Pot luck breakfast at work today because it's a teacher workday. Ate several things with cheese in them because I love it too much and am a glutton for punishment, apparently. FX I don't get too sick this afternoon.
@galentine That's me! We had a scan on the 8th and there were still 2 just chillin'! We got to see and hear the heartbeats, which I was surprised! Baby A was 160 and Baby B was 158.
My OB is confident enough in how things are progressing that she said we could wait 4 weeks till the next appt. So I'll go back on April 5th. She also said I'll be getting a scan (most likely abdominal) at every appt to check heartbeats of each baby.
TTC #1 6/2011 BFP #1 10/2012 DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013 BFP#2 2/2019 TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
We are starting to settle into the idea of TWO babies at the same time. While we've been excited (we had been trying for 5 years to get pregnant with #2), we've also been overwhelmed. haha
TTC #1 6/2011 BFP #1 10/2012 DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013 BFP#2 2/2019 TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
I started the weekly check-in this morning since I saw it wasn't up yet. But made an executive decision after posting to change it to "all group" since I think there was some discussion last week in the Randoms that those in the weeks together will possibly not deliver together, so it would be good to get to know everyone (which I agree with!)...
TTC #1: September 2013, BFP 01/01/14, DS 09/14 TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
@stephanie123456 I fully support this executive decision! I always lurk in the other weeks anyway, because the goal in the end is that we know everyone on the board anyway. If it gets too overblown, we can always split back out later, but O19 seems small, at least compared to me S16 board, so I like this system.
In news that will shock no one, I am feeling gross from breakfast. I think I'm going to try to sneaky purge in the teacher break room and get myself something nice and dairy-free for lunch. This whole new food restriction thing sucks, she complained, stating the obvious.
@steminist I can’t remember if you said you had dairy intolerance during pregnancy only, is that right? That would be such a bummer! I probably would have done the same thing and indulged anyways 😬 especially for a tasty breakfast casserole ...
As for me, I woke up with a sore throat and headache and nausea, I’m assuming because we went so many places this weekend that had tons of people like the aquarium and the church nursery and so on. But I was playing with DS this morning and he looked like he was about to jump on me and I said “please be careful, mommy feels sick” and he just looks at me, then straddles my back and bounces up and down yelling “sick sick sick!” 🤦🏼♀️ This is two haha
@Schumerator yes, this a new development, and new for this pregnancy specifically! I hope it turns out to be a temporary symptom. I developed a carrot allergy with DS that lasted until both, though, so not super optimistic.
My 2yo is a tummy jumper, too. If I manage to get him to successfully not bounce on me, I'll let you know!
The fluffy nice version of my announcement to the in-laws is in the announcement thread, but I wanted to share some great MIL gems too. I mentioned Friday that I fully expected MIL's already questionable boundaries to disappear when we told her. Sure enough.... -Upon telling her she began rubbing my pelvis, and then said, "I can touch your belly, right?!" WELP. A) you already are, B ) no, I'd prefer you not, as there's nothing to feel yet, and C) that's a little south of my "belly" -she asked multiple times and in multiple ways if this was planned. "Was it a surprise?" "Was it planned?" "Was it expected?" She didn't seem to believe us that we intended to get pregnant. 😐 -she stated at least 10 times during our 24 hour visit that I should make sure to exercise and eat healthy every single day since it will help me "bounce back quickly and get my figure back."
If this was a test, I think I passed, because I was totally patient with her and never once clocked her in the face!! #winning
@galentine I think the "belly" touching would have been a bit much for me..... I'm actually quite surprised my MIL never got overly touchy considering she asked to be in the delivery room 😳
@galentine Oh boy, you have the patience of a saint if you stayed calm through all of that! The touching would have pushed me over the edge, I think.
@prpl11butterfly My MIL asked to be in the delivery room too! I thought it was pretty forward of her... I told DH I have to think about it, I'm just not sure I'm comfortable with anyone but him and my mom in there. How did you respond to yours?
Omg. I love my MIL very much, and despite her faults she can be a very generous and considerate person. That being said, if/when she asks to be in the delivery room....
@jenferlee82 it was a hard no. And she was pissed. Both her boys were CS. I get wanting to experience it but your DIL is not the one to ask, that's what daughters are for and I'm sorry she didnt have one to ask. I guess for a while she was bitter because she thought my mom was in there but once she found out she wasn't, she chilled. My mom was at the hospital JIC I needed her but not in the room.
Okay both of those responses make me feel so much better! I thought I was being an asshole wanting to say no. This is her first grandchild and we are kind of old and struggled with IF, so she’s waited a while. Needless to say she is over the moon and I love my MIL too, she’s pretty great for the most part and we get along really well. But the idea just makes me uncomfortable! I’ll be more confident with my no after seeing I’m not alone. 😁
@jenferlee82 FWIW, I don't think ANYONE has a right to expect to be in the delivery room regardless of how close you are. You are having a baby, and it's totally ok for you to want that to be an experience between you and your H (or your mom or whoever). You get to decide and you should not feel any guilt over telling someone they cannot be in the delivery room. You lady bits, your call.
@galentine I think the "belly" touching would have been a bit much for me..... I'm actually quite surprised my MIL never got overly touchy considering she asked to be in the delivery room 😳
Mine was the same! wanted in the L&D room but never once touched my stomach. Whacko lady
My mom asked if she could be in the delivery room when DS was born. It was so hard to tell her no but I’m glad I did. This time I may have her there for more of the labor but for me it’s important for us to have those first moments as our little family
@jenferlee82 I was pretty blunt with my MIL that she was not welcome at the hospital until the baby was born (well, now, she’s not welcome at all, but that’s a story for a different day). She just loved that my grandmother (basically my mother) was there for the birth of DS1 🤣 too bad, so sad. You don’t get to see me with my legs up in the air as I cry/scream pushing out a bowling ball. Boundaries, lady. Boundaries
@jenferlee82 FWIW, I don't think ANYONE has a right to expect to be in the delivery room regardless of how close you are. You are having a baby, and it's totally ok for you to want that to be an experience between you and your H (or your mom or whoever). You get to decide and you should not feel any guilt over telling someone they cannot be in the delivery room. You lady bits, your call.
You’re right! That’s actually what DH said. He said he would have no problem telling her no if that’s what I decide.
@jenferlee82 Totally agree about you are the decider/queen of the delivery room. It's a very vulnerable position to be in (in more ways than one). Your rules. Period. Do not let anyone makes you feel guilty about it either.
@galentine Does your DH know his mom is... inappropriate at times?
My MIL is craycray (but I mostly totally love her, especially how wonderful she is with my kids) and my DH completely knows she is cuckoo. He actually puts her in her place sometimes on my behalf. She tried to sneak into my delivery room the first time and MY MOM HAD TO STOP HER. Awkward. This is why she wasn't called until after DS2 had already arrived the second time around.
@junebabyh, oh yes, H is definitely aware how craycray his mom can be. Usually he gets more worked up over things than I do, and I just attempt to laugh them off. I figure, if we have to deal with her crazy anyway, we might as well try to find some humor in it!
My mom asked if she could be in the delivery room when DS was born. It was so hard to tell her no but I’m glad I did. This time I may have her there for more of the labor but for me it’s important for us to have those first moments as our little family
Yes! So weird. Like my mom was all "oh, we'll be at the hospital" when I told her the due date with DD1 and I shut that down right quick. Um, no? She was pretty put out about it but what would she have done there? SO was there and about a zillion medical people.
Of course when DD2 started labor and I called my parents to come by (2 hours by car) they didn't answer the phone. Luckily DD2 was born on a weekday so we could drop DD1 off at DC...
@junebabyh my MIL didn’t know either until she got a text saying DS2 was here 🤣 no one knew the second time around until then, and it was glorious to not have nagging messages for updates
I’m going to offer a different opinion on grandparents being at the hospital while labor is happening. While I totally agree on everything said about who is actually in the room with you when you deliver, I’m just referring to the waiting room.
**TW loss mentioned** When our first child was born, I thank God that a good bit of our family had made it to the hospital. He was born not breathing and shortly after we found out that he had CDH and would be airlifted to our local children’s hospital that was still well over 100 miles away. It gave me the opportunity to have my husband go with our baby to the nursery as they tried to figure out what was wrong and also to go to the hospital with him as he was airlifted and I still had my mother and close family there to support me until they decided how to best split up to support both of us. We live in a small town so the hospital I deliver at is 1 hour north of where we live and the children’s hospital is almost 2 hours south. If you live close to where you’ll be delivering this might not be an issue for you. But I was super thankful to have them there in those moments.
I think I'm the odd one. My mom was in the room for delivery and she stayed when I got my epidural, DH left the room for the epidural. Lol. She's a nurse too. And DH was terrified (still is this time!!). She was way more helpful than he was. Love him to death but the whole time I was pregnant he said he didn't even want to be in the room. I told him he didn't have a choice and he did great. Even cut the cord. But I want my mom to be there again this time.
I'd never let MIL be there because I don't think it's appropriate for MIL to view the show of all my goods on display. Luckily, ILs live halfway across the world. I'm sorry for those of you that have crazy MILs, especially ones that live close.
@KaitlinS11 I am so sorry for what you had to go through, I can't even imagine. I actually do want as many family members as want to be there, in the waiting room. I don't care if they come into the labor room even to keep us company if labor takes a while. But when it's time to push, I only want my husband and my mom in there. My MIL said she "can't wait to see her grandbaby born" and that's where I feel I have to draw a line - I'm not crazy about her seeing all my goods, etc.
I totally agree with you about people being at the hospital for support, etc. and I'm so glad you had that during your experience!
This morning was a nightmare. I was sobbing while brushing my teeth because I was imagining hypothetical tragedies for no reason. Henry fought me for 35 minutes to get up and dressed. I was late to clock in, although on time for class. My lab materials were put away improperly by the teacher last year, and my micro-screwdrivers are all torn up so I can't replace batteries and fix things. I just need today to turn around ASAP.
Re: Weekly Randoms 3/18
I laid in bed Friday afternoon till Sunday basically, rewatching GoT and it. was. glorious.
I might be counting down the hours until I'm home tonight.
BFP #1 10/2012
DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013
BFP#2 2/2019
TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
We had a scan on the 8th and there were still 2 just chillin'!
We got to see and hear the heartbeats, which I was surprised! Baby A was 160 and Baby B was 158.
My OB is confident enough in how things are progressing that she said we could wait 4 weeks till the next appt. So I'll go back on April 5th.
She also said I'll be getting a scan (most likely abdominal) at every appt to check heartbeats of each baby.
BFP #1 10/2012
DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013
BFP#2 2/2019
TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
We are starting to settle into the idea of TWO babies at the same time. While we've been excited (we had been trying for 5 years to get pregnant with #2), we've also been overwhelmed. haha
BFP #1 10/2012
DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013
BFP#2 2/2019
TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
Would you be willing to edit the first post to add a couple questions?
FTM/STM/TTM+
Team blue/pink/green
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
As for me, I woke up with a sore throat and headache and nausea, I’m assuming because we went so many places this weekend that had tons of people like the aquarium and the church nursery and so on. But I was playing with DS this morning and he looked like he was about to jump on me and I said “please be careful, mommy feels sick” and he just looks at me, then straddles my back and bounces up and down yelling “sick sick sick!” 🤦🏼♀️ This is two haha
My 2yo is a tummy jumper, too. If I manage to get him to successfully not bounce on me, I'll let you know!
-Upon telling her she began rubbing my pelvis, and then said, "I can touch your belly, right?!" WELP. A) you already are, B ) no, I'd prefer you not, as there's nothing to feel yet, and C) that's a little south of my "belly"
-she asked multiple times and in multiple ways if this was planned. "Was it a surprise?" "Was it planned?" "Was it expected?" She didn't seem to believe us that we intended to get pregnant. 😐
-she stated at least 10 times during our 24 hour visit that I should make sure to exercise and eat healthy every single day since it will help me "bounce back quickly and get my figure back."
If this was a test, I think I passed, because I was totally patient with her and never once clocked her in the face!! #winning
@prpl11butterfly My MIL asked to be in the delivery room too! I thought it was pretty forward of her... I told DH I have to think about it, I'm just not sure I'm comfortable with anyone but him and my mom in there. How did you respond to yours?
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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My mom asked if she could be in the delivery room when DS was born. It was so hard to tell her no but I’m glad I did. This time I may have her there for more of the labor but for me it’s important for us to have those first moments as our little family
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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@galentine Does your DH know his mom is... inappropriate at times?
My MIL is craycray (but I mostly totally love her, especially how wonderful she is with my kids) and my DH completely knows she is cuckoo. He actually puts her in her place sometimes on my behalf. She tried to sneak into my delivery room the first time and MY MOM HAD TO STOP HER. Awkward. This is why she wasn't called until after DS2 had already arrived the second time around.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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**TW loss mentioned**
When our first child was born, I thank God that a good bit of our family had made it to the hospital. He was born not breathing and shortly after we found out that he had CDH and would be airlifted to our local children’s hospital that was still well over 100 miles away. It gave me the opportunity to have my husband go with our baby to the nursery as they tried to figure out what was wrong and also to go to the hospital with him as he was airlifted and I still had my mother and close family there to support me until they decided how to best split up to support both of us. We live in a small town so the hospital I deliver at is 1 hour north of where we live and the children’s hospital is almost 2 hours south. If you live close to where you’ll be delivering this might not be an issue for you. But I was super thankful to have them there in those moments.
I'd never let MIL be there because I don't think it's appropriate for MIL to view the show of all my goods on display. Luckily, ILs live halfway across the world. I'm sorry for those of you that have crazy MILs, especially ones that live close.
I totally agree with you about people being at the hospital for support, etc. and I'm so glad you had that during your experience!