TWW Thursday 9/12

bows22 · September 2019

**This is a thread that welcomes all regardless of where they are at in their TTC journeys. Please be mindful of topics that are discussed that could be hurtful to those going through tough times. Mention of children or pregnancies of others should have a TW (trigger warning) and be in a spoiler if possible, and only be mentioned if it is extremely pertinent to the conversation. Thanks for keeping this a safe place for us all to engage!**

Month/Cycle:

CD/DPO:

Timing:

Typical LP length:

Testing:

R/R:

CS/Q:

saladflambe · September 2019

Month/Cycle: 2/1

CD/DPO: CD 33

Timing: lots

Typical LP length: long (at least this time)

Testing: no more

R/R: I'm mostly just buckled in for the ride.

CS/Q: I took my temp like an hour late today & it's jumped back up. I'm going to have to set an alarm or something. But the need to pee at random times in the night is not helpful. At least I have OPKs now too.

inthewoods23 · September 2019

Month/Cycle: 27/22

CD/DPO: 2dp5dt

Timing: on schedule

Typical LP length: doesn't matter at this point

Testing: I might test tomorrow so I see a negative to kinda get the initial nervousness out over seeing a negative. That way there's no panic when it's getting to be 6+dpt when I test for the first time. I have 3 Dollar tree tests, 2 FRERs and 2 digitals so I have plenty of stock

R/R: back to work for 2 days this week. The time off was nice but I'm going to be spending half of the work day today just getting my bearings and catching up on everything. My excuse if people ask what I took off for I plan on just saying it was a staycation.

CS/Q: nope

feather_heather · September 2019

Month/Cycle: 13

CD/DPO: 15

Timing: hopefully good - triggered 36 hours prior

Typical LP length: 12-13 days

Testing: Not for a while

R/R: Nothing really to rant about atm, unless the trigger shot didn't work and the timing for the IUI was all off. Going down to the cape again this weekend and hosting a lobster bake, so looking forward to that.

CS/Q:@inthewoods23 or anyone else that has done the trigger shot - Is my temp supposed to rise to indicate ovulation like it normally would. I have been bad about wearing my ava, but my temp last night does not look like I ovulated. My pre and post O temps have been thrown so off since I started clomid cycles.

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shoogapoff · September 2019

@feather_heather My temp did shift after trigger, but I haven't noticed as high of temps this cycle. That being said, I am taking estrogen, so I'm wondering if that is what is causing a less-dramatic shift for me.

b_1029 · September 2019

@saladflambe this is the cycle that never ends, yes it goes on and on my friends 😂 hurry up AF!

@inthewoods23 when do you plan on testing for real? I feel like I saw Sunday in one thread? Keeping everything crossed for ya!

@feather_heather remind me of where you live? A lobster bake and whichever cape you’re talking about sound amazing and I’m super jealous! I wish I could help with your Q but I haven’t temped the 2 cycles I’ve done the trigger since I assumed it would mess with my temps.

Month/Cycle: 23/25

CD/DPO: 27/16 past trigger

Timing: great

Typical LP length: 14-15

Testing: expecting AF later today or tomorrow...will test Saturday if by some miracle there’s no AF

R/R: I’m not feeling good about this cycle but what else is new? Onto the next....

Someone commented on a pic my cousin (the one who told me they’re TFAS) posted of her and her H in Jamaica saying “you guys look great, time to make another baby!” and I’ve been stewing about it ever since because there probably already is a baby in there if they’ve been trying all of 5 minutes. If I’m not KU by thanksgiving I honestly don’t think I’m going to go home because I’m terrified of them announcing and me having a full on mental breakdown. Dramatic? Maybe.

I don’t really have many raves today obviously other than I made it to the gym 3 days in a row and have lost 5# on this diet so far!

CS/Q: nope

kiki047 · September 2019

@saladflambe lol "lots". Still waiting, eh? Temping late and getting up throughout the night can all contribute to the temp spike this morning.
@inthewoods23 woo! You're in the home stretch. GL POAS, I hope the next one is your BFP!
@feather_heather yes, your temp should still rise with or without the trigger. Are you supplementing with progesterone or anything after the IUI? Because that will make your temp rise too. I'm in the same boat, just wondering if the trigger actually worked or if my temp just spiked because I have a whole lotta progesterone shoved up my hoo-ha.

Month/Cycle: 21/17

CD/DPO: 16/3

Timing: -2, O x2 (IUI & HIO)

Typical LP length: 13-14

Testing: No plans to but sometimes I cave so we'll play it by ear.

R/R: Rant: I think the progesterone is making me (extra) crazy. I'm moody and irrationally emotional so I don't think any of my rants are real, I'm just hormonal. Putting my irrational rants in a spoiler; TLDR yesterday was my birthday, and I don't like birthdays so we try to keep things low key, and maybe MH went a little too far with the low key and I felt a little ripped off.

Basically I woke up crabby today because yesterday was my birthday and although MH and I always said we weren't going to exchange gifts or anything for holidays or birthdays, I always do something sentimental for his and he usually plans a little local getaway for mine. But I couldn't get the time off work this time, plus the timing of our IUI was all up in the air so we just went for dinner and were supposed to go see a movie. Well dinner was spectacular, but we didn't make it to the movie because there was a huge accident on the highway, and MH didn't even get me a card (which is fine but seems out of character for him because he's normally pretty sappy and mushy). I said to make it up to me all I wanted was some bedtime cuddles. Instead he fell asleep playing candy crush so I pried the phone out of his hand and plugged it in for him, and when I woke up this morning he was already awake... playing candy crush. lol. For the record, it's totally my own fault he's playing it because he deleted it off his phone and I kept getting him to help me pass levels I was stuck on, and now he's hooked again.

That plus my mom was mad at me for calling her out on something earlier in the week and wasn't speaking to me, so all I got from her was a message on my FB wall "Happy birthday Kiki." As embarrassing as it is that she always posts these big long sappy things on my birthday with a bunch of cringeworthy baby photos, the 3 words was a real slap in the face.

And since I'm on a roll with the rants, I have to be cordial with my ex because we still see each other in a professional context and he always texts me on my birthday and holidays and I dread it because it's the only time of year we "talk". His bday is 3 days before mine and I ignore it so if I look in our message history, birthdays and Christmas it's always a pleasant exchange of "hey happy birthday" "thanks, happy belated to you too"; "hey merry christmas, hope it's great" "thanks, you too"

I don't even know why he still does it, fuck off already. (Yes, I know I could ignore him or ask him not to but that's a discussion for another day)

Rave: It's almost the weekend? I dunno, struggling with this one. I did have a nice birthday overall, was just pretty bummed about how it ended.

CS/Q: Had to switch to FAM because the Advanced monitor doesn't like the progesterone or the trigger and won't give me my CH no matter what I do.

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feather_heather · September 2019

@shoogapoff - hmmmm I'm hoping the lack of a temp shift is due to the Clomid and Ovidrel (and because I didn't temp the night before/day of the IUI.

@b_1029 - I live in Massachusetts! 20 mins north of Boston. We very recently purchased an RV on a seasonal site on Cape Cod, so we've started spending weekends down there. Only a few more weeks before we have to close it up for the season though.

@kiki047 - Nope, no progesterone supplements. Hoping my temps are just off because of the Clomid and Ovidrel. Before Clomid I always had a distinct/dramatic spike - but not since I started the Clomid cycles.

inthewoods23 · September 2019

@feather_heather one of my months of temping an IUI cycle I got a slight bump up then a gradual upward trend. Chart in spoiler.

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@b_1029 I kinda wanna test tomorrow because like, nobody ever gets a positive at 3dpt right? So I can get the sad feeling of a negative done right away. I do have 7 total tests I could take so I could test every day before the beta. But I'm supposed to see family this weekend and don't want to test with them around so... Maybe Sunday night as the latest start? 🤷 At the same time, if I don't see a positive then, I'll start thinking immediately that it didn't work and idk if I want to do that to myself.

Nice job on the weight loss!

@kiki047 sorry for feeling ripped off, that's such a bummer! Then again, I don't think DH gets me cards so, I'm on the sad train with you on that. Like come on, a little something.

brookert615 · September 2019

*lurking

@kiki047 Wishing you a belated happy birthday

Sorry for some disappointments you had, though!

@b_1029

and also yay on losing 5 lbs!

kiki047 · September 2019

@feather_heather I went back and looked at my last chart and my rise was slow but it did gradually trend upwards. I know Ava temp changes tend to be a lot less dramatic so maybe time will tell?
@inthewoods23 he will sometimes even write me love notes on a post-it and leave them places for me to find. Not even that. Womp womp.
@brookert615 aww thanks friend. I know I'm totally overreacting about it but it's really bumming me out.

begging4abump · September 2019

Lurking from wto

@kiki047 ill feelings between mom and daughter are SO hard. I bet speaking up a little to your husband will patch that end of things fast, though I for one hate to have those conversations of asking for what I need from a spouse, especially if I’ve suggested that I didn’t need it. Totally been there, but it’s so worth it to just get it out there since all my money is on him making you feel super loved, based on how you’ve talked about him before. And it sounds like you could use a little win. In regards to your mom, I was just in a similar position last month—birthday and all. Though we also went out for a birthday awkward dinner where we pretended things were normal; that killed me. I didn’t see how things were going to turn around, and then somehow my middle brother got her to see what I couldn’t, and we’re getting back on track, not perfect, but mending I guess. So, there’s hope that it’ll improve soon, and I’m here if you need to vent to someone who gets it. I hope none of that was too forward, and if it was, just put me in my place. What you said just really resonated with how things were for me recently/still, so I just wanted to reach out.

and @b_1029 I’m so sorry you’ve been feeling so down lately. Just adding a +1 to the people in your corner!

mvt2003 · September 2019

*Lurking from WTO*

@b_1029 You know I'm totally Team B_1029 and I am right there with you in solidarity. I'm going to have to prepare for a round of LO #2s myself, so count me standing with you

@kiki047 I also have so many feelings about birthdays. I dislike them intensely now (partially bc my parents have passed away and partially bc it's another year older with no LO) and I also kind of felt let down this year. It was super quiet, people mostly left me alone, and I kind of felt deflated at the end. I felt better after it was over though. I also know there is literally no relationship quite as complicated as mother and daughter, and being in a fight with your mom is the worst. I'm sending you

!

kiki047 · September 2019

@begging4abump thank you for that

not overstepping at all. You're definitely right about MH, and I should've just been honest because he kept asking if my birthday was ok and I didn't feel like getting into it this morning so I kinda brushed him off. We did have a good talk once we got to work about other stuff that's been on our minds (the IUI itself, and he's been off his anti-depressants again because they suppress his libido and he stresses about being able to 'do his part'). My mom will eventually get over it but she's going to pout for a while first. I'm the only one who will generally speak up to her so when there is conflict elsewhere in the family I always get to be the 'bad guy'. Sigh. Why is family so hard sometimes?

saladflambe · September 2019

@b_1029 I've literally sung that to myself while posting in this thread for the last 3 days lol. I have everything crossed that this is, literally, for you, the cycle that doesn't end ... I mean, not in an AF anyways... you get what I mean!

@kiki047 yeah I'm just parking myself here. Who knows, maybe I'll be here another month :P ...it'll give me lots of temping practice.... I'm sorry you're feeling so bleh

begging4abump · September 2019

@kiki047 Right?! Family strain is so draining! I’m glad YH and you got in a little chat. I also can totally relate to not being able to “get into it” and pushing off the conversation. I hit a hard depression last weekend and it only escalated when I pushed mh away. Finally I just let him in to my mess out of guilt for what it was doing to him, and I began to heal a little, but damn it’s hard to get psyched up to unload. Ugh, feelings and junk! This too shall pass, right? I’ll be thinking of you!! ❤️

b_1029 · September 2019

@kiki047 sorry about your birthday yesterday! I wish some of us all lived close together so we could throw a TTGP birthday party for you! ❤️❤️

@feather_heather wow that’s so awesome! I love Cape Cod and the east coast in general!

@inthewoods23 ahhh I would be so torn on what to do!

@brookert615 hiiiii friend ❤️

@begging4abump awww thanks girl!

@mvt2003 at least we’re in good company! Thanks so much- your words really mean a lot ❤️

charmedlifex3 · September 2019

Month/Cycle: Jan 18

CD/DPO: 15 /3

Timing: -3 / 0

Typical LP length: 14 days

Testing: I’ll probably test before I leave on my trip next week with a frer. It’ll be too early, but I’m headed to a wedding with my parents.

R/R: this DAMN UTI. I was treated for it a few days ago, and it started getting better ... then it moved into my kidneys today. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ So, back on the bench for three weeks, just hoping FF nailed it so I’m not out this cycle.

CS/Q: how do I copy my chart? #fail

@kiki047 mh went a little lackluster this year too. It’s mostly my fault - I didn’t do my usual this is what I want and how I want it, letting go of the mental load...but I agree, you want hubs to just know what you want without being told, lol.

@inthewoods23 I lack all control. I totally poas way too soon. I bought a bundle of those easy at home strips when we started ttc, and they expire at the end of the month, so obviously I need to test at 3dpo. 🙄 also. So sad my tests are expiring and no baby. 😬

@feather_heather I used to live in Boston! I’m just over in Vermont now.

@b_1029 if it were me I would tell someone you aren’t in a headspace to handle them announcing at a family gathering. Preferably someone who will take it upon themselves to tell them. Lol. Passive aggressive but might work to head it off. Especially if you’re being open about ttc

@saladflambe it’s been hard to temp at a consistent time here too.

feather_heather · September 2019

@whatsbumpinpumpkin - I love Vermont! I was born there! I have family that still lives up there that we go up to see a few times a year, and my DH and I have started doing a long weekend in Stow every December! We love relaxing at the resort, going to all the breweries and having a couple's spa day.

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