July 2019 Moms

Loves/Hates/Recs?

PanaceiaPanaceia member
edited January 2019 in July 2019 Moms
I noticed a lot of FTMs mentioning that they are getting stressed thinking about gift registries and what they need to buy. There was a thread like this on my old BMB that I found hugely helpful when deciding what I wanted/needed to buy as a FTM.

I thought we could list the baby stuff we loved and couldn't live without, the things we hated and would not purchase again, and maybe the things we need and might want recs for?
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Re: Loves/Hates/Recs?

  • Loves:
    Ergo (the thing I used the most)
    Halo sleep sacks
    Peg perego convertible car seat

    Hates:
    Bouncy seat (DD hate it)
    My Baby Trend infant car seat (luckily it is expired so I don't have to use it again!)

    Needs:
    Halo bassinet (just while recovering from RCS)
    New car seat (I think I'm going straight to the peg perego convertible that I have for DD).
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  • Needs- 
    big swaddle blankets 
    white noise machine 
    rock n play 

    hate- 
    diaper genie 

    recs- 
    tommee tippee pacifiers are the only ones my kids would take. When My other friends babies are struggling with their baby taking a paci, I always tell them to try tommee tippee and their babies end up loving it 
  • key33key33 member
    edited January 2019
    Needs
    - Graco Baby Swing (that swings side to side) - Both my kids preferred this to anything else and it saved us from a lot of sleepless nights.
    - Swaddle me originals (my kids lived in these as newborns)
    Boppy (even not breastfeeding, we used it daily for 6+ months)

    Hate
    - Bumbo (or other similar seat things)
    - Full size high chairs (waste of space)
    - Wipe/bottle warmers (I never bothered but I had friends who did and when they were not home to use them their kids went into panic mode).

    Recs
    - Sleep sacs
    - Mam pacifiers (only one's both my kids used)
    - Dr Brown Bottles (lots of parts to clean but if you have spit up issues they were the most helpful for us and we tried a lot of bottles).

  • Loves: 
    MamaRoo

    Rock N Play

    Avent bottles 

    Ergo Carrier 

    DockATot

    Bonds Wondersuits (hard to find in US/Canada but if you can ship them from Australia they are simply the best!!!) 

    Hates: 
    Over the shoulder/purse diaper bags. This time forsure getting a diaper backpack!

    Any sleeper that snapped/ buttoned up. Zippers ALL. THE. WAY. 

    Baby shoes - just not necessary in newborn stage 

    Angelcare bath support- much prefer the baby bathtub with a sling or built in support. 

    Reccomends: 

    All the products in my Loves is rec!! 

    Also for FTM Id reccomend investing in a stroller that can convert into double easily when baby 2 comes. Like City Select or Uppa. 
     
  • Love:
    Halo Sleep Swaddles (velcro swaddle!)
    Graco Swing 
    Joovy Glass Bottles
    Kindle Fire for white noise 
    Frog sit me up chair (lifesaver) 
    Rock n' Play

    Hate: 
    Mamaroo swing (total waste of money for my kids, they hated it)

    ...still thinking about things I disliked, but that's hard. I love wipe warmers and never had any problems with my kids being spoiled because of them. I also love bottle warmers and a lot of stuff people hate on. 


     


  • Love:
    Moby wrap. Very comfortable and my son loved being snuggled and close to me. It was perfect for shopping or going out to eat. It also kept people from touching him.

    Aiden and Anais muslin blankets. Light weight, they will be perfect for our summer babes. Plus they double as swaddles, burp clothes, floor blankets, and whatever else.
    breast pump both electric and hand pump. I ended up exclusively pumping so I spent a lot of time with mine.

    Glider in the nursery. I’ve used it everyday since he was born.

    BOB stroller. 

    Maxi Cosi convertible car seat. My son loves this seat and is an excellent traveler.

    Hate

    Diaper Genie. Such a pain. I just wrap dirty diapers in a grocery bag before tossing now.
  • What’s so amazing about this thread is how some lives are another mommas hates. Which is the advice I always give! While it’s totally tempting to tear off all the tags and wash them and get everything ready, resist! 

    Some babies never ever want to be swaddled (both my boys hated it) so I wasted all the SwaddleMes. Some babies (also mine, haha) never fit in newborn clothes or diapers. And so on and so on!

    My loves:
    bouncy seat. They loved it and it gave me a break.
    Ergo! 
    Graco Infant Seat
    Diaper Genie
    Nose Frida

    Hates: 
    SwaddleMes only because they weren’t fans
    Bamboo blankets 

    Need: 
    A new infant seat

    hmm... 


  • Sorry... I got carried away...

    LOVE:
    Moby Wrap - I preferred this one for the first three months

    Ergo baby carrier - I preferred this one for months 3-6

    Boppy - A MUST if you are breastfeeding

    A cheap umbrella stroller to keep in every car. So handy when you go to the mall or park or wherever

    A great stroller - Go to a store and try them out to see what you prefer. Consider how well it will fold up into your car. Base your carseat on what fits in the stroller

    Rock n' play sleeper - The only thing our daughter would sleep in for the first month. Great, because it folds up small.

    A bassinet with wheels - I loved being able to easily move our bassinet to whatever room

    A baby monitor with video - It still comes in handy when she is playing alone in her room, and I can watch to ensure she isn't getting into trouble.

    Doggy poop bags - Sounds weird, but we keep these in our diaper bag for when we have poo diapers while out and about. So great for when you are at someone else's house and don't know what to do with a nasty poop diaper

    Travel wet bag - Even if you aren't cloth diapering, these are great to have in your diaper bag in case an outfit gets soiled.

    Disposable baby food mats - Great to keep in diaper bag for restaurants

    Silicone bibs and baby plates that stick to the table, so they can't throw their food

    Bottle warmer - Some people hate them, but I loved it!

    HATE:

    Safe sleep alert system - We were too exhausted and life was too chaotic for us to put it on her or worry about false alarms.

    I second the hatred of diaper bags with one shoulder strap. I'm going for a backpack this time too!

    Baby food maker - ... just use your blender and put the food in an ice tray in freezer. But I definitely recommend making you own baby food. It is really easy, and then you don't have to store 3,230,302,20384 baby food containers.

    Diaper Genie - If your baby is breastfed, then their poop won't even stink until they start eating solid foods. After that, we just started putting the poo diapers in doggy poop bags.

    Fancy bottles - We bought all these fancy bottles and never used them. Our daughter was just fine with the Medela bottles, and it was so much easier to feed her in the same bottle that I pumped into.

    Bras designed for pumping - I just hated the way they felt when not pumping. I also hated the things that you put on just to hold the pump in place. I usually ended up just pumping one boob at the time to avoid all of this. A friend suggested buying cheap sports bras and cutting a small hole in them. That is probably what I'll do this time.

    Cloth bibs - NO, and YUCK! Get yourself a couple of silicone bibs that you wash in the sink.

    Any kind of bottle cleaner - ..... just boil everything in a giant pot. No need for special microwave pan things.

    Stokke highchair - I bought one used (they are crazy expensive new). It looks "pretty" compared to other highchairs, but don't let that and the high retail price distract you. They are awful! Baby did not seem secure at all. I much prefer the giant, chunky ugly highchairs. haha.

    Toys that have a million plastic pieces, make loud noises, and are bright colored - This is inevitable, but I hate it. I wish we could have stuck to just a few wooden beautiful toys that allow her to use her own imagination, but alas.. everyone gifts you the plastic stuff. It doesn't even matter though, because the kid just ends up playing with random household objects like spoons, water bottles, the toilet brush... :neutral:








  • Love
    uppababy mesa infant car seat
    naty diapers
    aden and anais bamboo swaddle blankets and muslin swaddlers 
    baby k’tan wrap
    beco Gemini carrier 
    Levana baby monitor 
    4moms breeze + bassinet - it was so heavy but it was used right away In our room and later we ditched the crib for it because it was roomy, comfy and sturdy up until the bed switch 

    hate
    buying a Britax convertible car seat first, it didn’t fit DS well as an infant, did not recline enough, was so big and heavy to take on a plane and when we did it broke. 
    Mamaroo - paid for it with gift cards and still a waste. DS did not really like it. It wasn’t soothing. 
    Prefold cloth diapers- too many leaks on a skinny baby 

    recs
    convertible cribs aren’t necessary, your tastes or your kids tastes may change by the time they are ready for a bed
    buy second hand for 0-12 basics, they grow fast, save some money and don’t feel bad if things get stained. 
    Buy a few different bottles, baby’s preferences change and we went thru phases with born free, joovy boob, dr brown and a few others and all nipple flows are not alike across dif brands 
    you don’t need a sterilizer 
  • I must add I borrowed a Bumbo and also hated it!

    I second @nicholeL16 and @strickland8052 on the Diaper Genie. The filter broke and wouldn't stay on the lid so we ended up keeping in the garage because the diapers would still end up stinking. I don't think you even need a genie for the stink. Whether breast or formula fed (other than for convenience) until 6 months. If anyone recommends a different kind where I don't have to push the diaper down into the can (EW) I'd maybe try another brand.

  • Loves:
    • NoseFrida x 100000000!
    • mamaRoo
    • Wildbird ring slings
    • Rock 'n Play
    • Boppy
    • Boppy Lounger
    • Baby Merlin's Magic Sleepsuit
    • HALO sleepsack swaddles
    • Silicone bibs
    • Comotomo bottles

    Hates:
    • Dr. Brown bottles (such a pain to clean - was glad my LO did not like them)
    • Moby wrap (felt like an acrobat putting that thing on)
    • Lillebaby (hard to buckle the back strap on my own and just felt so bulky)
    • Diaper bags with one strap (I ended up getting a Fawn Design backpack which I love)

    Needs:

    • Sound machine
    • Lots of snacks in reach for you! ;)
    • Comfortable rocking chair (love my Dutailer reclining glider)
    • Lansinoh Lanolin if breastfeeding
    • Dim nightlight for nursing/MOTN diaper changes (I used one that clipped to my shirt)
    • I highly recommend an infant car seat vs starting right off with convertible - I liked our Chicco KeyFit 30
    • Strollers - Love our Citi Mini GT and I also used the Chicco KeyFit caddy for quick trips to click the car seat into easily
  • Loves:
    Fisher Price swing (my number one must have!!)
    Dock a tot
    Cotton swaddle blankets such as Copper Pearl (they are big and stretchy so you can get a really tight swaddle)
    MAM pacifiers
    Ring sling (Wildbird)
    Backpack style diaper bag (I love my Fawn)
    Haakaa silicone breast pump/milk catcher ( my number one for breast feeding mamas! catches your letdown on opposite side you are nursing from... great to build a little freezer stash!!)
    City Select stroller

    Hates:
    Mamaroo (I still use it, but mine both preferred the swing)
    muslin swaddle blankets
    Moby wrap (never got a good fit)

    We were not minimalistic at all with our baby stuff lol. But honestly we use almost everything! Different things are great for different stages. I dont think we need anything for this one except some attachments for our stroller, another convertible carseat, and I'd like to get the skip hop activity center instead of our current exersaucer.

    Recs: If you register at several places you'll get little welcome bags which usually have small bottles in them. I'd recommend collecting a bunch of sample size bottles before buying a ton to see what your baby prefers if you plan to use a bottle!
  • Am I the only one who loves their diaper genie? 
  • Loves 
    aiden and anis swaddle blankets
    sleep sacks for later on
    chicco keyfit infant car seat 
    ergo baby carrier
    eddie Bauer backpack diaper bag

    Hates
    moby carrier, felt it was difficult to put on. Returned it
    Boppy. I preferred using a regular pillow for breastfeeding. It felt too small to go around my waist. My SIL loves it for a tummy time assist though.
  • I am going to look into the Fawn diaper bag since ya'll seem to like it!
  • For those who love dock a tot - What age(s) did you use it, and what size(s) did you get?

    I've been tempted to get it many times with my daughter. 
  • Yay!!! This is so great and hugely helpful. I am one of the FTMs who wasn't sure where to begin, so thank you for starting this, @Panaceia! Looks like I've got some research to do this weekend!
  • @strickland8052 we got it before my second was born and used it from birth until 6/7 months. He then preferred sleeping on his tummy and moved to his own room so I no longer felt comfortable using it. I got the deluxe, which is the smaller one. Apparently the grand is huge!! I have a friend whose two year old still uses the grand.
  • Love:
    - boppy! Used it all of the time, even when not nursing! 
    - muslin blankets
    -k’tan & ergo carriers
    -frog sit me up chair
    - gerber cloth diapers for burp cloths
    - pajamas that zip up from the bottom! 
    - BOB Stroller 
    - Red Bordeaux butt paste (has worked the best on my boys for any rashes)
    - infant car seat (when your baby falls asleep and you have to run in somewhere, it’s so convenient to just take the whole car seat and let baby sleep vs having to take them out and potentially wake them up)

    Hate:
    -momaroo swing (my son hated it)
    - baby socks (i know babies need to keep warm, but my kids constantly kicked them off and we always lost them. Sleepers or pants with feet on them worked better for us)

    Need:
    -I recently got a Hatch night light for my boys’ room and love it. Will definitely be getting one for the nursery
    - trying to decide on what type of high chair to do down the road 


    Like @happyin14 said, so much of what you love and hate will depend on tour baby. My boys were in newborn diapers for about a week. My first loved his pacifier and the second couldn’t care less about it. Neither of my boys liked to be swaddled, but I know plenty of babies who love it. A lot of trial and error! 



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  • @Happyin14 What bouncy seat do you have? I really wanted DD to like hers but nope. Maybe if I can find one that others liked I'll give it another shot with this one.
  • Loves:
    SwaddleMe sleep blankets, both my boys loved these! 
    Moby
    Playtex drop in bottles  - couldn't afford the fancy ones, my boys easily switched back and forth between breast and bottle. 
    Birdseye cloth diapers  - for diapering and messes, and burping and everything!
    Baby trend jogging stroller - even if you are not a jogger! It maneuvers around all sorts of terrain and is more affordable (at least it was for me) than any of the BOB strollers. I had the double for my 2 under 2 and it worked great for a couple years for us.

    Hates:
    Pacifiers - my boys hated them. Every brand.

    Needs: 
    A swing with a plug or battery option. Can be a lifesaver! 
    Bassinet perfect for c-section mamas, in room sleeping, co-sleeping, moving from room to room, small spaces... I will be using a bassinet for at least 6 months.
    An assortment of bottles, your baby may hate the first ones you try!
  • Love:
    -Hands free pumping bra (I had the Medella one)
    -Ergo 360
    -Boba fleece vest (over baby carrier, under coat in winter)
    -Aiden and Anais swaddle blankets (didn’t swaddle but loved them for wiping spit up, covering for sunlight, protecting people’s clothes, cover when BF in public...)
    -Bugaboo Bee stroller + cybex infant car seat that clicked in and worked with just a seat belt (city mom so car seat was almost exclusively for uber)

    -many many more things :) but kept it to my favorites!

    Hate:
    -0-3 month pjs with lots of snaps
    -Stokke foldable bath
    -Bathtub thermometers
    -Avent handheld pump (my body didn’t respond well -preferred using batteries in my double electric pump even if it was a bit heavy)
    -K’Tan (although I know many other moms loved it!! Possibly an issue with sizing and should have gotten a size down)

    Need:

    -At least a couple newborn size clothes. Didn’t have any for DD and she swam in 3 month things for over a month...all my first photos of her look silly!
    -Better infant bath solution than with DD (didn’t have a tub for DD but do now so that may be the solution :))




  • Ooh have to add:

    Love: simple cheep IKEA high chair
    Hate: expensive beautiful stokke high chair 

    (that one pains me still...and my bank account :))
  • @Panaceia we had the baby bjorn bouncer (bought second hand) and would consider it one of my only must have items. 

    @ketomommy I really like my diaper genie and my DD is 2.5 and we just stopped using it because she poops in the potty now. Will definitely use for the next baby. 


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  • Omg thank you so much for starting this!! I am so happy I could cry! I literally have no clue where to start in my registry! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!! ❤️
  • @strickland8052 My first used the Dock a tot from birth to about 5 months. Could be used longer but my DS outgrew fast due to his size. He's always been in the upper 95th percentile.
  • @frenchbaby18 - I'm so with you on the stokke high chair. What is it with those?! How are they even still a (very expensive) thing? My dad said "it is like she is sitting on the top of a telephone pole".  :D 
  • Not sure if this has been referenced elsewhere, but Lucie's List was my saving grace when doing registry research.  https://www.lucieslist.com/baby-registry-basics/
  • Someone talk to me more about high chair recos. We have one that is so old and beat up and disgusting I want to take it out back with a baseball bat and a can of gasoline.  H is on board with getting a new one just for this last baby. Looking for one that
    1. Doesn't take up much space (folds up)
    2. Doesn't strap to an existing chair (we don't have spare dining chairs anymore!)
    3. Is easy to clean because those things can get so filthy.

    I will for sure check out the Ikea one that a few of you mentioned.

    TIA!
  • @Cbeanz the IKEA one is small, pushes under the dining table like a regular chair, super easy to wipe down and DD liked it so I’m assuming it was comfortable! And at $15 or so you can’t go wrong :) 

    With DD I was a bit obsessive about reading blogs and choosing products without caring about prices (stupid stupid FTM)...and mostly i was very happy with my purchases other than the damn high chair! We nanny shared at our house so I had to have 2 high chairs so got the IKEA one as a backup and of course both girls fought over who got to sit in it...
  • +1 to @indulgentgypsy with the Playtex drop in bottles and the Baby trend jogging stroller. Both were amazing and I'll be using them again. 
  • Thank you @leendenny ! I need a good one.

    @rgn12 I was thinking of you:)
  • Ok so I just was drooling over the Fawn diaper backpack when I found one that looks very similar for a fraction of the price on amazon. “Miss Fong” it’s called and looks comparable, has great reviews on amazon, multiple YouTube reviews and some blogs. Considering! 


  • It's crazy how different every baby is! The two things I feel like I got the most out of with my son are his swing (napped in until he was just about a year old), white noise machine (used until he turned two, and the mama's and papa's seat which is similar to a bumbo with a tray and a removable toy tray. I loved that I could bring it almost anywhere and he could eat in it, play in it, and it was so nice before he was able to sit up on his own reliably so that I could do dishes, clean, or help other children(was nannying at the time) and he could always see me.
  • PanaceiaPanaceia member
    edited January 2019
    Similar to @shawnacrest we just used the bumbo with the play tray attachment as a high chair. We actually really liked the bumbo once she was a few months old.
  • @canuckmomma I know a few people who have tried both the fawn and miss fong and they like them both equally! Definitely a good option to save a little money!
  • I second Lucie's list!

    Loves:
    comotomo bottles - easy to clean, not plastic

    velcro swaddles

    boppy - bring this to the hospital 

    swing and/or bouncer (bring the bouncer in so you can shower!)

    fisher price bouncy saucer (neglecto-saucer)

    Phil & Teds Lobster high chair for going out (we like breweries and understandably they don't usually have high chairs. This clips to the table and folds up really small)

    Crib clip on electric/musical mobile (I rolled my eyes when DH bought this but omg it was the only thing that would put her to sleep)

    Latched mama nursing tops/sweatshirts

    Chicco keyfit car seat and bob adapter

    ALL of the burp cloths

    Ubbi diaper pail (better than genie imo)

    Hates:

    Pacis 
    Long wraps (never felt secure)
    shoulder diaper bags (also going backback for this one)
    normal swaddles (my kid was a ninja)
    bumbo chair

    Recs:
    glider chair
    snoo???!! 


  • FTM here.. and question. Do you guys recommend registering at just one place, or multiple ones? I was thinking primarily Target, but one of my friends said Amazon would be better. I just worry that amazon shifts products/inventory sometimes and I’ve seen people’s registries where a bunch of items are no longer available. Thoughts? I’m loving this thread, as I mentioned before 😂
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