I was working on cleaning up an excel spreadsheet with 10 tabs, every tab having 100-10,000 rows. I was almost done, and then the last command I gave it caused my excel to crash. Like an idiot, I forgot the frequent save!! Luckily the auto save got everything but the last 2 tabs, and those are some of the smaller ones, but my boss needed this an hour ago...
I’m in a group for our leadership class. After deciding on a topic, this one girl is like oh we can do xyz since John & I had a shitty childhood and Mary (pretend this is me) and Luke had an ideallic childhood. We can compare and contrast. I would have given anything for Mary and Luke’s childhood.
I couldn’t even respond.
1. We already decided a topic. This is why no one wants to be in a group with her. She does this shit all the time.
2. She knows nothing about my life or my childhood. You see a mere glimpse of my life right now. She talks non stop so just because she chooses to tell everyone about her life means that since the rest of us don’t, we have ideallic lives? I’ve been through some serious shit but I’m also a grown up in my MBA. I choose not to share personal stuff since this is basically like a work setting. I have close friends who I share more with but still.
Im already having a rough day and she just made me 100 times more angry. Maybe it’s petty to be annoyed but don’t presume to know about my life or make generalizations. Luke and John both messaged me with WTF to her message. 🤦🏽♀️
@mrosek91 that is the WORST. Thank goodness auto-save got most of it for you. @AKuzReve wow that is presumptuous of her...most people don't share the shit they went through with everyone and your brother. 1) its not their business and 2) you don't want to dredge it up all the time. I'm annoyed for you.
mine is totally a FWP. I sent DH to the store to get lemon lara bars yesterday (this kid LOVES lemon) there are only 6 in a box (which if I don't control myself only lasts 2 days) I was hoping he would come home with 2 boxes... well he came home with 4 boxes... except only one was lemon and all the other flavors make me want to vomit thinking about them.... Sigh
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
had to pick up my "sick" kid from school yesterday... even when I had to leave work early to get him he was bouncing off the walls when I got to the school. Seriously? He's "sick"??? Ugh.
My step dad had a heart attack yesterday. Fortunately he is doing well after surgery but jesusssss criminy yesterday was rough. We live pretty rural and our local hospital is limited. Couldn't fly him out due to the weather so he had to go 100 miles in an ambulance to a larger facility. During that drive, we had no idea what was going on. A tense few hours to say the least.
@agpandme I'm so sorry about your step dad! I'm glad the surgery went well and that he's doing ok! Did he get a stent? I hope the MI was caught quickly and that he has a great recovery!
@agpandme - I'm so sorry to hear, thankfully he was able to get there in time. @velvetskyy - Non-symptomatic "sick" kids are the worst. Bleh.
I had to step up and message a person at daycare about setting up a meeting to discuss DD2's place on the wait list where DD1 goes. I first reached out to them 3 weeks ago - the day I moved into the 2nd trimester - and found out there are 4 or 5 people "in front" of me which is complete bullshit and I had a meltdown. Told DH he needed to circle back for me because I'm not in a good frame of mind to deal with that. Three weeks, nothing. So I reached out today and we're going to set up something for next week to discuss. I'm going to hit DH with so much seething passive-aggressive vitrol when we get home, he will probably never recover. WHY MUST I DO EVERY MOTHERFLIPPIN' THING!? WHY EVEN ASK!? *breathing into a bag, reaching for a cookie*
ETA: The 'bullshit'ness comes from the fact that zero of the mothers of current enrolled children are currently pregnant (unless they are 2-3 months behind me, AKA just found out - which again, wouldn't put them in front of me). It's a small operation so I know ALL the moms of children 3 and under ... and their procreational status. It could be one of the "older" kids moms (who don't currently have a child under 4), but I would be SHOCKED if there are "4 or 5" from that group all knocked up at once.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
I am sort of having a WTF moment at myself, for irrationally second guessing the concept of my husband being a stay at home dad. I'll get 4 months maternity leave and then the idea is that he'll stay home with the baby for the remainder of its first year. Financially it's the most sensible option for us -- we absolutely depend on my salary, but not his -- and if the roles were reversed, I'd never give it a second thought. But for some reason the idea of HIM staying home, while it makes all the sense, is harder to settle in my brain. No idea why. I thought I was more progressive and liberated than this, lol.
@law_and_little1 My husband has been a stay at home dad for almost three years. He recently started teaching a few nights per week, but he’s still able to cover all the sick days, teacher work days, summer break, etc. We reached a point where both of our careers were very demanding, yet we were spending almost all of his take home pay on child care. I made more and he has more patience, so it made perfect sense for him to be the SAH parent. It’s a little unconventional and hasn’t always been perfect, but I don’t regret it one bit! You have to do what works for your family. And the decision you make now may not always be the best, so be open to re-evaluate 😊.
I came to say exactly what @thirdtimesacharm2019 said! @law_and_little1, my husband is in the same industry as you so he is still the breadwinner (by far), but also because he's in the same industry as you, he has had some generous paternity leaves so he has a snapshot of what staying at home looks like. We have ultimately decided it's not right for us RIGHT NOW, but if roles were reversed and I was the breadwinner, he would absolutely stay home. I would like to eventually, but we also have chosen to have three kids, pay off his student loans extremely fast, and his work has work sponsored daycare. So what I'm saying in an overly personal way is it's all fluid and everyone's circumstances are wildly different and you have to do what makes YOUR FAMILY function.
The SAH parent decision is very personal to each family. I was the primary breadwinner but really wanted to be the SAH parent. So that's what we did. DH is much happier in the role of provider than caregiver, but if for some reason he was unable to work I could find something in my field & he could stay home temporarily. That just wouldn't be ideal for either of us. You can always try an arrangement out and adjust later if it doesn't work for one or both of you, @law_and_little1!
@law_and_little1 another thing to add to the sahd discussion. My FIL was a stay at home dad most of my husband's childhood. FIL and MIL have a great work balance at home and I've never had the issues with DH not pulling his weight or taking initiative with household things that it seems is SO common with other men, especially after kids are born. Idk if it would have been that way anyways, but I think having a sahd was a great thing for dh and our family is reaping the benefits now in the next generation.
We have very flexible and generous parent leave where we live so I took the first 16 months off with ds and then when I went back to work, dh took off work January-summer, so he's currently sahd. It's not a long term thing for us at this point, but it's going so well for our son.
I understand your inner feelings, and you have time to process through them. I'm not trying to negate your feelings at all, just share my experiences with sahds.
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
My dream situation would be to make enough money so DH could stay home. He has a main job but his passion is writing and does it during his free time. I would love if he could stay home to take care of DD and school things/clean the house and then concentrate on writing. I'm going to law school in 2020, but I'm also interested in public interest law, so I don't think my dream of making money is coming true any time soon. The boy just has to get published if he wants to live that dream.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
@BigBadWolf12 Love it! Wow, how wonderful that you got 16 months off -- I had to do a double take and see if that really said months, not weeks! Thanks for understanding my feelings, I feel weird for having them but it is so nice to know that it's a decision many women have had success with.
@EmilyA724 - so sweet! I know it is definitely a huge privilege to even have the option in front of me, for him to stay home. I graduated Michigan Law in 2017 and would be more than happy to talk through it with you!! Anything from study strategies to job searches to student loans to bar exams. It is an enormous endeavor, and I'm always happy to talk about it. Shoot me a message if you'd like. Good luck!
@law_and_little1 that's so sweet of you, thank you! I work for a public interest law firm now and am surrounded by lawyers, hahaha, but I'm sure I'll have tons of questions. Congrats on UofM! Got a definitive rejection from there Thought I'd maybe get waitlisted. Planning to work full-time and go in the evening part-time so it'll be interesting, but I got a full-ride so I can potentially graduate debt free, which will be amazing considering what my salary will most likely be.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
Re: WTF Wednesday 3/6/19
I couldn’t even respond.
1. We already decided a topic. This is why no one wants to be in a group with her. She does this shit all the time.
2. She knows nothing about my life or my childhood. You see a mere glimpse of my life right now. She talks non stop so just because she chooses to tell everyone about her life means that since the rest of us don’t, we have ideallic lives? I’ve been through some serious shit but I’m also a grown up in my MBA. I choose not to share personal stuff since this is basically like a work setting. I have close friends who I share more with but still.
Im already having a rough day and she just made me 100 times more angry. Maybe it’s petty to be annoyed but don’t presume to know about my life or make generalizations. Luke and John both messaged me with WTF to her message. 🤦🏽♀️
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
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@AKuzReve wow that is presumptuous of her...most people don't share the shit they went through with everyone and your brother. 1) its not their business and 2) you don't want to dredge it up all the time. I'm annoyed for you.
mine is totally a FWP. I sent DH to the store to get lemon lara bars yesterday (this kid LOVES lemon) there are only 6 in a box (which if I don't control myself only lasts 2 days) I was hoping he would come home with 2 boxes... well he came home with 4 boxes... except only one was lemon and all the other flavors make me want to vomit thinking about them.... Sigh
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
(No other words required)
BFP 06/25/17 | EDD 02/24/18 | DS2 02/19/18
@velvetskyy - Non-symptomatic "sick" kids are the worst. Bleh.
I had to step up and message a person at daycare about setting up a meeting to discuss DD2's place on the wait list where DD1 goes. I first reached out to them 3 weeks ago - the day I moved into the 2nd trimester - and found out there are 4 or 5 people "in front" of me which is complete bullshit and I had a meltdown. Told DH he needed to circle back for me because I'm not in a good frame of mind to deal with that. Three weeks, nothing. So I reached out today and we're going to set up something for next week to discuss. I'm going to hit DH with so much seething passive-aggressive vitrol when we get home, he will probably never recover. WHY MUST I DO EVERY MOTHERFLIPPIN' THING!? WHY EVEN ASK!? *breathing into a bag, reaching for a cookie*
ETA: The 'bullshit'ness comes from the fact that zero of the mothers of current enrolled children are currently pregnant (unless they are 2-3 months behind me, AKA just found out - which again, wouldn't put them in front of me). It's a small operation so I know ALL the moms of children 3 and under ... and their procreational status. It could be one of the "older" kids moms (who don't currently have a child under 4), but I would be SHOCKED if there are "4 or 5" from that group all knocked up at once.
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
BFP 06/25/17 | EDD 02/24/18 | DS2 02/19/18
We have very flexible and generous parent leave where we live so I took the first 16 months off with ds and then when I went back to work, dh took off work January-summer, so he's currently sahd. It's not a long term thing for us at this point, but it's going so well for our son.
I understand your inner feelings, and you have time to process through them. I'm not trying to negate your feelings at all, just share my experiences with sahds.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19