ETA: our little blurb about what PGAL means back
This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL). If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation.
If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!
1. How many weeks are you?
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house?
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Re: PGAL W/O 12/31
1. How many weeks are you? 16 + 2
2. Previous loss(es)? 22w, 29w, and 6w
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I feel like just an angry person a lot of the time. And I’ve read a lot of stories in my grief support group and know it’s very normal for the stage I’m at. But it’s hard because before the twins, I was a lot more kind and patient. Now I usually ride most days out on edge. I don’t know how to explain it, but it’s like trying to put old me and new me back together and it just doesn’t fit. I basically just don’t like myself right now.
4. Any appointment updates? I need to schedule a check up and my anatomy scan. I’ve been putting it off.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? My TTTS grief support group I’m a part of features stories on their blog and mine was posted last night. I wrote it last month around their one year death anniversary. It’s long-ish, but if you want to check it out, here is the link in spoiler.
6. Any milestones coming up? The anatomy scan will be a huge one
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Our living room. I love the original built in shelves and fireplace from 1940. It’s so cozy in winter.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
2. Previous losses? None
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and Physically? My depression has been under control. I am medicated and feel fine. I got over my morning sickness to get a respiratory virus that has been lingering, so energy drained.
4. Any appointment updates? Looking forward to my checkup in a week since my 10 week ultrasound. Hoping everything is good.
5. Rants/raves/questions: Just being thankful at the moment after thinking about what others may be experiencing.
6. Any milestones coming up? My dd is turning 2.
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house. On the sofa lately (no energy) with hubby, dd, and pug.
PGAL ladies, I just went back to see where we may have lost our little blurb about what PGAL means. Seems like it was dropped a while ago, I will add it back in.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
1. How many weeks are you? 17w4d
2. Previous loss(es)? Ectopic Feb18
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally I’m ok, we had the quad screen blood draw last week and should get those results this week. My AS isn’t until Feb1 and I’m anxious about that. With DD I think I was just in a bubble and didn’t know all that could happen, I don’t have that anymore. I’m too paranoid. Physically - the headaches suck. I’m over it.
4. Any appointment updates? Nope
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? My Doppler should arrive today. I can feel LO more but I’ll be testing it out once it arrives 😁
6. Any milestones coming up? Nope
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Outside in my hammock, I know it’s not “in” my house but it’s my happy place!
11+2
2. Previous loss(es)?
MMC dx @ 9 weeks, 2 CP, MMC dx @ 14 weeks
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Physically pretty good other than a cold I can't seem to shake. Pregnant immune systems suck. Emotionally I'm really anxious about our NIPT results. I just feel like things have been going too well and the other shoe is going to drop at any time. The genetic counselor said we should have them by Wednesday and if it's bad news they'll call, if everything is normal they'll just put a message in my chart. Luckily I don't get many phone calls because I know my heart will stop if I hear my phone at all this week. If the results are normal I keep telling myself I'll relax, but I doubt that I will. I've stopped believing that there's a limit to how many bad things a person can be asked to endure.
4. Any appointment updates?
Another ultrasound on Wednesday afternoon. I'll update when I get NIPT and u/s results.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
I'm just so glad it's finally the 31st. I am so done with this year. Also, TB and all their moderating is ridiculous. We're adults and don't need them to shut down every thread. The only thing unwelcoming about these boards is them banning long-standing members. They had a lot more traffic when they let people moderate themselves.
6. Any milestones coming up?
I'm pretty certain I'm past the point where our daughter's heart stopped beating but not 100% sure. A good appointment on Wednesday will definitely have us past that point so I'm looking forward to having that behind me. Still using the Doppler every day so I at least know baby is alive in there. Not going to do any celebrating until I know NIPT results are normal though.
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house?
Probably my room/bed lol. We have a king size TempurPedic and it's seriously amazing.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Maybe you've seen it before, but I really like how they describe all the stages, it really helped me make sense of all the things I was feeling. (Link for anyone interested: https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/)
@nmbrcrnchr1 I hope the Doppler helps ease your mind a little. It's been a total lifesaver for me.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
1. How many weeks are you? 18w0d
2. Previous loss(es)? One cp, one termination
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically still pretty good. I’m actually kind of surprised at how much more challenging physically this pregnancy is. With DD, I was one of those people who always said how much I loved being pregnant. I felt the best I had felt in years when I was pregnant with her. I was walking laps around the mall all the way until the day she was born, and this time at 18 weeks I feel like I ran a marathon after being there for an hour and then I can’t do anything the rest of the day!
Emotionally I am better. I felt some good strong kicks this week and that was reassuring. Not totally there yet, but getting there.
4. Any appointment updates? My anatomy scan is 1/18 and I am unbelievably nervous, especially because I haven’t had a single NIPT. I feel like I’m going in blind but I have to keep repeating to myself, “I can handle whatever comes my way because I’m surrounded by a community of love and support.” That helps some.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Is anyone already having heartburn? I didn’t have a single instance of heartburn with DD and now I feel like I’m getting it fairly often. I feel like a noob because I don’t know what to do.
6. Any milestones coming up? Just the anatomy scan.
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? I really love our room. It just feels cozy to me. When DH is out of town, I let DD sleep in our bed and as much as I love the cuddles, I hate that I can’t just curl up in our bed with the lamp on and read when she is in there sleeping.
2. Previous loss(es)? 8w
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally? Physically? Emotionally finally feeling a bit recharged. I’ve been off for over a week and I really needed it. I’m better symptom wise as well. Lots of energy which is welcome because I needed to take down the Christmas decorations and I’m alone with my daughter until Tuesday.
4. Any appointment updates? Everything scheduled but in my work calendar. I don’t want to check it because I’m relaxed and that’s the first sign vacation is ending.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? My husband had well and truly better kiss my feet when he gets back from his annual boondoggle. He’s in the city tonight and going to MSG to see Phish. His friend got a luxery box and it’s free. I am actually a saint. I got a lot of indulgent food my best friend is coming for dinner. I could give a shit about being home. If you’ve ever been to a Phish shownits no place for a pregnant person so I’m good with staying home
6. Any milestones coming up? Passed them thankfully
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Our front room. The stairs are beautiful and it’s where my fireplace is. It looks bare without Christmas decorations up. I should take care of that but don’t have it in me energy wise right now.
1. How many weeks are you? 14 weeks
2. Previous loss(es)? MC at 5 weeks, Jan. 2015
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically, I am doing really good. I still have like a day a week of some lingering nausea, but it's not too bad and it goes away. But I cannot shake this smell-induced vomiting problem. The only reason I haven't thrown up more is that I've just kind of been forcing myself not to. After waking up this morning feeling totally fine, I went and cleaned the bathroom. Apparently did that for too long because I got really hungry and tired, but trying to walk into the kitchen to get food, I smelled something again and ended up throwing up in my sink. First time in two weeks (since the great stomach bug fiasco) but STILL. I'm so tired of this crap, and of course, I can't purge my freaking house and clean everything up and get rid of all the smells because the smells make me gag and vomit! Sigh. Emotionally, I'm making it. I was really down last week, and I had some really horrific dreams last night that made me really anxious today, but it's manageable. Especially because despite my morning sickness episode, I'm feeling good. Really the hardest thing for me is all the critters in this house who won't stay off my stomach. I know the baby is well protected in there, but I still would prefer that just nothing touches the area, especially in any sort of rough or hard way. Yesterday, DH put DS down on me and rammed his feet into the bottom of my stomach where I had just felt the baby moving like a second before. DH meant to put DS on my legs, but he missed, and between the freaking cat using me as a springboard and DS being a very rambunctious toddler, I just want to wrap my middle in bubble wrap.
4. Any appointment updates? Scheduling today. My phone is horribly broken, so I'm still trying to fix it so I can call.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rant: see above. Rave: I have felt a lot of movement, and I am so grateful for it. I'll be very happy when it gets stronger and more consistent. I know some Moms get annoyed by later movements, but I at least don't remember ever being annoyed with DS when he would kick me. Lodging his foot in my ribs, yes, but moving around? No. I love every second of it.
6. Any milestones coming up? Tomorrow is officially 14 weeks and the second trimester!! It all just got very real for me, and I realized I have to start paying attention to stuff (like weight gain). I have my ball set up so I'm going to be sitting on that a bunch now to keep my pelvis lined up well.
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Umm, I don't have one? I really don't. It's a symptom of both that I REALLY have not paid any attention to myself basically since getting pregnant with DS, that this apartment is very much a temporary thing, and that it's just never really felt like home. Which sucks. And is probably why I'm so crap at keeping it neat and organized. I just do not care and don't feel at home and I've recently tried decorating to make it better but nope... it put a band-aid on it but it didn't really fix it.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@coco2787
I hope your US goes great on Wed. Do they think the NIPT results will be in then too? I hope so, that would be such a double whammy of relief I'm sure. I also debated on saying my bed was my favorite place in our house. Such a toss up. God bless sleep.I have not seen the five stages of grief article. I have heard about them, I think its time for me to brush up on them.
@carleym93 So glad you are feeling strong kicks now! Mine are still pretty faint. And thank you for that quote, its so true. Hoping your AS comes quick and you can check off that milestone.
@ncm1919
I'm with you, my front room looks bare without christmas decor. This is why I haven't taken mine down. What do you normally have in its place? I told DH that we could just leave it bare for baby swings and gear.
@tuxielove93
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@coco2787 I agree that the mods tend to be overprotective of randos/trolls who purposely flaunt TBs own guidelines. If this is supposed to be a place for community, they should stop punishing people for trying to create that feeling and rewarding AW posts.
@carleym93 OMG I so wanted to be the pregnant woman who says, “I’ve never felt better!” So far, tbh, being pregnant sucks. I am of course excited to meet baby boy in June and very grateful to be able to carry him, but the actual experience has not been positive so far.
*edited to fix spacing
CP 3/2019
@ballofmeat Thank you for sharing your blog. I haven't stopped crying. So much love to you and your family. Even though I don't know you IRL, your boys will always be in my heart.
ETA: words
@nmbrcrnchr1 having a Doppler gives me POM. I hope you like yours.
@tuxielove93 Ugh the nausea and vomiting are the worst. I wish I was one of those lucky women where it ends once they reach second trimester. Have you thought about putting some light snacks on your night stand or in the bathroom?
@carleym93 omg doing laps until birth. I too wanted to be one of those “I LOVE being pregnant” alas that is not me. Maybe in the coming weeks you will start to get more energy.
1. How many weeks are you? 16+3
2. Previous loss(es)? Mc July 2016, mc July 18
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally ok, I have been using the Doppler a few times a week as I haven’t really felt the babies move much. My SPD pain is back so I plan to ask about PT at my next appt. Also hoping the nausea slows a bit but I’m not very hopeful as last time with DD I wasn’t able to get off the pills until 32 weeks.
4. Any appointment updates? I have a MFM US on Thursday and I’m excited to see the babies. At my next OB appt we will do the quad screen which always makes me nervous. AS is scheduled for 1/24.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? None
6. Any milestones coming up? None
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Can I say our new house? We’re building and it will be done in a February. I went bold with dark blue cabinets and my closet is bigger than the kids which I’m super excited about.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Anywho, it really isn't hunger-induced nausea anymore, if that makes sense. I am definitely more susceptible hungry, but that's not the issue. The issue is that my normally very strong, smell resistant stomach can't handle even the slightest bad smell, and I end up in gagging fit that sometimes ends with puking if I can't get away and get it under control. So it's only bad smell induced nausea, and IDFK how to deal with that other than to not smell bad stuff. And my biggest and worst trigger is my fridge. I can't get the stink out. DH doesn't smell it, I have cleaned it countless times, I tried baking soda, it's not working. I have recently learned of the drip pan, but I'm terrified to go find it and DH has been working too much to do it for me.
@ballofmeat Thanks. Honestly, at this point, I'm just ticked off that I keep having a problem. I am actively angry at having to still deal with this crap.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@ballofmeat yes fraternal but as you said twins are a whole new ballgame and so many things can go wrong but happy that fraternal are much less of a high risk than identical.
2. Previous losses? CP, early m/c, and stillbirth at 32 weeks
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and Physically? I have no energy and having a hard time going 4 weeks in between u/s. I am still two weeks away from my next one and it will be the anatomy scan, so of course I am super nervous about it.
4. Any appointment updates? Nothing until the 14th.
5. Rants/raves/questions: Christmas had both happy moments and sad moments. Sad because I should have a 7 month old daughter here with us, but instead we don't. And DS and a couple of other family members keep slipping up and saying our angel daughter's name instead of the new one's name and I know they don't mean it, but it still makes me a bit sad.
6. Any milestones coming up? The anatomy scan.
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house. I like my couch and my bed right now haha.
2. Previous loss(es)? 12w
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally, I’m not doing so well. With the year coming to an end, I’m just so happy it’s over, but it’s also got me thinking a lot about all the loss I’ve experienced this year. I haven’t posted about it any of it here, but I’ve really been struggling with coping with death. I won’t go into details, but in the past six months I’ve had to deal with more death than I have in my entire life. I’m ready for a new year, for sure. Physically, I’m doing better. For the past week, the nausea has been significantly better. I just hope it stays that way.
4. Any appointment updates? I’ve got one scheduled for the 9th.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m happy to be getting a break for the holidays. So far they’ve been good.
6. Any milestones coming up? I’ve passed them all.
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? My office. I work from home, and it’s the brightest room in the whole house, so I actually enjoy being in there.
@nmbrcrnchr1 I’m glad you got the Doppler for peace of mind. I’ve gone back and forth on getting one for myself.
@coco2787 FX for you and that all of your tests come back good.
@carleym93 I’m also worried about my AS (which isn’t still for over a month) because I haven’t had an NIPT either. My last US was at 9 weeks.
@inomniaparatus2 I’m hoping for the best for you and your pregnancy. Being pregnant is scary enough after a loss, I can’t imagine adding extra risk into the mix.
2. Previous loss(es)? CP Apr 18
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically, not too bad. Headaches and trouble sleeping. Emotionally, I’m a mess. The hormonal rage is no joke and everything BF does makes me want to kill him. We have never argued so much and it’s really stressing me out.
4. Any appointment updates? Anatomy scan is scheduled for Jan 18.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m so glad to have you all to lean on and I’m sorry that there have been some a-jokes trying to stir up drama lately.
6. Any milestones coming up? No
7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Right now I’d say my family room. Our whole house is still a work in progress, but it’s a cozy and comfortable spot to relax.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@TJtheGoat YGPM
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18