@mesweettea I bought a cheapie replacement ring from Walmart and wore that last pregnancy and put mine away in a safe place. I have had to take my right hand ring off this time but my wedding band hasn’t caused any issues yet. I’ll probably do the same with the cheapie if it does become an issue. I am so used to having the ring there it bugs the hell out me when I take it off.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014 BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@kosmo86: Not fun about your work. I don't suppose there's a way to make things that happen when you're gone someone else's responsibility even when you come back? Like, you started this, you finish it?
@professormama: DD has recently been begging to have underwear overnight, but she has to drink water to fall asleep so she's always got a full pull-up first thing in the a.m. I'm over it needing to be dealt with before I finish coffee, buuuuut also too pregnant to launch a full-scale overnight potty training right now.
@lin0442: That happens to me all the time! I made a pasta that was supposed to serve 6 last night, thinking it'd be for dinner, lunch today, and dinner today. DH ate half of it in one go because he didn't have time for lunch at work. I would never deny him food, but I might make him cook dinner tonight.
@mesweettea: My hands have been swelling much less this pregnancy, too! I think it might be because it's like 40 out instead of 100? But I'm glad to put off needing to set my rings away; it's one of my least favorite parts of third trimester, like, dude, can't I keep anything that's part of my normal extrinsic identity? Nope? Okay then.
@TheSouffleGirl umm yeah. My son always complains about his pull up and asks to wear underwear, but he wakes up any time between 3:30am and 6:30am with a fully wet pull up. He's 4 and otherwise totally potty trained, so I asked his doctor about if I needed to work harder on overnight potty training. She gave me a resounding "no!" She said it's just developmental, and eventually they'll start having dry pull ups, and don't bother until then.
@TheSouffleGirl Haha, that sounds familiar. Sometimes I’ll be sitting there thinking ‘pls take more side dish, pls take more side dish...’ then he comes back from the kitchen with two more chicken thighs on his plate. I’ve given up on recipes that utilize leftover meat.
So far I haven’t gotten puffy yet. I want to buy some new shoes but I feel like it’s a huge gamble at this stage... My shoes and handbag are so worn out, but I feel guilty about any kind of splurge right now.
@mesweettea@thatbaintforbetty I had swelling really bad at the end of my first pregnancy so I went without a ring (and was so uncomfortable that IDGAF what anyone thought). I don't have the swelling issues (yet) but they also didn't happen until 35/36 weeks with DD. If it happens again, I'll see if I can wear just DD birthstone ring (that I wear with my wedding ring) since it's a singleton versus my wedding bands which are soldered together and just suck at getting off and on when I'm swollen.
I don't really feel or look swollen, but I must be a little because I've already taken off my rings. And I'm in a very religious area of Utah, so I feel like I'm already getting looks! Haha. I just dare someone to say something.
I haven't been wearing my rings for weeks now. I don't even know if they fit or not, I just can't be bothered anymore hahha. I always assumed a pregnant woman not wearing a ring was because she was swollen. But also, she could just not be married - and there's nothing wrong with that!!!! It's 2019. People need to get over it.
H and I have restarted our hunt for a used van and I am hating it. Our mechanic (whom I trust completely, he does all the work on all my family's and all of BIL's family's vehicles. He is one of those mechanics who will tell you want needs to be fixed right now and what could wait, he's awesome) and H keep talking me out of certain ones I like. If it were up to me we would have bought one months ago, but H wants everything inspected and double inspected, and a carfax report and by the time we spend a couple hundred on that we have never bought the van, or it's sold to someone else. I know we need to have things inspected and be safe since I'll be driving our kids around, but damn - I just want my van already!!!!!
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I’m so far behind I don’t know how to repspond to everyone.
I went to Urgent Care last night (at the request of my Obgyn) and tested positive for influenza A. DD and DS both have it too now. Luckily I just had to call their doctor and she sent in a Tamiflu prescription without having to bring them in for an appointment I don’t know what’s worse, this crazy migraine, peeing my pants all the time from the coughing attacks, or watching my babies suffer. So thankful my mom is here to help and DH was able to take a day off work. FYI I read this news article about a tea at Starbucks called the Medicine Ball. DH got it for me and I do feel slightly better. It basically tastes like warm lemonade. Highly recommend it
We got the response back from our building and they’re willing to let us break our lease to move into a bigger place (in our building), but all of the provisions make it impossible for us to say yes. We would have to wait til March 23rd (for our current lease to be half up) and give 60 days notice. I’m officially full term on March 23rd so DH said no. He’s worried that it’s too close to the end, we want to be mostly ready for LO’s arrival vs starting completely from scratch in a new apartment. I’m also likely transitioning into working from home for the remainder of my pregnancy at that point, so it really prevents us from getting settled and moving without making it beyond stressful. So for now we’ll be making due, likely paying for a hotel room for my mom for a big chunk of her stay to keep me sane, and we’ll just have more time to find a new place for when our lease is up. There are upsides, but I’ve been pretty bummed about it. I would have rather they said no from the start instead of me getting my hopes up.
@mermaidca You’re in Alberta, right? We’ll be buying our pre-owned van from a goauto dealership in Red Deer or Edmonton. I got my car from goauto and it was so hassle free because they’ve already been inspected, cleaned, certified, etc. Plus there’s a return policy and the vehicles are often still under warranty. I think this is actually the case if you buy certified used from any dealership but then again it may not be AS good of a deal as a private sale so - trade offs, I guess. I have mega minivan love and can’t wait to get my hands on one
@mermaidca thank you. I feel better now that I ranted about it most of the day and had a good cry. DH keeps pointing out the positives which is helpful. LO is being super active tonight and DH has felt a whole bunch of kicks and movements, which always cheers me up. Helps remind me what’s really important rather than focus on the negative.
@jlklec19 I'm glad you're feeling a bit better. I totally get focusing on the negative. I feel like all I've done since August is complain. I'm sure whatever happens you and your little fam will be great!
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I am SOOO tired I am having a hard time keeping up with this thread.
I took a half day yesterday bc I just felt super pregnant and hormonal. Got stuff done had a good afternoon and then went to slept but I had the WORST pregsomnia and was up most of the night and now I am exhausted and need to make it through this whole day. Only 8 hrs to go
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kosmo86 I’m right there with you - thank you for my new favorite term “pregsomnia”. Hopefully you make it through the day and can get some sleep tonight!
@mrstmoose - I noticed that a couple of times I have taken unisom the next day I had a headache so I have avioded it. But i will take it tonight. I mean thats what Tylenol is for.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Day 3 of my back being bad (but way better today than yesterday...just no lifting DD) and DH is convinced we need a childcare solution. I told him about au pairs and looked up the cost (a little less than $20k/year) vs the 5-day cost for DD and this LO at the daycare up the street (a little more than $30k/year) and now he’s convinced we should get an au pair and set up one of our Airbnb apts (same house) as the bedroom for an au pair and a giant nursery/playroom for the kids. I’m not opposed.
@lyse01 if we didn’t have my mom mostly available and had space I would absolutely consider it now.
If we end up being crazy enough to even consider a third I think we probably would put that cost in to see if it would even be financially feasible to have a third. Cause I’d definitely need more full time type help with 3 like DD. She’s a fucking crazy pants.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014 BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@lyse01, yeah, I would be flat broke if I had to pay for daycare. And I don't even consider our area that expensive. That doesn't sound like a bad idea, though!
@thatbaintforbetty, if we even think about a third, finances are definitely going to be a factor in that decision. It's crazy to think my parents raised 8 kids on a single (teacher, to boot) income.
This snowstorm is seriously wrecking my plans to get the drywall up in our nursery this weekend. *grumpy face* Nesting anxiety is setting in hard.
This being our third I'm having the debate about childcare vs. going back to work. After paying for childcare I'd only be taking home like a 1/3 of my paycheque. So I'm not sure it's worth the fight. And I desperately miss my kids. That's been a big factor in me finishing up that personal trainer certification. There was talk before about me taking in a couple kids as a private dayhome as well if I am to stay home. It's a tough decision and I wish families wouldn't have to go broke to raise their children. The great thing, it I have the year mat leave to really think about it and work out the math.
Also, totally random, anyone have recommendations on an electric kids toothbrush? My son's dentist suggested getting one. Oral B versus Sonicare? Just wondering if the $20 difference really matters or if I should just get the cheaper rechargeable option....
@kangstadt we just keep getting DS the Arm & Hammer Spinbrushes. He likes that he gets to pick a new character every couple months (right now Black Panther, last time Mario, we've had Skye, Marshall and Chase as well) and I like that it's cheap enough that when he inevitably gets sick or flings it in the toilet I can have like, 3 on back-up.
@mermaidca I wish I was exaggerating. I have done a lot of babysitting in my time and been around tons of kids. Every time somebody meets her they are first charmed and then shocked. She does not slow down, she does not have any other speeds other then Mach 10. She will run into doors, walls, windows like it’s nothing. She’s absolutely nuts. (Side not my phone tried to autocorrect nuts to mutant and that totally fits and made me laugh) She will also destroy with no regard. Oh these two metal pieces are welded together and never meant to separate? Challenge accepted. Anything that can come apart and somethings that can’t/aren’t ever supposed to come apart are not safe near her.
She’s got DHs penchant for finding out out how things work/fit together/come apart and my unintentional super strength/roughness on objects. She’s a combination of terrifying and impressive and we generally refer to her as an explosion contained within a person.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014 BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@rennie1108 yes, I'm in Canada. I know how lucky we are to have the year maternity leave. It's not 100% full pay so it can be a bit tight at times, but I am so very grateful for it. I do not understand how America is not on board with it.
Daycare is expensive, its will be about 2/3 of my paycheck too. I have debated staying home but DD LOVES her daycare. She learns so much there and gets lots of socialization that a big reason I don't work quit working is bc I honestly think she is better off going them not.
Plus the extra money I make goes to vacations and savings.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I’m getting nervous about childcare because we should be hearing from the center by our house soon. It can have a massive waitlist. If we don’t get it, our other options will be a pain in the butt for our commutes. My parents can watch our little one a couple days a week, but they’re getting older and I don’t want them to get burned out.
I wish we had the option to put them in daycare when they’re over a year, rather than just a few months- I just feel like they don’t benefit from the socialization as much when they’re infants. Plus, I don’t want to deal with pumping at work and we’d struggle for health benefits and money without my check, but ugh USA #1 I guess.
I have 3 in daycare. My oldest DD is only there before/after school. I paid 25k in daycare last year. That’s enough to make you want to puke. We’ve decided unless I go back to school to finish my RN there’s no point in my going back to work with 4.
@fuzzywombat Yes! Not to freak you out, but there were quite a few daycares I looked at that 1+ year waitlist. I'm glad I found one that I really liked that had a spot open in July when I need them. The other ones I looked at were just ok and I could go to them in a pinch, but it seems like a lot of the really good ones have those crazy wait lists. It's insane. Now I'm really curious as to how much people spend on daycare dependent on where you live. I've mentioned it before, but we are moving to LA next year sometime. I'm hoping it's after LO turns 1 so it gets a teensy bit cheaper (or not, depending on the daycare), but I'm terrified at how much more we'll be spending. I still make too much to justify staying home, especially with just 1 child. But still. I think we'll spend about 12k in Utah for just the one kiddo. I'm anticipating probably double that for LA?
The one thing I haven't done at all is look for a pediatrician. Granted, they're a little easier to get into than daycare, but we will see the pediatrician first before daycare starts! I had better get on that.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@professormama: DD has recently been begging to have underwear overnight, but she has to drink water to fall asleep so she's always got a full pull-up first thing in the a.m. I'm over it needing to be dealt with before I finish coffee, buuuuut also too pregnant to launch a full-scale overnight potty training right now.
@lin0442: That happens to me all the time! I made a pasta that was supposed to serve 6 last night, thinking it'd be for dinner, lunch today, and dinner today. DH ate half of it in one go because he didn't have time for lunch at work. I would never deny him food, but I might make him cook dinner tonight.
@mesweettea: My hands have been swelling much less this pregnancy, too! I think it might be because it's like 40 out instead of 100? But I'm glad to put off needing to set my rings away; it's one of my least favorite parts of third trimester, like, dude, can't I keep anything that's part of my normal extrinsic identity? Nope? Okay then.
So far I haven’t gotten puffy yet. I want to buy some new shoes but I feel like it’s a huge gamble at this stage... My shoes and handbag are so worn out, but I feel guilty about any kind of splurge right now.
I just went rambling. Sorry guys.
H and I have restarted our hunt for a used van and I am hating it. Our mechanic (whom I trust completely, he does all the work on all my family's and all of BIL's family's vehicles. He is one of those mechanics who will tell you want needs to be fixed right now and what could wait, he's awesome) and H keep talking me out of certain ones I like. If it were up to me we would have bought one months ago, but H wants everything inspected and double inspected, and a carfax report and by the time we spend a couple hundred on that we have never bought the van, or it's sold to someone else. I know we need to have things inspected and be safe since I'll be driving our kids around, but damn - I just want my van already!!!!!
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I went to Urgent Care last night (at the request of my Obgyn) and tested positive for influenza A. DD and DS both have it too now. Luckily I just had to call their doctor and she sent in a Tamiflu prescription without having to bring them in for an appointment
I don’t know what’s worse, this crazy migraine, peeing my pants all the time from the coughing attacks, or watching my babies suffer. So thankful my mom is here to help and DH was able to take a day off work.
FYI I read this news article about a tea at Starbucks called the Medicine Ball. DH got it for me and I do feel slightly better. It basically tastes like warm lemonade. Highly recommend it
We got the response back from our building and they’re willing to let us break our lease to move into a bigger place (in our building), but all of the provisions make it impossible for us to say yes. We would have to wait til March 23rd (for our current lease to be half up) and give 60 days notice. I’m officially full term on March 23rd so DH said no. He’s worried that it’s too close to the end, we want to be mostly ready for LO’s arrival vs starting completely from scratch in a new apartment. I’m also likely transitioning into working from home for the remainder of my pregnancy at that point, so it really prevents us from getting settled and moving without making it beyond stressful. So for now we’ll be making due, likely paying for a hotel room for my mom for a big chunk of her stay to keep me sane, and we’ll just have more time to find a new place for when our lease is up. There are upsides, but I’ve been pretty bummed about it. I would have rather they said no from the start instead of me getting my hopes up.
@jlklec19 what a mess!! Sorry that's happening.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
goauto dealership in Red Deer or Edmonton. I got my car from goauto and it was so hassle free because they’ve already been inspected, cleaned, certified, etc. Plus there’s a return policy and the vehicles are often still under warranty. I think this is actually the case if you buy certified used from any dealership but then again it may not be AS good of a deal as a private sale so - trade offs, I guess. I have mega minivan love and can’t wait to get my hands on one
@jlklec19 I'm glad you're feeling a bit better. I totally get focusing on the negative. I feel like all I've done since August is complain. I'm sure whatever happens you and your little fam will be great!
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I took a half day yesterday bc I just felt super pregnant and hormonal. Got stuff done had a good afternoon and then went to slept but I had the WORST pregsomnia and was up most of the night and now I am exhausted and need to make it through this whole day. Only 8 hrs to go
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@jlklec19 I'm sorry it didn't work out but it may also be a blessing in disguise when things like that fall through.
@kosmo86 I didn't take my Unisom tab last night and I deeply regretted it. I didn't get restful sleep at all.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
If we end up being crazy enough to even consider a third I think we probably would put that cost in to see if it would even be financially feasible to have a third. Cause I’d definitely need more full time type help with 3 like DD. She’s a fucking crazy pants.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@thatbaintforbetty, if we even think about a third, finances are definitely going to be a factor in that decision. It's crazy to think my parents raised 8 kids on a single (teacher, to boot) income.
This snowstorm is seriously wrecking my plans to get the drywall up in our nursery this weekend. *grumpy face* Nesting anxiety is setting in hard.
@thatbaintforbetty I spit out some tea at "fucking crazy pants"
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Luckily, we are able to easily afford daycare with two, but we would be a little strapped if we decide to have a 3rd. But by then DD should be in K.
She’s got DHs penchant for finding out out how things work/fit together/come apart and my unintentional super strength/roughness on objects. She’s a combination of terrifying and impressive and we generally refer to her as an explosion contained within a person.
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Me:32 DH:33 Married:04/2012 DD:07/2014
BFP 8/14/2018 #2 due 4/18/2019
@thatbaintforbetty That's nuts. Godspeed to you with this LO.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Plus the extra money I make goes to vacations and savings.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I wish we had the option to put them in daycare when they’re over a year, rather than just a few months- I just feel like they don’t benefit from the socialization as much when they’re infants. Plus, I don’t want to deal with pumping at work and we’d struggle for health benefits and money without my check, but ugh USA #1 I guess.