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August PGAL
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This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL). If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation.
If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!
1. How many weeks are you?
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
GTKY: What “group” did you hang out in during high school? Ex: cheerleader, band, etc.
If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!
1. How many weeks are you?
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
GTKY: What “group” did you hang out in during high school? Ex: cheerleader, band, etc.
Re: August PGAL
2. Previous loss(es)? 14 week loss in Dec 2018
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally I’m crying a lot. I have been just thinking about what’ll it’s going to be like when this baby is born and how that is going to make me feel about Abigail (my angel baby). Also, I feel like I have been spiraling into anxiety lately. He hasn’t been quite as active and it freaks me out. I keep finding myself dwelling on how many kicks I have felt in the last few hours and then I proceed to start pushing on my bump to make him move. If it continues I may call my OB and just ask for a quick US to check on him.
4. Any appointment updates? Next one is at the end of the month.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I feel huge! Of course if I’m actually measuring 2 weeks ahead that would make me 27 weeks and we are getting to the point of just being huge. I’m just ready to have my baby in my arms already.
6. Any milestones coming up? I have already passed my loss milestone.
GTKY: Are you crafty? If so, what have you been working on for the baby?
2. Previous loss(es)? 10 weeks April 2015 and two chemical pregnancies one in March 2017 and one in August 2017.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically my SPD is really hurting. Emotionally Im pretty tapped out and have some rough days where I just want to curl up in a ball and hide. But some days are awesome and I just want to hug everyone and share love. So thats a fun rollercoaster to be on.
4. Any appointment updates? I go tomorrow to the cardiologist to check on my heart flubs and then in two weeks for regular check up plus glucose challenge.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Im in the same boat @emeraldcity1214. Any change in movement makes me so anxious. Last night I couldnt get baby to move at all in the evening and I was really struggling with worry. I had to keep deep breathing and reminding myself baby needs to grow and needs to sleep in order to grow. I made the mistake with my first that I worried so much about SIDS that I would wake her from sleep out of fear she wasnt breathing. Trying not to do the same mistake. And I KNOW mine doesnt move a lot in the evenings because that hasnt been their pattern at all as of yet. But the relief I felt this morning when I felt a swift kick and now after lunch feeling rapid movement and rolls helps so much. I also have to remember with an anterior placenta I wont feel as much and that some times baby can be facing my back and I wont feel the movement. Just trying to breathe and not get worked up unless it has been 24 hours of very low to no movement.
Raves-more often than not I find myself thinking "why wouldn't this work out" or "i have no reason to believe I wont bring a baby home from the hospital". My anxiety makes me want to challenge these thoughts in case I am setting myself up for failure or in case Im jinxing myself. But Ive been trying to stay in those hopeful spots and unless given proof something is wrong, just believe in the fairytale for a little bit. I didnt connect with my daughter really at all during my last pregnancy because I was so afraid to and I dont want to regret missing out on this pregnancy because I am so full of doubt. So choosing when I can to stay positive.
6. Any milestones coming up? I am so thankful to pass the 24 week mark and now just counting down to under 100 days and then counting down to week 27/28 when babies survival rate raises past 90%.
GTKY: What “group” did you hang out in during high school? I was a choir/musical girl. We were weird kids. We did weird things as a group.
I also didn’t answer the GTKY question...
i am somewhat craft. I like to sew and I want to learn to knit. I have a few projects that I want to take care of before baby arrives. I need to find fabric for his bedding and start making that. I plan to teach my 5 year old how to finger knit this year too. So it will be a great time for us to learn together. I want her to have some kind of craft as a hobby. Or at least expose her so that she can have enough experience with different things to know what she likes and dislikes.
2. Previous loss(es)? 3 early losses in 2018, one chemical in Jan. 2019
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Ok, stressed for other reasons, but really starting to feel good about approaching 24 weeks!
4. Any appointment updates? No, I don’t go back for another week and a half for a regular appointment. I was 2 weeks late for my first appointment because I was sick, so I feel like my schedule is all off compared to everyone else!
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m so looking forward to the Fall. I agree with @emeraldcity1214 that I never wish time away (especially the summer), but I’m itching to get this baby out and know she’s safe and healthy. @purplefan1 you’re not alone in those thoughts of what else could happen. I feel like I’m constantly waiting for something bad to happen because of the shit year that was 2018 was bad news after bad news for us between losses and failed IVF. I keep having to remind myself that we’re so very lucky to be here and we know I can grow a healthy baby, I’ve done it before!
6. Any milestones coming up? 24 weeks on Thursday 👏🏼👏🏼. It makes me happy, but at the same time in my head I’m still scared. I had a student born at 24 weeks so I know life isn’t all good just because we’ve made it to viability.
GTKY: What “group” did you hang out in during high school? Ex: cheerleader, band, etc. I played sports, but our class was pretty inclusive, I can’t really say there were “groups,” but naturally with 250ish kids, there were groups of people who hung out together, I just don’t think they can be categorized. I’m still friends with people I went to kindergarten with (including my husband 😂), which I love. We went to the same elementary school our kids will go to!
2. Previous loss(es)? 1 miscarriage before my previous pregnancy and 2 chemical pregnancies while we dealt with secondary infertility.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Still very tired/fatigued and dealing with food aversions. Making managing my GD challenging. Hip and back pain has shown up early this time.
Emotionally feeling the baby move helps so much, but still nervous. The difference in feeling this time because of the anterior placenta is probably a big part of that.
4. Any appointment updates?
Not yet, next one is the 13th.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
It is hot and maternity clothes don't breath.
6. Any milestones coming up?
I think kick counts start at 28 weeks and those were always reassuring to me.
GTKY: What “group” did you hang out in during high school? Ex: cheerleader, band, etc.
Band, theater (mostly stage crew), and choir. My little group of friends were a brainy/nerdy bunch from all three.
As to crafts - I haven't had time for crafts for a long time, but I used to do beading/make jewelry. I can see but it takes more CV patience than I have to do properly. I knit badly and I do some scrap booking.
I can’t even think about her or I just start tearing up. My daughter has been talking a lot about her lately too and I’m sure it’s because she knows we are getting closer to bringing this baby home.
I feel guilty that I’m not just filled with happiness and I’m fearful that his birth is going to be overshadowed by the grief I’m still feeling over my loss.
I’m feeling guilt that I didn’t even truly believe in this pregnancy in the beginning since we had a chemical in January, which was our fourth loss of the year. I never had time to recover emotionally from that when we got pregnant with this current baby and was all geared up to try IVF again, my head just wasn’t in it. I think my husband and I are still in a bit of disbelief that we’ve made it this far and still hurt that we never got any clear reasons for any of our losses. Feeling her move so much lately has been so, so good for me, but I know my husband is still having a hard time whenever I have him feel her kick. I’m really trying to change our outlook on this and get us both excited. Maybe I’ll bring up the name conversation this weekend and see if that helps us feel more connected with this pregnancy.
@emeraldcity1214 you sound like you’ve had a stressful week too with the fires, so I’m sure being unsettled hasn’t helped. Hang in there, I know these babes will be more than worth it.
I agree with weird cramps and sensations that make me feel like labor. I had terrible back labor since mine was sunny side up until she came out. So now any time my back is aching and I have to poo, i worry that Im missing signs of labor. I vividly remember right before it was time to push that I told my nurse I all of a sudden REALLY felt like i needed to poop and thats when she had me checked one last time and it was time to go. So now I associate that sensation with L&D
I've been doing some half-assed yoga poses, but I really need to look up the list of things they recommended with my son. I keep meaning to make a chiro appointment too, which can help. My sister and mum both had breech babies too, so I'm definitely prone to it, but was hoping everything down there was a little more stretched out so it wouldn't happen! Last time we tried it all, even playing music with headphones down low