HDBD 2/13

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

I didn’t see this thread started... so here we go!

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

I actually dressed decent AND took a picture today! #winning

mrosek91 · February 2019

@thirdtimesacharm2019 I love that dress.
I am still pre-bump, since this is #3 I keep expecting to pop any day, but it hasn't happened yet. I popped late and carried small with both my others, so maybe that's just what my body does...

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

@mrosek91 Thank you!! I tend to show early and carry large. I gained 60 lbs with DS1 and 69 lbs with DS2. I know at this point it’s not all baby, but since the extra bloating is baby related I’m taking it in stride. This is our third and final so I’m finding some comfort in knowing this is the last time I’ll be a human balloon. I’m definitely not one that can wait until 12 weeks to tell people (this pic was 14w3d)! 😂😂

mrosek91 · February 2019

@thirdtimesacharm2019 I gained 30 pounds with my first, never lost it and gained another 25 with my second, I have no idea where it all went, certaintly not my belly. This is me at 7 months pregnant with #2. A woman's body is a strange thing.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

It must be the shirt, but you don’t even look pregnant in that picture! My motto is as long as the baby is healthy, the mom's size doesn’t matter.

wabash15 · February 2019

@thirdtimesacharm2019 I tend to gain a lot with pregnancy too. With the twins I gained 65, with my singleton I gained 60.... we will see how it goes but I'm showing about as much as you are.

elizabeth_1985 · February 2019

I gained about 60 pounds with my first two pregnancies. With number 3, I saw stretch marks before the BFP and up 20 pounds from my pre-pregnacy weight at almost 15 weeks.

law_and_little1 · February 2019

I love seeing how different everyone is. It's so easy to be self critical, or to worry about being too big or too small. Seems I'm an early popper; this is me at 12w 3d. I keep saying "it's just bloat," except it isn't going away in the mornings or fluctuating! This is just my belly now I guess! And thus, this is me trying on maternity pants 😂

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

My stomach stretch marks never went away 😔. I even had them on my calves the last two times. DH said maybe I should eat some carrots with #2 (he wasn’t being mean, but genuinely worried about the toll the weight takes on my body). I told him it was hazardous to HIS health to suggest what I should eat 😂.

Allycat11 · February 2019

@thirdtimesacharm2019 my stretch marks never went away either and they are everywhere, stomach legs, hips, boobs etc... I was pretty lucky to only gain 28 with DD and 32 with DS, although my weight is currently higher than the day I delivered DS.

I HATE how much pressure is put on women to gain a certain amount of weight during pregnancy - some women eat right, exercise and still gain 70 pounds, others do not take care of themselves and barely gain anything. At my last visit the scale was 2 pounds higher than a week prior. The NP obnxiously said, "Well clearly you aren't having trouble eating if your weight is up that much since last week." First, different scale that might not be calibrated the same, maybe I had a big breakfast, maybe I was wearing more clothes, maybe I needed to poop, maybe my body was retaining more water that day or maybe I really did gain 2 pounds that week because that is what my body needed at that time 🤷

goldfishcraker · February 2019

@Allycat11 wow!! What a douchebag NP! Holy crap!!! As if!!! 😠😠

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

@Allycat11 ugh! 2 lbs could be a variety of factors unrelated to what you actually ate. How rude!!

sw1122 · February 2019

I’m jealous of everyone’s cute bumps. Mine is almost non existent at 15 weeks. My husband joked that I’m a candidate for “I didn’t know I was pregnant”. There’s nothing to be concerned about, right? 😬

grangerhp37 · February 2019

@sw1122 That looks like a legit bump to me!!

mrosek91 · February 2019

@sw1122 when I was a week overdue with my first a stranger asked me when I was due, I said "last week", and she said "oh, I thought you were in your 7th month or something." Everyone carries differently, if your doctor's not worried, you don't need to worry.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

@sw1122 You look great! That is probably more average for 15 weeks. I am definitely not “average”. Especially if it’s your first.

aevan011 · February 2019

I hate the pressure about weight and have the same complaints, @Allycat11 ! They acted like they didn’t believe me when I said at my 1st appointment I was so sick I lost 5lbs in less than a week. Like, why would I lie?

My last pregnancy, I loved my OB. Even though I was technically up almost 50lbs at delivery, she never gave me grief because it was SO much swelling - I swelled really badly from week 16. Fingers crossed this one is different. So many stretch marks!!!!

Will try to get a bump pic today. Poor 2nd kid already being neglected in photos.

grangerhp37 · February 2019

wabash15 · February 2019

@Allycat11 +1 to still having stretch marks all over. that NP needs a TP, what the hell. your body can fluctuate 2lbs in the course of a day.
@sw1122 I forget are you a FTM? FTM often don't pop till later and some women especially if you have a longer torso don't show much or not till much later. Other women with short torsos or who have been pregnant a few times tend to show way sooner. ever body is different and beautiful. Tell your DH the only appropriate comment about how much your showing is to say how beautiful you look.

hey_clever_girl · February 2019

My 14 week bump. Baby #3. I have a “B” belly that doesn’t usually really round out till 20+ weeks, so looking forward to that. Right now I’m still trying to create the illusion of a nice round belly, ha.

sw1122 · February 2019

@wabash15 @thirdtimesacharm2019 @mrosek91 @dogmomma096 - Thanks for reassuring me. I have a doctor's appointment in a couple of weeks and I'm sure she'll tell me I'm fine. I am a FTM and everything makes me anxious and I know I shouldn't be worried about my size. I can only imagine how uncomfortable it'll be when the weather starts to get warmer.

zamoraspin · February 2019

@sw1122 I see that little bump! You look like you are slim and in shape, if you have strong ab muscles they will kind of hold the bump in for a while.

I agree with y'all on the weight gain... I started this pregnancy at a heavier weight than I would have liked, and I'm only 12w and have gained 3-4 pounds already. I am nervous about my dr shaming my weight gain.

Allycat11 · February 2019

Belly popped this week! Based on last u/s I am somewhere in the mid 14 week range with baby #3. Also super bummed that my most comfortable bra does not do my boobs any favors lol. With #1 I did not show at all until 20+ weeks. I am the product of a very much unplanned pregnancy and my bio mom hid her pregnancy with me until 6 months...there is a wide range of normal.

wabash15 · February 2019

@zamora_spin its totally normal to gain 3-5 lbs in the first tri and then ~1lb a week in the 2nd and 3rd... though there are some who gain more and others who gain less.

goldfishcraker · February 2019

My goal was to only gain 1-2 lb in the first trimester. I've been gaining 1-2 per WEEK while on bed rest.

Never in my life have I been so sedentary for so long.
I keep worrying my doctor will shame me, but no issues from him or the nurse yet.
And my physiotherapist told me to shut up when I told her I was concerned about the weight gain. She said to focus on growing a healthy baby, and I can worry about losing the weight after I have my baby safely in my arms ❤️

hey_clever_girl · February 2019

I'm on the opposite spectrum for weight gain—I actually LOST about 10 lbs in my first trimester because I was so sick. I'm finally starting to gain it back a little bit. I started my pregnancy out pretty heavy, though (207 lbs) so TBH I wasn't super upset about losing the weight... I'm also on a no exercise restriction due to my previa, so I'm kind of glad for the weight loss. I tend to gain a LOT my last month, so this gave me a little bit of an advantage in the weight gain department.

aevan011 · February 2019

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Finally got a pic. 14w 4d. I was Looking at DS weekly pics and it made me feel huge. Just gotta remember every pregnancy is different, I guess. And that it’s a blessing to be able to eat without being too sick and have this food baby sitting on top of the human baby 😂

cato99 · February 2019

Sorry to Hump Day on a Friday but the bump struck me as so noticeable. 14w, second pregnancy, pretty short-waisted so I carried all-out last time too

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purplg8r · February 2019

I take my bump picture every Friday since that’s my new week. Here’s my little bump at 13 weeks. Looks little but it’s definitely bigger than it was and people at work are starting to notice. I’m also worried about weight gain. Before my transfer, my RE had me go on a no carb diet for about 2 weeks (and then until my first beta). I lost 10 pounds on that diet. I am back up to that weight today. So I’m not sure how to count my weight gain. Do I worry that I’ve gained 10 pounds already, or not since I’m at the weight I was before I went on that diet?

cato99 · February 2019

@purplg8r Was the diet part of your RE’s general IVF plan or was there another reason? (Just curious bc I never heard carb limiting as part of fertility treatment! And this is totally inappropriate to say just from a photo, but you don’t look like someone doctors would worry about general weight impacting fertility!) And are you worried about weight gain in general or specifically because by some metrics you’ve put on 10 lbs in the first tri?

For my first pregnancy, IVF and meds made my body go a little haywire and I gained 8-10 lbs my first tri without having lost any at first, but then I leveled off for a while in my second trimester. So 10 lbs doesn’t seem too outlandish to me!

thirdtimesacharm2019 · February 2019

@purplg8r you look great! ❤️ The dress!

aevan011 · February 2019

@purpleg8r I honestly Wouldn’t be too concerned about gaining those 10 back. Those low carb diets are typically short term results and if you don’t stick to it, the weight can be very quick to come back. I would assume your medical team would see it that way. I wouldn’t worry too much unless your doctor specifically mentions it.

During my first, my OB told me to stop asking about my weight, that she’d let me know if it was getting to be an issue to watch.

BigBadWolf12 · February 2019

They're way more hands off with pregnancy stuff in Sweden, but I never even *had* to get weighed. They always presented it as a choice and only like, 3 times the whole pregnancy. Not sure if that would have changed if I was on either end of the weight spectrum, but it was so laid back, "do you want to see how much you weigh now?"

They also don't do the GD test here unless you've had GD before or if your blood sugar is concerning (which they test several times with a finger prick). The only things they do are anatomy scan, glucose and hemoglobin levels, blood pressure, and then starting at 24 weeks the fundal height and heartbeat checks. Some people opt for extra scans or testing in 1st tri, and of course if there's any risk factor you get more monitoring, but most pregnancies are really hands off.

Registration with midwife around 8-12 weeks, blood work around 10-12 weeks, anatomy scan at 18-20 weeks, monthly appointments from 24 weeks until the last month when you get every other week, then every week if you're over due. Is partly frustrating bc I want to check in on baby, but partially great bc there's so much less pressure and guilt, anxiety, whatever around these things than it seems in other places.

BigBadWolf12 · February 2019

And I guess after all that I should play along with the actual thread 😂

15+3 stm in in the "barely there blump" phase. In this loose dress you can hardly tell but the next day I wore maternity pants and a button down top that made it more obvious. I wore a big sweater over it but a student saw my blump when my sweater opened up a bit and was super excited to confidently guess that I was pregnant. clothes change everything lol

Eta I popped with ds at around 18 weeks so I'm just waiting..... one more week of work before a week off so I'm hoping to leave without an obvious bump and come back with an obvious bump and just skip most of the awkward "is she pregnant?" phase lol

purplg8r · February 2019

@cato99 she had me on low carb before my ER for 2 reasons 1) because high protein/low carb is better for egg quality and 2) because I was at risk for OHSS due to previous estrogen levels and thankfully it worked. Then she had me on low carb/high protein again for my FET for a certain reason but I honestly don’t remember why. I am definitely one who has always been one to watch my weight (but got lucky because my running offset my love of food). I’ve had to literally force myself to restrict getting on the scale to only once a week because I know it’s not healthy. But mostly I’m worried because everything I read said you should only gain 3-4 pounds in the first half. Good to know yours balanced out. I hope mine does too!

@thirdtimesacharm2019 thanks! I’m hoping it’s stretchy enough to wear for every bump pic!

@aevan011 thanks!! That’s what I was hoping

wabash15 · February 2019

@cato99 my RE had me on a low carb/sugar fertility diet for the entirety of treatments...
@purplg8r I wouldn't sweat the 10lbs... just try to eat in moderation/healthyish and bodies do what they do during pregnancy....

cato99 · February 2019

@wabash15 @purplg8r that’s so interesting—it never came up with any of my REs.

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