June 2019 Moms

PGAL W/O 12/31

ballofmeatballofmeat member
edited December 2018 in June 2019 Moms
ETA: our little blurb about what PGAL means back This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL).  If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation.  If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!  1. How many weeks are you? 2. Previous loss(es)? 3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? 4. Any appointment updates? 5. Rants/Raves/Questions? 6. Any milestones coming up? 7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house?
*TW Spoiler*

DD: Aug '16

10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months 
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18

Re: PGAL W/O 12/31

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  • @ballofmeat what a sobering story. I am sending you positive thoughts. I have also dealt with anxiety, depression, and DMER. I know your losses would be so hard on anyone, but I guess you just make it through because you have to. 

  • 1. How many weeks are you? 15
    2. Previous losses? None
    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and Physically? My depression has been under control. I am medicated and feel fine. I got over my morning sickness to get a respiratory virus that has been lingering, so energy drained. 
    4. Any appointment updates? Looking forward to my checkup in a week since my 10 week ultrasound. Hoping everything is good. 
    5. Rants/raves/questions: Just being thankful at the moment after thinking about what others may be experiencing. 
    6. Any milestones coming up? My dd is turning 2.
    7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house. On the sofa lately (no energy) with hubby, dd, and pug.
  • @momerath18 This is a thread for women here who have had losses (you indicated none). PGAL stands for pregnant after loss.

    PGAL ladies, I just went back to see where we may have lost our little blurb about what PGAL means. Seems like it was dropped a while ago, I will add it back in.  
    *TW Spoiler*

    DD: Aug '16

    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18

  • I didn't read the title. It was 4:30am sorry.
  • My heart just broke for you all over again. All my love to Abraham and Shepard, and of course you and your family. I won’t even say I hope for healing since I don’t think there is healing, just surviving. Praying for you, your DH and both your little girls. 💔
  • @ballofmeat Reading your blog left me sobbing. I can not imagine the pain. I’m just in awe of you and your husband’s strength.
  • @nmbrcrnchr1 Can't wait to hear how you like your doppler. What brand did you end up going with?

    @coco2787
    I hope your US goes great on Wed. Do they think the NIPT results will be in then too? I hope so, that would be such a double whammy of relief I'm sure. I also debated on saying my bed was my favorite place in our house. Such a toss up. God bless sleep.I have not seen the five stages of grief article. I have heard about them, I think its time for me to brush up on them.

    @carleym93 So glad you are feeling strong kicks now! Mine are still pretty faint. And thank you for that quote, its so true. Hoping your AS comes quick and you can check off that milestone.

    @ncm1919
    I'm with you, my front room looks bare without christmas decor. This is why I haven't taken mine down. What do you normally have in its place? I told DH that we could just leave it bare for baby swings and gear. 

    @tuxielove93
     <3  I hope your sickness eases up soon. Mine has literally disappeared by week 16. Hopefully its the same for you. I can't wait to get to that second trimester bliss. 


    *TW Spoiler*

    DD: Aug '16

    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18

  • @ballofmeat I'm still crying. all I can say is that you are a strong woman. I had never heard your whole story and I say that you are doing a great job at living through something some of us could never imagine. creepy internet hugs to you and prayers for you and your family.
  • TJtheGoatTJtheGoat member
    edited December 2018
    @ballofmeat Thank you so much for sharing your blog with us. It must have taken an enormous amount of strength to even write that out, much less share it with others. And I have to agree that you have every right to be angry. It has only been one year. Not so much time when you consider the amount of hurt and pain you are dealing with. Try to give yourself grace and vent it here with us when you need to.

     @coco2787 I agree that the mods tend to be overprotective of randos/trolls who purposely flaunt TBs own guidelines. If this is supposed to be a place for community, they should stop punishing people for trying to create that feeling and rewarding AW posts.

     @carleym93 OMG I so wanted to be the pregnant woman who says, “I’ve never felt better!” So far, tbh, being pregnant sucks. I am of course excited to meet baby boy in June and very grateful to be able to carry him, but the actual experience has not been positive so far.

    *edited to fix spacing
  • *Lurking* @ballofmeat Just wanted to say thanks for sharing your blog. Sending you creepy internet hugs ❤️💔
    Me: 31 DH: 31
      <3 DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018 <3
    CP 3/2019
  • @ballofmeat The AS is always scary and exciting to see little squish. I hope yours goes well. I have read your story before but being pregnant with my own twins I’m not mentally able to read for more fear of what can go wrong. 

    @nmbrcrnchr1 having a Doppler gives me POM. I hope you like yours. 

    @tuxielove93 Ugh the nausea and vomiting are the worst. I wish I was one of those lucky women where it ends once they reach second trimester. Have you thought about putting some light snacks on your night stand or in the bathroom? 

    @carleym93 omg doing laps until birth. I too wanted to be one of those “I LOVE being pregnant” alas that is not me. Maybe in the coming weeks you will start to get more energy. 

    1. How many weeks are you? 16+3
    2. Previous loss(es)? Mc July 2016, mc July 18
     3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally ok, I have been using the Doppler a few times a week as I haven’t really felt the babies move much. My SPD pain is back so I plan to ask about PT at my next appt. Also hoping the nausea slows a bit but I’m not very hopeful as last time with DD I wasn’t able to get off the pills until 32 weeks. 
    4. Any appointment updates? I have a MFM US on Thursday and I’m excited to see the babies. At my next OB appt we will do the quad screen which always makes me nervous. AS is scheduled for 1/24.
    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? None
     6. Any milestones coming up? None
    7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Can I say our new house? We’re building and it will be done in a February. I went bold with dark blue cabinets and my closet is bigger than the kids which I’m super excited about. 

  • @ballofmeat I found the sonoline on sale with free shipping so I went that route. It’s funny bc I got it this afternoon, but haven’t tried it bc by has been so active this afternoon having a dance party In there. Story of my life 😂
  • @inomniaparatus2 totally get that. Multiples pregnancies are their own ball game. But I believe you are pregnant with fraternal? If so, what happened to my boys wouldn’t happen to your precious littles. As TTTS only affects identical twins who share one placenta. 
    *TW Spoiler*

    DD: Aug '16

    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18

  • @ballofmeat (I'm lol'ing a little every time at that sn) my NIPT results are coming through the hospital, not my OB, so if her estimate on how long it would take was correct I should get the results the same day as my ultrasound, but it won't be at the same time.  
    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
  • @inomniaparatus2 I have no idea how there are two people with that username. I can't even decipher it. If you don't mind me asking, what is it??
    Anywho, it really isn't hunger-induced nausea anymore, if that makes sense. I am definitely more susceptible hungry, but that's not the issue. The issue is that my normally very strong, smell resistant stomach can't handle even the slightest bad smell, and I end up in gagging fit that sometimes ends with puking if I can't get away and get it under control. So it's only bad smell induced nausea, and IDFK how to deal with that other than to not smell bad stuff. And my biggest and worst trigger is my fridge. I can't get the stink out. DH doesn't smell it, I have cleaned it countless times, I tried baking soda, it's not working. I have recently learned of the drip pan, but I'm terrified to go find it and DH has been working too much to do it for me. 

    @ballofmeat Thanks. Honestly, at this point, I'm just ticked off that I keep having a problem. I am actively angry at having to still deal with this crap. 
    Hubby and Me
    Friends since 2008
    Started dating: July 1st, 2013
    Engaged: July 1st, 2014
    Married: July 1st, 2016
    R born: July 8th, 2017
    N born: June 30th, 2019
    Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
    (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
  • @ballofmeat Thank you for sharing your story. That takes a lot of bravery. It goes without saying that you are entitled to have any emotions that come along in this lifelong grief journey. Please know that we are here for you. Your boys will be known and remembered by many as you graciously share your story. 
  • @tuxielove93 it means ready for anything. It’s from Gilmore Girls. I was surprised to find two as well. Well darn I don’t know how to help smell. That’s not fun. Hopefully it calms down some. 

    @ballofmeat yes fraternal but as you said twins are a whole new ballgame and so many things can go wrong but happy that fraternal are much less of a high risk than identical. 
  • @inomniaparatus2 There was an inomniaparatus in my first BMB. I thought for sure you were her at first!
  • @ballofmeat there is actually little to no furniture. We can’t figure the layout out. I might need to hire some professional help because I’m completely stuck. For now it’s a good place for my daughter to run and not hurt herself
  • 1. How many weeks are you? 15+1
    2. Previous loss(es)? 12w
    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally, I’m not doing so well. With the year coming to an end, I’m just so happy it’s over, but it’s also got me thinking a lot about all the loss I’ve experienced this year. I haven’t posted about it any of it here, but I’ve really been struggling with coping with death. I won’t go into details, but in the past six months I’ve had to deal with more death than I have in my entire life. I’m ready for a new year, for sure. Physically, I’m doing better. For the past week, the nausea has been significantly better. I just hope it stays that way.
    4. Any appointment updates? I’ve got one scheduled for the 9th.
    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m happy to be getting a break for the holidays. So far they’ve been good. 
    6. Any milestones coming up? I’ve passed them all.
    7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? My office. I work from home, and it’s the brightest room in the whole house, so I actually enjoy being in there.

  • @kjr9519 Sending lots of hugs your way
  • @ballofmeat thank you for sharing your story. I truly cannot imagine what you went through, but I don’t see how anyone could heal from that in five years, much less one. You really are a strong person.

    @nmbrcrnchr1 I’m glad you got the Doppler for peace of mind. I’ve gone back and forth on getting one for myself.

    @coco2787 FX for you and that all of your tests come back good.

    @carleym93 I’m also worried about my AS (which isn’t still for over a month) because I haven’t had an NIPT either. My last US was at 9 weeks.

    @inomniaparatus2 I’m hoping for the best for you and your pregnancy. Being pregnant is scary enough after a loss, I can’t imagine adding extra risk into the mix.
  •  1. How many weeks are you? 18! How did that happen so quickly?

    2. Previous loss(es)? CP Apr 18

     3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically, not too bad. Headaches and trouble sleeping. Emotionally, I’m a mess. The hormonal rage is no joke and everything BF does makes me want to kill him. We have never argued so much and it’s really stressing me out. 

    4. Any appointment updates? Anatomy scan is scheduled for Jan 18. 

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m so glad to have you all to lean on and I’m sorry that there have been some a-jokes trying to stir up drama lately. 

    6. Any milestones coming up? No

    7. GTKY? Favorite space in your house? Right now I’d say my family room. Our whole house is still a work in progress, but it’s a cozy and comfortable spot to relax. 

  • My ute has been feeling achy since last night and logically I know it’s probably just from things stretching out (and I know from the Doppler that baby is ok) but it’s still making me anxious.  I’ve started to believe this pregnancy might actually work out and instead of feeling more reassured with every day that goes by just it makes it feel like I have more to lose. I don’t have it in me to do another 1st tri so it feels like my whole future is hanging in the balance right now. 
    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
  • nmbrcrnchr1nmbrcrnchr1 member
    edited January 2019
    @coco2787 I’m sorry you’re  having aches. I have (what I’m assuming is) RLP and if I get up to fast it’s so painful. Every time it happens I freak out and have to remind myself it’s “normal”. I keep telling myself after the next appt I’ll feel more assured but that hasn’t happened yet 😞 I hope some day soon we all get there. (Hugs)

    @TJtheGoat YGPM
  • @coco2787 mine was really achey near the end of first tri too. I’m sure it’s like you said, just stretching and making room for baby. I feel very similar to you, like this is our last chance because I don’t have the heart to do it all over again. It’s so draining on your heart and body to go through it over and over and not have a baby to take home. Praying this is our year and we can both complete our families and put 2018 behind us! 
    *TW Spoiler*

    DD: Aug '16

    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18

  • @coco2787 You put into words what I’ve struggled to—the longer this pregnancy goes on, the more I have to lose. We also won’t try again (I don’t think) if this isn’t a take-home baby, and you’re right, that adds a lot of pressure. Anyway, I’ve felt achy and sore too, distinct from the sharp RLP. I brought it up with my OB at my last appt and she reassured me that my symptoms sound normal, and like you said, just things stretching and moving. Hang in there, friend. 
  • *lurking* Hugs @coco2787 <3
    People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.

    How I feel all of the time.
    My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
    IVF
    IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
    Back on Levothyroxine
    FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
    FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
    Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 
    1st Beta on 7dpt 93
    2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!

    TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
    Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
    New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF

    IUI
    IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
    IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
    BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine 
    IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
    Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
     
  • @coco2787 thats such a relief that baby is growing on track. I hope your NIPT comes tomorrow and that it brings you some peace of mind. 
  • @coco2787 so happy to read this update ❤️
    *TW Spoiler*

    DD: Aug '16

    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18

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