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kosmo86 · January 2019

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kosmo86 · January 2019

What to freak yourself out... search for "Random" on Giphy.com... WTAF

kosmo86 · January 2019

So I really thought I had more time to be "comfortable".

I walked wrong today and now my hip hurts and all I had was a cup of tea and cereal and now I have heartburn. I had the WORST heartburn last time around. Even things that are known to help heartburn like oatmeal gave me heartburn. Time to bust out the costco size bottle of TUMS

ysotte · January 2019

It’s finally my day off after the longest most exhausting week ever. I’m so happy. If anyone from work tries to call, I’m not answering.

MRDCle · January 2019

@kosmo86 sorry about the heartburn. It was the worst symptom I had with DS. It's so terrible.

We had an insane weekend at home. Nephews slept over on Sat, got a new couch delivered, cleaned my ass off, and DH did a ton of work in the attic to get it ready for DS. Yesterday evening MIL came over for me to help her out with some insurance stuff and ended up chilling with DS and folding towels while I made some stroganoff (for last night) and goulash (for tomorrow night). When I sat down at 9pm I was DEAD tired. And these freaking BH are no fun.

lin0442 · January 2019

@MRDCle Definitely too busy a weekend. I could use a do-over too.

DH finally finished the floor in the nursery, so we have a place to put baby stuff and can clean up his makeshift workshop. I went and reorganized/refolded all our clothes and linens, which were getting to be too much of a mess. Tbh, I was mostly sick of accidentally grabbing non-maternity clothes. Lots of cleaning on top of it. Went to bed early but had extremely crummy dreams, so I’m not ready at all to start the week.

lyse01 · January 2019

@lin0442 a stretchy shirt that has worked thus far as maternity wear is sliding up on my bump 😩 gonna have to shop again for maternity clothes so I have more than 2 shirts.

kosmo86 · January 2019

DH and I went through all of the clothes I have for LO. From 3 months on we are totally set BUT we have very little 0-3 and almost no newborn. I forgot I gave all my newborn stuff away. UGH. I know they newborn clothes stage doesn't last long and a couple of basic packs of onsies and pants will do just fine I just really thought I was ALL set!

TheSouffleGirl · January 2019

Toootally random, but I'm now at a point where I am really enjoying having an enhanced sense of smell. Normally I have such bad seasonal allergies that I'm either plugged or on steroids that kill my olfactory glands, but now that I'm over food aversions I'm starting to understand why people love candles and scented lotion so much. I'm basically turning into the middle school girl I never was with this Bath & Body Works lip balm and hand cream situation (their Aromatherapy line smells great for the price!).

I'm also starting to reassess the amount of perfume I wear/wore to work. 3 sprays of Chanel is probably extreme and all my co-workers secretly hate me, right? (But surely if it was that bad my husband would have said something? ) Uhh, what's a normal amount for a "real" but daytime perfume like No. 5 L'Eau?

lyse01 · January 2019

@TheSouffleGirl I always just spritz out, walk through the cloud, turn around and do it again. Maybe spritz onto a wrist and rub them together. But I am definitely not a regular fragrance wearer.

lilpotatomama · January 2019

I’m with y’all on getting organized and getting stuff ready. Taking a big trip to ikea/buy buy baby next Tuesday and I’m so pumped!
I’m also feeling a little bummed that I have so little time left, honestly. I don’t feel ready. DH and I had a looooot of problems late 2017/early 2018, and we are in such a great place right now with just us two. I’m a little nervous for how our dynamic will change.

MRDCle · January 2019

I think the past 2-3 days have been the most random posters/drivebys in the history of A19.

thatbaintforbetty · January 2019

@MRDCle I was just thinking the same.

Piccola1988 · January 2019

So I fell off the face of the earth because I am up to my eyeballs in work + toddler mom-ing + gestating/baby prep, but I had a free minute while listening in on a very dull conference call, so I wanted to say hi and that I hope everyone's pregnancy has been going well! Glad I apparently picked rando week to pop back in - I probably fit that category since it's most likely 50/50 at best whether I'm remembered here after several months!

MRDCle · January 2019

I say you qualify for "non-random" status @Piccola1988! BTW - Hi there!

lyse01 · January 2019

@Piccola1988 yay! I was worried about you.

sheepshepherdess · January 2019

@Piccola1988 don’t worry, a number of us post on and off! Including me. You just have to make it memorable when you do come post

professormama · January 2019

@kosmo86 the heartburn is soooo miserable. I've had it really bad this week too. All the tums. If you get really desperate, there are a lot of OTCs that are pregnancy safe. I take omeprazole on and off.

TheSouffleGirl · January 2019

@lilpotatomama: I'm sorry to hear you had a rough time, and am glad things are going better. It's hard when things aren't right at home.

FWIW I felt like my relationship with DH only got better once we had DD, because then we had a huuuuge shared project with more at stake than just our egos and ticks. That's not to say that certain things didn't get harder (we got a lot more competitive/protective of our work time/free time, and had to switch on-and-off vs doing things together so it was easier to get out of touch), but on the whole having a "common enemy" really helped us take things to a whole new (good) level.

lilpotatomama · January 2019

Random: have y’all bmb lurkers noticed that May and June 19 are both pretty much dead? Especially June. They both have private bump groups already.

MRDCle · January 2019

@lilpotatomama June does too? WTF. I think my Feb15 FB group started in Dec. This seems REAL hasty.

professormama · January 2019

I just want a nap y'all. Today is the first day back to work for me, and while I've been incredibly impatient for the break to be over, I'm sooooo exhausted. It doesn't help that no matter how long I do this job, I always have trouble sleeping the night before classes begin.

lilpotatomama · January 2019

@MRDCle June had a TON of drama a week or so ago with members getting banned and getting warnings. They were defending regulars from a drive by poster. I guess they decided to avoid it all by going private!

MRDCle · January 2019

@lilpotatomama what?! How did I miss the drama!!

batmama31 · January 2019

@kosmo86, my heartburn came back HARD for like, 2 days, and then it disappeared. and just like you, it was triggered by oatmeal! knock on wood mine doesn't come back, and I'm hoping yours is as brief as mine was!

I think I might cry from frustration. my sister who lives 9hrs away just got discharged from the military so she's a stay-at-home-mom/wife until TBD. so last month she offered to come up and stay w/ us when the baby is due so she can watch my 4yo while we're in L&D. she & her husband are known to bend over backwards for their military friends and for his family, but my husband and I have noticed that her side of the family is like an afterthought to her husband, and she just rolls w/ it. (so it seems, idk if she puts up a fight behind closed doors.) my husband and I knew to not count on her coming out based on all of this. but today she confirmed that she can't come out in april. so now I'm shitting bricks. we have NO family in-state. and things are a tad rocky w/ our parents. I can't count on my dad or his wife for shit, my mom and I had a giant falling out, and my MIL is recently recovered from a stroke. (on top of that, my husband vowed to cut her off, there's a long story behind that.)

guys, we're fucked.

has anyone else been in this situation? what did you do? what do you recommend? we aren't church folk, please don't suggest we seek church help.

I concede that we might've made our own bed here, what w/ our relationships w/ our moms right now. there's just a super convoluted fucked up backstory to why me & mom are where we're at right now. and likewise for husband and his mom.

is it too late to consider a home birth? haha..

rennie1108 · January 2019

lyse01 said:

@lin0442 a stretchy shirt that has worked thus far as maternity wear is sliding up on my bump 😩 gonna have to shop again for maternity clothes so I have more than 2 shirts.

I've had so much luck with amazon shirts! Cheap and easy to return. If you want specifics, I can send you some links.

angelob88 · January 2019

@batmama31 I wish I had a suggestion that helped. This is the first birth we've had since having a kid so we didn't need to worry about it with DD. I'm already in the homebirth category and am a huge advocate for it so I can honestly say it's never too late to make that choice if you find a midwife group you trust...but even with a homebirth they recommend having someone come over at the very least to tend to siblings because you and SO won't be able to focus on birthing time if you have to also take care of the kids. My MIL and mom are coming over to tend to DD during birth time should we need them. Do you have close friends in the area that may be able to watch your 4yo? Or even a babysitter you use that might be able to be on call if need be?

professormama · January 2019

@batmama31 this may not feel like a good option for you, but it's something to keep in mind as a last resort. When my mom had her kids, she actually took her children to the hospital with her (you'll have to check with your hospital and see if they allow it). So, I witnessed two of my sisters being born (the third is adopted). My dad then just went home with us after the birth since we obviously couldn't stay, the whole family, in the hospital for days. When my sister who was closest in age to me was born I was 5 years old so my mom hired a mother's helper / doula to come and watch and entertain me during the birth, then when I was older, I played that role for my younger sister during the birth. I realize a lot of people might be uncomfortable with their young child witnessing child birth, and honestly, I'm not taking my 4 year old to watch me do it, but seeing my sisters born really was one of the most incredible experiences of my entire life (second only to bearing my own child) and I will NEVER forget it.

HGRich · January 2019

Well, I posted the check ins because I thought all day today it was the 15th. Lol. But hey, now we’re back to Mondays.

@batmama31 I wonder if that would at all fall under services of a postpartum doula? I’ve never used one but I wish I had with DD. If she came and helped you labor at home until time to leave, stayed with your LO while you were in hospital, and then provided her postpartum services for a week after? I have no idea what that would cost though either. My only other thought would be hiring a nanny.

I have heard of home daycares who care for kids while parents work night shifts occasionally taking a kid for odd hours during a situation like that. But of course I’d rather have a nanny come to my home.

booksandlace · January 2019

@batmama31 do you have any friends who would be willing to watch your 4 yo? That's tough

booksandlace · January 2019

I'm on the last day of a 9 day vacation from work. I spent most of it organizing my house after watching Marie Kondo haha. The nesting right now is real yo

I'm sooooo dreading going back to work tomorrow though. I only work 3-4 days/week right now but there's so much drama in my workplace it's so stressful

lyse01 · January 2019

@lilpotatomama really? I don’t regularly lurk June and totally missed it.

@rennie1108 i’ll get back to you on shirts

@batmama31 your kid is in daycare right? Does he have friends whose parents he knows? That’s where I’d start. My neighbor/play date mom is my tentative plan for MOTN trips to the hospital while my parents get into town (and probably for the week after or so too, to give us all a break). Also a doula might be your bff here.

@HGRich good work on getting us back to Monday

batmama31 · January 2019

@angelob88, @booksandlace, we have a couple of close friends, but I'm afraid to ask them for a favor this large. what if I deliver mid week? in the middle of the night? what if I'm in labor for 24+hrs? not to mention the hospital stay. we were in the hospital for 5 days after I delivered my son, due to his low birth weight/low blood sugar.

@professormama, I am actually not opposed at all to having my son w/ us in the hospital. I'm just operating under the assumption that children aren't allowed. but I suppose I should confirm that before I freak out.

@lyse01, he is in daycare, but it's not that kind of daycare, unfortunately. also, we don't have friends w/ kids. we're terrible people.

I cried all the way home over this & when I got home, my husband was like, "what's wrong, you look like you're about to cry." and I told him I already did. and when I told him over what he was like, "you don't need to worry about that. I'll take care of it." and that was it.

he's fucking awesome.

but thank you all, for the advice!

harveyisaboysname · January 2019

I think last time I posted and disappeared it was about our housing situation not going well. I’m happy to say that DH and my cousin have kicked ass clearing out one of the rooms. The ball is rolling on this hoarding disaster! We are renting a dumpster this weekend so we can dump all the crap in the two other rooms and get started on the bathroom. We got great news that basically they ( my grandma and aunt) don’t want to pay for the renovations but will not be charging us rent while we are fixing it up. So basically we get more say in how the place is renovated. My parents also might not be renting our current place out as soon as we thought. FINGERS CROSSED! We find out at the end of this month. It would be sooooo helpful to have the entire summer to work on the renovations rather than stressing to get something done in less than a month.

kangstadt · January 2019

@booksandlace, ugh, I hate drama. I only work 4 days a week as well, but it's with all women and some days it's just ridiculous... fingers crossed this week isn't terrible for you!

@harveyisaboysname, good luck! I hope it all works out. Being able to have a say in the renovations would be nice.

We got a bunch of work done in the nursery today. Still just demo-ing/cleaning up so we can re-hang drywall, but, it was DH's day off and I think he finally took my nesting anxiety seriously and hunkered down on it. Hopefully by this weekend we'll have new drywall up so we can do flooring and paint before DH gets swamped with work, haha.

fuzzywombat · January 2019

Today definitely felt like a Monday. I really wanted to leave work early and take a nap, but I didn’t. Judging by how much work I actually got accomplished I should’ve gone with the nap...

professormama · January 2019

Is anyone else’s social media completely full of that 10 year / aging “challenge”? Everyone is posting about how they need to start working out more or Botox or whatever. And I just keep thinking - I wouldn’t go back to being 24 again for anything. I’m so much happier, healthier, and steadier now than I was in my early 20s. Here’s to the next 10 years and things getting even better in mid-life.

angelob88 · January 2019

@professormama yes but I'm on the same page you are and I'm happy where I'm at in life. I may not have the same body because of these babies but I don't need to fault myself for that. Plus I have an amazing husband now, no longer struggling financially, and am more mature. 10 years ago was smack dab in the middle of my hard core party stage. Internet cheers for the next 10!

kosmo86 · January 2019

@professormama - I LOVE my 30s. Why would i want to go back to my 20s! I have money, a house, DD with another on the way. BUT most of the people I see post that are people I know don't have their shit together.

@batmama31 - I am sorry you are in this position. My Dad is about 2 hrs away and my mom is pretty unreliable so I do feel you. Are saving grace is that I know I am having a repeat c-section so we can kind of plan things. I also have a short list of coworkers I would call in an emergency.

MRDCle · January 2019

Love that update @harveyisaboysname!

@professormama I have tons of those in my timeline, but nobody is really talking about hitting the gym or anything. The only one I eyerolled at was a woman saying she looked exactly the same (spoiler, she doesn't) but whatever ha. And I agree. 30 is much better for me than 18!

thatbaintforbetty · January 2019

@professormama I’m not on Facebook much but I’ve caught a couple. I’m absolutely happier now then in my 20s.

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