This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL). If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation.
If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!
1. How many weeks are you?
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
7. GTKY: What is your favorite Halloween candy?
Re: PGAL Check-in w/o 10/23
@kbrown2385 good call on the secret santa, we do that every year for the adult siblings and partners, only buy actual gifts for the kids and buy one big joint present from all of us for our parent's. We also use the website called Elfster, you can create a wish list depending on budget so that at least someone will have an idea of what you are interested in and you don't get anything useless.
@c1kc1kpol1cn1k oh man it's likely really good that you don't like candy bars lol
1. How many weeks are you? 26.5 weeks
@FyreFlyeRush you seem to have captured it.
For me every time I have an appointment is hard. It reminds me of what I have lost and what could have been.
Plus, yesterday we had to watch the Shaken Baby Syndrome PSA. It was terrible and emotionally traumatic.
I am finally seeking therapy. Any one else been down that road? Did it help or did it just open the floodgates?
I second the Twix.
EDIT: Homonyms.
@FyreFlyeRush I really appreciate your experience too. That is so beautiful that your providers see your baby as their rainbow too.
Lol about the homonyms. That is what I spent the morning teaching my kids and they were like..."What!?"
@kbrown2385 I am trying to get my family on board the Secret Santa train too! Maybe this year I can convince them.
@ponyoisfun I sought therapy after losing my son and it helped me tremendously. I've had some duds in the past when seeking help for anxiety, but the one I found after my loss was amazing. I'm still mourning the fact she moved out of state last month and I can no longer see her. The new girl is just meh but I am trying.
@FyreFlyeRush I love that your SO said that to you! Literally melts my heart
1. How many weeks are you? 27 weeks
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
I've been on Labetalol and baby aspirin since 12w. Sometimes my blood pressure is fine some times its elevated. The idea behind it was it would thin the blood and lessen the odds of the placenta "wearing out too soon"
You're justified in how you feel. PGAL brain is a very real thing, and what you're being told is scary. You finally have your rainbow baby after 2 back to back losses, with all three pregnancies being less than 6 months apart total. Being afraid something will go wrong is natural and normal in the best of PGAL experiences, let alone one with complications. You are NOT being paranoid. You are NOT being emotional. I do think you should try to find a support group to lean on. Anixety is going to make the last trimester an emotional nightmare of a rollercoaster. Make sure you have a strong, and empathetic, support system in place. It can be as simple as posting here or as complex as finding a loss group in your area. It's going to be especially important during postpartum. One of the best ways to prevent PPD or PPP is having a solid support system in place afterwards.
Thinking of you.
EDIT - My eyes are playing tricks on my preggo brain