@ibabyloveb87@mandk1233 the alcohol question definitely contributed to how annoyed I was by this comment. I let that one slide though because I do know some people have the occasional glass later in pregnancy. Feeling “awful” about a girl though... I just can’t with that. Not that it matters, but the sperm determines the sex of the baby anyway. So, the female guilt that this comment reeks of compounded the issue even further for me.
You guys should see the gender disappointment posts on some forums. I get it, you can be disappointed initially but some are extreme. Like being ashamed to tell extended family and friend that you're having another boy/girl. That you bought all boy clothes because you knew in your core it was a boy and it's another girl! There are a few gems.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
@rikiteacup ugh I hate when people act like that. There are so many men and women who want any child of their own to love then you have these knuckleheads acting like a spoiled teenager who's pissed their parent bought them the wrong colored Porsche!
Yesterday, one wanted to give up her baby for adoption because it was the wrong gender. She got very nice responses though. Even though some of these posts are crazy, there is always a lot of good advice/support given.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
@rikiteacup That's ridiculous! Idk if I think nice responses and support is what these people need. Seriously suggesting you don't want to parent your child based solely on sex? Sounds more like they need a slap...
@doodleoodle Honestly in that case I would agree the nice adoptive parents are the better option. But as a human being to say something like that - they are just an awful person. Like I can't even imagine!
@rikiteacup so ridiculous! I used to work at an OBGYN in college and there were tons of women who would leave their appts crying because they were upset about the sex of the baby. It was baffling to me then and still is now. I can understand some disappointment, but these posts about not wanting to tell family and adoption are nuts!
Wtf just got caught up on these ridiculous gender comments. Especially when you think of how many people who struggle to have a baby.
WeFound out today we are having BOY number 3. I was Disappointed when we initially found out but we weren’t having another child to get a specific gender. We want another child to love.
We announced last week to our family that we are having a boy! MH started a fire in our fire pit and we added chemicals to turn the flames a beautiful shade of blue. I'm just relieve that I no longer have to worry about slipping up and saying him. His parents were shocked we've kept the secret since April!
Me:37 MH:37
TTGP since 07/2017
**TW** in spoiler
DX: PCOS, anovulatory, AMA
Femara X3: no response
Clomid X3: BFN (cyst and thin lining)
IUI (Dec '18) MMC
IVF (April '19) 9 retrieved, 7 fertilized, 2 normal PGT-A
@celticknotfire secrets like that are hard! I was telling my coworker that we will announce what the baby is when we find out, but will probably keep the name's hush hush until baby is born. I told her I'm super worried about slipping up with that! It was hard enough to not tell people we were expecting!
Just wanted to comment on the gender disappointment comments. We struggled for 2 years to get pregnant and so I thought I'd be happy with either, but when I found out I was having a girl, I had a lot of emotions about it; worrying what kind of role model I'll be for her and feeling like this just got a whole lot more difficult... (I didnt have a good relationship with my mom until I was an adult). After a few days of processing my emotions, I'm over it and now completely excited. Maybe the other posters just need time to process their emotions too?
@rebornlotus I think we all feel that those kinds of emotions are fine, even expected at times. It’s the people who have a meltdown about the gender and can’t get over it that at bothersome. If your main goal is a healthy happy baby, you’re good. If your primary (or only) concern in a pregnancy is your child’s genital status, that’s when you’re going to get the side eye.
@rebornlotus I agree with @Swiftlet, it is normal to have some disappointment or worries about raising a specific gender. We were talking about people who take it to the extreme like wanting to give the baby up for adoption or being ashamed to tell people. And the worst, from a scientific standpoint, is women apologizing to their partner to the point of being martyrs for not "giving" them the gender they wanted.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
@rikiteacup I am laughing over your last comment regarding the worst thing "from a scientific standpoint." I get what you meant to say, but my tired and slightly emotionally overtaxed brain needs to find humour is ridiculous places.
Well baby was being uncooperative with the tech today and not letting us get a good peek, but she said her best guess is baby is a girl!!! They're having a second set of eyes look over everything today or tomorrow and will let me know if I need to come back for more shots/better gender guess.
Re: It’s A....
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
WeFound out today we are having BOY number 3. I was Disappointed when we initially found out but we weren’t having another child to get a specific gender. We want another child to love.
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
secrets like that are hard! I was telling my coworker that we will announce what the baby is when we find out, but will probably keep the name's hush hush until baby is born. I told her I'm super worried about slipping up with that! It was hard enough to not tell people we were expecting!
I was a little disappointed at first but I think that’s normal.
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022