How are you feeling? (Cravings/Symptoms): every movement that involves separating my legs (including walking) is excruciating. Nausea is still present, but I'm throwing up much less. Random headaches.
Rants/Raves: my rant is I'm so excited to find out if we are having a boy or girl, but honestly I don't care either way. I just want to know, If that makes sense. I'm the only one who feels that way though, and I don't want to deal with other people's disappointments if this is another boy. I know my mother in law is going to be the worse. My rave is the weather has been beautiful this week and looks to continue into next week as well!
Questions:
GTKY: Fun fact! Give us a random fun fact about yourself. Others talking about family traditions made me think of this: neither my sisters, my mom, or myself have ever had our water break naturally. None of us had c-sections and only 2 out of 9 of the labors were induced. I don't know if that's really that rare, but I've always wanted to experience my water breaking outside of a nurse popping it, and when I asked my mom and sisters about it I was surprised to hear they had never experienced it either!
I have a lot of friends and family scattered to the 4 corners so a social media announcement makes sense. It does feel a bit AW to me, but I know if I don't I will forget to tell someone.
@drama_llama I have a sword too! Idk where it came from, idk why we have it. But it's a full sized freaking sword sitting in the corner of my closet lol.
Upcoming Appointments: 6/27 cardiologist and 6/28 anatomy scan and early first 1 hour glucose test
How are you feeling? (Cravings/Symptoms): pretty good but tired. Baby has gotten big enough where I am having trouble sleeping (I am a stomach-sleeper) so I've had to start using my pregnancy pillow.
Rants/Raves: I returned the little girl romper I bought for our gender reveal (I got one for each gender)...and promptly spent $60 on little boy clothes... we've tried for 3 years to have this IVF baby and I couldn't hold back my urges any longer! I didnt go too crazy, just a few sleepers and onesies. We are moving into our new house the second week of July, so I can't go overboard. It felt so nice to give in to the joy and hope.
Questions: none right now! I can never think of any when I'm asked, but they always come to me after the fact!
GTKY: Fun fact! Give us a random fun fact about yourself. We are the first of our entire group of friends to have a boy first (everyone who has a second child gave birth to a boy second), so we broke the cycle! Everyone was joking that if anyone were going to do it, then it was going to be us. Needless to say, my husband is thrilled.
@ChelK3 ugh I feel ya on the not wanting to deal with everyone else's disappointment. First baby for MH and I, 3rd grandbaby for his side of the family. His oldest sister has two boys, and so everyone was hoping for a girl. The WHOLE family (his mom, both sisters, nephews, my grandparents) were there for the 3D ultrasound where baby flipped over and revealed a VERY obvious weiner. You could feel the disappointment from his side of the family, mostly his youngest sister.
@angieeeeee Did you really want all those people in the room? I feel like when people invade that part of mine and my husband's life they are taking moments away from us that we could be sharing together, alone, as a couple. I had the MIL and my mom in the room with my first and second baby and I regretted it both times. So I guess that's where my feelings come from.
@emeraldcity1214 for finding out the gender, I really didn't care. Everyone else (except my grandparents) were SO obsessed with finding out the gender, and I really did not care. So we decided screw it, we'll do it this way and be done with it. MHs youngest sister started bugging me at like 9 weeks to do the genetic testing, which i also had no interest in doing, JUST because we could find out gender that way. 3D was the cheaper solution. I thought about being super petty and just waiting til my 20 week scan and then telling everyone except her, but MH talked me out of it.
I love his family, don't get me wrong, but they can be so ridiculously annoying and I've learned that when its something I dont care strongly about, it's easier to just go with it and be done hearing about it. NOT to say I'm a pushover in all situations, I definitely will hold my ground if it's something I feel strongly about. This was not one of those situations. The one I am irritated about is the youngest SILs attitude about being in the delivery room. When I told them all I was pregnant, she informed me that she was going to be in the room. Not asked, told. My MIL asked if she could be in there. Told her yes. I found out last week that for some reason, my SIL later RIPPED into her mom for asking to be in the room, like she had no right to do so. Ooh I was pissed when I heard that. This little bitch acts like someone else is in the wrong for asking to be there during my labor but thinks that it's ok to just tell me that "oh I'm coming in". Newsflash honey, my grandma, your mom, and my best friend who is practically my sister will all be welcome in that room LONG before your snotty ass.
Side note, MH and I were talking last night- what's the obsession with people wanting to be in the room while baby is being delivered? I get wanting to see the baby, yea, but what's wrong with waiting until after its born and been cleaned up? Why must everyone be in the room as I'm pushing the thing out? I don't get it.
Whoa sorry for the rant that turned in to Apparently I have stronger feelings on delivery than I realized 😂
@angieeeeee Girl! Do you really want that many people in the room while you're practically naked pushing a baby the size of a watermelon out of your vagina?! 😳 Think about it. If these people are being so pushy right now, how pushy do you think they are going to be about being the one who holds the baby after being born? This is the way I look at it, if I'm not comfortable taking a really large poop in front of you, you aren't welcome in the room.
Side note: that goes for everyone except my husband. We don't poop in front of each other. 😂 It is just something that just doesn't happen.
@angieeeeee I just 100% agree with @emeraldcity1214. Think long and hard about who you really want to share that time with, it’s not exactly a very social time. You’ll most likely be at your most irritable, so if they’re bugging you now while you’re not in labor, they will most likely piss you off during labor and you wouldn’t want that to be the stressful part of the experience, believe me! My mum and my mother in law are both labor and delivery nurses, and I didn’t even want them with us (my mil did watch our heart rate monitors from her computer the whole labor though 😂).
I had a rough labor and ended up with about 8 nurses, a midwife, and a doctor in the room when my son was delivered. It’s was super stressful and scary and honestly with anymore people in the room I think it would simply be too many cooks in the kitchen. Especially if you feel like your husband is capable of supporting you under pressure and doesn’t freak out around blood. My mum agrees that it should be just me and my husband, we had that conversation when my sister had her first. In 25 years of delivering babies she’s seen too many awkward situations that turn into drama with extra people in the room. Also, my hospital only allows two support people (including the father), so if you do choose to let them in, if you haven’t already I’d check first with how many people you’re allowed in labor and delivery before making any plans just in case!
@emeraldcity1214 the poop analogy doesn't really apply, I'll poop (and probably have) in front of any one of the people who wants to be in there. It's not even the practically naked part that makes me not want them there, it's more of exactly what you pointed out about being pushy to hold the baby. Youngest SIL I already know will want to hold him before anyone- she came out to the waiting room where we (MH and I) were waiting when their sisters 2nd baby was born, and was upset that "I havent even got to hold him yet". At that point, MH and I didn't even know if mom and baby were ok (her labor was BAD), neither parent had held the baby yet, and yet she was upset that SHE hadnt held him.
I'm ok with my MIL being there. I'm ok with my grandma if she wants to be. I'm ok with my bff. But the more I think about it, I DO NOT want my youngest SIL, and it's simply because for someone who doesn't have kids, she is a goddamn expert, and I don't want to deal with it. Ideally I'll go into labor at midnight and not have to tell anyone 😂
@rogro118 I think I'm only allowed 2 in the delivery room also. Sooooo, it'll be my MIL and my grandma (if she wants to be, she hasn't expressed interest and shes kinda queasy so she might not want to). If not my grandma, then my best friend who I've grown up with for 21 years and is literally like a sister to me. Youngest SIL will just have to suck it.
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My rave is the weather has been beautiful this week and looks to continue into next week as well!
GTKY: Fun fact! Give us a random fun fact about yourself.
Others talking about family traditions made me think of this: neither my sisters, my mom, or myself have ever had our water break naturally. None of us had c-sections and only 2 out of 9 of the labors were induced. I don't know if that's really that rare, but I've always wanted to experience my water breaking outside of a nurse popping it, and when I asked my mom and sisters about it I was surprised to hear they had never experienced it either!
Rave: I leave tmrw nite for a week in Scotland!
GTKY: Fun fact! Give us a random fun fact about yourself.
I'm a lefty!
GTKY: Fun fact! Give us a random fun fact about yourself.
We are the first of our entire group of friends to have a boy first (everyone who has a second child gave birth to a boy second), so we broke the cycle! Everyone was joking that if anyone were going to do it, then it was going to be us. Needless to say, my husband is thrilled.
I love his family, don't get me wrong, but they can be so ridiculously annoying and I've learned that when its something I dont care strongly about, it's easier to just go with it and be done hearing about it. NOT to say I'm a pushover in all situations, I definitely will hold my ground if it's something I feel strongly about. This was not one of those situations. The one I am irritated about is the youngest SILs attitude about being in the delivery room. When I told them all I was pregnant, she informed me that she was going to be in the room. Not asked, told. My MIL asked if she could be in there. Told her yes. I found out last week that for some reason, my SIL later RIPPED into her mom for asking to be in the room, like she had no right to do so. Ooh I was pissed when I heard that. This little bitch acts like someone else is in the wrong for asking to be there during my labor but thinks that it's ok to just tell me that "oh I'm coming in". Newsflash honey, my grandma, your mom, and my best friend who is practically my sister will all be welcome in that room LONG before your snotty ass.
Side note, MH and I were talking last night- what's the obsession with people wanting to be in the room while baby is being delivered? I get wanting to see the baby, yea, but what's wrong with waiting until after its born and been cleaned up? Why must everyone be in the room as I'm pushing the thing out? I don't get it.
Whoa sorry for the rant that turned in to
Apparently I have stronger feelings on delivery than I realized 😂
Side note: that goes for everyone except my husband. We don't poop in front of each other. 😂 It is just something that just doesn't happen.
I had a rough labor and ended up with about 8 nurses, a midwife, and a doctor in the room when my son was delivered. It’s was super stressful and scary and honestly with anymore people in the room I think it would simply be too many cooks in the kitchen. Especially if you feel like your husband is capable of supporting you under pressure and doesn’t freak out around blood. My mum agrees that it should be just me and my husband, we had that conversation when my sister had her first. In 25 years of delivering babies she’s seen too many awkward situations that turn into drama with extra people in the room. Also, my hospital only allows two support people (including the father), so if you do choose to let them in, if you haven’t already I’d check first with how many people you’re allowed in labor and delivery before making any plans just in case!
I'm ok with my MIL being there. I'm ok with my grandma if she wants to be. I'm ok with my bff. But the more I think about it, I DO NOT want my youngest SIL, and it's simply because for someone who doesn't have kids, she is a goddamn expert, and I don't want to deal with it. Ideally I'll go into labor at midnight and not have to tell anyone 😂