Has a baby girl been mistaken for boy thru whole pregnancy?

emilyd563 · September 2019

I was told boy but I really want a

girl just wondering wat u guys think

leksiL · September 2019

I don't know because I'm not a trained US tech but I now know your complete name and DOB! You might want to edit your post to remove those details. No one here is going to know better than your care team.

meggyme · September 2019

emilyd563 said:

I was told boy but I really want a

*removed profile image of sonogram with all identifying info visible*

girl just wondering wat u guys think

A) that’s a profile picture, so there’s no way we could guess how your baby will pee.
B ) we probably won’t be able to tell you better than your trained medical team that does this for a living.
C) Unless you did sex selective ivf you knew there was a 50/50 chance it would be a boy. I hope that you can get over your disappointment. To think that your son could grow up with his mom wishing he were a girl breaks my heart. Please talk to a therapist if you can’t get over this.
D) what Leksil said. Your private, identifying information is now all over the internet.

lovesclimbing · September 2019

Yes, it's happened, but it's pretty rare. No one is going to be able to tell better than a trained ultrasound technician.

I ditto the pp who says you need to find some way to move past this and not project your feelings onto the baby.

stassischroeder · September 2019

Sooooo.... OP is hoping internet strangers can accurately and irrefutably contradict trained medical professionals? Because she WANTS us to?

delujm0 · September 2019

Honestly OP, i mean these errors happen, but if you've had multiple ultrasounds where the tech sees a penis, it's HIGHLY LIKELY that the baby has a penis. My mom was told that my sister was a boy, but that was 1985 and the one ultrasound that she had was not exactly in high definition. Today, those errors are far more rare, especially if you're past 16-18 weeks in and you were seeing a trained OBGYN ultrasound tech or doctor (not just at a boutique ultrasound place).

I think it is preposterous to be upset at the sex of your baby - you knew going into this that you had a 50/50 shot and there are many many women who would gladly take that sweet baby boy off your hands if you don't want him. While i can certainly understand one day grieving the fact that you won't ever have a mother/daughter bond with a female child (assuming you are done having kids), being actively upset that you are having one sex rather than the other is crazy in my opinion. That is still your child. There is no reason you can't do something you'd have done with a daughter with a son instead. And, admittedly i don't know your history, but unless you are certain that this will be your last child, there's another 50/50 shot at you having a girl in a subsequent pregnancy.

I'm glad you weren't Team Green though, because at least you have a few months to "get over" the fact that it is a boy. It would be really awful to be upset and crying in the delivery room because you wanted your perfect, healthy baby to pee sitting down, when you should instead be overjoyed to bring your child into the world.

harpseal135 · September 2019

I can tell you that you are having a girl, but my statement means nothing as I am not a trained ultrasound tech. My guess is 50/50, the professionals told you boy, so there it is.

kiki75 · September 2019

emilyd563 said:

I was told boy but I really want a girl just wondering wat u guys think

Maybe you can post on your local moms group and find someone who is due around and the same time and is having a girl and wants a boy an you could just swap. Probably going to be easier than willing this kid’s willy away.

I now really want to take a MFM ultrasound tech out for drinks to hear all the wild stories about people’s behavior when they hear they’re having the “wrong” type of kid. 🤣

delujm0 · September 2019

@kiki75 i have a couple of friends who are OBGYNs and those women have some STORIES. People are terrible. i mean we only see a sub-set of them on here. Surprisingly, worse people do exist in the world, and OBGYNs have to be professional when dealing with them, which has got to be a struggle some days.

harpseal135 · September 2019

delujm0 said:

@kiki75 i have a couple of friends who are OBGYNs and those women have some STORIES. People are terrible. i mean we only see a sub-set of them on here. Surprisingly, worse people do exist in the world, and OBGYNs have to be professional when dealing with them, which has got to be a struggle some days.

That is so sad that parents act like that

why procreate then if you know it's only a 50/50 chance of being "the sex I want!" I'm a secondary infertal momma and posts like this break my heart!

k_mama91 · September 2019

@harpseal135 I’m in the same boat. According to her personal info that’s highly visible she’s really young. Not an excuse for her disappointment but she’s probably fortunate enough to have not experienced IF or loss and doesn’t realize that sex is trivial in comparison to a healthy take home baby.

lovesclimbing · September 2019

delujm0 said:

@kiki75 i have a couple of friends who are OBGYNs and those women have some STORIES. People are terrible. i mean we only see a sub-set of them on here. Surprisingly, worse people do exist in the world, and OBGYNs have to be professional when dealing with them, which has got to be a struggle some days.

This reminded me of an acquaintance. They had three boys, and she really, really, really wanted a girl. Although they would have liked a big family, the doctors told her no more because she had had to have c sections with all of them, and no more than four c sections was allowed. So this was their last baby and her last hope for a girl.

They went and had a big reveal party! I don't really get reveals in general, but whatever. But I can't imagine why you would do it when you would be upset at one of the options!

It was another boy. Everyone knew she wanted a girl. She told a group of us about it, and I saw the video. When the confetti fell, there was this awkward pause because everyone knew she wanted a girl. She had to quickly start clapping and put on a smile. I just don't understand why she had a reveal when she had a 50/50 chance of being disappointed. At least in private she could have processed her feelings without needing to put a game face on.

kiki75 · September 2019

delujm0 said:

@kiki75 i have a couple of friends who are OBGYNs and those women have some STORIES. People are terrible. i mean we only see a sub-set of them on here. Surprisingly, worse people do exist in the world, and OBGYNs have to be professional when dealing with them, which has got to be a struggle some days.

And that's part of why I'd like to buy them a couple drinks. But you'd have to maintain just the right buzz to keep it on the funny jerk stories and not take that turn to the times that they got a jerk shortly after having to deliver terrible news to another family. I suppose I envy the naivety of people who just go to anatomy scans full of "we get to find out the gender today!" but dang people. Your kid peeing wrong is far from the worst news people have received in that room.

lovesclimbing said:

delujm0 said:

@kiki75 i have a couple of friends who are OBGYNs and those women have some STORIES. People are terrible. i mean we only see a sub-set of them on here. Surprisingly, worse people do exist in the world, and OBGYNs have to be professional when dealing with them, which has got to be a struggle some days.

This reminded me of an acquaintance. They had three boys, and she really, really, really wanted a girl. Although they would have liked a big family, the doctors told her no more because she had had to have c sections with all of them, and no more than four c sections was allowed. So this was their last baby and her last hope for a girl.

They went and had a big reveal party! I don't really get reveals in general, but whatever. But I can't imagine why you would do it when you would be upset at one of the options!

It was another boy. Everyone knew she wanted a girl. She told a group of us about it, and I saw the video. When the confetti fell, there was this awkward pause because everyone knew she wanted a girl. She had to quickly start clapping and put on a smile. I just don't understand why she had a reveal when she had a 50/50 chance of being disappointed. At least in private she could have processed her feelings without needing to put a game face on.

What on earth possessed them to have a reveal in that situation? My SIL had a reveal with their last. Same type of scenario. But she didn't save it as well and her disappointment was clear and then she was horrified to be disappointed and that's when she got actual tears. And then her family immediately jumped in about how her sister was going to HAVE to have the girl then. Like she was a big failure for having another boy. Or her sister would be if she didn't cook up a girl. It was awful.

I also recently saw a post somewhere else about a couple with three boys already and they're going to start TTC hoping for a girl so she's asking for suggestions for girl names. It's a mess waiting to happen.

delujm0 · September 2019

I feel really bad for little girls born in the above scenario. Because you just know these moms are going to try to force them to be extra girly, and if they don't fit into the "girl mold" that the mother is envisioning, they are likely to grow up with a lot of anxiety, and feelings that they are a failure, and/or are going to wind up estranged from their mothers, or depressed, or worse. All because of the way that they pee, and the forced gendering on the part of their mother before they are even born. It just hurts my heart.

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