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TTC After a Loss
emeraldduchess
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Intro
emeraldduchess
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Hi ladies. I'm coming over here from the August BMB. Before that I was active on TTGP.
I spent 5 hours in the emergency room Monday night after some spotting at 5 weeks. I wasn't very concerned about it, but the nurse at my OB's office sent me as a precaution. They did bloodwork and sent me for an ultrasound. There was nothing visible on the screen, and even though the technician said it just might be too early, we knew that it wasn't good. My HCG levels came back too low (7.8) and the ER nurse told us that I was having a miscarriage. Her insensitivity was staggering. She proceeded to ask if this was a wanted pregnancy, then started to lecture me about being almost 37 and ttc. She said because of my age, I would probably need fertility treatments, probably would miscarry again, etc. Not once did she say that she was sorry for our loss. The nurse from the doctor's office that followed up with me on the phone was even worse. She was really curt and clinical, made me feel like a chemical pregnancy wasn't a big deal. Then she told me to "have a nice day".
My boss has been incredibly supportive, and my mom has been amazing. My MIL and FIL have tried, but went about it the wrong way. That's another story for another day, though.
I had a follow up appointment at the OBGYN and while DH and I are heartbroken, we do feel like we have some closure. The PA that I talked to said that it was most likely a chromosomal issue, although there's no way to know for sure. If we experience a second loss, we will push for testing. We are going to take a break for a cycle (recommended by the PA), then we will try again.
I am so sorry that we've all found ourselves on this path. I hope that during my time here, I can offer support to you all as well. 💚
I spent 5 hours in the emergency room Monday night after some spotting at 5 weeks. I wasn't very concerned about it, but the nurse at my OB's office sent me as a precaution. They did bloodwork and sent me for an ultrasound. There was nothing visible on the screen, and even though the technician said it just might be too early, we knew that it wasn't good. My HCG levels came back too low (7.8) and the ER nurse told us that I was having a miscarriage. Her insensitivity was staggering. She proceeded to ask if this was a wanted pregnancy, then started to lecture me about being almost 37 and ttc. She said because of my age, I would probably need fertility treatments, probably would miscarry again, etc. Not once did she say that she was sorry for our loss. The nurse from the doctor's office that followed up with me on the phone was even worse. She was really curt and clinical, made me feel like a chemical pregnancy wasn't a big deal. Then she told me to "have a nice day".
My boss has been incredibly supportive, and my mom has been amazing. My MIL and FIL have tried, but went about it the wrong way. That's another story for another day, though.
I had a follow up appointment at the OBGYN and while DH and I are heartbroken, we do feel like we have some closure. The PA that I talked to said that it was most likely a chromosomal issue, although there's no way to know for sure. If we experience a second loss, we will push for testing. We are going to take a break for a cycle (recommended by the PA), then we will try again.
I am so sorry that we've all found ourselves on this path. I hope that during my time here, I can offer support to you all as well. 💚
Re: Intro
CP 3/2019
Again, I'm so sorry you're here.
I'm sorry you had such ignorant idiots claiming to be medical professionals. Please don't take any of that personal.
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle