I am sorry I have been out of the loop and not commenting as much or offering as much support. It was a crazy few weeks. Since DS2 started daycare today I am back in the office and was so stressed about work, I whipped through my to-do list in two hours and now I am caught up except for one project. I need to have it done by 2:30 but I am trying to relax a bit during lunch.
I have called my son's daycare three times this morning. I am a lunatic. He cried the saddest, saddest cry I have ever seen but they said he is doing great! So fingers crossed. I really hope he grows to love it. I toured so many centers and I put our deposit down for all three kids before I left. I knew right away. Now let's hope it was intuition and not exhaustion, lol. My husband came with me today and really liked it too. He is at home today and already drove to the daycare to spy on the baby. We are such crazy people, haha! To be fair, we forgot the pull ups so he was dropping those off.
Also, I am living for Taylor Swift's new song. This may be a UO here but I am a total fangirl. I love her.
@lilmamabebe3 Leaving kids at a new daycare especially when they are crying is absolutely one of the hardest things a mother has to do. I'm glad that he's doing well, and that you were happy with the place when you toured. If I remember correctly, you used to have a nanny, so if this is your first daycare experience here is a warning, if you've been through it before you can ignore me. When DS#1 started his daycare (he was 18mo) he cried and struggled when we dropped him off for a few weeks. The teacher said that after the first few days, he would stop crying and run right to his favorite toy the second the door closed behind us, the crying was just a show. Also, the first day that he ran in to his toy without crying was almost harder. I got in my car and cried because it felt like he didn't need/want me anymore (which is completely ridiculous, and I even knew it at the time.) Motherhood is such an emotional roller coaster.
@mrosek91 we have been in daycare before! Our first was in daycare the entire time, all through K. And DS2 until he was 18 months. We got a nanny because the daycare fed him dairy, which he is allergic to. And I won't ignore--it's a good reminder! I will admit I spent the last year with the nanny wondering if we made the right choice for a lot of reasons. And she was great with my youngest, but she was not a great employee and she wasn't awesome with my oldest. So I do feel like we finally made the right decision and I am just holding out hope that he will adjust well!
@lilmamabebe3 Awww! I remember the first days of daycare and all the emotions! I can’t imagine going through that pregnant!! Glad you’re back at work though 😊
@lilmamabebe3 I’m a big T. Swift fan, but I’m just not into “Me.” It already gets on my nerves, so I’m looking forward to the rest of the album coming out (in July??). I started a Labor & Delivery Spotify playlist, and several Taylor jams appear on it!
@lilmamabebe2 DD, who is about 21 months now, sometimes cries and reaches out for me when I drop her off at daycare. DCP says that as soon as I'm gone and DD notices the other kids, she's completely fine. It doesn't make it any easier to hear her little cry as I walk away though.
@heml Oh yeah, a playlist! Another thing to make sure I put on my to-do list.
ETA: Also just looked at the reddit link. What in the actual....
Me: 31 DH:35 Started TTC in June 2014 Started seeing RE in June 2015 HSG in July 2015 = normal, started Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI cycle in August 2015 Cycle #3 in October afforded 1st month of mature follicles - underwent IUI BFP on 10/27/15 - EDD 7/8/16 DD#1 born on 7/1/16
TTC #2 in September 2018 BFP on 12/2/18 - EDD 8/16/19
Team Green!
WT actual F. That’s the kind of image that will give preggo women nightmares.
Anyone care to share their must haves for L&D playlists?
I’ve started on mine....
John Mayer’s New Light and Your Body is a Wonderland are at the top for me!
DH and I are working on signing up for life insurance. The thought of it makes me sad and I kept getting choked up (hormones I'm sure). I would be devastated if something happen to him.
Just had our meeting with the lawyer to set up our trust. DH hates talking about that stuff and called me morbid 3 times in the hour we were there. But come on...it's gotta be discussed! Overall it was a success.
@agpandme my accountant suggested we create a will and I cried all night. MH was beside himself ‘it’s just in case something happens..’ and pregnant me ‘but my babies...’ lol pregnancy is fun.
We are driving to Chicago on Sunday and I'm trying to get packed before the end of the week. Packing last minute stresses me out. But mostly H stresses me out because he wants to take things out as I pack them. Then I don't know where anything is and we end up with too many bags
That link is like Russian nesting dolls 😂 huge baby and how are the legs going down the moms legs? Horrifying 😂😂
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
@emqbee i had a whole play list of mellow songs and I ended up putting one song on repeat for my entire labor. In my defense it was a 20 min song and the nursing staff didn't notice until 20+ hours into the song...
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
FYI, this week is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week. I know I'm a day late with my reminder, but it was so encouraging to be part of the social media movement last year. Check out more info here. Even if you choose not to participate, there are great resources to hold onto in case you end up struggling.
On another subject, everyone on my news feed is pregnant right now. There are about 10 women I know who have announced their pregnancies, all due in August, September, or October. Is it something in the water!?!?
@emqbee I’m having way too much fun making a playlist (and laughing at the absurdity). Maybe by L&D I won’t want to hear any of these songs but oh well: I’m Coming Out Push It Under Pressure Brave Shake it Off I wanna be Sedated Love Yourself Pynk Hurts so Good Sweet Child o Mine Crazy in Love Run the World (Girls) Stronger God is a Woman Work it Ring of Fire Girl + Lots more, HA.
DH played the Eye of the Tiger / Final Countdown song a million times with DD1. On the way to get induced, then basically every hour for the next 41 hours until shit hit the fan. I never want to hear that song again!
@mia8263 A friend of mine and I were just talking about that in the worst case scenario. I think my mom would likely move into the home (she lives on the property already) and care for our child. Specific people for my horses to go to that I know would appreciate them. Dogs can stay here and be cared for. Life insurance would pay off our mortgage and leave plenty for the childs life expenses and our dogs. I would just make one demand of my mother. NO INDOOR ONLY CATS OR LITTER BOXES in my house She has 5 cats and keeps them all inside. So gross. I dont' want that to happen to my beautifully remodeled home LOL
I maybe an outlier here, but I prefer silence to music. I think my husband had a soothing music playlist on his phone because our doula recommended he prep one "in case I changed my mind" but I never requested it. In the beginning I read in between contractions (both my boys most of the labor was the middle of the night, and I forced DH to go to sleep, that may also be an outlier opinion), and then once things started picking up, I had DH read and respond to all my texts. I am part of a WhatsApp group called randomness and funny thoughts. It's mostly me, my sister and my BF sharing amusing things, it was a very good distraction. My sister and BF were both shocked when I told them I had my baby because I had been texting all morning.
@mrosek91 We didn't have any music or anything on either. It's so weird though because when I think back I don't picture silence or anything. There was just so much going on through the process in general, it was nice to have a super peaceful environment.
@heml I just giggled at some of your selections! That’s great!
I may not actually listen to music when the time comes but I want the option. And I may even...judge me not... use the occasion to upgrade my mobile Bluetooth speaker just in case I feel no shame! My husband and I are the types that always have music playing at home and I feel like that will just add to the homey setting of the birth center.
Also reg life insurance. I have it but husband doesn’t yet...and I’m not gonna lie. I’ve been procrastinating on thinking about it. And every time the subject comes up, I want to discuss who we’d leave Baby Bee with...I can’t think about it so.... I’m adding it to the calendar to have completed by a certain time.
@emqbee Our Bose Bluetooth speaker is on my hospital packing list.
@agpandme I love dancing and music gets me hype and distracts me, so I’m preparing to have a lot ready for the thousand hours I assume I’ll be waiting for baby to come (and hopefully walking around, sitting on yoga ball, getting a lower back massage, etc). But, I’m also fine with deciding I want complete silence and keeping my playlist and speaker in my bag.
Pregnancy brain has struck again. I made coffee cake today, and completely left the sugar out of the main batter. It has a huge amount of brown sugar topping so it did turn out edible, but the cakey parts are kind of odd with no sugar. WTF brain?
As far as labor playlists, I had a very long and detailed one with my first, and we listened to it for a few hours but not constantly.
Ooh question. Has anyone found super comfy summery dresses? Everything I have so far are babydoll type maternity shirts and I’m finding that they are leading me to feel kind of depressed about the body expansion.... I found a dress at Motherhood that I think I’m going to order but wanted to see if anyone had found a go to they care to share? I’m hoping for something fitted-ish to make me feel like I still have a figure and short-but not too short for work.
If anyone doesnt at least have a will, please get that done before the baby arrives. No one likes to think about that stuff, but it is so important. You dont want the child to have to deal with fighting from sets of grandparents/siblings/godparents about who gets the kid, plus all the expense of that. Have a plan. Write it down. Notarize it. It doesnt have to be fancy and you dont *need* a trust, but you do need something.
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
Re: Weekly Randoms (April 29)
I have called my son's daycare three times this morning. I am a lunatic. He cried the saddest, saddest cry I have ever seen but they said he is doing great! So fingers crossed. I really hope he grows to love it. I toured so many centers and I put our deposit down for all three kids before I left. I knew right away. Now let's hope it was intuition and not exhaustion, lol. My husband came with me today and really liked it too. He is at home today and already drove to the daycare to spy on the baby. We are such crazy people, haha! To be fair, we forgot the pull ups so he was dropping those off.
Also, I am living for Taylor Swift's new song. This may be a UO here but I am a total fangirl. I love her.
Me 32
H 33
TTC#1 January 2016 BFP 5/16/2016 DD Born 1/27/17
TFAS: BFP 11/26/2018 Estimated due date: 8/2/2019
If I remember correctly, you used to have a nanny, so if this is your first daycare experience here is a warning, if you've been through it before you can ignore me. When DS#1 started his daycare (he was 18mo) he cried and struggled when we dropped him off for a few weeks. The teacher said that after the first few days, he would stop crying and run right to his favorite toy the second the door closed behind us, the crying was just a show. Also, the first day that he ran in to his toy without crying was almost harder. I got in my car and cried because it felt like he didn't need/want me anymore (which is completely ridiculous, and I even knew it at the time.) Motherhood is such an emotional roller coaster.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
ETA: Also just looked at the reddit link. What in the actual....
Started TTC in June 2014
Started seeing RE in June 2015
HSG in July 2015 = normal, started Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI cycle in August 2015
Cycle #3 in October afforded 1st month of mature follicles - underwent IUI
BFP on 10/27/15 - EDD 7/8/16
DD#1 born on 7/1/16
TTC #2 in September 2018
BFP on 12/2/18 - EDD 8/16/19
Team Green!
DH and I are working on signing up for life insurance. The thought of it makes me sad and I kept getting choked up (hormones I'm sure). I would be devastated if something happen to him.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
On another subject, everyone on my news feed is pregnant right now. There are about 10 women I know who have announced their pregnancies, all due in August, September, or October. Is it something in the water!?!?
I guess timing? End of November/December conception.
I feel so drained today and energy-less.
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
I’m Coming Out
Push It
Under Pressure
Brave
Shake it Off
I wanna be Sedated
Love Yourself
Pynk
Hurts so Good
Sweet Child o Mine
Crazy in Love
Run the World (Girls)
Stronger
God is a Woman
Work it
Ring of Fire
Girl
+ Lots more, HA.
I may not actually listen to music when the time comes but I want the option. And I may even...judge me not... use the occasion to upgrade my mobile Bluetooth speaker just in case
Also reg life insurance. I have it but husband doesn’t yet...and I’m not gonna lie. I’ve been procrastinating on thinking about it. And every time the subject comes up, I want to discuss who we’d leave Baby Bee with...I can’t think about it so.... I’m adding it to the calendar to have completed by a certain time.
@agpandme I love dancing and music gets me hype and distracts me, so I’m preparing to have a lot ready for the thousand hours I assume I’ll be waiting for baby to come (and hopefully walking around, sitting on yoga ball, getting a lower back massage, etc). But, I’m also fine with deciding I want complete silence and keeping my playlist and speaker in my bag.
As far as labor playlists, I had a very long and detailed one with my first, and we listened to it for a few hours but not constantly.
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019