Mental Health Discussion 12.19.18

smmatt08 · December 2018

Whether it’s grief, depression, anxiety, or some complex and overwhelming situation, this thread is for talking it out and getting some support. Use it whenever and however you need it. Answer the questions below, start your own conversation, let US support YOU! (Any and all feedback on formatting is appreciated. Also, weigh in on frequency of this thread!)

How are you feeling this week?

Is anything bothering you? Any stressful things happening or coming up?

What are you doing to take care of YOU this week?

What are your goals for the next week?

Questions/comments/concerns?

deecherise · December 2018

1) I'm feeling very meh and unmotivated, but I'd bet some of that is just morning sickness and fatigue.

2) My experiment didn't work, and I'm back to square one. My "friend" who is suffering from IF bashed me in her blog. We're all spending Christmas with my younger brother, and his wife hates us.

3) I'm going to try to bask in the glory of making all As this semester, and actually do some of the guided meditations I've found.

4) Holding my tongue when my brother's wife disrespects our mom or tries to limit contact with my adorable, smart, beautiful baby niece. Eating enough of the right things despite crippling nausea. Trying to move on from the collapsed friendship mentioned in item 2.

smmatt08 · December 2018

@deecherise wow, sounds like a gem of a "friend." Even if she is hurt, publicly bashing you is not a healthy approach to dealing with her feelings. Giving herself time and space or having a one-on-one conversation with you would have been a much better approach for all parties involved. Do not blame yourself for her behavior

deecherise · December 2018

@smmatt08 I'm mostly frustrated because I understand that she is hurting, but the only thing I've done "wrong" is get pregnant before she did and tell her (she asked me to, but didn't elaborate how I should) in a manner she wasn't a fan of. Ironically, we did have a cooling off period and a one-on-one conversation prior to the bashing. It feels like there's really nothing I could have done to avoid this, which is demoralizing. I've known this girl since we were 7.

lilmamabebe3 · December 2018

@deecherise a friend of mine is going through the same thing. She is adamant that people tell her in person, but then she was really upset and posted a bunch of passive-aggressive things on social media and it's so hurtful. I understand that those feelings are valid (I have been there with losses and Secondary IF) but it's not your fault she is struggling. I am so sorry.

How are you feeling this week? Unmotivated and stressed. I am ready for the week to be over to enjoy the holiday with my little ones and have a break from work.

Is anything bothering you? Any stressful things happening or coming up? I feel like everything kind of upsets me and the only patience I have is for my kids. My husband is understanding and good at bringing back to the real world but work is a real struggle. It's been... really stressful lately.

What are you doing to take care of YOU this week? I go to therapy and I plan to leave early Friday for a nap and then go to my oldest son's holiday party at school.

What are your goals for the next week? Really relax and rest and enjoy the time off.

Questions/comments/concerns? I have severe ADHD and anxiety and went cold turkey off my meds, so I am nervous about how I am going to work through the next 1-2 years (through breastfeeding) and how patient and understanding I will be through it. I guess I will take it one day at a time.

aevan011 · December 2018

How are you feeling this week? I’m a hot mess of emotions and nerves.

Is anything bothering you? Any stressful things happening or coming up? Really nervous for the first appointment Friday. I think hunger and nausea are making things worse. I’m also for some reason really dwelling on the fact my dad is gone and won’t meet this baby. Probably just because it’s the holidays. He was ecstatic to be a grandpa and passed unexpectedly when DS was 3months old. We became SO much closer during my pregnancy, he texted almost daily. So even though I mourn the loss of my dad in general, I’m really sad to not have that opportunity again. He was such a great support.

What are you doing to take care of YOU this week? Trying to stop, breathe. Not working too well as I prep For family. What are your goals for the next week? Not lose my shit on family over something stupid.

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@deecherise that sucks that your friend took it to her blog. Really disappointing even if you do sympathize with her pain. Before my loss, when I was only about 5 weeks, a “friend” made a comment after asking me why i wasn’t drinking and I denied being pregnant. She said “oh good bc if you got pregnant before me...” Like...I realize they were struggling, and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. But it’s still hurtful when your friend outright has to be negative.

suzycupcake · December 2018

@hope8119 Here is the thread I was talking about. It gets posted about every week on Wednesday.

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