Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Moms of multiples
This looks incredibly handy (found on a pinterest review). But holy expensive!!!!
@Pooka8 my older sister had twins in January and was lucky enough to have one of those double seats handed down to her by an acquaintance, used it a bunch in the first 6 months.
Chiropracter and massage this afternoon thank goodness!!!
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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I'm feeling large as well, but walking past another multiples mom who was further along at MFM yesterday made me realize how I'm not compared her
I had some crazy SI joint pain last weekend that made it severely painful to walk, shift position, or do anything, but it went away Sunday so I'm just enjoying being able to WALK this week. I'm actually feeling better than I was in previous weeks and hope it lasts awhile.
I had a growth u/s and fetal echo yesterday. Everything looks good! The babies are both measuring about 2lb 1oz (mid 40s percentile wise if they use the EDD that is 3 days before what my OB and I use).
I go back in a month for another growth ultrasound, then start weekly NSTs at 32 weeks (27 now). I see my OB for the first time in AGES next Tuesday. I haven't seen her since Halloween. I'll do the glucose test then.
They gave me 2 sheets to do kick counts starting in about two weeks ... the idea of being able to differentiate which twin is kicking me is laughable. Baby A has her head so low in my pelvis on the right side that the sonographer wondered how I'm still able to walk...Then her body was curved around with her feet on my left side somewhere. Baby B was stretched out in the open space in the middle. They're like a pretzel in there and I'm sure it changes often at this point.
Baby A has gone from being head down most of the pregnancy to Full Breech
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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Does anyone else where a fitbit or other watch or device that tracks your heart rate?
Mine has run high this pregnancy (to be expected) but I hadn't realized until I looked the other day that my resting heart rate (WHILE ASLEEP) is in the mid 80s and unless I'm at rest it is always above 100. I mentioned it at my NST yesterday and they aren't concerned unless it's reaching the 130s-140s or I'm symptomatic. It gets to the 120s but not higher, but that' just a leisurely walk. I'm just curious where everyone else is (if they even know).
FWIW my resting HR when not pregnant is between mid 60s to low 70s (depending on where I am in my cycle).
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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@Pooka8 I noticed this recently as well. My resting HR pre-pregnancy was below 60 and now it is 80! I checked with my midwife and she said it was to be expected, with your heart working so much harder to move the extra blood volume. I can only imagine it’s even more pronounced when you are carrying multiples.
my resting heart rate has definitely been up. Pre-pregnancy it was in the high 50’s, these days I’m in the mid 70’s, and it definitely spikes more easily. Makes sense that with two little ones in there your heart is working extra hard!
@katw123 I'm really sorry you've got PUPPs! I had it with DS1, and it was horrible. It actually didn't go away right after birth: first it got even worse for a few weeks, then finally disappeared. So brace yourself for that as well. What my midwife suggested at that time was Sarna lotion. It provided some relief. I also took hot showers. I know they say heat makes the rash worse, but I felt so much better during the shower that I couldn't abstain. Try not to scratch it. I know it's hard and it takes lots of willpower, but it's for the better.
So my EDD was 3/12 based on what my OB told me at my 8 wk appt. I've explained before that MFM used 3/15 based on LMP... so I asked THREE times about it and was told to stick with 3/12 and it's not that big of a deal.
It's only 3 days but it feels like a big deal when they use the LATER Edd to schedule my 38 week induction (if I make it that far). I was 34 weeks (or so I thought on Tuesday) and after 3 days of deja vu, I'm now 34 weeks again.
Nothing much else to report. Baby A is head down, Baby B does what she wants and changes position often.
So now I guess it's a waiting game to see if my body holds on to twins as long as it does singletons. Everything continues to check out normally so far. I have another NST/Growth U/S monday.
Est weights at the y/s yesterday were both 5lb 7oz 😲. Braxton Hicks contractions are constant and annoying.
Did or will you be joining the fb group? It'd be great to have more twin mamas
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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