Should we talk about some basic participation rules before we go private too? So people know what to expect? Like, if someone is not posting and still logging in, I’d consider that lurking and would like us to be able to remove those people from the group.
@RedBreast35 that sounds totally fair. I’m not cool with lurking at that point. I don’t wanna get too strict about how frequently people should participate since I know everyone gets busy, so does a week sound fair? Two? In my last BMB we’d just let the group know if we were going to be MIA due to work, vacations, etc. so it didn’t seem like we ghosted.
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@RedBreast35 that’s a great idea to bring up. Hmmm... I don’t know that I have a good or correct answer though. It seems silly to be strict on timeframes, as life happens, but I totally agree that lurking isn’t cool in a PG. With my previous BMB, it basically continued to self-weed down. Like we had a huge group go private in a FB group and chat, and then smaller and smaller groups were continuously remade from there as people clicked or didn’t or lurked or consistently chatted. It was kind of a pain in the butt to keep creating new places to chat and such, but important to not just have lurkers as some women shared very personal life circumstances and such.
@sunshine2417@zuuls_mom I'm not sure I had a real time limit in mind, just for us to make sure to put it out there that being a lurker in a PG is not OK and participation is expected. I just like having rules/expectations in place ahead of time, so if we end up having to enforce them, it shouldn't be a surprise!
I agree that we should prolly have a couple “rules” especially if people start sharing more personal details (and photos!).
I googled some rules and lifted it from FB (sorry!). Thoughts?
1. Participation Expectations
Participation is expected to be mandatory (as we are going to be sharing more details of our lives), lurking without participation for longer than two weeks will result in a removal from the Private Group.
2. Be Kind and Courteous
We're all in this together to create a welcoming environment. Let's treat everyone with respect. Healthy debates are natural, but kindness is required.
3. No Hate Speech or Bullying
Make sure everyone feels safe. Bullying of any kind isn't allowed, and degrading comments about things like race, religion, culture, sexual orientation, gender or identity will not be tolerated.
4. No Promotions or Spam
Give more than you take to this group. Self-promotion, spam and irrelevant links aren't allowed. Do not offer samples and no pyramid sales or network marketing sales products can be mentioned by distributors
5. Respect Everyone's Privacy
Being part of this group requires mutual trust. Authentic, expressive discussions make groups great, but may also be sensitive and private. What's shared in the group should stay in the group.
Just here to say I'm up for a PG, but y'all...I am so busy sometimes I drop off for a week or two at a time. So something to lmk how often I have to post so I don't get dropped would be great.
@cmdesigner don’t worry, girl! We know you’re busy. I think we’ll be flexible since you don’t go dark for too long. And you make an effort to participate so we love you ❤️
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Yeah, I think we can establish “2 weeks” so it’s not a surprise if it becomes a problem, but also like... if we know someone’s on vacation or something’s crazy in their lives, it’s NBD. Basically if you ghost for a month or two, then start lurking and not participating, byeeee!
Also—totally agree with @duewithpu2. If you sell stuff or are pyramid scheme/MLM-y, right on, you do you boo, but pleaaaaase don’t ask me to host parties or join a party!
Yes to all of this! Excited to move to a private group. I agree with others about getting to know others better! Let me know if I can help in anyway with the process.
Oh, I just thought of something fun! In my N16 BMB everyone had a designated day and did their own AMA (Ask Me Anything) thread. It was so fun and gave everyone a chance to talk about themselves and get to know each other more. Definitely not a requirement, but thought I would throw it out there!
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@duewithpu2 I love your enthusiasm! hahaha Umm...I'd think once we vote on the mods the PG would be able to get up and running relatively quickly. So maybe a few days to a week from now? I think it just depends on how long the mod vote will be open.
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Re: PG Discussion Thread!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Anyone else have something that worked?
I googled some rules and lifted it from FB (sorry!). Thoughts?
1. Participation Expectations
Participation is expected to be mandatory (as we are going to be sharing more details of our lives), lurking without participation for longer than two weeks will result in a removal from the Private Group.
2. Be Kind and Courteous
We're all in this together to create a welcoming environment. Let's treat everyone with respect. Healthy debates are natural, but kindness is required.
3. No Hate Speech or Bullying
Make sure everyone feels safe. Bullying of any kind isn't allowed, and degrading comments about things like race, religion, culture, sexual orientation, gender or identity will not be tolerated.
4. No Promotions or Spam
Give more than you take to this group. Self-promotion, spam and irrelevant links aren't allowed. Do not offer samples and no pyramid sales or network marketing sales products can be mentioned by distributors
5. Respect Everyone's Privacy
Being part of this group requires mutual trust. Authentic, expressive discussions make groups great, but may also be sensitive and private. What's shared in the group should stay in the group.
@cmdesigner don’t worry, girl! We know you’re busy. I think we’ll be flexible since you don’t go dark for too long. And you make an effort to participate so we love you ❤️
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Also—totally agree with @duewithpu2. If you sell stuff or are pyramid scheme/MLM-y, right on, you do you boo, but pleaaaaase don’t ask me to host parties or join a party!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Have we established when we are taking our pics yet? I picked up a pineapple yesterday 😂
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle