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April 2019 Moms
s_montgomery
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Randoms 3/17
s_montgomery
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Hello, Mid-March!
Who's ready for April in just 15 days? 😊
Who's ready for April in just 15 days? 😊
Re: Randoms 3/17
But only if it means warmth.
Backstory: I had mentioned in January that I wanted my BIL to move out, was really fed up and feeling the stress of changes coming on with the baby coming soon and being responsible by default for his dog, and had mentioned I asked DH to talk to him about moving out.
DH talked to him maybe a month ago. Didn't give him a timeframe to be out by, but did tell him he thought it would be best for everyone if he found his own place "by the time [our baby] comes."
I updated in our weekly check-in about the situation since it wasn't really resolved with that conversation.
Follow-up: BIL told DH this weekend that he is looking at getting a place of his own the next town over as soon as he can. He picked up another job in order to pay for the apartment. He brought up himself that he won't be able to care for his dog on his own and, paraphrased, said that he doesn't know anyone willing to take his dog but he doesn't want to give him to a stranger, either. He hopes that their parents will take him, although his mom had voluntarily told me before DH talked to BIL about moving out "I really hope [he] doesn't ask us to take Grievous when he joins the military or moves out on his own," so my husband suggested to my BIL that he at least get his dog Grievous fixed and that might help their parents acquiesce. I'm glad he understands that we are not willing to keep his dog because I am mostly looking forward to the dog going. He is a handful.
@MRDCle, mee too! It was 70 and beautiful outside on Friday and now it's back down to 25 outside
@mighty_montgomery, I'm glad your BIL is taking responsibility! I hope he finds a place soon, for himself and his pup.
I have this giant to do list in my head and no energy to do it. I'm hoping DH can finish the nursery this week, since I'm trying to prepare for DS1's (early) birthday party this weekend! I'm excited to celebrate my not-so-little guy and see lots of friends, especially because I haven't really had time or energy to be super social lately.
So, we actually started doing some baby prep this weekend: laundered a bunch of baby stuff, picked up the cloth diapers we are inheriting, installed the carseat. Suddenly it seems very real that this is going to happen. Honestly I'm a bit freaked out, but also kinda ready to be done with the suspense.
...but, just as a clarification: it's not like we actually have a sleeping set up or the nursery is started (we do have some cardboard boxes available though...). But with the car seat and the diapers, we're finally at the minimum level of readiness. I feel like I hang out here on the lower end of preparedness and try to draw inspiration from everyone else who is so much more together.
@mesweettea hey car seat is good!
I think I've officially gotten more preggo symptoms in the last week and a half than I have this entire trimester.... Swollen everything, achy tendinitis/carpal tunnel (hands falling asleep all night), and I've noticed my face just looks so much more round than it used to. I'm looking forward to the postpartum night sweats that purge my body of all this excess fluid!
@mesweettea Our bedroom is currently a disaster area. Why I decided to start big reorganization projects at 34 weeks I don’t know. I haven’t pulled out and washed clothes yet, the bassinet is still in the box needing to be built and the car seat is buried under random stuff.
Not really prepared in the least, lol. 😂
And our plan is to tackle our closet next weekend. And I still have to finish sorting the mess from the linen closet I did this weekend.
prevously helloblueeyes
Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
Bassinet is in a box in our bedroom, started washing baby clothes this weekend, bought some diapers...picking up the car seat and getting it installed this Sunday when i'll be 37 weeks, so just need to hold out another week. We were over a friends house this weekend who is 2 weeks behind us and they have everything 100% ready, which freaked me out a little and sent me into major nesting mode.
Also came down with the WORST cold / bronchitis on Saturday which has not been fun and makes getting stuff done harder. Hopefully i'll be fully recovered by the time LO arrives...
@thatbaintforbetty Hi-five on starting unrelated projects while nesting! I also went through my closet, and have apparently decided to teach myself to bake.
@mighty_montgomery Glad things are moving along and your BIL is taking things seriously.
DH got a changing table from one of his friends this weekend, and it’s nice enough but it smells sooo musty and definitely needs to be scrubbed down with bleach. It’s always one more chore than we’ve planned on...
@kangstadt my todo list is always larger than my energy level. Thankfully DH or my mom finish things I start (like laundry)
@thatbaintforbetty I keep wanting to clean out/organize my closet because it’s a hot mess right now. But either I’m exhausted or the kids just play dress up in it so I get nothing accomplished.
As far as being ready to go, we have it convered now. I washed the infant car seat (just need DH to install it), got the swing set up, bags are packed, and clothes are washed. I still need to find the infant bathtub and my boba wrap.
@kangstadt +1 on trying to be more social! I'll also add for myself that I should work on going outside more often. Working from home means I rarely have a reason to leave the house except for groceries and doctor appointments...
@mesweettea Hahaha. I am RIGHT there with you on the preparedness. Every time someone asks me about the state of my "nursery" and what color I have painted it, I seriously consider returning the questions with a glaring stink eye. I have a box of disposable diapers, thank you very much.
@emeraldisle87 According to "Expecting Better", you have a 5% chance of going into labor this week (36). If you make it to 37 weeks, you'll have an 11% chance of going into labor over the next 7 days. 38 weeks: 25%, 39 weeks: 46%, 40 wks: 59%. The numbers don't add up to 100% because it assumes "if you've made it this far, here are your chances for next week." It's a little more specific!
I've been hoping LO will come sooner rather than later... 0 signs of that happening. If I'm honest with myself, I would admit that for my LO to come by her due date there's plenty more that needs to happen even from a very logical, scientific perspective. Let me just admit it to myself now: she's not coming anytime soon ("soon" as defined by one week to a week and a half from now). 🙁
But only 3 weeks left until she's forced! Hopefully we don't have to go that route, but her eviction date is nice to keep in the back of my mind when I get honest about what's NOT happening yet. She's probably pretty comfy in there.
@loveanddatadriven your statement had me laughing 😊
I'm very thankful for everyone's encouragement and support on TB for my family situation at home. It helps me to know I'm not overreacting or feeling more intense feelings than necessary over the whole situation. Additionally, my MIL stated today that her son told her he fully intends to be out by the birth and is working hard on it. Praise God
I'm envisioning my daughter's playroom now. 😍 And breastfeeding wherever I want to in my own home! And wearing tank tops and robes around the house without thought to who's going to walk in! Freedooooom 🤓
prevously helloblueeyes
Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
Sometimes I can't tell if we're just not taking this "seriously" enough or something, but then it turns out there's just been so much other life stuff to also get done (moving, getting a job...oh and then showing up and doing said job, taxes, etc etc etc) so getting all the baby stuff done early just in case (see discussion of probabilities of when they are actually going to show up, thanks @loveanddatadriven ) doesn't seem worth prioritizing. That said, I've been trying my best to stay on top of the "paperwork" prep, as @lyse01 mentioned. Oh well to choosing the nursery paint color - I'll just admire everyone else's!
But something also tells me that if/when I do this again, I'll be even more last minute about everything...
It’s probably a good thing. Probably.
prevously helloblueeyes
Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@mighty_montgomery I get it. I wouldn’t really mind if my baby arrived just a little early - like a week early would be nice. Pregnancy isn’t just super fun or anything. I didn’t take it that you were being flippant with your baby’s health or anything. Also, yay that brother in law is finally moving out!
@loveanddatadriven Emily Oster is my favorite. Have you ordered her newest book- Crib Sheets? I preordered and seriously can’t wait to get it.
I’ve been having way more anxiety around preparedness with this second one. I think it’s related mostly to work, but I’m also enormously worried about my older child adjusting. I have no idea why, since he’s a flexible and sweet kid, and by all appearances very excited for his baby brother. But I just feel like there’s tons out of my control. I guess because I’ve done it once before, this time I’m overly aware of how hard it can be.
I’m also having tons of new anxiety due to my cousin having her emergency csection at 24 weeks for pre-e. Update on the baby in spoiler, and trigger warning.
@mesweettea It sounds like you have been preparing, just in a different way. Securing your job and home is a super important way to prepare!
@professormama I pre-ordered Crib Sheets as soon as I heard about it months ago! In the meantime, I highly recommend "Nurture Shock." I couldn't put it down.
Trigger warning, regarding @professormama update:
@loveanddatadriven adding nature shock to my reading list now!
My cousin died at 45 min old (22 weeks, I think?) and was buried in the family plot. She has not been forgotten in the family and is still considered the first child of my aunt and uncle. In fact, my daughter shares her name and I make a point of saying my daughter was named after my great-aunt and my cousin. I’ve told my aunt and uncle that I hope they have a special connection to my daughter in ways they might not to other great-nieces/nephews.
As a second example, just as my daughter was getting out of the hospital, DH’s cousin had an even smaller baby boy. At our baptism, we made a point of pausing and acknowledging that while this was indeed a joyful day, someone close to us was still struggling in the hospital, and we prayed for his journey to health.
Obviously, the first story isn’t something your family can implement immediately, but I’ve heard it helps loss parents to have that child acknowledged instead of forgotten, in conversation now and long-term. It may (or may not) be appropriate in your family circles to acknowledge the brief life of your cousin’s child during your celebrations of new life.
I had my 36 week appointment today, my blood pressure looks great and at this point it looks like I'll actually make it to natural labor! Woooo! We don't have much planned for the weekend, just working around the house, more baby prep, gardening, etc.
This is my last weekend before the induction on Monday! (EDD was supposed to be 4/1.) Last night, BH contractions reached a new intensity and frequency level for 12 hours and I really thought I might be in the latent phase of labor. The intensity has subsided, but the contractions continue. At my last appointment this morning, baby passed all the tests. The NP thought I could be in early labor as well and that baby positioning and cervix are very favorable for labor to happen, but she confirmed I was not in active labor. It looks like it'll be a tossup between spontaneous labor and induction. My weekend plans are to sleep, eat high quality food, and take walks.
@professormama It is SO much quieter! I'm on facebook, but I still look on here. I'm 37 weeks today and honestly, I've been pretty miserable. My hands are so swollen that I can't feel my fingertips very much, and it makes working in a lab very difficult. Plus I've been getting body comments that I'm not taking too well (I've always been sensitive and with the extra hormones it's out of control). I am worried I'm already getting PPD. I'm going to have to watch it very carefully. I'm excited for baby but I'm depressed. And I wish I could enjoy this time right now. I mean, I'm so grateful that I get to have a baby. At 39 years old, I wasn't sure it was in the cards for me. But the pregnancy experience has fucking sucked! I'm glad I have a therapy apt next weekend; I really need it!
So there's my whining for the day!
due date 4/2 and DH is hitting peak nesting: wants to do laundry so we can pack hospital bags, wants to finish replacing the kitchen floor, wants to clean the car and install the car seat, wants to (ok, understands why i want to) finish the birth class. It’s a week 38 miracle.
Meanwhile, MIL is probably more concerned than I am about being ready for the baby: she asks on a daily basis about the plan for who is taking care of DD when I’m in the hospital and is my mom coming and where is she staying and do we need food or is my mom bringing some and she wants to make a bedroom in her house into a nursery and do I have recommendations for a toddler bed and what should we do about toys and she spoke to a speech therapist no not a speech therapist well this lady from church and SHE recommended kazoos for DD’s speech development and so do I know where she could find some kazoos?
me: I need about 4 hours to wash some baby clothes, break out the Finnish baby box from the basement, and install the car seat.
P.S. I wish you were making the FB transition. Along with the other few ladies left here.