Confession: i wanted to straighten up the house before the weekend, and I made a to-do list separated out by what I'll do and what my H will do. I gave us each the same number of tasks so that it looks even on the list, but my tasks are all easy individual 5 minute things like wipe kitchen counters or dust the furniture in a single room, whereas H's tasks were vague things like "clean the master bathroom" (which encompasses toilet cleaning, shower scrubbing, mopping the floor, wiping down mirrors and counters, etc). I think I'm officially abusing the pregnancy card.
I’ve been saving a confession for today: lately, when a friend announces her pregnancy (there have been a few!), I scan the intros on that BMB to see if she’s on here.
As silly as it sounds, when I think of a name, I try it with Grandma or Grandpa in front.
We called our grandparents Grandma/Grandpa [Last Name], but I know plenty of people who used a first name instead. I never really understood the whole nickname for a grandparent (not against it at all, just unusual to me as I didn't grow up with it).
So basically I'm aging our baby to an elderly age before he/she is even born. That's healthy, right? 😄
@meagan-t Actually I think that makes sense! I think a lot of people think about “is this name weird for a baby?” and then maybe give a cutesy name without really thinking about the fact that he or she will be an adult for much longer than they’ll be a baby.
Confession: I'm tired of feeling fat. I don't look pregnant yet, just fat. It's annoying me because I can't really get away with the whole "I'm pregnant" look, but none of my normal clothes fit me (I'm in my fat girl pants and close to grabbing my husband's shirts, which are a size larger than my regular size). I've even taken to wearing my husband's jacket when I'm out most days because I feel so self-conscious (but also, mine won't zip over my hips anymore and it's that weird time of year that can still be chilly). 😔
I hate feeling this way, and I know I'm pregnant, but it is still tough to see myself in the mirror every day. Tell me I'm not alone, or that you STM+ have been here...
I hate feeling this way, and I know I'm pregnant, but it is still tough to see myself in the mirror every day. Tell me I'm not alone, or that you STM+ have been here...
I'm right there with you I had lost around 20 pounds before the holidays and was already told it looks like I gained it all back rather than looking pregnant.
Hugs, @meagan-t. When I start feeling similarly, I think of this scene in the movie What to Expect When You're Expecting (if you haven't seen it yet, watch it!!) and I remind myself that she eventually finds her "glow" when the baby is born ❤❤
Confession time: I get overwhelmed by the amount of posts and information in the All Due Date Check In, so I don't even open it because if I do and don't respond enough, then I know that I'll feel guilty. I know that it's dumb!
@marbellie This is just my opinion but I don't feel that should have to respond to everyone, or feel you have to. If you have something to say regarding something said then yes tag. It saddens me when people don't participate because they feel the have the check-list of things they have to do.
@marbellie I usually only respond if I have something to say. I don't feel even 1 bit guilty. If your responses are 1 liners and your not really participating other then to AW, then I'm moving on 🤷♀️
@marbellie, I agree with @kindbytealikat. I try to respond to others to get to know people and also to try to encourage interaction, but I certainly dont think it's necessary to reply to everyone or even most.
That being said, I do side-eye the people who only ever post about themselves and don't seem bothered to reply to even a single other person. Makes me wonder if they even read other people's posts... 🙄
@marbellie This is just my opinion but I don't feel that should have to respond to everyone, or feel you have to. If you have something to say regarding something said then yes tag. It saddens me when people don't participate because they feel the have the check-list of things they have to do.
@emily1052 I'm with you. I eat soft cheeses all the time. We're in the US, almost nothing is unpasteurized. You're just as likely to get listeria from random fruit as you are from deli meat... you can't avoid everything!! I also recommend reading Expecting Better by Emily Oster... really helped me put these do's and don'ts in perspective.
@obsessedwithoranges and @emily1052 I’m in the same boat with soft cheeses. If I know a cheese is unpasteurized I won’t eat it (I’m looking at you, delicious selection at Whole Foods). But if it’s at a restaurant or something where I don’t know for sure? I figure most cheese is pasteurized here and if I wouldn’t worry about eating at the restaurant while not pregnant, then I don’t worry about it now. Side note: I keep confessing and rationalizing my soft cheese eating to my husband and he’s like “you don’t have to keep justifying it to me! It’s really ok!” I’m glad we see eye to eye.
Yesssss. I eat it at home, I eat it out. I order Jimmy John's an embarrassing amount. I have absolutely zero qualms. If I liked sushi I would eat that too. I think all the restrictions some people follow are insane! Eat food from reputable sources, you're just as likely to contract food borne illnesses when you're not pregnant as when you are, and I've never gotten any my whole life so I feel pretty safe. Especially considering most "outbreaks" of listeria, etc are from lettuce or something. I'm keeping my cold cuts, thanks.
This might be a confession based on all the lunch meat talk, but I let fear of other people's judgement impact whether I eat it or not. We had turkey bacon club sandwiches served at a work lunch a few weeks back, and I didn't eat the turkey. Not because I was worried about listeria, but because I was worried my coworkers would judge me. 🙈
This might be a confession based on all the lunch meat talk, but I let fear of other people's judgement impact whether I eat it or not. We had turkey bacon club sandwiches served at a work lunch a few weeks back, and I didn't eat the turkey. Not because I was worried about listeria, but because I was worried my coworkers would judge me. 🙈
LOL I am totally right there with you. At my work event earlier this week they only had sandwiches and salad. I ate the salad because I didn't want any judgement. But now that I'm home, I just had Jimmy John's for lunch today - and it was effing delicious!
@galentine doesn’t it feel like everyone’s SO judgy of pregnant ladies?? Like no matter what, we’re gonna get judged. Eat what you want, haters gonna hate
@obsessedwithoranges, YES! So judgy. I have cut out almost all caffeine, but decided to have a can of pop the other day when I was dangerous sleepy and needed a caffeine boost to make it through the afternoon. My male coworker made such a huge deal about it and went on and on about how his wife went cold-turkey with no caffeine both times she was pregnant. I didnt know how to respond. Like, okay.......? Good for her?
My confession is that I will have a glass of wine on Mother’s Day if I feel like it. I am unsure how we feel about that here, but I feel like I would get more alcohol from leaving a glass of orange juice out so I’m good with it.
@galentine Ugh dudes commenting is THE WORST. I got a similar comment from a male colleague when I had a cup of coffee during our leadership offsite. I didn't say a word in response, just stared at him while taking a huge sip, letting the awkwardness linger. He didn't say anything else. LOL
My confession is that I will have a glass of wine on Mother’s Day if I feel like it. I am unsure how we feel about that here, but I feel like I would get more alcohol from leaving a glass of orange juice out so I’m good with it.
Only reason I won’t be doing this is I had 4 oz glass a few weeks ago and got massive heartburn the following day 😪
im totally okay (and so is my MFM) with a weekly 4oz glass of wine
My confession is that I will have a glass of wine on Mother’s Day if I feel like it. I am unsure how we feel about that here, but I feel like I would get more alcohol from leaving a glass of orange juice out so I’m good with it.
At my friend’s wedding last weekend I had decided I would have a little champagne during her toasts - not a lot, but a few sips to toast a dear friend. But rather than having champagne already at the tables or passed around right before the toasts, they had an open bar where you could order a champagne if you wanted one. I felt too self-conscious ordering one after asking for mocktails all evening so I just got a ginger ale. 🙁
My confession is that I will have a glass of wine on Mother’s Day if I feel like it. I am unsure how we feel about that here, but I feel like I would get more alcohol from leaving a glass of orange juice out so I’m good with it.
No judgement here. My doctor has no issues with a small glass of wine now and again but recommends it doesn’t exceed 140 ml.
@galentine@jenferlee82 I’m sorry you’re feeling lunch meat shamed 😢 I actually told a coworker that commented a while ago to mind her own business.... I said it while smiling as to not seem so bitchy.
Confession time: I get overwhelmed by the amount of posts and information in the All Due Date Check In, so I don't even open it because if I do and don't respond enough, then I know that I'll feel guilty. I know that it's dumb!
I do not care for the all due date check-in. It's overwhelming and hard (for me) to navigate. I'm happy that I have the TTGP check-in because I haven't participated in the huge one in over a month.
Ladies, eat your lunch meat! Drink your 4 oz of wine! Make a to-do list and then immediately abandon it! We are the masters of our own lives, dammit!
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
I eat lunch meat almost daily. No one at home or work says 2 words to me (I'm preg and bitchy about food and they aaaallll know that. Seriously, they even know to save me a jelly donut 🤣). As for wine, we live a sober life but I have zero judgement you have a little here and there.
Confession time: I get overwhelmed by the amount of posts and information in the All Due Date Check In, so I don't even open it because if I do and don't respond enough, then I know that I'll feel guilty. I know that it's dumb!
I do not care for the all due date check-in. It's overwhelming and hard (for me) to navigate. I'm happy that I have the TTGP check-in because I haven't participated in the huge one in over a month.
Ladies, eat your lunch meat! Drink your 4 oz of wine! Make a to-do list and then immediately abandon it! We are the masters of our own lives, dammit!
I’m more or less over check ins in general. 🤷🏼♀️ Those of us that are in the randoms, this thread, etc, have started to get to know each other better than a check in would ever bring, IMO
is this where I also admit that I’m secretly hoping we move to a private group soon?
Here is my confession: I’m likely someone who is side eyed for not commenting on others posts enough - but I don’t find the bump all that user friendly. It’s slow to scroll between pages, always bumps me out, and I tried tagging someone a few days ago and couldn’t find their screen name; and when I did it didn’t work with the @. So maybe my complaint is that my phone sucks or I do at technology 🤗 but I do enjoy reading about what everyone has to say. Even if I don’t comment on everyone’s thoughts. It’s nice having people to go through this experience with on the BMB. If people comment, sweet! If not, cool. I do not pass judgement on that at all and think it’s lame when people do.
As for wine, I will drink a glass of wine here and there; always with food. Lunch meat I’ve been eating (excerpt for turkey because I read that’s the one to avoid) and I’ve heard sushi is Ok now but I asked my midwife and said to skip it til after delivery. I really want to get back on the sushi train though!!
@jane101757 You are not alone in finding the Bump app super non-user friendly. I also struggle with it, find the auto correct particularly terrible and am rarely on my laptop.
I am am curious why turkey is the lunch meat to avoid? It’s probably the one I would choose to eat first and feel like I must go google this now.
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You reminded me of one of my favorite Mother's Day memes 😂
We called our grandparents Grandma/Grandpa [Last Name], but I know plenty of people who used a first name instead. I never really understood the whole nickname for a grandparent (not against it at all, just unusual to me as I didn't grow up with it).
So basically I'm aging our baby to an elderly age before he/she is even born. That's healthy, right? 😄
I hate feeling this way, and I know I'm pregnant, but it is still tough to see myself in the mirror every day. Tell me I'm not alone, or that you STM+ have been here...
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MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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That being said, I do side-eye the people who only ever post about themselves and don't seem bothered to reply to even a single other person. Makes me wonder if they even read other people's posts... 🙄
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#3 3/2017
#4 10/2019
im totally okay (and so is my MFM) with a weekly 4oz glass of wine
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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is this where I also admit that I’m secretly hoping we move to a private group soon?
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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As for wine, I will drink a glass of wine here and there; always with food. Lunch meat I’ve been eating (excerpt for turkey because I read that’s the one to avoid) and I’ve heard sushi is Ok now but I asked my midwife and said to skip it til after delivery. I really want to get back on the sushi train though!!
I am am curious why turkey is the lunch meat to avoid? It’s probably the one I would choose to eat first and feel like I must go google this now.