Weekly Questions 3/10

purplg8r · March 2019

what Questions do you have this week?

becks68 · March 2019

Not sure if this is worth starting a separate thread, but - where is a good place to register, what are the pros/cons/discounts available, should you register at multiple places - are certain places better for certain things? Target vs Amazon vs buybuybaby vs. etc?

aecm · March 2019

@becks68 - I registered at about 4 places for my first. Really depends what you like and where you can find everything. Buy Buy Baby has A LOT of what you’ll need. We did all our nursery furniture from Pottery Barn Kids so I registered there too, and then Amazon for the remaining stuff (or stuff that had a better price there than at Buy Buy Baby). I also used BabyList for some really random stuff, but because I had so much covered in the other 3 registries, it didn’t get used much.

In general, consider what is most convenient for you and the people buying for you...if you’re rural and there’s not a Buy Buy Baby near you, then maybe using Amazon makes more sense. If your baby shower(s) is/are going to include a lot of older guests (aunts, grandmothers, etc.), they may prefer to shop at physical stores rather than online.

Beauxbaton · March 2019

@becks68 I registered at like, all the places. They change their samples and coupons all the time. And most places give a completion coupon so it seems worth it. At Target it used to be that for you to use the completion coupon. It HAD to be on your registry. So when we went shopping we told them we wanted to update our registry and then as we put things in the cart we scanned them. Idk if it's still like that.

Beauxbaton · March 2019

My question, well kind of a question. More of a seeking reccomendations. Anyone know of a good plus size maternity shapewear? I need something to just smooth me out in my bridesmaids dress, but I don't want to squash the baby bump.

goldfishcraker · March 2019

Anyone have tricks to deal with pregnancy insomnia? It took me several hours to fall asleep last night. (Finally passed out some time after 130am) then the dog woke me at 4 to go outside. So now I'm wide awake yet exhausted (it's 5am), and won't be getting anymore sleep today. I'm so F-ing annoyed right now.
I can imagine some future frustration at husbands useless nipples during the sleepless nights of feedings....

wabash15 · March 2019

@chillycanadian some times magnesium can help.

cato99 · March 2019

I know we've discussed this elsewhere, but would moms who had anterior placentas in prior pregnancies mind sharing the pattern of movement they felt? This is a new experience for me and I'm bummed and a little mystified at the lack of consistent movement. Was it just faint at the beginning but then picked up? Or was it faint the whole time? Did you go through long stretches without feeling anything? Thank you!

janel3214 · March 2019

@chillycanadian unisom without Benadryl in it works for me

mkrel · March 2019

@cato99 I'm right there with you this time with the anterior placenta, and bummed. My OB told me around 20 weeks I would start feeling more consistent movement, so I'm hoping it's true.

goldfishcraker · March 2019

@cato99 my cousin had an anterior placenta and delivered (a month early) last July. She said she never felt her son move at all. (Except for maybe a flutter here or there after 30 weeks, but said that she wasn't sure if it was gas)
She didn't even announce her pregnancy to the extended family until 20 weeks because she had ZERO symptoms except weight/belly gain, and wasn't convinced she was pregnant haha.

peachy0709 · March 2019

@cato99 - I had an anterior placenta with my first. By 20 weeks, the baby will be big enough that you'll feel regular movements like a jab and a roll, but the way I describe it is "muted." As you get further along, you will absolutely be able to "count kicks" / track movement with regularity. You'll also be able to learn their patterns. It just takes a little longer. The other positive is that you don't get beaten up by the kicks!!

wabash15 · March 2019

@cato99 with my last it was an anterior placenta and I never felt consistent movement. I was to the 3rd tri before I felt something maybe close to daily and never completed a full kick count. most of the kicks I did feel were when she kicked my cervix (ouch!). For me the only up side was I was never kept awake or woken up at night by the baby kicking...

Cam1027 · March 2019

@Beauxbaton Have you ever tried RubyRibbon? I wear shape wear pretty much everyday, and that stuff is very smoothing, but doesn't feel as constricting as most. I used it for my wedding this summer and it was super comfy, but definitely smoothed me out. They have tons of options too. I know they sell it online, but our local bridal store carried it. I went back and bought a few tanks to wear everyday!

becks68 · March 2019

@cato99, I’m self diagnosing an anterior placenta, and I’m also FTM so it’s totally freaking me out... nothing else seems to be “off” knock on wood, so I’m just waiting another week for the anatomy scan to confirm... but man this sucks, especially since I’m 19 weeks today and when people ask me if I’ve felt the baby move and I’m like... umm... no? I do keep poking my stomach hoping for a response... man am I going to be an annoying mother.

becks68 · March 2019

@aecm @Beauxbaton - thank you!

To all the ladies with insomnia... I also stand in solidarity with you, I’m not sure how much of it is pregnancy and how much of it is personal / work stress but between 2 - 3:30 am I’m usually exploring the ends of instagram or looking into what I should read next, or cribs built by the Amish (last nights research - holy crap are they expensive) it’s horrible!

grangerhp37 · March 2019

@becks68 I can’t speak from personal experience but I’ve read that a FTM can start feeling movement anytime between 16-25 weeks, but I don’t blame you for feeling anxious! I’m 15+2 and catch myself pausing and trying to feel something throughout the day but nothing so far.

aecm · March 2019

@becks68 I had a posterior placenta with my first, and didn’t feel anything til almost 20 weeks, and when I did it was faint for the first couple of weeks. Totally normal if you haven’t felt anything yet!

Avrilmai · March 2019

Anyone have suggestions on where to buy maternity workout clothes? specifically leggings. A lot of places carry "leggings" but they aren't really the quality I want/need to actually exercise.

peachy0709 · March 2019

@Avrilmai - I feel like I got all of mine at Old Navy? But also the last time I worked out while pregnant was 2014, so take that with a whole slab of salt.

sw1122 · March 2019

@Avrilmai - I recently ordered a couple of pairs of leggings from the gap and old navy. The ones from old navy are decent - a little thicker material than what I’m used to, but fine.

bluebonnet15 · March 2019

@Avrilmai The ones I have are from Gap. I like them, really soft. I just ordered a pair from Bao Bei (along with the belly band) so I’ll keep you posted on those

sw1122 · March 2019

@heml I recently ordered a Bao Bei belly band too. I haven’t used it yet, but have heard good things. Let me know what you think of the leggings - they sound great

cato99 · March 2019

@Avrilmai my favorite leggings are these cheapie Amazon ones:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019TFZ5U6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_x0fICb94TXCYA

They are decidedly not fancy nor luxe-feeling but the rough elasticity worked a lot better for me than the softer cotton-based ones of nicer brands. I worked out consistently all last pregnancy and these held up (they stretch out quickly after a few wears so just wash them pretty often, and size down if you’re on the fence). I just brought them out from storage and have been hiking in them. And for $17 it’s worth a shot

aecm · March 2019

@Avrilmai I never found anything great the last time I was pregnant. For the moment, I’m continuing to use my non-maternity yoga pants. They’re pretty stretchy, and I figure by the time they don’t fit anymore I probably won’t be working out much anyway 😜. As far as regular clothing (non-workout) leggings - my favorite pairs have come from Old Navy.

olivemomma · March 2019

Alright ladies I’m in need of some advice. My AS is tomorrow and I’ve been counting down the days to find out what this little one is.

Last night DH and I had a date night and at dinner I brought up the AS and how excited I am to find out the sex. DH nervously pauses and then begins to fumble out something along the lines of, “so I’ve been thinking, since we have 1 of each already and this is our last baby, would you be willing to wait until the birth to find out the sex. I just think it would be such a magical moment that we have never experienced before and this is our last chance.” And then he looks up at me at the look on his face is like a little kid on Christmas morning.

I was shocked. We have always found out the sex and it has never even been a discussion before. I was a little angry that he waited until less than 2 days before to suddenly spring this on me. And I was also really loving how excited he was thinking about that moment and I could tell he’s been thinking about It and was just too nervous to ask me.

Ultimately, I know he will go along with what I decide. And I totally get people being team green and waiting - I agree that moment could be beyond special. But I have no patience! Waiting for tomorrow has been rough enough. But I think this is really important to him. I just don’t know what to do and have 1 day to figure it out!

mkrel · March 2019

@olivemomma Oh man, that's a doozy! I am about as impatient as they come, so I would feel the same way you do. That being said, I recently had a conversation with someone about this and I said the only way I could see being team green is if you have one of each already OR if you have a strong preference and want to make sure there isn't even an ounce of disappointment.
I also think it is really awesome that he's so excited about the baby and the idea of that awesome surprise. I feel like even though this is our second, my husband forgets I'm pregnant half the time. So if he REALLY wanted something like that, I may just give in as I did when my husband asked if he could get "final say" over the name this time around.
Keep us posted on what you decide!

BigBadWolf12 · March 2019

You could always get them to write it in an envelope to give yourself more than one day to decide. Then you could do small goals. It's not 2 days stretched into 4.5 more months. Start with a week, then maybe you can make it a month, then maybe til 3rd tri, then....you get the idea.

@olivemomma good luck deciding!

thirdtimesacharm2019 · March 2019

@olivemomma I could not wait, no way! I’m dying for my A/S in two weeks! But if my husband really wanted to it would be hard to tell him no. I think birth is magical in itself when you already know the gender. As childish as this is going to sound... I feel like it would take away one of the best moments of pregnancy just to add to an already emotionally overwhelming experience (if that makes sense).

peachy0709 · March 2019

I was going to suggest what @BigBadWolf12 said!

olivemomma · March 2019

Thanks ladies! @peachy0709 @BigBadWolf12 I thought about the envelope and haven’t ruled it out. My fear with that is that the temptation will win out when he’s not even around or I’ll have to make this decision over and over instead of just being at peace with it and will drive myself nutty.

@thirdtimesacharm2019 oh my gosh we have always said this! Like isn’t birth in and of itself enough?! And it’s cool to have that 1 other really fun moment in the middle. We have discussed this in our past pregnancies, another reason I was so caught off guard when he brought it up last night.

Anyone who has waited until birth previously willing to share that moment of finding out with me??

mamamias · March 2019

My AS is this Friday and I am feeling guilty as hell cuz I really want it to be a girl but I dont want to be disappointed if it's a boy. I was telling DH yesterday that this week has been stressful for me and he suggested we go out somewhere so I take a break from thinking about it. I know I should just be grateful and thankful that the baby is healthy and growing well.

BigBadWolf12 · March 2019

@olivemomma true. Give it to him or a trusted friend with great will power? 😂 I totally get not wanting to prolong the agony.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · March 2019

@mamamias Yes! We have two boys and I REALLY want a girl (this is the absolute last one). I told DH not to be surprised if I tear up during the A/S if they say it’s a boy. Not trying to be a brat, but I think it will be involuntary. Obviously a healthy baby is the number one priority and boys are GREAT, but I think I’ll break down in that initial moment.

peachy0709 · March 2019

@mamamias

I wanted a girl so badly with DD1 and DH spent the week before our AS explaining to me that it MIGHT NOT be a girl and I would need to be prepared for that.

wabash15 · March 2019

@olivemomma I have been team green with all of my pregnancies... with the twins I was just so damn happy to be pregnant/have it be a viable pregnancy that I didn't care, with the last one I started to get a bit ansty towards the end but still held out. Yes, its special any time you find out. For us having a piece of pregnancy that was traditional was great and DH was able to be the one to announce the sex which made the moment even more special for me. I know its not a lot of time to adjust your mindset but I think being team green is worth the wait.

Avrilmai · March 2019

Thanks so much for the feedback ladies, I'm ordering a few from different places and I'll see how it goes.

@olivemomma I'm a FTM so no prior experience, but we are team green, like @wabash15 our decision was based on having a piece of pregnancy with some normalcy. I'm glad your H shared his feelings with you, sounds like he was really sweet about it. Just remember whatever you decide will be the right decision for you and your family. GL with the AS! and let us know what you decide.

jrm_14 · March 2019

Any recommendations on nursing bras for larger chest (currently a G-cup)? I know “supportive” and “no underwire” don’t usually go together.

mrosek91 · March 2019

@jrm_14 I am also a G-cup, and went up to an H when nursing, it is not easy. Before I had to go back to work I bought "sleep bras" on amazon, and lived in those. They are not very supportive, but they are really comfortable. Once I went back to work and needed to look presentable...
For my first I went on amazon and bought everyone that came in my size and got good reviews, I returned all but one, and basically lived in that. (I had bought one at motherhood while still pregnant and it was really pretty, and really uncomfortable, so I wore that one on laundry day.) By the time I finished nursing it was basically garbage. So with my second I went to order another one and it was discontinued

I decided to splurge and went to a boutique shop in the area that fits you. I got three and 2 were ok, wearable, but nothing I would recommend. The third was amazing, it was the Fleur from Anita, which is pretty reasonably priced. I am looking into buying some of Anita's other nursing line-up when this one comes.

gabila66 · March 2019

Not sure if this has been addressed, but can anytime help with ideas for nipple discomfort. I feel like they are just tightening up, almost as if it was a really cold day. Any thoughts?

wabash15 · March 2019

@jrm_14 i love bravados body silk seamless. they are super comfortable. I ended up being a G cup with the twins and I felt very supported. bravado also has nursing tanks that are way more supportive than many of the "cheap" spaghetti strap things out there. (they also stretch and I was able to wear them throughout pregnancy)

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