroom floor, and honestly, I wish she would've been. Would have saved me another ambulance ride while I tried to answer questions about my medical history while screaming through contractions. Lol. She emerged while I was flat on my back in the bed (literally moments after I was wheeled into a room), where the whole time I had labored on hands and knees, and I had a 2nd degree tear and a mild prolapse that truthfully still hasn't fully recovered. My body felt pretty rough for a long time. So, that's the condensed version of all that. Hoping third time's the charm and plans pan out this go 'round.
@wildrainbow No trouble with water. I'm parched and hungry 90% of the time, so I'm constantly chugging tea, water, and eating everything in sight.
@tanhabanana Oh, no! I'm so sorry about the UTI and hope you feel better soon. Always lovely to get a peek at baby, though!
(Edited)
@wildrainbow I find other things are much more satisfying than water - especially sparkling water or water with fruit. Maybe try something different?
@lachnessmomster wow. What an ordeal. I too, hope you get a textbook smooth delivery experience this time (((hugs)))
I'm fighting anxiety so hard the closer I get to tomorrow's scan. I wish I had more symptoms for the peace of mind factor, but I'm also grateful not to be feeling too bad. I had a day of feeling really off/ not quite queasy, just weird. And I've been huffing and puffing up and down the stairs with laundry etc. Oh, and then there's the rage / emotions lol If my mood swings are any indication, then things certainly must be coming along nicely! 🤣
Im feeling okay. I’m hungry all the time and had a breakdown when I put dinner in the oven and realized it would take 2 hours to cook. So I put it in and then ate chicken nuggets until it’s done😂. I’m a nervous wreck waiting on our ultrasound that’s the 26th. It’s a bit early but with my history they wanted to do one early.
@BusinessWife I hope your new OB takes better care of you! I've read being extra warm is common partly because of the increased blood supply, but I'm sorry you're having to experience it, especially the night sweats! What a pain. I had those when I took Clomid. P.S. So glad your scan came back looking great!
@littlekatiesworld I can definitely relate! I'm only just at 6 weeks and didn't expect the increased appetite and hanger to set in until much later. But it's like right when I've gone just a bit too long without eating my body flips a switch and suddenly I'm famished, grumpy, and even sometimes dizzy. The other day my sister invited me somewhere and I declined because I couldn't imagine waiting another hour or two before dinner lol.
Today my poor husband was making us oatmeal and he made the mistake of telling me I didn't need a snack while it was cooking because it would be done soon. I got so unreasonably annoyed at him (and ate a snack anyway). Then my mood did a 180.
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
I would definitely talk w your midwives as early as possible, and work through airing out your worst case scenario fears, as well as visualizing your best case birthplan and backup plan. And discuss what you can start doing ahead of time to set yourself up for success with that plan! :) will it be the same or a new care team?
I need to do the same thing. Like actually write down on paper my fears / concerns, both as they relate to my previous birth experience, and just in general. For example this time the hospital will be considerably farther away, like 35-40 min vs 10-12. Last time I tried to stay home as long as possible, and shortly after I arrived, things slowed down. Eventually they started the drugs and the cascade of interventions I had been hoping to avoid. I saw it all unfolding like the cliché I was so adamant I didn't want to become, and then that's what happened. So IDK, I'm hoping the first midwife apt has me feeling more optimistic that things can be different this time.
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@BusinessWife No, I haven't heard of Fear Free Childbirth, but it sounds incredible. I will for sure add it to my list! I listened to Free Birth Society here and there when I was pregnant with DD and really enjoyed the different birth stories. You are absolutely right about facing fear head on, and making a list would be a great start. I think I might actually work on that today while the kids nap. Would be helpful to have everything in one place so I don't forget it all at my appointment. I will be with the care team that I INTENDED to birth DD with. As with your office, it's about a 40-45 minute drive, which is why last time, I just didn't make it. This time, at the first sign of contractions, I think we'll drive there immediately, and I'll wait my ass in the lobby until they admit me.
I also hear ya regarding your c-section. That was absolutely NOT an option with my first, and yet, that's the situation I found myself in as well. I felt like a failure for a long time, and still look back on the shoulda, woulda, couldas, but just like you said - the surgery itself was pretty seamless, and my baby was alive and healthy. There was really no reason to beat myself up for as long as I did, but it was a season that I had to work through. I did get my VBAC with DD, though, and I pray that you have a successful one as well! Feeling her emerge with no epidural after an emergency c-section the first time around was an absolute trip!
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Let's keep the conversation going and reintro a bit...
<b>GTKY: What kind of work do you / your partner do? SAHP? Any other kids, pregnancies, or FTM?</b>
DD was born in Sept 2018, after a long battle with MFI, so we are incredibly grateful to get to do this a second time. 🙏Hoping for more babies in the future, but I'm not sure we would do IVF again... We have talked about adoption though as well, so time will tell!
I work in healthcare administration. I’m a nurse, but I left the bedside about a year ago and now I mostly do project management and process improvement. My husband works for a non-profit. We have one daughter who turns 4 in April. I love my job so much, but I’m a little nervous about adding a second child to my workload. My daughter’s preschool has an infant class so I’m considering enrolling this baby there so at least they will be in the same place for drop-off and pick-up. I’d love to hear from other working moms with 2+ kids on how they juggle it all!
**TW**
I have Hashimoto’s and have struggled with regulating my TSH for a while. This fall was the first time it has been in an acceptable range in almost a year. My TSH levels since getting pregnant have been great, but I have to check every 4 weeks since it’s been so labile. I’ve had 3 chemical pregnancies (1 before DD and 2 since) and I think these might have been related to the Hashimoto’s even though my endocrinologist does not think so. Anyways, I’m super nervous about miscarriage and I’m really looking forward to my first ultrasound this Thursday.
**end TW**
MIL has Hashimotos and we have thyroid issues on my side as well. I know how tricky that can be to keep on top of. Luckily I haven't needed medication, except at some point during my first pregnancy, I did start taking synthroid. I requested another test along with some of my very first bloodwork, and so far it was fine, but I do want to keep an eye on it jik... 😬
*TW*
<div class=" Spoiler">I'm sorry about your losses. That's similar to our story, too. I had a CP with my first FET before DD, and then two that failed before this sticky cub. Sigh. I hate to think something like thyroid could cause losses, but I definitely get it, not being able to help but wonder... :/</div>
I'm not personally in healthcare, but I had a lot of family that always was growing up, so I have a lot of familiarity with the field. Nurses work so hard! Thanks for all you do! ❤️ But that's great you now can have a little more normal schedule / workload, I hope, working in a slightly different capacity vs. bedside.
We don't have two in daycare / preschool yet, but I am curious how others make it work. I'm not sure it would work for us right now, so most likely I'll just be staying home, rather than try to cover $$$ two in daycare. :/
I’m sorry for your losses ❤️
It’s good that you are watching your TSH, it’s so interesting that you needed synthroid last time but haven’t this time!
Anyway, I already planned to resign after this year, but I was nervous about what I would do instead because my original plan to be a SAHM wasn't looking great since we were having trouble conceiving. I figured I would find a different job (not in education), but I had no idea what that might be since I always imagined myself retiring from teaching. Now that we're expecting our little one, I feel even more confident about leaving the profession because I know that it isn't suitable for raising a family. I also feel excited to step into a new role as a SAHM and although I know that job will be difficult, I imagine I will find it more rewarding
This is our first baby! We do hope to continue to grow our family, but my PCOS made getting pregnant more complicated *TW*(and puts me at greater risk of miscarriage and gestational diabetes)*End TW*, so right now we are just thankful for this little babe and we're taking it one day at a time.
*TW*
@tara4910 @BusinessWife I'm so sorry for your losses. I can't fully understand since I haven't been through that before, but I imagine that being pregnant after a loss must be both thrilling and so difficult. I hope you both continue to find more and more comfort with each appointment.
Edited to add *TW's*
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS
While my benefits are great, the fact is what set them apart were the IF benefits, and now that we have achieved what will hopefully be our second successful pregnancy, the benefits of staying start to be outweighed by the things I feel I'm missing out on... These last few precious months of solo time with DD before the baby arrives, and just time to be home and get our house in order! For a long time I was always working six days, non-negotiable. Now at least I have a day off mid week, most weeks, but it's not really enough time to catch up on all the errands, house work, laundry, meal planning / prepping that hasn't always been happening, and just contributes to our overall stress level at home. If I manage to stay on top of the laundry, dishes, and getting DDs clothes, lunches, diapers, wipes etc. all packed for school, I'm good. But really I'm just staying afloat in that regard, and there's so many things that pile up on the back burner. Sigh.
I'm sure it would sound crazy to most people to sacrifice a paid mat leave, but there are other ways to get mommy / baby coverage, and really my pay covers her daycare and not much else 🤷. There is a childcare reimbursement benefit I only recently actually became eligible for 🤦 but anyway if that were to double, I could MAYBE cover two in daycare with my checks? But nothing else. Hoping some of the checks we are owed for the business start to roll in here and we can start to give my leaving more realistic consideration. DH is super supportive of whatever I decide, but right now things are just so tight still bc people are slow to pay. :/ It can really be kind of feast and famine when you're a business owner, so my pay was always nice to bridge the gaps, but it's getting old ...
We have 2 boys, 3yr and 14mo. **TW this is my 8th pregnancy as I've had 5 losses comprising of ectopic, BO, and chemical. Both boys are rainbow babies and so is this babe **End TW**
Truth be told, pregnancy and my body are basically like the Montagues and the Capulets. They hate each other and actively try to destroy the other. I wish that was an exaggeration, lol. I've never had a full term pregnancy, nor an uncomplicated, easy delivery. I would love to experience those and certainly would love to know what it's like to go into labor, and experience everything. I would love for my worst memory of my deliveries to be that I had labored too long or had to be induced. Both my boys were taken early due to a high chance of still birth. I never really got a say in any of it. I would like to say this time would be different, but since I have an almost 100% chance to be in the same position, I'm highly doubtful.
ETA: I just reread my previous paragraph, and I want y'all to know that I am sorry if it came off as judgmental. I have no right to judge anyone's birth experiences. Birth is hard, for everyone. So, I am sorry. It wasn't my intention to come off that way.
I'm sorry you're having to feel like you're barely staying afloat. I relate to that feeling even without having kids, so I'm sure it must be so much more so with a little one. I don't think you're crazy at all for sacrificing the mat leave to leave your job earlier! It makes sense to do whatever is best for your family, so if it ends up being within your family's means to resign early, I'd personally say go for it. That must be hard running a business and waiting for checks to come in. I'm sorry if I missed it in your intro (and if you'd rather not share I totally understand), but what kind of business do you run? I hope you and H get some clarity about your decision soon and feel good about it, whatever you decide.
@riatortillaxo Thank you for sharing your experience and for understanding! I'm glad that devastating news turned into something good for you. You're so right that it's unfair to feel the weight and importance of both roles and have to constantly make sacrifices in one or the other. I already feel that way in some of my other roles/relationships (wife, pet owner, friend, sister), so I can't imagine how much worse it would be with a little one. I originally became a teacher partly because I thought it would be a good job to have with a family, so that disillusionment was real. I know it works for some people with children and that still others are stuck making it work, but in the past four years, I've just been zombieing my way through it, so I feel thankful that because of my husband's job I can leave. I'm so glad your job change allowed you to lessen your hours and workload and be more present with your family!
@wildrainbow Congrats on your upcoming move! But I'm also sorry about the timing and difficulty of it. I hope you find community quickly in your new area. I know it can sometimes take a while.
*TW* I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope this pregnancy is a happy and healthy one and that, even given its likelihood of being pre-term, it will go as smoothly as possible for you and baby. *End TW*
I didn't personally see your comments as judgmental; I think it's reasonable for you to wish for a different birth experience. But thank you for clarifying your intentions for anyone who might have been hurt!
hubs: 26
ttc #1: 4/19
dx: PCOS