Okay, seriously. Who here feels productive when they go to meetings? Because I do NOT. They are an interruption to my day and prevent me from doing actual work and it drives me crazy but if I don't participate then I'm not a team player. Yet SOMEHOW every fricking unit I am involved with wants to slam an extra meeting between now and break in the name of "productivity" when I could be working on year-end reports and feeling better about taking 2 weeks off of work. Good lord!!
If you're one of those people who gets energized by meetings... *shudder* girl. Girl. No. Put your planner away, stop asking us out to eat so we can have a "working lunch" and let us beeeeeeeeeeee. Send an e-mail. We'll read it, absorb it, and move on.
1) I'm (unfairly) angry my one year old chose to act like a one year old during our pictures yesterday. So far, I hate them. The photographer takes nice photos but nice photos are irrelevant if the subject won't cooperate. "Here's a beautifully lit shot of my child losing his 💩"
2) He won't nap and is whining about it
3) This is zero percent his fault and I don't blame him - he's teething and teething makes him incredibly snotty. I am SO SICK of being damp and covered in snot myself. It's disgusting and it's starting to make me feel ragey because it's been days and days of this.
4) My family doesn't know how to pick up after themselves so good job to me for cleaning everything and tidying Friday, it's Monday and life is a mess again.
Husband was adamant this morning that we were leaving at x time and kept checking to see if I was ready because we were leaving in x minutes. Then I'm ready, tiny human is ready, and I go upstairs to see if he is, and he's not even dressed. So, tiny human and I got in the car and waited for about 5 minutes for him. But if I wasn't ready oh, the threats to leave without me 🙄 I'm not even really annoyed about waiting, it's more that the other way around, he would wait but good god the bitching would be unreal lol.
@DuchessOfCambridge - I've had days like that. I feel your pain. Especially the "I'm grumpy because I'm exhausted but I REFUSE to sleep" beast mode. Shoot, my almost 4 year old still does that.
We'd planned a lovely photo shoot for his first birthday and made sure all the conditions were ideal. He slept 12 hours the night before, had a big meal that morning, took a healthy poop right before changing his outfit aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand... he still whined the entire time. Wouldn't look at the camera. Didn't like the smash cake we bought him so we had to crumble it up with our own hands to make it look like he ate some. Somehow we ended up with some super cute pictures but it was an ordeal to say the least!
@wishiwaspreggo on that subject, my new coworker feels the need to walk over to my office, knock on my door, and interrupt me when I'm clearly in the middle of something, or have a mouthful of lunch, to ask me a very non important question about things that aren't even happening right now. Guessing this happens about 10+ times a day.
I know there are definitely times when face-to-face is better than email, but these absolutely could be emails. I know she's new and all but - common sense?
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We had a lockdown drill today and a few of my kids were goofing off and I am so fucking pissed! I mean, not only would they put their life in danger but also the lives of their 42 other classmates, the other fourth grade teacher, me, and my baby! I screamed at them I was so upset. I don’t care if it’s a drill, take it seriously!
@DuchessOfCambridge That was our 1st year shoot in a nutshell, as well. We added DS tripping on something and busting his lip in the middle of the shoot. We got a few cute shots but definitely not enough to justify the cost!
@eatinwatermelonseeds That was my H yesterday. I don't understand -- I got myself ready, DS ready, packed the diaper bag, and took care of the dogs and still had to wait for him to leave.
My BF is generally directed at gift-giving this year. My mom won't give ideas for Xmas gifts and just wants us to give her some things she bought herself (so, you know, pay for her overspending). I refuse and she's not happy. MIL keeps trying to get us to go in on gifts together and is always telling me how we have a lot on our plate this year (new house, pregnancy) and we should probably not buy gifts this year. First, we have all that under control, and second, it makes no sense for her to say we shouldn't buy gifts but then tell us we can gift her something I ordered for her instead of repaying it. I usually love gift-giving but this year, I could definitely do without.
My bitch fest is my husband. He is the world's worst procrastinator. He has been procrastinating on a house project to finish our MB closet for 2 years!! And I have been using the future nursery closet this whole time. He is a carpenter and it would take him no time at all to finish it. I had offered to hire someone but his pride wouldn't allow it. He blamed his procrastination on me nagging so I had made a deal that if he picked a date he would finish it by I would promise not to say anything about it. He picked December 13th. It is now almost that date and he still hasn't done it!! It takes painting and such so he can't wait until the 13th to do it. If it is not done by Friday, I may strangle him. This is absurd. I want to get started on putting the nursery together but I can't as long as my shit is in there.
@lappymom2019 - I'd probably call a contractor. It's getting to be an urgent matter when you're pregnant and a baby who will actually need the nursery closet is well on its way. He had 2 years to get it done and at that point it's just time to say "Sorry, honey. We're paying XYZ $300 to get this done over the weekend unless you can get your supplies and get started before they come."
I had to go to my in-laws this weekend. Mil sent us home with a bag of nasty teeth marked used books she found, our 11 year old nephew’s recently outgrown very well worn pajamas (that we should apparently store for 8 years for our 2 year old to eventually wear) and a 20 some year old small pillow of my husbands he used in the car apparently, that she found. This happens every time we see them. Just why??
@aels12 I hate when people donate their old crap to you. I have my own old crap to get rid of, I don't need more thank you very much. I have a few relatives that do this and I have gotten pretty good at turning it down politely.
@lappymom2019 I told my husband he needs to talk to her and tell her we don’t want it in the future. He was really irritated as well when we got home and saw what it all was. I just made a goodwill run to get rid of the last bunch of crap she left with us that I finally made time to go through too. I usually try to “accidentally” forget things there that she tries to give us, but she allllways checks and makes sure we leave with it. So obnoxious. One time she gave us used sippy cups from when DH was a toddler. IN THE 80’s. Who holds onto that type of thing that long?!?! And who would think someone would want a 30 year old sippy cup to use for their kid?!
When DD1 was born MIL gave us a whole box of DH’s old bath toys. Why did she keep them?!?!
She is also one of those people who is constantly finding old stuff in the garage or closets, sometimes it’s Dh’s old stuff but other times not, and tries to pawn it off on us. The other day she arrived unannounced and hands me a bag and said I know you have said you don’t want any books but here are some advent books I thought you could read with the girls. Ummm no I don’t want them!!!
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@robyn2201 the constantly finding more old things is the worst. Each time for the first year I hoped it was the last of it. Now I know better.
@eatinwatermelonseeds it seriously is gross. They went straight in the trash. And everytime I feel guilty for getting rid of it but it’s all just old and gross.
She gave ds a clifford stuffed animal this weekend. I made my husband smell it repeatedly to determine if it was new or used. The consensus was new, but it’s still getting washed multiple times just in case. I tend to donate all the used stuffed animals she gives us too.
Did I mention one year for Christmas she gave me used spatulas? Like the dollar section ones from target. But incredibly used. I know I sound so ungrateful, but seriously. They aren’t poor either, just odd. I could go on forever 😂
@aels12. My mil is always sending random crap as well. A wise friend recently told me that I'm not responsible for anyone else's memories. That had been so freeing to me. I have been better able to gracefully turn down her "gifts" ever since.
@aels12 This is also my MIL - keeps everything. She had two boys but had some girl outfits she had bought in 1984 that she wanted to give me if we ended up having a girl. WHY do you still have them?! She also regularly gifts supplies that she stocked up on years (seriously, like 10+ years) ago, including cleaning supplies and laundry detergent.. Part of it, I understand. Like, she is a great mom to have when going to college because she has a whole dorm's worth of crap in her basement that her kids could use. But she's still collecting crap and thinking we need it despite all her kids have jobs, wives, and families of their own. I don't need her to provide end tables or lamps or spoons or any of the baby items (i.e., a car seat and three strollers) she picked up at yardsales. Just stop.
@DuchessOfCambridge that was exactly my son yesterday. I'm sorry your photos didn't come out as amazing as you hoped! That happened with our Christmas photos last year so we did a redo with a new photographer (who was a bit pricier) and they were phenomenal. She is the only photographer to always make my son smile. Worth every penny, every time. If you get a chance to redo them I hope it turns out better.
@lappymom2019 I agree with @wishiwaspreggo I would probably call a contractor at this point. Maybe that'll make hubs get his ass in gear.
man everyone complaining about Moms and MILs lately makes me so greatful for mine. They drive me nuts sometimes but at least they don't send me home with random nonsense.
I started this post 2 hours ago. My bitchfest circles back to my cryfest Thursday when I got pulled over on base. Turns out my driving privileges are suspended and I have to go to traffic court to prove I paid my ticket. Not really a problem except I don't know where is traffic court? No one seems to be able to give me an answer. Either this base, the other one or at the federal courthouse in a town 30 minutes away...wtf.
@aels12. I hate when people do that. I’m not to proud to accept hand me downs when it’s stuff that’s in good condition that I can actually use, but to often it’s stuff that should have gone in the trash a long time ago. Most of the time they just want to feel good that they didn’t just throw it away, but really they are just forcing others to throw it away instead. And old sippy cups? Ewww. No one wants that.
On a related note my mom texted me that I didn’t need to buy a car seat because she found one someone was throwing out on the side of the road. Apparently, I’m being wasteful for not accepting it. 🤦♀️
@beccaneu oh. Hell. No. And honestly I wouldn't even tell her why. I'd just say I already bought one and no thank you. I feel like she's been way too hateful about baby being a boy to care about how dangerous a used side of the road car seat is.
@DuchessOfCambridge I feel awful that I never got professional photos done of DS, but I knew it was going to be a nightmare and was always too afraid and talked myself out of it. Totally regret it now though. Some of my favorite school pictures are the ones he's not cooperating 😂
This is not about a person at all, but I somehow lost my favorite bra. It's not in the laundry (clean or dirty), not on the drying rack, not in any of my drawers. It's not packed away with the summer clothes, it's not mysteriously hanging on a hanger, it's not in the overnight bag we took last weekend to my parents'... I don't understand how this is possible, but it's fallen into the void somewhere and I miss it
Thanks for commiserating with me, everyone. Our day got much better, we had a really nice afternoon together. Thank goodness because I was done by like 10 am.
@eatinwatermelonseeds lol. My dog used to do that. She’d go through my dirty laundry basket and stash my clothes all over the place. I once went to go vacuum the couch cushions and discovered a stash of missing underwear and socks that she had hoarded away.
@eatinwatermelonseeds Nope, I don't have a dog, so thankfully wherever my bra has gone it's probably in one piece... if it ever turns up again. I'll check under the bed just in case... I'm getting desperate here.
@brie_and_almonds that's good at least. I hope you find it! I feel like my dog likes to take it upon herself to tell me I need new clothes. Makes me feel better about the situation, anyway 😂
My husband left a Kleenex in a pocket of something and it went in the washing machine. I picked tiny bits of soggy tissue off a giant load of laundry for 20 minutes. Motherf***** I am not your mommy, check your effing pockets before you take your pants off and put them in the laundry hamper!!! It’s not in my job description to check all pockets before I dump clothes in the washer. He’s 32 years old and we’ve been having issues with paper or tissues in pockets for the entirety of our relationship. I don’t understand how he didn’t acquire the skill of checking his pockets when he was doing his own laundry in college. Unbelievable.
@mrskoz428 is it possible at their goofing off may be a way to deal with the stress /reality of a lock down drill? That shit may be a bit too real for them...
@brie_and_almonds i hope you find it! I hate when my favorite bra is even dirty.
@poshspice so frustrating. I hate when it's short season because cargo shorts are the worst for forgotten items in my house.
@missy052819 thanks. I'm hoping it's a quick fix today. One of my students works base security and stopped in right before I left last night so he set me straight on where to go thankfully and eased my mind about the whole thing.
I’m so incredibly angry right now. My husband 100% was a complete dick to our daycare provider and she dumped us today. Like legit, she fired us from daycare. We have a new daycare scheduled to begin January 7th, but I NEED her still until the school year ends and for two more days afterward. DH doesn’t get it because he only is in town 1/2 time as he has to be on the road doing sales calls 3-4 days a week otherwise. I don’t know what I’m going to do?! WTF!???? Ugh.
@MaggieG183 omg! I would be so pissed. H did something similar (though his really wasn't deliberate) last year and it was seriously so freaking stressful. I hope you're able to find care in the meantime. Could you talk to her? Apologize for his behavior? Ugh. That's so shitty. I'm sorry.
@MaggieG183 oh man I would be so angry!! Do you have a local babysitting FB group? My town has one that people use for short notice situations as well as long term. Ugh that stinks!
Re: Bitchfest 12/10
2) He won't nap and is whining about it
3) This is zero percent his fault and I don't blame him - he's teething and teething makes him incredibly snotty. I am SO SICK of being damp and covered in snot myself. It's disgusting and it's starting to make me feel ragey because it's been days and days of this.
4) My family doesn't know how to pick up after themselves so good job to me for cleaning everything and tidying Friday, it's Monday and life is a mess again.
I'm in such a horrendous mood.
I know there are definitely times when face-to-face is better than email, but these absolutely could be emails. I know she's new and all but - common sense?
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TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
@eatinwatermelonseeds That was my H yesterday. I don't understand -- I got myself ready, DS ready, packed the diaper bag, and took care of the dogs and still had to wait for him to leave.
My BF is generally directed at gift-giving this year. My mom won't give ideas for Xmas gifts and just wants us to give her some things she bought herself (so, you know, pay for her overspending). I refuse and she's not happy. MIL keeps trying to get us to go in on gifts together and is always telling me how we have a lot on our plate this year (new house, pregnancy) and we should probably not buy gifts this year. First, we have all that under control, and second, it makes no sense for her to say we shouldn't buy gifts but then tell us we can gift her something I ordered for her instead of repaying it. I usually love gift-giving but this year, I could definitely do without.
BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
BFP: 1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17
BFP: 9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19
BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
She is also one of those people who is constantly finding old stuff in the garage or closets, sometimes it’s Dh’s old stuff but other times not, and tries to pawn it off on us. The other day she arrived unannounced and hands me a bag and said I know you have said you don’t want any books but here are some advent books I thought you could read with the girls. Ummm no I don’t want them!!!
@eatinwatermelonseeds it seriously is gross. They went straight in the trash. And everytime I feel guilty for getting rid of it but it’s all just old and gross.
She gave ds a clifford stuffed animal this weekend. I made my husband smell it repeatedly to determine if it was new or used. The consensus was new, but it’s still getting washed multiple times just in case. I tend to donate all the used stuffed animals she gives us too.
Did I mention one year for Christmas she gave me used spatulas? Like the dollar section ones from target. But incredibly used. I know I sound so ungrateful, but seriously. They aren’t poor either, just odd. I could go on forever 😂
BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
BFP: 1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17
BFP: 9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19
BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
@lappymom2019 I agree with @wishiwaspreggo
I would probably call a contractor at this point. Maybe that'll make hubs get his ass in gear.
man everyone complaining about Moms and MILs lately makes me so greatful for mine. They drive me nuts sometimes but at least they don't send me home with random nonsense.
I started this post 2 hours ago. My bitchfest circles back to my cryfest Thursday when I got pulled over on base. Turns out my driving privileges are suspended and I have to go to traffic court to prove I paid my ticket. Not really a problem except I don't know where is traffic court? No one seems to be able to give me an answer. Either this base, the other one or at the federal courthouse in a town 30 minutes away...wtf.
On a related note my mom texted me that I didn’t need to buy a car seat because she found one someone was throwing out on the side of the road. Apparently, I’m being wasteful for not accepting it. 🤦♀️
@poshspice so frustrating. I hate when it's short season because cargo shorts are the worst for forgotten items in my house.
@missy052819 thanks. I'm hoping it's a quick fix today. One of my students works base security and stopped in right before I left last night so he set me straight on where to go thankfully and eased my mind about the whole thing.