May PGAL

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL). If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation.

If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!

1. How many weeks are you?

2. Previous loss(es)?

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

4. Any appointment updates?

5. Rants/Raves/Questions?

6. Any milestones coming up?

Kurtni · May 2019

Copying from the April post

emeraldcity1214 said:
@kurtni is there a reason you're worried about placenta accreta? That is a very scary pregnancy condition. I had a good friend that had that with her last pregnancy. She and her baby are both fine but it was very scary for her.

Mostly just the increased risk from my prior caesarean. Crossing my fingers I don’t have an anterior placenta this time because that’s another risk factor.

How did your ultrasound go today?

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@Kurtni I have had an anterior placenta for my last 3, maybe 4 pregnancies. I think it's due to the way my uterus is tilted. 🤷‍♀️

My US went great! No evidence of any SCH. So they healed. My OB told me to take it easy though because they can come and go. She thinks one completely cleared and then reappeared within a week. So it is best for me to just play it safe and not do too much. I am relieved. I will have a follow-up US on May 29th. I asked if we could peek at baby again before I leave for AK just to make sure everything is ok. She said of course. I'm worried about finding a good doctor when I move. I struggled to find a good one here.

pintobean77 · May 2019

1. How many weeks are you?
13w 7d

2. Previous loss(es)?
MMC at 17 weeks 07/2013
CP 01/2018

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Feeling better emotionally every day that goes by. Grateful that a lot of the nausea and food aversions are dying down.

4. Any appointment updates?
Had good NT scan yesterday. Got to see the little person bopping around

Had blood draw for Cell-Free DNA test.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions?

6. Any milestones coming up?
Looking forward to getting the results of the blood test in about a week.

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

I never answered the questions. Oops!

1. How many weeks are you? 11+4

2. Previous loss(es)? 14 week loss that was discovered at 15 weeks last December.

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally I bounce from feeling happy and excited to anxious and stressed. Today I have been full of anxiety. Mainly because I have been feeling a lot of different aches and it just messes with my PGAL brain. Plus I'm having to force my 20 month old to wean because I have noticed some cramping (the concerning kind) sometimes when she nurses. I can't wean cold Turkey because I'm worried about mastitis so I'm just over analyzing every ache and pain. My back hurts a ton too. I'm not sure what that is all about. Could be from me being allowed to move around and do more than I could when I was on modified bedrest.

4. Any appointment updates? My SCH are gone. Nt scan was normal.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Raves for the week...we accepted an offer on our house and we got a house in AK that is perfect.

6. Any milestones coming up? Getting past week 14 is my only milestone. As the weeks pass by and it creeps up I get more and more apprehensive. I have had the urge to use my doppler more often just for reassurance that his little heart is beating.

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@pintobean77 Girl! Welcome to 2nd trimester! Start a second trimester gif party thread in honor of being one of the first in the group to get there!

gadzooks_3 · May 2019

1. How many weeks are you? 12 weeks 4 days

2. Previous loss(es)?
Early loss at 7 weeks
2 chemical pregnancies

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

I am preoccupied with concerns about the NIPT due to my AMA. The NT scan was reassuring, seeing the baby move around helped. Physically I am still getting food aversions and very sore breasts but the nausea is less.

4. Any appointment updates? NT scan was good. See my OB on Tuesday.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? At my NT when she labeled the placenta she used the word anterior which makes me think I have an anterior placenta. Feeling movement was so reassuring last time that the idea of not feeling it as much this time is concerning to me. Not anything I can do about it though.

6. Any milestones coming up?

Mother's day is always a bit hard for me, my loss occurred on Mother's day 3 years ago.

Nervous about the NIPT results. Very hopeful that it will come back low risk and ease my mind a bit.

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@drama_llama it may be that you feel movement but just not daily for a few more weeks. That's how it was when I had my first anterior placenta. It all depends on where your placenta is (ex more to one side or really high vs low).

pintobean77 · May 2019

emeraldcity1214 said:

@pintobean77 Girl! Welcome to 2nd trimester! Start a second trimester gif party thread in honor of being one of the first in the group to get there!

Yes! 2nd trimester feels good

I’ll have to figure out how to post gifs again. It’s been so long since my S14 little one.

rogro118 · May 2019

@drama_llama my first loss was Mother’s Day last year, the universe is cruel but at least we have reason to celebrate this year ❤️

rogro118 · May 2019

1. How many weeks are you? 10+2

2. Previous losses? 4 early

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally good, but I’ll feel better after my NT scan. Physically I’m sick in the afternoon and night, so at least it isn’t all day, but it is pretty significant. It went away around 16 weeks I think with my son so 🤞🏻 there’s some relief soon! I need to start moving more everyday, I was so scared to workout at first I haven’t done much, but going to start walking again next week when we get some sun.

4. Any appointment updates? I had my intake yesterday, and they’re sending me to MFM for my NT scan and testing. I had hypertension at the end with my son so they want to watch that as well as be sensitive to the losses although they were all before 6 weeks, so I’ve passed that milestone.

5. Rants/raves/questions? I’m sure it’s different everywhere, but what does MFM typically involve? My sil went there, but not until after the anatomy scan because of cleft lip so her experience was different.

6. Milestones? Double digit weeks 👏🏼

purplefan1 · May 2019

1. How many weeks are you? 11+1

2. Previous loss(es)? First pregnancy at 10 weeks MMC. 2 CPs (8/2017 and 3/2018)

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically starting to feel a bit better. I had an awful cold this past week that led to a temp that freaked me out. I started googling temps and pregnancy and got super nervous. I think I am passed the worst of it and on the mend now. Emotionally I am hoping for the best but always prepared for the worst. I feel oddly hopeful about this pregnancy and I usually live in a land of pessimism and catasrophizing. So hopeful is an interesting spot!

4. Any appointment updates? I just went in for my 10 week last week and they couldnt find the fetal tones on the doppler. The NP told me not to worry and sent me for an US. This is exactly how my MMC went so that wasnt great. But I was relieved to see baby and baby was measuring right on schedule and had a great heartbeat. This is the second scare Ive had. The first US at 6ish weeks I found out I had an SCH and then 2 days later started cramping and bleeding. I truly thought it was an MC so at the US the next day I expected the worst. When they showed growth and an HB I said "no shit?". No idea how the SCH is doing. My OB didnt seem concerned by it. Im trying not to over analyze my US. It was a quick one just to check so not detailed and an abdominal instead of transvaginal so details arent great. Trying to just assume everything looks good for a 10 week "meatball" (thats what my almost 3 year old thought it looked like and is now telling everyone I have in my belly)

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave: energy is coming back up. So yay. Rant: Meh, Im in a good mood today so nothing is coming to mind.

6. Any milestones coming up? Counting down days to 14 weeks and then counting down to my next appointment May 28th (I think). Also deciding to do some of the testing due to my age and just to prepare us before we start sharing the pregnancy with more people.

purplefan1 · May 2019

@rogro118 I went to MFM through my last pregnancy for GD. Their ultrasounds are much more detailed and thorough and they take a lot of time to talk about any complications. I think one of my USs was almost an hour of looking at every single aspect of baby including heart chambers, brain areas, stomach roundness, etc. I think I had two appointments with MFM and then had to send them my numbers weekly for the GD but otherwise that was it for me. I likely will end up back there for AMA and the likelihood that I will be GD again. I loved the in depth sonos!

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@purplefan1 The bleeding and cramping would have freaked me out too. I had 2 small SCH this pregnancy and at my last US they had healed. I'm hoping there is still no sign of any when I go back on the 29th. I'm also counting down to 14 weeks. That will be a big week for me and I will be so glad to get past that week. Plus at that point we move into 2nd trimester and that is the best part of pregnancy. 😁

rogro118 · May 2019

@purplefan1 thanks! That’s something to look forward to then, I’ve only had fuzzy, in-office ultrasounds so far.

purplefan1 · May 2019

@emeraldcity1214 I cant wait for 2nd trimester. I know sad and terrible things can still happen after 1st trimester but I just keep clinging to desire to want to just get passed the "scary part" and get more energy and less pukey. I check the reassurance calculator often and do feel reassurance to see the odds of loss decreasing.

My SIL announced she is also pregnant and is about 2 weeks behind me. I dont think she even has a thought in her mind of the potential for loss and I am both somewhat envious of that lack of awareness and also sad because I know how quickly loss can catch people both aware and unaware. I wish for the best for both of us but will be absolutely heart broken if either of us suffer a loss while the other welcomes a healthy baby.

Glad your SCHs healed! Hopeful mine is nonproblematic. I havent had any bleeding since 6+5 so I think thats good.

Also, I really am hoping to not have an anterior placenta this time. I really struggled to feel movements with my first one and I hope if I dont have an anterior placenta that I will be able to better feel movement which will be reassuring once that time comes (I CANT WAIT FOR THAT TIME TO COME!)

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@purplefan1 I have seen that calculator. When I had my MC it was only a 1% chance. So it blows my mind that I fell in that 1%. So now, it doesn't give me much reassurance. My doppler gives me the most reassurance at this point.

purplefan1 · May 2019

I know. Last pregnancy at 10 weeks my doc told me about being less than 5% chance and I told him then I didnt want any more statistics since I had been less than 5% chance before and lost it. I agreed, statistics dont give me a lot of hope because of my history.

I havent gotten a doppler. I thought about it last pregnancy but was worried it would stress me out if I couldnt find the heart beat. Which one did you buy?

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@purplefan1 I bought this one. At this point you should be able to hear it. I picked up my baby's HB right at 8 weeks. That is pretty early but knowing it was early helped me not to freak out when I couldn't find it. Now, I know exactly where the little guy hangs out and I can put the doppler down and find it almost immediately. The other day I had to work for it but he was lower in my uterus and behind my pubic bone.

One of the US techs asked me if I felt better after seeing the HB at one of my scans. I said yes and no. My last baby's HB stopped a few days after my last good scan. Her HB was 160 and perfect. My doppler just allows me to hear his HB when I start to feel anxious.

ETA: https://www.babydoppler.com/sonoline-b-fetal-doppler.html?gclid=Cj0KCQjwtr_mBRDeARIsALfBZA4WlJV0a6gl7CmIBjwMqqROhV_RqmzxwHcm8TMLl-MeHE1fNB7Y9GwaAjyFEALw_wcB

sss1013 · May 2019

1. How many weeks are you? 14+3 , hello 2nd tri

2. Previous loss(es)? 21weeks due to pprom

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? physically feeling better, emotionally feeling more anxious the further along I get

4. Any appointment updates? I had my cerclage place a week and a half ago, and I just got off the phone withe the nurse service that'll be giving me my progesterone shots starting at 16 weeks, I'm glad we're doing everything we can

rogro118 · May 2019

Anyone else having a hard time today? My first loss was on Mother’s Day weekend last year. I have every reason to be happy this year but these sad feelings keep popping up, despite the nice day we’ve been having. I thought I’d be able to be happy today and I know I don’t have to, but I want to! I really didn’t think it would be this hard on me since we’re pregnant again and everything is going so well. Send me some happy vibes! I hope everyone is having a happy Mother’s Day!

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@rogro118 I had to walk out of church this morning. I just couldn't sit there anymore. I ugly cried when I got home. This day has been so hard.

purplefan1 · May 2019

@rogro118 and @emeraldcity1214 much love to both of you. I know all of the first holidays post loss were excruciating. Easter and Mothers Day were the first after my loss and were so hard to get through. Even with a new one on the way I always find myself more cautious then optimistic.

rogro118 · May 2019

@emeraldcity1214 @purplefan1 ❤️❤️

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

My due date is coming up too and I can already feel the emotions building up.

purplefan1 · May 2019

Give yourself lots of grace to feel any feeling you want/need to. A lot of people wouldnt understand mourning a loss when you are currently pregnant but that is because they havent had to be in this situation. This new baby is a blessing but doesnt diminish the loss of your other baby.

rogro118 · May 2019

I just took my last progesterone suppository and holy moly I’m pumped! My husband definitely doesn’t understand my excitement!

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@rogro118 I forgot to ask how long I need to take mine at my last appointment. Mine were prescribed to help speed up the time it took my SCH to heal. I may just take them through the second trimester and stop when I get to 24 weeks or something. 🤷‍♀️ I don't want to take them too far into the 3rd trimester because I usually start dilating early and I don't want to slow or stop that process.

rogro118 · May 2019

@emeraldcity1214 I just did the typical IVF protocol for them since I was taking them as a precaution. I’d say that’s a safe bet though! One of my friends is on PIO shots starting at 20 weeks to avoid preterm labor since she had it with her first, so I think it can have a slowing effect later in pregnancy.

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@rogro118 I actually had preterm labor with my first pregnancy. Never had any issues with any of my others. Well, except the last one but that was different. This is my first time ever taking progesterone. I will be glad when it's done because it is messy.

d-ecker98 · May 2019

I'm hoping this is an ok place to post this. I had a loss in October. I'm currently 13w pregnant today. My husband and I had sex earlier and I've been bleeding since. We've had sex plenty of other times and this has never happened. Other times throughout my pregnancy I've had some spotting, but this is way more than spotting. I called the on call at my doctors office and she said bleeding for 24-48 hours is normal, as long as it's not filling a pad each hour. I don't think it's that bad, but I am totally freaking out.

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@d-ecker98 I'm so sorry you're experiencing bleeding. That can be very nerve wracking. I would just take it really easy this weekend and see how it goes. Hopefully it stops. Have you had an US recently? I know lots of times bleeding can be caused by a SCH. They can come and go (from what my doctor has told me).

purplefan1 · May 2019

@d-ecker98 Im so sorry for the bleeding. That can cause so much stress. And it seems easy for the doctor to seem nonchalant as you spend all of your time wiping, checking, worrying.

It could be a variety of different causes like from an SCH like @emeraldcity1214 mentioned to your cervix being more easily irritated. There is a LOT more blood flow to our neither regions right now so from what my doc told me and my experience that bleeding can happen from sex, a transvaginal ultrasound, the pap they do in 1st tri, or just whatever. Fingers crossed the bleeding subsides. I know the experience of loss and no answers at this time will make it hard for you to enjoy anything this weekend. Rest a lot, drink lots of water, and breathe.

For what it is worth, my friend who did IVF had a lot of bleeding her 1st tri and her RE told her to drink a small glass of wine each time it happened. Im not sure the theory behind this and whether or not it is medically based or psychologically based but she did say it helped her relax every time and the bleeding would stop.

Also, if you are in the States you can go to the ED for bleeding. They will do an ultrasound. It isnt always the best US but if it would give you any peace of mind to make it through the weekend it might be worth it. I know it depends on your location to an ED and financial constraints but it is a potential option.

Hoping to hear an update from you in the next couple of days and that you will learn everything is perfectly fine!!

pintobean77 · May 2019

@d-ecker98 The other ladies have given great advice. I just wanted to say that I’m hoping for the best for you. Bleeding in pregnancy is so scary no matter the reason. Please update us when you have news.

rogro118 · May 2019

@d-ecker98 I would keep in contact with your ob, don’t feel like you’re bugging them or the on call nurse. If you see any clots, I’d personally go to the ER (if your ob isn’t open) to have everything checked out just as @purplefan1 mentioned. I’ve had spotting three times this pregnancy, and despite being told “it can be normal,” I (and many others here) know how nerve wracking it can be! Hang in there, try to relax, and stay laying down to see if it will subside.

purplefan1 · May 2019

@d-ecker98 you have been on my mind! Hoping everything is ok.

My anxiety is up higher than I think it has been so far. I dont know where the increase is coming from. I thought the further I got in the pregnancy the better I would feel. Im just so terrified at any point this is going to change and Im going to get bad news.

rogro118 · May 2019

@purplefan1 you’re not alone in that feeling. I’ve been having awful nightmares about it. We had our NT ultrasound today so I’m feeling less anxious, but still way more than is typical.

purplefan1 · May 2019

It sucks. Bad. :-(

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@purplefan1 my anxiety has been higher too. Not sure why.

purplefan1 · May 2019

Ive been thinking about you a lot @emeraldcity1214 because I know you are coming up on 15 weeks and know it can be hard when you are closing in on the loss week.

Just praying we all get through this pregnancy healthy, happy, and with healthy happy babies to hold at the end.

emeraldcity1214 · May 2019

@purplefan1 I actually lost her at week 14 which I hit yesterday and found out at week 15. My due date is coming up too (June 3rd). So the next few weeks are going to be kinda hard and emotional. That's probably why my anxiety is up.

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