WTO Tuesday 3/19

emeraldduchess · March 2019

**This is a thread that welcomes all regardless of where they are at in their TTC journeys. Please be mindful of topics that are discussed that could be hurtful to those going through tough times. Mention of children or pregnancies of others should have a TW (trigger warning) and be in a spoiler if possible, and only be mentioned if it is extremely pertinent to the conversation. Thanks for keeping this a safe place for us all to engage!**

Month/Cycle:

CD:

WAYDTGKU:

R/R:

CS/Q:

NYTino24 · March 2019

Month/Cycle: 4/4

CD: 11

WAYDTGKU: BBT, CM, OPK, Maca, PNV, Vitex, B complex, B6, D, magnesium, selenium, Omega3, baby aspirin

R/R: I have only temped twice this cycle and although it isn’t helping the anxiety not to, it’s also not causing it or making it worse. I have to get back to it. Ugh... on an upside, it only took me 45 minutes to get home yesterday and I felt so free! We also got new neighbors this weekend and it has been quiet... so that’s a plus!

CS/Q: nothing to look at

holly321 · March 2019

Month/Cycle: 26/4 A/L

CD: 2

WAYDTGKU: hio, opks and temping

R/R: feeling pretty numb and hopeless at this point. But my moods change quickly, so there’s that. I bought a garland with eggs on it and it is supposed to say happy Easter and it says happy Paster, and it is still hanging in my house.

CS/Q:

mrsvp614 · March 2019

Month/Cycle: 3/3

CD: 4

WAYDTGKU: HIO, temping

R/R: Rant: Still waiting on restoration work to have a functioning kitchen and I am so over eating out all the time.
Rave: I took the day off yesterday, and it was so nice to sleep normally for an extra day.

CS/Q: Nothing to see yet.

inthewoods23 · March 2019

@NYTino24 that reminds me that I need to put my thermometer back on my nightstand so I can start temping again. Glad things are quiet for you!

@holly321 sorry you're feeling down right now

@MrsVP614 that sucks that the restoration work hasn't happened yet, but the day off sounds like it was very beneficial for you!

Month/Cycle: 21/20

CD: 7

WAYDTGKU: IVF consultation, PNV

R/R: I have definitely come down with a cold. Lots of sneezing yesterday and today my sinuses feel worse. We're down a person who is traveling this week but if I'm really not feeling up for it I may stay home tomorrow... But we'll see.

CS/Q: haven't gotten into the swing of temping again. Whoops.

mrsvp614 · March 2019

@inthewoods23 Feel better soon!

ruby696 · March 2019

@inthewoods23 Ugh, I'm sorry you're sick. I vote stay home if you can. Being sick is so much better when you're at home in yoga pants.

@MrsVP614 Not having a functional kitchen is the reason I've put off updating ours. I hope you're close to being done and I bet your new kitchen will be beautiful.

@holly321 Same feelings here. I hope you have an upswing soon. Optimism is much more pleasant.

@NYTino24 I hope your new neighbors stay quiet!

Month/Cycle: 18/10ish

CD: 8

WAYDTGKU: Too many things. Ava, FF, CM OPK's, Clomid, Maca. Ubiquinol, 4mg FA, B6 and B12.

R/R: I'm having lunch with a former colleague and a current colleague today and I'm so excited to have some time with them both. Also, I leave early, so my day will feel super short.

CS/Q: Nothing to see here.

marebear15 · March 2019

@NYTino24 - Quiet neighbors are very very nice. Have you met them yet?

@holly321 - What a typo on that Easter garland!

@MrsVP614 - I love being able to cook and bake in my own kitchen. I can't imagine having to eat out for every meal. Have they given you a deadline to be done by?

@inthewoods23 - Feel better!

Month/Cycle: 11/11 (3 AL)

CD: 4

WAYDTGKU: BBT, CM, PNV, baby aspirin, B6, B-complex, no caffeine or alcohol, HIO (SMEP?)

R/R: Just got a nice stack of work on my desk! It's been slow since Christmas, so I hope this is the start of our busy time. I need something to take my mind off TTC. It's consuming my life.
Edit to add rant:
I was talking with my husband's cousin at church yesterday, *TW* whom I know had to use Clomid for 2 out of her 3 kids *End TW*, and we got on the topic of fertility which I've been very open about. I told her that we were approaching 12 months, and that I didn't know what our next steps were going to be. She said, "Your OB can just give you a pill." And I answer that my problem isn't that I'm not ovulating, but probably because my luteal phase is too short. She gives me a blank stare. So I explain how I track and do temping and my LP has been short over the last 10 cycles. She responds, "Oh you're one of those crazy ladies on the mom forums." Ouch. Sorry for wanting to bond over something I thought we might have in common. I never thought I'd be called crazy for understanding my own body.

CS/Q: Not yet, will probably start temping around CD10. Minimal effort.

ruby696 · March 2019

@marebear15 If understanding basic biology and the way your body works means you're crazy, then okay. I'll take crazy over ignorance, thank you. Sorry, but I get a little salty over those kinds of statements. You're not crazy, you're informed.

inthewoods23 · March 2019

@ruby696 can't go wrong with leaving early!

@marebear15 damn that cousin! I can't believe they would say something like that. It's amazing how many people can't see past their own situations. Ugh, I'm mad for you!

b_1029 · March 2019

@NYTino24 I'm sorry your anxiety isn't getting any better (but yay for it not getting worse!). "Only" 45 min?! How long does it usually take you?

@holly321 I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. Sending you extra hugs today. And wow to that typo...you had ONE JOB

@MrsVP614 what are you doing to your kitchen? We like home improvement pics around here

@inthewoods23 ugh I feel you on the cold. Sorry to hear you're sick too. You should definitely stay home if you're not feeling any better!

@ruby696 have fun with your colleagues! And a short day = awesome!

@marebear15 wow a big WTF to YH's cousin. How'd she even know she needed Clomid if she wasn't tracking her cycles? Excuse you for being informed on your body and wanting to bond with others doing the same thing. *eye roll* also, I understand TTC consuming your life. I wish I could tell you how to make it stop, but so far nothing has really worked for me in the last 9 or so months- not for more than an hour or two, anyway.

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marebear15 · March 2019

@ruby696 - Lunch with friends and an early day! Sounds like an amazing Tuesday.
And right! I love being informed about my body. At one time I did think it was a bit much to be temping and checking CP and all, but it was more like I was in awe of those who did it and thought that was way to much work.

@b_1029 - Apparently this cousin was peeing on OPKs and could never get a positive. So her OB prescribed her Clomid and voila! So now she thinks that's all infertility is.

ruby696 · March 2019

@marebear15 Seriously, it's like all of a sudden what your body does makes sense and means something. Why wouldn't you want to know?? I even share it with MH so he's in the know. He knows more about womens' bodies and fertility that he ever cared to know. 😂

littleredm · March 2019

@NYTino24 I feel you on the temping. I'm not great at it and I don't like doing it but I need to get back on it because it really does show best when O is. Hope that your new neighbors are polite and stay on the quiet side.

@holly321 Sending you hugs. Sorry for CD 2

@MrsVP614 I hope you get your kitchen back soon. Glad that you enjoyed your day off. Sometimes it's nice just to have a day to relax and practice some self care.

@inthewoods23 I hope that you feel better soon! Colds suck

When is your consultation?

@ruby696 Woohoo for an early day! Have fun at lunch!

@marebear15 Screw that cousin! Wow what a rude thing to say. I think it's weird that people seem to think being informed of how your body works is "crazy." I hope that work keeps you busy. It's always nice to have distractions from the never ending ttc thought/worries/etc.

***From Yesterday**

@misshelen86 Candytopia is a pop up art exhibit with art made from candy. They also had some interactive stuff too that allows you to take cute and stylized photos. It was pretty fun but a little underwhelming considering the price. Great for kids though!

Month/Cycle: 15/15

CD: 4

WAYDTGKU: IUI #2, Letrozole, bbt, pnv, etc.

R/R: I'm so tired today. I just got back from my baseline appointment for the IUI so just waiting on bloodwork to get the go ahead to move forward. I talked with the doctor about being more aggressive with this one so the plan is to use the trigger injection instead of relying on opks and then doing back to back IUI's after the injection to try and get the timing just right. Volunteering at the library went awesome. I put on my application that I was doing it because I've been considering getting my masters in library science and wanted to get some experience and see what it was like to work in the library and the manager told me she would have me do a lot more logistical stuff since that's my goal instead of just shelving books all day. Candytopia was fun but maybe not worth the price I paid for it. I did get a lot of cute photos so that was nice.

CS/Q: not yet.

lcking82 · March 2019

@marebear15: ugh - yeah, "crazy," okay. I agree with you, it's amazing to actually understand what's happening. Pfffbbt to her.

@holly321: sorry you're down right now. *hugs*

@ruby696: yay, early day!! And Ialso did a quick info session for my DH, and he was like, Wow. That's pretty cool.

@inthewoods23: ugh, hope you feel better quickly!

@littleredm: glad the library gig sounds fun and career-building!

Month/Cycle: 10/8

CD: 5

WAYDTGKU: Letrozole, BBT (restarting soon), OPKs (eventually), lovin'

R/R: nothing really here. just living.

CS/Q: nothing to see yet.

b_1029 · March 2019

@marebear15 well that's nice for her

must be nice to live in a dreamland.

@littleredm hopefully everything goes well with your IUI this cycle! I'm glad volunteering was great!

Month/Cycle: 17/18

CD: 13

WAYDTGKU: OPKs, EPO, maca, trying to drink more green/RL tea

R/R: I have a lot today. I've been in a funk in a major way and it's raging out of me today, especially because I'm sick. My current rant is that (*TW*) my manager is complaining about "the joys of motherhood" as she does fairly often. It always rubs me the wrong way. I guess it's easy to complain about your kids constantly when you conceived them easily and treat them like they're knats (seriously the way she talks to them while we're in meetings is really annoying). I know it's easy for me to say don't complain, I'm sure I will one day, but she knows what I'm going through and really....just consider your audience. (end *TW*)
trying really hard to think of a rave to counteract all my angry/bitter thoughts today... the sun is shining and it's supposed to be in the 50's here today, so at least there's that!

CS/Q: got an almost +OPK last night (it looked + to me, but FF says there was a difference so who knows) so I assume I'll get a + today.

ruby696 · March 2019

@littleredm Good luck with IUi this cycle!

@b_1029 I'm sorry you have to listen to that. Maybe an "at least you have kids," comment would make a point. Not sure if you have the kind of relationship with your manager where you could say that. Hugs.

inthewoods23 · March 2019

@littleredm good luck with your IUI! My RE never does back to back IUIs. She said it's not necessary when you're using the trigger shot. Glad you had a good time at the library!

@b_1029 our weather is the same today and I'm am so happy about it! I hope the weather gets you out of your funk. Maybe just respond to your manager with a "could you not??" Or a "that's an insensitive thing to say to me" 🤷 it's so hard to be direct though!

b_1029 · March 2019

@ruby696 @inthewoods23 yea, I think with my current mood I probably would've said something like that if it were 1x1 because we do have a pretty solid relationship, but it was in a group chat so I just responded "that's what I hear" (to her message of "nothing like motherhood to make you feel like a failure, right?")

kagesstarshroom · March 2019

@holly321 Your Happy Paster garland 1) is cracking me up and 2) I have this button that has a person who's knitted a sweater with three arms instead of two, and it reminds me of that-- Super sorry you are feeling down, but I hope your garland cheers you up at least a little when you look at it? I feel like I wouldn't be able to look at it without smiling.

@MrsVP614 I hate being forced to eat out all the time! You always think it won't be so bad, but then... it gets old so fast.

@inthewoods23 Noooooo get wellll sooooon!

@marebear15 Oooo I would have gotten all snappy w/ someone being that rude-- The only group I call "crazy" like that are "crazy apocalypse people" who have, like, bunkers in their basement and tons of survival/food supplies (really hoping you are not also one of these survival nerds. If so, I am cancelled. [Maybe I make fun of them bc I secretly envy them?]) Anyway, I agree with @ruby696-- how does KNOWING MORE make one crazy? So aggravating.

@ruby696 LOL at "too many things" & YAY for leaving early.

@littleredm Oooh yay I love your possible library future.

@b_1029 I am always trying to think of a rave equal to my rants haha, so hard! I'm sorry you're having a particularly rough patch--I had a really bad one yesterday. I hope you get that +OPK if it's convenient/makes sense for it to come today!

Month/Cycle: 6/5/2AL

CD: 4

WAYDTGKU: PNV, FF, maca, RRLT, other stuff but not yet bc AF

R/R: T the deadline for an award I want to apply for was announced last week--and it's due this Thursday! So I am having my American lit class observed today (part of the application process), and I wish I'd had more time to prep for that! / My rave is that my dissertation director asked me if I was going to be around in the fall and offered me a really cool course to teach if I'm going to be--so I said yes bc it's very likely I'll still be here in the fall--and I'd really need a job if so. I've been on and off panicking about being jobless come graduation. (I'd be adjuncting, which is--like working super hard for barely any pay, but I'll need to be doing *something*.) Also, AF seems back to "normal," which I am taking as a good sign.

CS/Q: nothing yet to seee.

misshelen86 · March 2019

@NYTino24 Only 45 mins to get home? How long does it usually take? Yay for quiet neighbors!

@holly321 So sorry to hear that you’re feeling so down.

@MrsVP614 Hope your kitchen is functional again soon!

@inthewoods23 Oh no you caught TB cold! Seems like so many have it right now. Hope you are feeling better soon.

@ruby696 Enjoy your lunch and shorter day!

@marebear15 How incredibly rude and insensitive of YH’s cousin. It amazes me how ignorant people are when it comes to fertility/their bodies. Hope you are able to find some ways to cope with the TTC stress.

@littleredm FX this IUI does it! Candytopia sounds like so much fun! That’s great that you are enjoying volunteering at the library and it may help you reach your goals.

@lcking82 Hope you have a lovely day!

@b_1029 Yay for sunshine! Sorry about your manager. People that have never struggled with TTC will just never get how their words may impact people around them. Sorry you have to hear that. It’s frustrating when you’d give anything to have what she’s complaining about.

Month/Cycle: 7/7

CD: 18

WAYDTGKU: Ava, FF, CM, OPK, RLT, SMEPish, fertility yoga

R/R: I have a massage this afternoon! I also have beautiful mint green toes from my pedi yesterday. It’s so nice to be pampered a little. I confided in my best friend yesterday about TTGP. I was really hesitant because she’s in a different place in her life and I wasn’t sure she would get it. She was very supportive and said she’s always here for me if I need to talk. Of course, she told me in the most loving way that maybe I need to relax and it will happen- which we all know isn’t helpful. But her heart was in the right place and I know she was trying to help. I feel a bit better now that I have someone other than DH to talk to.

CS/Q: Not much happening yet..

littleredm · March 2019

@b_1029 I'm sorry you're having an emotional day. I totally get it. I find myself all the time getting annoyed when I see parents snapping at their children out in public for being children. I just want to be like "APPRECIATE YOUR KIDS!!!" I know kids can be annoying sometimes but I feel like when we've gone through so much to have them we will have a special appreciation for them that some people just don't have.

@inthewoods23 dang my doctor didn't mention anything about not doing the timing back to back. I hope it's not a waste of money then to do it that way

@kagesstarshroom I hope that you're able to get everything done on time to meet your deadline! That's awesome about getting to teach a cool course next semester!

@misshelen86 I'm glad that you were able to confide in your friend. Pampering yourself is always nice! I'm going to get my nails done tomorrow! Love the mint green color, such a good one for spring. I'll probably go with a light pink.

inthewoods23 · March 2019

@littleredm I don't mean to worry you! During my 2nd IUI I did temp the entire time and based on my temps it was telling me I O'ed the day between the trigger and IUI day so if you do an IUI the following 2 days after the trigger shot you probably have a better chance of success.

marebear15 · March 2019

@ruby696 - MH knows a lot about my cycle, but he's still a little confused on certain things because the cycle I decided to tell him all about it was the one that ended up being 45 days with 3 LH surges. Which confused both him and me.

@littleredm - That's great that the library is not only letting you volunteer but also do more of the high level stuff.

@lcking82 - I prefer "lovin'" to "HIO" any day!

@b_1029 - After she called me crazy, I let her dream in that wonderful land of puppies and rainbows. Where a pill gets you pregnant.

@kagesstarshroom - Lol no I'm not a crazy bunker in my basement person, but we do have an entire storage tote filled with hurricane supplies. Mostly so that we don't have to brave the stores every time there's a hurricane in the Gulf.

@misshelen86 - That's awesome that you were able to talk to your BFF about TTC. And out of all the least helpful pieces of advice, the "relax" one is the one that doesn't bother me much, idk about you.

madcouplewthabox · March 2019

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madcouplewthabox · March 2019

Testing... bump is driving me bonkers on the app lately.

brookert615 · March 2019

@NYTino24 Taking a break from temping is nice but I get how you feel! That's awesome you have quiet neighbors now!

@holly321 So sorry you're feeling down

. That Happy Pastor sign sounds great!

@MrsVP614 Hope your kitchen is done, stat! That's wonderful you were able to get a relax day!

@inthewoods23 Oh no, hope you feel better soon!

@ruby696 Hope you enjoyed lunch today! Short days are the best!

@marebear15 UGH at YH's cousin! Sorry you had to deal with that!!!

@littleredm Hoping the IUIs go smoothly! Glad that the volunteer work at the library was great!

@lcking82 LOL at your "lovin" for WAYDTGKU!

@b_1029 Ugh, hope you can get over this cold soon! So rude of your manager!!! Hope you can enjoy the sunny day!!!

@kagesstarshroom Oh my goodness! Hope you get that award, girl! That's wonderful about the course you'll be teaching!!!

@misshelen86 Enjoy that massage! Mint green is such a pretty color! Glad that you were able to open up to your friend and she was receptive!

Month/Cycle: 8/8

CD: 13 or 4

... I might go with 4...

WAYDTGKU: Metformin (for PCOS), Armour Thyroid (for Hashimoto's), PNVs, Vitamins B Complex, C, D, Kelp, Calcium, OPKs, Temping, FighterDiet, RLT, Black Cohosh, Vitex... Taking suggestions?

R/R: I don't mean to gloat but finally hit 30lbs lost this since January 1st!!!

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CS/Q: Nah!

lcking82 · March 2019

@brookert615: girl, that is AMAZING!!

brookert615 · March 2019

@lcking82 @misshelen86 @inthewoods23Thank you so much!!!

Edit: Tags!

misshelen86 · March 2019

@marebear15 I normally find the “relax and it will happen” response really annoying because it minimizes the person’s experience. But coming from my friend, I know she didn’t mean it that way at all so it didn’t bother me.

@brookert615 30 lbs is an amazing accomplishment! Great job!

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inthewoods23 · March 2019

@madcouplewthabox I see your messages!! Lol

@brookert615 wow! That's awesome!

NYTino24 · March 2019

@b_1029 It takes around an hour or more to get home normally. On a day like to day when I have a meeting after, it’s more like an hour and 15. If I left when traditional rush hour was, it could take 90 minutes.
@misshelen86 Enjoy the pampering!!!
@marebear15 What a jerk. You’d think she’d understand the struggle and be a little more careful with her words.... AFM, I didn’t
meet the neighbors yet. I heard a small voice on Saturday and saw a woman unloading her trunk. Many of our neighbors are super old and there aren’t many families in the immediate area since it’s a busy road.
@brookert615 What’s up with your CD confusion? Lots of spotting? I know I missed something!
@holly321 Sending some nice thoughts your way. I hope you’re on your way outta here soon. Sounds like the person making the garland mixed Passover and Easter!
@littleredm I’m glad you’ve got a more aggresssive protocol lined up. Hope it works out. How many credits would you need for library science?

suzycupcake · March 2019

*lurkity lurker*

@littleredm Medicated cycles will throw off your BBT, especially the trigger shot. A lot of women stop temping while doing IUI and IVF because it's pretty much pointless. I didn't listen for part of our IUIs and drove myself crazy. When my IVF RE told me to throw my BBT away and to never mention charting to him, it made my heart happy.

kagesstarshroom · March 2019

@brookert615 I appreciate the humor you insert in your WAYDTGKU list ^_~* And congrats on yr weight loss achievement!

@misshelen86 jelly of yr pedi!!

@littleredm Luckily, I have most of the stuff I need on my end for the award...available, it's just a matter of getting it all together.

@marebear15 I support hurricane preparedness!

ruby696 · March 2019

@suzycupcake My RE doesn't want to hear the word "temping" come out of my mouth. 🤗

madcouplewithabox · March 2019

I think I’m back! Ugh. Bump on mobile! I couldn’t remember my log in and it had me log in again and I put my wrong stuff in, so my intermediary profile was on when I posted last **eye roll**. If I ever get banned I have a back up profile at least lol

month/cycle:5

CD: 1

WAYDTGKU: OvuSense Temping, PNV, Maca, supplements, fertiliTEA

Rant/Rave: I had a 30 day cycle! So excited for that. A full week of the last two/three.

Questions: nope:)

ill come back back to tag and read through.

littleredm · March 2019

thanks @suzycupcake. I am always happy to not temp.

brookert615 · March 2019

@NYTino24 I had spotting and/or light flow and a lot of cramping and my usual AF nausea feeling. Then a few days later it stopped dead in its tracks and then it started again lol. I was taking HPTs every damn day because I was hoping I was a SS! 😂

mrsvp614 · March 2019

@marebear15 Oh hell no to that cousin. It's amazing how many women don't even have to think about how their body works.
@b_1029 We had a pipe burst about 7 weeks ago, and it's been a long process to get it all renovated. Pics in spoilers! New countertops and sink are supposed to go in today, finally! It's also completely normal to feel that way about your coworker. One of mine loves to tell everyone she conceived on the first night of her honeymoon and I think it's so icky to talk about.
@brookert615 Congrats on the weight loss!

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NYTino24 · March 2019

@brookert615 Ahh that’s so frustrating! Hopefully this cycle will be the one for you.

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