Does anyone else hate being pregnant?

Re: Does anyone else hate being pregnant?

• kbrown2385 member

  June 2019

  Hi and welcome! We discourage one off post here as it clogs up the board and we like to keep things organized. If you haven’t yet please head over to the “read first board organization” thread to see how things work here and then introduce yourself in the introduction thread. Your question would be perfect in the question thread and it will probably get more traction there. Thanks and congratulations! 

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• marebear15 member

  June 2019

  No, I don't hate being pregnant. I tried for a year to get pregnant, including having a miscarriage in January. Even when my head is in the toilet, I'm reminded that I'm sick because I'm growing a tiny baby that is going to be a welcome addition to our family. 
  
  I do not enjoy being pregnant. I don't enjoy the constant nausea, the food aversions, the vomiting, and the fatigue. But every little symptom is a reminder that my baby is growing inside of me. And that makes all these symptoms worth it.

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• Xstatic3333 member

  June 2019

  jam2382 said:

  I've had it pretty easy so far with barely any nausea, no vomiting unless I force it. My skin is still clear.
  My fatigue is by far the worst. Even though being pregnant hasn't been awful compared to other people, I hate every second of my pregnancy. I have always wanted kids, but this makes me not want more than one. I never thought I'd hate being pregnant this much.

  OP, very serious answer so please take it as such. I felt similarly to you my first pregnancy, despite being grateful to be pregnant and so excited to meet my baby. I was so sure we would be OAD that I sold all my newborn stuff. I suffered from PPA/PPD after pregnancy, and I can now recognize and put a label to the fact that I was deep in antenatal depression. I never thought that word would apply to me-I had everything I ever wanted after all! But, hormones are what they are and it happened. If I could go back in time I would seek out a therapist in first tri who could help me to work through it. Now, with #2, I have a therapist and a psychiatrist who know me and that I trust, and I don't hate pregnancy this time. I'm able to enjoy the highs, complain about the lows (they are real) but basically keep on living my happy life with more naps and less coffee. Don't hesitate to reach out for help (your OB is a good first place to start) if this rings any bells. The voice in your head will tell you not to, but that's the trick of depression. 

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• FyreFlyeRush member

  June 2019

  I felt that way with my second pregnancy. The world makes you feel like a pariah for not loving every moment of being pregnant, but the truth is, pregnancy is HARD. I was sick the entire time, had nearly every symptom known to woman, and my ex and I were starting a court case that would drag on for YEARS. Of course, I was unhappy.
  
  It's normal not to love being pregnant, but like Xstatic3333 said, you should mention it to your GP and or OB. Antepartum depression is as real as post partum...Your hormones are all out of whack, the increased progesterone and can make you Uber ahem... Rhymes with witchy...or sad or apathetic or flat out miserable. 
  

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