@eatinwatermelonseeds oh goodness! Yeap, looks like YH was right. Ugh there are so many things we need to have fixed at our house - there just isn’t enough money!
@jwalters2019 that would bother me too. Drama with in-laws in the worst. I usually try to make my H handle his family, but he’s such a puss when it comes to them. Luckily for me we live on the other side of the country.
@sleepy33 I sent him a picture and he laughed 😂 now I have to go over and ask the neighbor if they would be interested in splitting the cost of supplies if H does the repair himself. That sounds like such a fun conversation, but I'm putting it off.
And omg YES. The backyard was our biggest selling point.
Oh yikes, good luck with your neighbors @eatinwatermelonseeds! I would rather pay for it myself than talk to neighbors. I'm terrible like that, idk why. I just wanna wave at the mailbox and otherwise pretend you don't exist lol
@sleepy33 😂😂 well, I wouldn't mind just doing it ourselves, but I don't want H to just start work on it without discussing anything with them. They have cinder blocks out there, which makes me wonder if this has happened before.
@sleepy33 😂😂 well, I wouldn't mind just doing it ourselves, but I don't want H to just start work on it without discussing anything with them. They have cinder blocks out there, which makes me wonder if this has happened before.
You probably know this, but since the finished side of the fence is facing you, then it's technically 'your' fence. It's most likely on your side of the property line. That said, you obviously both benefit from it being there. IDK if they also have a dog or what, though, so they may be like meh we don't care enough to spend money on it. Sorry, I'm a busybody with a bunch of useless property law in my brain.
@eatinwatermelonseeds they may be totally receptive to the whole thing. The fence at our first house was in major disrepair too. We could tell and knew it had to be done but it just wasn't top of our priority list until it blew down in a windstorm and looked very similar to yours, lol. The section we shared with the neighbours didn't fall down like the back section had, but you could tell it had had many temporary repairs over the years so we assumed they wouldn't be crazy about sharing the cost of replacement. Turns out it was the previous owner of OUR house who had been jimmy-rigging the fence to keep it going, HE didn't want to replace it. Our neighbours (who by that point had moved but were renting their house while they were away for 2 years) were so easy to deal with and were just incredibly grateful that we were willing to do the work ourselves since they weren't in town to help. I would just stop by and let them know that you plan to replace that broken section of fence and ask if they'd be willing to share the cost. If they say no then build the fence just inside your property line (so then it's 100% your fence) and don't do it "friendly-neighbour" style
@jwalters2019 that's really hurtful, I'm so sorry she did that. I hope she changes her tune when baby is born, at least, if she can't be nice while you're pregnant.
@chloe97 I hope she comes back to you. I understand her needing to protect herself but it hurts because you didn't *do* anything. You did nothing wrong. I truly hope she has a successful pregnancy and gets her little baby.
@sleepy33 we actually thought whoseever side the unfinished side was on technically owned the fence, but that's good to know. They have 2 dogs (from what I could tell when I went there and was barked at). No one answered the door though. They probably have one of those job thingies. 😂 Gonna try again later.
But here is the current status. Looks like I may be meeting their dogs soon at least 😂
@sleepy33 @eatinwatermelonseeds I think it can go either way. Our fence has the unfinished side facing us all around (on the side of our lot that's next to a street and on the side of our lot that's next to our neighbors). And lol. I can totally see DH and I having that same conversation and me having to admit being wrong, which I hate
@eatinwatermelonseeds no he hasn’t he asked me if he wanted me to say something to her and I said no. I don’t want to be the one to tell him what to say to her. Does it make sense? I’m so hurt I’m at work and get emotional I feel like I’m going to burst out in tears it take a lot for me to cry. I can take her being mean to me but not my baby.
@jwalters2019 Sorry your MIL is being rude Maybe she was upset that she didn't get *extra special* early warning announcement, but she needs to address it, move on, and get on board with how exciting and awesome this grandbaby is.
@chloe97 I don’t think it has anything to do with that honestly she’s never been happy for any of our big “milestones” together. She didn’t say anything for our engagement or wedding. If anything she tried to start argument ex: threatening not to be there. I always brushed all that off but I can’t do the same when it comes to my kids.
@eatinwatermelonseeds what @sleepy33 is generally true with the finished side. But unless you know for sure, I wouldn't assume its on your side of the property line without checking first (if it becomes an issue). When we have built fences in the past, sometimes we do the friendly neighbour fence (alternating finished and unfinished) but we have also done it all one way too because both us and the neighbours agreed that it looked better to have either one or the other, rather than alternating. When our fence blew down, the backside of our yard faced a public walking trail and I decided I'd rather have the finished side facing the trail, so we did unfinished facing in the whole way around. All that to say, it depends on who built it and what their thought process was at the time.
Just catching up on only this thread during my lunch...I have to say, @poshspice im right there with you freaking out about having a toddler and a newborn. Especially since DD has been acting out lately. She's normally SUCH a well behaved child. And her tantrums are the worst with me. She doesnt really bother my MIL or husband. Husband says that I spoiled her. But how could i not?! My heart breaks when I see her cry!!
@jwalters2019 Im sorry your MIL is being like this. I don't have any advice for you except that hopefully maybe when your baby is here, she'll come around to it? Hang in there. I know MIL can be the worst sometimes.
@poshspice@expandcontract Remind me how old your kids are again? DD1 got horrible just a couple months before DD2 was born and when I talked to her teachers at school, they said they saw it *all* the time in their class with kids becoming older siblings at that age (2+a little).
Yeah, @mcewen3 makes a good point, always best to double check where property lines are before you start a fencing project. You never know who put what up when and where.
@poshspice@expandcontract Remind me how old your kids are again? DD1 got horrible just a couple months before DD2 was born and when I talked to her teachers at school, they said they saw it *all* the time in their class with kids becoming older siblings at that age (2+a little).
My daughter will be 2 in end of January. But like, she doesn't even understand that there's another baby coming. So whyyyy??
So today one of my H cousins tagged him on Facebook on some meme she posted and my MIL reacted to the post with the laughing face. My husband called her out on it and said “so you won’t like our ultrasound picture but you’ll react to a stupid post. Won’t check up on the baby but you have time to send me pictures of your dog.” She ofcoursed switched it on him and said she “hasn’t had time”. So he just responded “I see where we stand.” I have been a crying mess. My kids are my everything and it hurts this is not her first grandkid so I know how she is with her other grandkids and it’s nothing like this.
@jwalters2019 maybe it's just the B in me, but i would deliberately from now on not tell her or invite her to ANYTHING related to yourself. Eventually she'll complain to you or your husband. If i was in your shoes, I would hope she came and complained to me so i could all "listen, Linda" on her ass.
@jwalters2019 maybe it's just the B in me, but i would deliberately from now on not tell her or invite her to ANYTHING related to yourself. Eventually she'll complain to you or your husband. If i was in your shoes, I would hope she came and complained to me so i could all "listen, Linda" on her ass.
@jwalters2019 That’s horrible and I’m so sorry she is acting like that. I call bullshit on her not having time, not sure what her issue is but she is definitely in the wrong to be acting like that.
@expandcontract That's exactly the age. They can sense the minute changes. It does get better!!
So I'm finally getting around to starting Christmas cookies and I have each DD helping with a different batch to prevent fighting. DD2 is currently sobbing in retreat in her room because I caught her stealing Hershey kisses for the peanut blossoms when she claims she was "just standing them up" 😂
Random AW picture! I followed a tutorial on how to make glitter nail polish show up better, and it totally worked. It was slightly a PITA, so I hope it'll last through Christmas.
@jwalters2019 that's terrible that she can't at least respond. I agree with @expandcontract though. I'd stop including her and when questioned say oh I thought you were too busy 🤷🏻♀️
@eatinwatermelonseeds blame the winds! Powers been flickering all day where I'm at, tons of trees down. Those winds did this to your fence;) When we bought our house, our fence was in a similar state. Since we didn't know if the fence was technically ours or the neighbors my husband just asked the neighbor who's it was and if it was theirs if he'd find him fixing it since it was falling down and we both have dogs. Turns out they were renters and their landlord was like you'll do the work? Oh heck yea! Worked out well lol.
@fuscok88 it was definitely the wind! The wind was insane here. Our power went out again. Just talked to my neighbor and she was great, said they'd split cost. I was so nervous. I need a t-shirt that says "I came. I saw. I made it awkward." Because that was so awkward.
@poshspice@expandcontract Remind me how old your kids are again? DD1 got horrible just a couple months before DD2 was born and when I talked to her teachers at school, they said they saw it *all* the time in their class with kids becoming older siblings at that age (2+a little).
@imrachellea DD is 25 months, she'll be exactly 2.5 when this baby is born. We haven't talked to her about the baby in any concrete terms yet.
Whew! That was quite a variety of discussions and posts going on today! @jwalters2019 yep-you're just too fat yourself now to keep her in the loop. Just be like "Sorry bout that - didn't think you cared!"
@eatinwatermelonseeds is like the falling down fence was mocking you all day 😂. Glad to hear your first contact ackward conversation worked out, and it's the small successes with sleep training to celebrate!
@fatmonica I saw that 👏👏 her response was so annoying. "that's a slight misquote and taken out of context" uh, right.... The original context was in speaking to a woman who'd lost two children, so I'm not sure that's the argument I'd go with. 🙄
@eatinwatermelonseeds She can't let anything go, because she doesn't think she is ever wrong. I think they were wise to just ignore her though, because she has shown she can't admit to anything. It would never end.
@eatinwatermelonseeds@fatmonica, her go to response to a lot of things has been that people are misquoting or taking her comments out of context, so yeah she just doesn’t want to admit anything she said was wrong or hurtful. I’m glad the other girls basically decided they didn’t want to associate with her anymore, if everyone ignores her she’ll hopefully go away (or come back with a new screen name...)
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@jwalters2019 that would bother me too. Drama with in-laws in the worst. I usually try to make my H handle his family, but he’s such a puss when it comes to them. Luckily for me we live on the other side of the country.
And omg YES. The backyard was our biggest selling point.
@chloe97 I hope she comes back to you. I understand her needing to protect herself but it hurts because you didn't *do* anything. You did nothing wrong. I truly hope she has a successful pregnancy and gets her little baby.
@eatinwatermelonseeds the fence
But here is the current status. Looks like I may be meeting their dogs soon at least 😂
@eatinwatermelonseeds
I think it can go either way. Our fence has the unfinished side facing us all around (on the side of our lot that's next to a street and on the side of our lot that's next to our neighbors).
And lol. I can totally see DH and I having that same conversation and me having to admit being wrong, which I hate
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
Sorry your MIL is being rude
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
@jwalters2019 Im sorry your MIL is being like this. I don't have any advice for you except that hopefully maybe when your baby is here, she'll come around to it? Hang in there. I know MIL can be the worst sometimes.
So I'm finally getting around to starting Christmas cookies and I have each DD helping with a different batch to prevent fighting. DD2 is currently sobbing in retreat in her room because I caught her stealing Hershey kisses for the peanut blossoms when she claims she was "just standing them up" 😂
@eatinwatermelonseeds blame the winds! Powers been flickering all day where I'm at, tons of trees down. Those winds did this to your fence;) When we bought our house, our fence was in a similar state. Since we didn't know if the fence was technically ours or the neighbors my husband just asked the neighbor who's it was and if it was theirs if he'd find him fixing it since it was falling down and we both have dogs. Turns out they were renters and their landlord was like you'll do the work? Oh heck yea! Worked out well lol.
@eatinwatermelonseeds is like the falling down fence was mocking you all day 😂. Glad to hear your first contact ackward conversation worked out, and it's the small successes with sleep training to celebrate!
@eatinwatermelonseeds your garden looks very big!! That is awesome. Good luck with the fence