First time momma, excited AND terrified!!

lagerbaby · May 2019

Who else is excited and terrified because they’re having their first baby, and have been completely overwhelmed by information, how many strollers are available for sale, the amount of times you have to pee, pregnancy acne (didn’t even know that one was coming at 36!!), the complete and utter exhaustion, and the thought that your life is going to be flipped upside down?! Share your positive vibes to help me and other mommas calm down and enjoy the ride!! I’m looking at you, 2nd or 3rd+ time mommas, to tell us how awesome it is on the other side!!

mercury94 · May 2019

*lurking*

I’m not sure when you’re due, but I bet your birth month board (when it’s up if it’s not yet) will have a good mix of ladies to have this conversation with. There’s usually a lot more discussion on those than on this board.

FWIW, I have a toddler now and I felt a lot like that when I first found out I was pregnant. It has been the best thing that ever happened to me and I managed to figure all those things out. Congrats and good luck with this journey.

stassischroeder · May 2019

@lagerbaby well.... it is awesome on the other side, but it's also really hard. I don't think I really enjoyed motherhood until my son was 6+ months old, and now that he's 14 months old it's definitely getting more fun. Not saying any of this to scare you, but rather so that you don't have unrealistic expectations right off the bat. The first few months are HARD, but then you hit your stride. Or, you could be one of those unicorn moms that loves it all right from the get go. At this point in my parenthood journey I can say that my son is the best thing EVER and I love being a mom, but even now I have days where I'm like "OMG why did we decide to have kids???". It's all totally normal. I really hate that a lot of parents on social media only ever share the good stuff.

kiki75 · May 2019

^^^WSS. Fourth trimester was, hands down, the absolute hardest. We started hitting our stride around 4 mo but there are still days I'm thinking, "Dear God. When is bedtime?? Oh. It's 3pm. Cool. 😳" But it's awesome, too. To see him learn things and watch his personality really blossom. His joy when I figured out that the new weird hand thing he was doing randomly was him trying to get me to sing Wheels on the Bus with him. He's the best.

Parenthood is the quintessential, "I never said it would be easy. I just said it would be worth it."

pregoadventure-1 · June 2019

I'm 34. This is my 1st pregnancy! And I'm nervous! My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years. And I thought getting pregnant was the main part of the battle... I didn't know how common miscarriages were and it makes me nervous. But I'm SO EXCITED to finally be here!
Have my 2nd ultrasound in 2 days will hopefully hear a heartbeat! EDD 1/28/2020. 6+0.

nken20 · September 2019

Hello congratulations on your pregnancy! This is my first too. And boy did I go through a lot to get pregnant. @lagerbaby I suppose you had a natural pregnancy? I got mine through ivf. I'm not sure if there are many ladies here same as me.

saladflambe · September 2019

My best advice is this: nothing can prepare you. Seriously - not all the books, all the forums, all the telling yourself how hard it's going to be (or hearing how hard it'll be). Sure, gather ideas to keep in your pockets, but know that, at the end of the day, nothing can prepare you -- and that's ok! You'll be ok. You'll figure it out - one day at a time.

My mantra during the newborn phase was "this is not your new forever," and that is 100% true at every stage. Nothing lasts forever. You've got to do every single day of it, but it is not your new forever.

wishiwaspreggo · September 2019

The old cliche is tired and true - it goes by fast. So, so fast. But the sad part is it doesn't feel like it in the moment so you take it for granted, but week by week they change so much and you don't notice until you try to put an outfit on your baby and they can't fully stretch their legs and you realize an outfit that was fine days ago is suddenly too small. My advice is to take tons of pictures (even if they're just sleeping and it seems boring) and film them. They only make those funny newborn sounds for a few months before they give way to cooing, and then consonants (ba, da, ma), and then small words, and then suddenly they're talking. It's crazy. My twins are my last two so I'm constantly reminding myself to enjoy it because it will be over before I'm ready

Overall, being a mom is a very rewarding experience. It's scary as a first timer but you learn, and you learn fast. You'll be surprised how much of it is just instinct. I was one of those people who, when handed a baby, would awkwardly shuffle them from one arm to the other and panic if they started to cry or fuss because I had no idea what to do. Now I'm a mom of 3 and it comes easy with my own!

akoros · October 2019

I keep oscillating between calm (I was getting anxiety over not getting pregnant, so seeing it's possible is a relief) and freaking out, so you're not alone. I've also started getting anxious about the next baby (should we choose to try again), since I'm already 34. Have I mentioned that I'm only 4-5 weeks along and am also paranoid that my positive HPTs were all just flukes?

Syren83 · October 2019

Honestly, I don’t think it’s possible to be pregnant and not nervous no matter what number you’re on. It does get easier each time but there will always be some sense of anxiety and worry over basic health care, developmental care, etc. I have 3 right now and can tell you that it’ll be okay but expect to be afraid and worried. All 3 of mine were happy and healthy. So I pray the same for everyone’s here. It doesn’t get easier as they get older like I thought in the beginning. My oldest is 15 and there are just new worries to deal with and new degrees of behavior issues with teens. Granted he does have Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD but is otherwise doing well for a teen and a teen with those needs. The greatest piece of advice I can share is you’re never alone. If you’re worried about something seek out the information because it is guaranteed to be out there somewhere and someone somewhere is also going through it too. But it is a joy raising kids.

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