Hiding Throughout the Holidays

melmargo · December 2018

Hey fellow August mommies! Currently 5w 6d here and wondering how the heck I’m going to hide my pregnancy throughout all of these drinking holidays! Lol. My family is super family oriented and makes huge deals out of holidays. We all go out for Christmas parties and to the bar on New Years Eve. Obviously I can’t drink but I also don’t want to break the news to anyone anytime soon!
I suffered a miscarriage in September but had already told EVERYONE due to it being our first baby. Trying to keep it a secret longer this time!
Anyone else wondering how they’re going to get around this?!

aukeev · December 2018

Yes! We just found out, but we will only be telling our immediate families during the holidays, not friends and extended family that we'll be around. I run a craft cocktail blog + Instagram, so me not drinking would send a huge red flag. Considering claiming a miserable hangover the week before and just needing the week off!

Lotus_2008 · December 2018

I have the same concerns! I don't have my first appointment until early Jan and we don't plan on telling anyone until after first tri. Its going to be so hard holding in such big news!
Thankfully my family aren't big drinkers, but DH's family is. I usually have a couple drinks while visiting them. DH is actually not a drinker, so I couldn't really pass him my drink.
If anyone asks/notices, I'm going to say that I've been sick and recovering as to the reason why I'm not drinking.

BigBadWolf12 · December 2018

Not sure. We are telling when we see family even though I'll only be 7+3 at that point. Saving friends and extended family for later. We'd tell our parents and siblings about a loss anyways.

*TW* when we lost our first baby we had already told the "good news" to my family and had to untell them - actually the loss happened while we were vacationing with them so they would have known anyways. We hadn't had a chance to tell DH's family yet so we just told them the bad news and *for us* we much prefered telling about a loss when they already knew about the pregnancy in the first place. I realize that's not for everyone, but it makes the "when to tell"/"how to hide" difficulty easier for us.

vvitchhazel · December 2018

I plan on blaming antibiotics! Or I can make myself a cocktail... Just leave out the booze and no one will know the difference! Or have DH drink a beer and refill the bottle with something I can drink.

database6 · December 2018

My bloat is so real, and we always have mimosas Christmas morning, so I’m not sure I could hide it if I wanted to! We have our first US 12/20 and will announce then as long as baby is looking good.

drmrsthecounselor · December 2018

We are planning on announcing to our families on Christmas and then to our friends at New Years. We have our first US on 12/21 so it will be just in time.

Hoping to frame the US and give it as an "extra" gift to everyone.

Beauxbaton · December 2018

I plan on using "health concerns" for anyone who asks. If people know you were TTC you could say that your doctor has advised against drinking while TTC

scotia-293 · December 2018

My husband work christmas party is tomorrow I am planning on getting him to order me cocktails with out the alcohol I may pretend to have I sip of his beer I am also planning on pulling the designated driver for other events I just recently got my licence so I still have zero alcohol tolerance we will tell close family on Christmas and friends after we hear the heartbeat

deecherise · December 2018

My immediate family and close friends already know, and since I'm only seeing them for the holidays, it's no biggie. I've already played the DD card for a couple of outings with groups of friends, so we'll see how long I can play things off doing that. I plan on telling my extended family after the 1st u/s if everything looks good.

ElcaB · December 2018

I am an expert at hiding pregnancy. I "drank" throughout my entire first tri last time around (we had a big group of friends we met for regular happy hours) and no one had a clue!

Tip 1: If you're the first one to the bar, tell the server your situation and have them brink you soda water every time you order a vodka soda. If your group is into shots, have him give you water instead.

Tip 2: If you are not the first to the bar, order whatever H is drinking. Fake sip it and when his drink gets low, swap the bottles.

Tip 3: Claim you're on a medication that cannot be mixed with alcohol. You can also say you're on a diet program and are getting a jump start on the new year.

Tip 4: If you're going with Tips 1-2, be sure to post random photos on FB & IG of you holding drinks. Last time around I'd fill an empty beer bottle with water and post a pic of H's beer next to "mine" and write captions like, "Happy hour at home!" Or "This IPA is my new favorite!"

emeraldduchess · December 2018

I am going to tell my mom before Christmas, but with extended family I am going to put apple juice in a wine glass and drink that. Ha! New Year's Eve we always spend just the two of us, so that's not a problem.

WinchesterGirl · December 2018

I do not drink, but still planning to hide it until first ultrasound comes back ok. Right now the only issue with this is MS, so we'll see how that's going right before Christmas.

suzycupcake · December 2018

I'm going with tip #3. We have to hide it until Christmas day when my husband's entire family is together and my Mom, but we will arrive to visit four days before then. Plus, I'm gonna have to hide the fact that I'm going into the other room every night to shove 1.5" needles in my ass to keep Progesterone and Estrogen going strong. So many secrets, I can't take it.

EmilyA724 · December 2018

Luckily it’s my in-law’s turn for Christmas and they don’t drink so that will be super easy. After Christmas I’m going to my sisters with my parents and will probably tell them then so I don’t have to pretend to drink for 3 days and hide my morning sickness. I don’t love the idea of telling them before hearing a HB, but as long as it’s just them until Feb, it’ll be fine.

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