@pdx2020 awesome. I signed up for their newsletter so hopefully I get notified of sale. In the mean time I found one on mercari pretty cheap so I’ll order that and get another color when they go on sale!
Reviving this thread to ask for potty training resources! DS (just turned 2) has now peed and pooped on the potty at home, then peed yesterday at daycare. I know we'll need to be more consistent with it. I'm just not sure where to start!
@mrsvp614 Daniel Tiger potty episode. Amazon or maybe YouTube. The “if you have to go potty, stop and go right away” jingle will be forever in my head. Also highly recommend a cheap potty for the trunk of your car. Much easier than nasty public restrooms when training. I just put a plastic bag and an outgrown diaper inside, and then tie it up after they’ve used it.
How is/are your kiddo(s) doing? He just started at preschool 2 days a week, after being at home with me for the last 6 months, and he's having a bit of a rough time with transitions. He doesn't want to get dressed, go out, come back in etc. We haven't told him yet about the baby, just started putting out the idea of a baby and how fun it would be etc. Yesterday, (after I had to lie down after walking for 4 hours) he said to me: "your belly hurts from a baby" haha, so I think his little brain has figured it out. Once we have our NT bloodwork back, I hope to tell him properly.
What are you looking forward regarding adding to your family? Personally I'm really looking forward to that perfect phase of babyhood where they are snuggled up against your body for most of the day, but you are out of the mania of the first couple of months. That time was a dream for me and I'm looking forward to feeling that amazing closeness again.
But, in terms of our family, I'm so excited to see how my son develops as a big brother. He is so ready to bring all the empathy and caring he's been developing to looking after a sibling. He craves closeness with other kids and it's been a little hard because we moved across the country early this year and he left daycare to be at home with me full time at the same time. So, he has desperately missed companionship with other kids. I'm so excited for him to have that in our own family.
What concerns do you have regarding adding to your family? Mostly, I'm just anxious about the timelines of my unstarted career. I am finishing up a PhD and this baby is going to mean pushing back getting a job for another while. I just worry I am going to be too old to do anything meaningful career-wise, and also that I'm never going to make a wage that will take the weight off my husband in that regard. It's depressing and just niggles at the back of my mind a lot lately.
So far, is this pregnancy the same or different from your previous pregnancy(ies)? Pretty different. I feel waaaaay worse. When I was pregnant with my son, I had a lot of morning sickness and other stuff like pain from SPD and PGP, but overall I felt incredibly healthy and full of energy. With this pregnancy, I don't have that same vitality, and I also have started getting the pelvic pain so much earlier that I can only imagine how awful it will be by the end. I have been showing since week 10 and now look as pregnant as I did in maybe week 22/23 with my first ( I'm not even 14 weeks!). So, I guess that is why I already have the pain, but it's not making me feel great about the next 6 months....
@mrsvp614 we used the book "Oh Crap!" which my husband researched and bought and decided was the best way to go.
Honestly, I hated it. However, it did work and after a painful (for me) couple of weeks our little guy was pretty much fully potty trained during the day. So...this is a sort of half-hearted recommendation.
I found the book's approach to be sort of ridiculous and to ask an insane amount of the parent who looks after the kid full time. Like, really, I'm supposed to stay inside for practically a week, doing nothing but watching my son's naked behind like a hawk? It bordered on offensive in its dismissal of the needs for (let's face it, mostly) moms to have time and space to themselves and not be focused on their kids literally 100% of their time.
So....if you have the ability/time/and good humor to subject yourself to it, then I think it can be a useful resource. But 100% don't feel bad about choosing a different method.
@mrsvp614 I agree with @momoftoddlers. That Daniel Tiger song is burned into my soul and DD will randomly reference it when running to the potty.
I also read the O Crap book and that method did not work for us. I tried it when DD was 2.5 and it was too early for her. Two weeks before she turned 3 we took away diapers and that first pee took forever to get but once she got hang of it she was peeing on the potty like a pro. Now she goes by herself. She is good at night too.
Our big problem is poop. We haven’t gotten her to go in the potty for that yet, instead she will come to you and ask for a pull up. She knows she can’t do this at school so she just waits until she gets home (she only goes half day). I asked my doctor what to do and they said it was normal. Just like all things with DD she has to decide when she wants to do it.
@Madamemerle I can relate to so many things in your post especially re: the vitality not being here this go around. It's a bummer! I loved feeling energetic and healthy overall in my last pregnancies. Not so this time! What PhD are you finishing and what work do you want to do?
Re: STM+ September Discussion
DS (just turned 2) has now peed and pooped on the potty at home, then peed yesterday at daycare. I know we'll need to be more consistent with it. I'm just not sure where to start!
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
How old is/are your other kid(s)? 2.5
How is/are your kiddo(s) doing? He just started at preschool 2 days a week, after being at home with me for the last 6 months, and he's having a bit of a rough time with transitions. He doesn't want to get dressed, go out, come back in etc.
We haven't told him yet about the baby, just started putting out the idea of a baby and how fun it would be etc. Yesterday, (after I had to lie down after walking for 4 hours) he said to me: "your belly hurts from a baby" haha, so I think his little brain has figured it out. Once we have our NT bloodwork back, I hope to tell him properly.
What are you looking forward regarding adding to your family?
Personally I'm really looking forward to that perfect phase of babyhood where they are snuggled up against your body for most of the day, but you are out of the mania of the first couple of months. That time was a dream for me and I'm looking forward to feeling that amazing closeness again.
But, in terms of our family, I'm so excited to see how my son develops as a big brother. He is so ready to bring all the empathy and caring he's been developing to looking after a sibling. He craves closeness with other kids and it's been a little hard because we moved across the country early this year and he left daycare to be at home with me full time at the same time. So, he has desperately missed companionship with other kids. I'm so excited for him to have that in our own family.
What concerns do you have regarding adding to your family?
Mostly, I'm just anxious about the timelines of my unstarted career. I am finishing up a PhD and this baby is going to mean pushing back getting a job for another while. I just worry I am going to be too old to do anything meaningful career-wise, and also that I'm never going to make a wage that will take the weight off my husband in that regard. It's depressing and just niggles at the back of my mind a lot lately.
So far, is this pregnancy the same or different from your previous pregnancy(ies)?
Pretty different. I feel waaaaay worse. When I was pregnant with my son, I had a lot of morning sickness and other stuff like pain from SPD and PGP, but overall I felt incredibly healthy and full of energy.
With this pregnancy, I don't have that same vitality, and I also have started getting the pelvic pain so much earlier that I can only imagine how awful it will be by the end. I have been showing since week 10 and now look as pregnant as I did in maybe week 22/23 with my first ( I'm not even 14 weeks!). So, I guess that is why I already have the pain, but it's not making me feel great about the next 6 months....
Honestly, I hated it. However, it did work and after a painful (for me) couple of weeks our little guy was pretty much fully potty trained during the day. So...this is a sort of half-hearted recommendation.
I found the book's approach to be sort of ridiculous and to ask an insane amount of the parent who looks after the kid full time. Like, really, I'm supposed to stay inside for practically a week, doing nothing but watching my son's naked behind like a hawk? It bordered on offensive in its dismissal of the needs for (let's face it, mostly) moms to have time and space to themselves and not be focused on their kids literally 100% of their time.
So....if you have the ability/time/and good humor to subject yourself to it, then I think it can be a useful resource. But 100% don't feel bad about choosing a different method.
I also read the O Crap book and that method did not work for us. I tried it when DD was 2.5 and it was too early for her. Two weeks before she turned 3 we took away diapers and that first pee took forever to get but once she got hang of it she was peeing on the potty like a pro. Now she goes by herself. She is good at night too.
Our big problem is poop. We haven’t gotten her to go in the potty for that yet, instead she will come to you and ask for a pull up. She knows she can’t do this at school so she just waits until she gets home (she only goes half day). I asked my doctor what to do and they said it was normal. Just like all things with DD she has to decide when she wants to do it.
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020