UO Thursday

varimama · August 2019

We haven’t had one of these in a couple weeks!

varimama · August 2019

I don’t really get the appeal of newborn photography sessions. I don’t care for the wrapped or froggy poses bc to me it just doesn’t look natural. In general I prefer candid photos to posed ones though anyways. Our first professional photos of DS are when he was ~7months and I love them because you can see his personality starting to shine through where newborns don’t really have much of a personality to show.

dunder_mifflin · August 2019

@varimama you know, I actually agree with you overall but lately I’ve been seeing the appeal in more candid, family settings, not the posed newborn ones. I think it’s two fold - one is you get to see the love and awe of a new addition and get to remember how tiny they were and two If it’s candid and not too posed it’s more authentic. That being said said if I had to choose one, I would choose to do a shoot at 6-7 months when they do have more of that personality!

also full disclosure, I don’t know what UO stands for lol

varimama · August 2019

@dunder_mifflin it stands for unpopular opinion! I agree the family ones make more sense and are cute but in my area at least are still so expensive, we paid less than half that cost for our family session when he was 7 months. I’ve decided to do a maternity/family shoot and then another one at 6 months instead of newborn and it’ll end up being about the same or cheaper 🤷🏻‍♀️

mrsvp614 · August 2019

@varimama I definitely prefer lifestyle pics of the family at home. I didn't do either the first time around. After a stressful NICU stay, it was the last thing on my mind. But I'm also still pretty bitter, because we didn't even get a hospital newborn photo.

mrsvp614 · August 2019

This meme is me. DS has already copied our foul language, but I don't plan to stop cursing. My parents cussed growing up, and I just understood that those were adult words.
There are definitely some words that won't be used in my household, like slurs and offensive names, but I'm just not concerned about cussing in front of my kid.

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varimama · August 2019

@MrsVP614 we also had a NICU stay though it was short so I should be thankful! It added a lot of complications to our stay so we only have newborn pics at the hospital with him covered in tubes 😢

miss.sally · August 2019

@MrsVP614 and @varimama we had a (very) short NICU stay also. And even being short it was extremely stressful so I can’t imagine the longer stays.

My UO today is that (although I’m not a supporter), I don’t think that all Trump supporters are bad people. 🤷🏼‍♀️ It makes me really sad that our world has become so divided that friendships are lost over politics. I also don’t think that all of his supporters support everything he does/says.

mrsvp614 · August 2019

@varimama Ours was relatively short too, a week. All we have is some cell phone pics, and yes, most are with tubes and cords.
One of my co-workers who gave birth a year later had this lovely newborn photo shoot, still in the hospital, and it still makes me super sad that we couldn't do anything like that.

stacey6689 · August 2019

@varimama I have to agree. I am not a fan of the posed shots. Especially the froggy ones. I was thinking of doing the first 48 hours photo shoot but I don't think I can justify spending the money. Newborn photography is outrageous.

@miss.sally I totally agree with you. I am not a Trump supporter but I know a lot of people who voted for him including family members and like you said I don't think they are bad people just people with a difference in opinion when it comes to some political issues. During the election, I refused to post anything political but I saw good friends and family go at it over the topic and just say the nastiest things to one another. It truly is sad.

treetop19 · August 2019

@varimama, I agree, newborn photos kind of fall into the 'all look alike' category. as DH's friend states, 'when they're just born, they're all like a sack of potatoes.' meaning newborns really haven't started to show their personality or what they really look like yet. lol. neither my DD or my DS had professional newborn photos. I did do some professional photos for DD when she was 6 months. none for DS - we just took our own photos of him.

@mrsvp614, we didn't get a hospital newborn photo with DS either.. their photographer had just quit right before he was born! so I feel ya on feeling like you missed out.

@miss.sally, I have to say I agree with your UO. people shouldn't immediately judge others based off their politics (or their religion, or their race, or their sexual orientation) alone, they should just get to know people. I think that most people are more middle of the road politically than extreme left or extreme right - so no need for the huge divide. Anyway, if you automatically agree with everything a politician says, whether they are left or right, that is where it gets weird. I think people should form their own thoughts and opinions on individual topics rather than just agreeing with everything their chosen politician or chosen party says.

stassischroeder · August 2019

@MrsVP614 TOTALLY agree and we have the same philosophy regarding cursing around our kids. I'm more concerned with our kids using proper grammar, being articulate, and having a wide vocabulary than avoiding curse words.

stassischroeder · August 2019

Not sure if this is unpopular or not, but I feel like the shorts that girls and teens (and some adults) wear these days are WAY too short. Like just because they're high rise doesn't mean you should take length off the bottom. Yes, I'm old.

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EmilyLove25 · August 2019

@miss.sally That’s an interesting one. I don’t think all the people who supported him the FIRST time around are bad people, but if you’ve seen what he’s done to migrant families and women and you STILL support him, I’m not looking so favorably on you… BUT to each his own.

@varimama I actually hate the SUPER posed newborn photos, but in general I love newborn sessions—though they include family poses. This time I am even doing the bad hospital one haha. I mean it’s my last baby, so I’m all in.

@MrsVP614 I say you splurge for SIBLING pictures this time with the newborn! Those are the best I have!

ETA Oh and also what he's done to the environment and to the LGBTQ community. Ugh. If I dwell on it, I just DO think poorly of anyone wearing a TRUMP 2020 shirt... I guess I'm judgey.

stacey6689 · August 2019

@stassischroeder I agree with you! I went to the movies last night and I saw way too many ass cheeks on girls that couldn't be more than 15 years old.

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miss.sally · August 2019

@stassischroeder 100% agree. I thought the shorts I wore in college were short. At least back then they were longer than my vagina.

EmilyLove25 · August 2019

@stassischroeder @stacey6689 OMG I have been seeing all these ass cheeks on campus lately and just WHY and NO. It's NOT a good look (on any body type) but also it can't be comfortable, right???

lm45678 · August 2019

Omg i work in a high school and even the classiest girls look like hookers 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ll kill my daughter if she ever dresses like that!

dunder_mifflin · August 2019

Thanks for translating. I don’t know if I have a UO today but I’m really into all posted! I agree with most of them.

And in my opinion, there is nothing funnier than a baby/ toddler cursing 😂 I’m pretty sure that this little one is going to come out swearing too. And I’m going to probably laugh every time.

Malidocious · August 2019

I love all of these UOs today!

The posed baby shoots look so stiff. Sure, they're cute, but they're void of personality... obviously, lol.

Politics not necessarily needing to be so dividing.

Short shorts not being longer than peoples labias is infuriating to me! WHY!? Do girls think it looks good!? Do men enjoy it, because gross!? It can't be comfortable!

orbmaker · August 2019

I remember making an argument for unity when GWB was elected, but Trump? Hell no. Dude is an abuser, sexual assailant, criminal, bigot, and all around bad guy. He’s ruining our chances at combatting climate change and he’s doing his best to destroy our democracy. Hard pass on sympathizing with his supporters at this point.

miss.sally · August 2019

I got a few pairs of high waisted shorts this summer (from madewell, definitely longer than the ones I see around), and even those aren’t crazy comfortable and ride up in all the places. So I cannot even imagine how awful the super short ones are. Thank you, no.

thescarletmom · August 2019

I gotta be with @EmilyLove25 on this one, I think it is 100% okay to lose friends on the basis of their political opinions. If you think it's not reprehensible to put children in cages, if you can look the other way when he refused (time and time again) to denounce white supremacy, then I don't think that's a simple difference of opinions. The way he talks about women, LGBT, Mexicans, Muslims... That's not like us disagreeing on the merits of honey mustard on chicken nuggets. An opinion that denies other people basic human rights doesn't deserve to be called an opinion.

miss.sally · August 2019

@hellobabys I understand what you’re saying, but Obama started the “cages” and nobody ever said anything bad about it. I just think the media has played up a lot of things that are happening and the majority of people only read one-sided articles. It’s hard to find truth in our media and I think that plays a huge roll in how people see each other and their opinions. But preaching hate (from either side) is completely hypocritical and I can’t get behind that. I know quite a few Trump supporters and NONE of them are ok with everything he does.

varimama · August 2019

I read this quote from Tolkien and I really think more people should listen to his message behind it. I can’t find the exact quote, it was in a biography I read early in the summer, but basically people were asking him if his orcs were supposed to be an allegory for the Germans and he responded by saying no bc in real life the Orcs are on both sides.

Here’s another UO both major political parties suck right now. There is so much dirt on both of them and we all need to stop reading one sided articles and patting ourselves on the back for being “morally right” then attacking everyone who doesn’t agree with our ignorant viewpoint.

EmilyLove25 · August 2019

@miss.sally I'm always intrigued by the argument that the media buries the truth or is manipulative in a way that average humans can't discern. I have zero problem finding the truth in the media. And to compare human rights and human dignity issues re: Obama's policies and Trump's policies is mind boggling. True the cages were built in FY15 but Obama's intentions with them and Trump's are starkly different, also Obama was leading DACA and other aggressive attempts at truly helping immigrants and immigrant children specifically. That said, Obama wasn't perfect. No one is, and no politician is... but I'll admit extreme bias here because I sometimes tear up thinking that we went from Obama, who I admire deeply, to this POS we have now.

ETA That said, I don't at all take issue with what you are saying. I think you have very fair points and interesting ideas despite disagreeing.

thescarletmom · August 2019

@miss.sally I'll be real and say I'm in my early 20s and wasn't even a teenager yet when Obama was elected, so things that happened under him I can't speak for. I don't think all Trump supporters are bad people, and I would never advocate for hate or violence, but that doesn't mean I want to be their friend either. The only Trump supporter I've known has been like, the prototype of all the worst things you could think of that stereotype Trump's tribe, and he has almost certainly skewed my opinion in really negative ways.

stassischroeder · August 2019

varimama said:

Here’s another UO both major political parties suck right now. There is so much dirt on both of them and we all need to stop reading one sided articles and patting ourselves on the back for being “morally right” then attacking everyone who doesn’t agree with our ignorant viewpoint.

agree 100%

miss.sally · August 2019

stassischroeder said:

varimama said:

Here’s another UO both major political parties suck right now. There is so much dirt on both of them and we all need to stop reading one sided articles and patting ourselves on the back for being “morally right” then attacking everyone who doesn’t agree with our ignorant viewpoint.

agree 100%

Praise.

silverhope · August 2019

I did the staged newborn photos with DS

My mom agrees with all of you and hated them. She asked me why DS was wrapped in a “dirty burlap sack.” Needless to stay, we will be doing a lifestyle shoot next time. I actually get sad when I look at DS’s newborn photos now bc my mom made me feel so stupid about them.

Except for 2 of them. Two are super cute. I LOVE the froggy pose and I love that photo of him and always will #sorrynotsorry and there is one of him just looking like the cutest slumbering prince and I just love it. The others I always think “dirty burlap sack” now...thanks mom.

orbmaker · August 2019

I don't hate Trump supporters , but – and this is quite painful for me in some cases – I've honestly lost all respect for those people I know that voted for him and plan to vote for him again. I just can't look at them the same anymore. This is bigger, and more consequential, than "political differences" – the stakes are so damn high right now. I do think there's an interesting discussion to have around what kind of biases exist in the media (and to what degree in what arenas...), but I don't need to read any article at all to see Trump for what he is. His actions, tweets, speeches, policy decisions, diplomatic record, etc, etc, etc speak for themselves.

dunder_mifflin · August 2019

I’m sorry you were made to feel silly @silverhope but I’m not going to lie the “dirty burlap sac” comment made me laugh out loud! Don’t ever feel ashamed if you love them. I love a ton of stuff other people don’t and I just learned to own it. Like the dining room chandelier I love everyone hates but I really don’t care at all. I’m still going to put it somewhere in my house.

jenEP · August 2019

I hate gender reveals or super gendered announcements. First, they should be sex reveals. Second, they usually contain lots of gender stereotypes and get super annoyed when I see them. My friend just did an elaborate gender announcement with the theme Bows or Baseball. Why wasn't it Softball or Baseball? That's right, because girls and pretty and something to be decorated and boys get to be active and play fun sports. Rant over.

dunder_mifflin · August 2019

@jenEP YESSS 100% in agreement!!! I think there was an article out on one of the first people who did a gender reveal party and she was stating that she really regrets it because it just turned into something it wasn’t intended to be (I don’t remember the intention, just remembering parts off the top of my head)

orbmaker · August 2019

@jenEP with you on this.

iiirene · August 2019

@jenEP I totally agree. I also think that they are just another absurd way to get gifts and attention.

jenEP · August 2019

@dunder_mifflin Yes! I think her oldest child identifies as non-binary and prefers pant suits. I think it's fun to know and even state the sex in the announcement, but the over-the-top with crazy gender expectations thrown in bother me.

dunder_mifflin · August 2019

Wait I found it:
https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.goodmorningamerica.com/amp/family/story/mom-blogger-credited-viral-gender-reveal-party-anymore-64628701

dunder_mifflin · August 2019

@jenEP I agree completely. I think the “bows vs. basketballs” is a good example. And honestly I think she’s right in the sense that when she had her small party in 2008 people spoke and thought about gender and identity much differently than we do now. I just find it interesting that it evolved to encompass gender expectations when it started out more simply.

varimama · August 2019

@silverhope I’m sorry if I made you feel silly, if you love them then it’s awesome and it’s great you got them (though I’m sorry you think of a dirty burlap sack now)! They aren’t my thing but clearly there is a booming industry for them so you aren’t alone!

kantobean · August 2019

Yeah I’m totally ok not liking any Trump supporters. I guess I wouldn’t say they’re necessarily bad people but I think they are either that or incredibly ignorant. Either way, I don’t have room in my life for that.

Also idgaf how long peoples’ shorts are. People wear stuff I wouldn’t wear but I don’t care. As a high school teacher I used to ask kids, especially girls, to cover up. Crop tops are super popular right now. I just don’t care anymore. It’s a fashion and self-expression thing and our culture is weirdly prude and ashamed of bodies. I also think girls who are thicker tend to get called out for short shorts/low cut shirts more than skinny girls and it really bothers me. Not saying anyone here is doing that, it’s just a bothersome trend I’ve noticed.

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