Depression

bailey84 · May 2019

I been suffering with depression this whole pregnancy. Is anyone else going through this?

tsa208 · May 2019

I have been on the verge, a lot of crying, anxiety, and anger. I started seeing a therapist for the first time in my life to help me manage it, but I am very familiar with depression (family history) and don't think it quite went there.

I'm sorry you are going through it. These hormones really wreak havoc on us.

foodislove · May 2019

@bailey84 I have been dealing with it minorly, I'm on a low dose of Zoloft since about Feb/March, and it's helping a great deal. While I still have some moments of huge emotional swings, I don't feel foggy or sad constantly.

Have you talked to your OBGYN or another practitioner about your feeling? I definitely recommend therapy starting now and after, especially to have someone help you identify if you get worse, because while partners can and should keep an eye out for PPD and such, we're all sleep deprived and its useful to get that third party opinion/help.

tova24 · May 2019

I went through major depression with my last pregnancy. My then OB wouldn’t prescribe me any medication and truly was not helpful (main reason I did not return to him for this pregnancy). What helped me last time was talking to someone. Doesn’t have to be a therapist, but someone you trust. I really wished I had a better OB last time and could have explored what options I had when it came to managing my depression.

erynpdx · May 2019

I'm having some trouble saying if I am or not - I just came out of like 2 weeks of extreme moodiness, tons of crying, that kind of thing, was about to talk to my doc about it today, and out of nowhere have been feeling great.

mom2b77373 · May 2019

Some days I think I am and others I do not. Some days I am super moody, tired, and angry. But then I think about it and I chalk it up to just being tired, exhausted, and anxious for my baby girl to be here. Even though I am 33 weeks I am still so anxious that something is going to happen and my husband believes that is pushing me over the edge.

fromcatstokids · May 2019

I have a personal history of major depression, and worry about pregnancy re-triggering it. When we found out baby is a girl, I was disappointed. I've always planned to have a boy first, and it kind of shook my world that things weren't going as expected. There were a few days of feeling particularly off, and then a few days of definite depression. I didn't realize that what was going on because my emotions had been all over the place during my first trimester, but the first day of depression, DH told me he wanted me to have a plan in place for just in case I need to talk to someone. That made me realize that what was going on wasn't just pregnancy. Fortunately, my history has left me with the knowledge of what works for me. I made myself go outside and take walks to get sunlight and my blood flowing (still doing this regularly). I also gave myself a deadline: I had one day to turn things around before I had to schedule an appointment. My normal tricks worked, but I know that talking to someone is not a bad thing.
I would encourage anyone who suspects they are dealing with depression to take the first step of looking up a provider in their area to talk to. Having the information on hand in case it gets worse makes things so much easier. Also, scheduling an appointment to talk to someone doesn't hurt! The person you talk to is a professional, and will help you figure out if you need to revisit them regularly to talk, make changes in your day-to-day life, or if you need to consider medication. I hate that some people think therapy is a bad thing, because it has been sooo helpful to me in the past. There is nothing wrong with having a conversation with someone, and it can be extremely beneficial!
You can do this. You will get through it. This bad period will not last forever.

indulgentgypsy · May 2019

I have a history of depression and severe PPD. I talked to my midwife at my last appointment about getting meds preemptively and she said no. It is a little frustrating, because even though I am ok right now, I know what I'm like postpartum and quite frankly I didn't want to have to go through weeks of that again before meds kick in.

expatmom39 · May 2019

Hormones aside, I think being pregnant can intensify your introspection. Our brains are in a heightened state of trying to prepare...and I think it spins off into a lot of different thoughts...self-analysis, life-analysis... and sometimes it’s just too much.

It makes total sense that you might find yourself looking under the hood of your mind and not liking what you see. I consider that depression- getting stuck in that feeling.
I’m not talking about clinical depression, since I don’t have any educational background with it.

But I think it helps to know that even without that label, pregnancy adds a new psychological layer to everything you had going on mentally beforehand.

Don’t feel stigmatized by it. You may actually be more aware of yourself and your personal evolution than people who might say they don’t experience depression, and that’s a great thing. You can make a lot of progress as a person just by starting out with that honest admission of feeling depression. The fact that you started a thread about it here says a lot. Your looking for a next step, and that’s perfect. It’s actually a great place to be.

I too recommend talking to a therapist. It’s a relief to have someone objective, outside your daily life to air your thoughts and feelings to. They’re like an introspection guide, so you don’t get overwhelmed trying to sort things out alone. It’s not a process of fixing something broken, it’s about developing a deeper relationship with yourself. It’s really an under-appreciated life skill that too many neglect.
Try to keep a gentle inner-monologue, to reduce the stress of judging yourself. Check out therapists close to where you live online and make an appointment with an open mind. You could even make 2, each with a different person, to help you choose the one you’re more drawn to talk to. I happen to know I prefer male therapists, and you may have some other preference that you’ll realize once you talk to them.
You’re not locked into anything, just exploring options. It’s a great beginning to having a new resource in your life.

bailey84 · May 2019

Thank you ladies. My doctor won't prescribe me anything either. Talking to people makes it worse than before because nothing changes. I'm tired of people saying is hormonal when it's them pissing me off. People have been trying my patience since I been pregnant because I can't snap out on them. It's like my feelings and what I want doesn't matter and I'm suppose to keep being attentive to everyone.

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