Telling Divorced Grandparents to be

stargazer102519 · February 2019

Ok, so something bothering me. I am not planning on telling my family till I am into my 12th week (though the secret is driving me crazy lol). My parents are divorced and have not been in the same room since I graduated college 6 years ago. I would hate to tell one parent and the other find out via the grapevine (aka social media or something) so just wondering how to handle delivering the news. Since the 12th week will be around Easter I thought about telling them then in a special way but feel very leery about telling one before the other. My worry is the excited grandparent to be will post to social media immediately lol.
Thoughts?

Snaps816 · February 2019

Hi! There's an "announcements" thread where you might get more discussion about your question. We try to organize the board that way.

Regarding your situation, I would just make it clear to the first person you tell that you need them to keep it quiet until you can tell the other one, and no social media! Hopefully they'll respect your wishes.

cmbt2 · February 2019

Send a group text? That’s what I do 🤷🏼‍♀️ Everyone finds out at the same time

nanner26 · February 2019

Are you wanting to tell them both in person?

If I thought my parents couldn’t control themselves by not posting on social media, they wouldn’t be finding out until I was ready to tell the rest of the world. It’s your announcement to make. You call always call one after the other.

cmbt2 · February 2019

nanner26 said:
If I thought my parents couldn’t control themselves by not posting on social media, they wouldn’t be finding out until I was ready to tell the rest of the world. It’s your announcement to make.

This is our rule, but I also ban them
from ever posting photos to social media of the kids (and that extends to sharing one of our scarce posts of them).

sorarose · February 2019

My parents have been divorced forever. My mother is the only person who knows right now. This is because of my relationship with her. I will probably tell Dad when he visits around the 8 week mark because I expect I will have to explain why I'm vomiting. In-laws won't be told until the end of first trimester.

I think it depends more on your relationship with your parents than anything else. If you can't trust your parents not to post, I think you should just wait until your ready for their telling people. It's your time, and you shouldn't worry about offending one parent over the other. If they are being petty like that, then that's on them.

nachellebeck13 · February 2019

I have divorced parents and my husband does not.

If I thought either of my parents wouldn't respect my wish to NOT post on social media until I was ready, they wouldn't be finding out until I was ready to post on social media.

My parents don't talk, they've been divorced for 28 years though (since I was 2). We live near my dad and I told him in person. My mom is 8 hours away and we Facetimed her to tell her.
They both respect my wishes to allow me to post on social media first. And they both ask prior to sharing the news if it's okay with us if they do.

We actually have a worse time with my mother in law not keeping her mouth shut. :P

mommyofthree22 · February 2019

I'm in a similar situation and am waiting until week 12 aswell. We made the decision to do up a little gift box with a note/onzie and scan photo in each. We will tell all to open at 12 (certain time). Hopefully all will listen lol.

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