Community› The Bump Message Boards› Trying to Get Pregnant
Trying to Get Pregnant
New Discussion
Options

TTCAL w/o 11/19

kgg2241kgg2241 member
in Trying to Get Pregnant

**This is a general trigger warning that CP, miscarriage/spontaneous abortion, selective abortion due to medical complications, and/or stillbirth may be mentioned.** 

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.

Status:

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?

Any testing coming up/any recent results?

GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? 

Report Reply to Post

Re: TTCAL w/o 11/19

  • Options
    lokibear89lokibear89 member

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. 3 losses, MMC oct 2017, CP may 2018 and MMC Aug 18. Currently unexplained.

    Status: Tww

    How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? Okay, hate the waiting but not expecting a BFP this month at any rate. Just really worried about DH, he bottles things up and it just exploded the other night. He is on the other side of the world from his family and had a little argument with his older sister about a month ago and he just feels like he has no-one to talk to. His only relation is his uncle who unfortunately had a baby around the same time as our first pregnancy was due so DH distanced himself for his own sanity. Now he wants someone to talk to (aside from me obviously) but feels like he had ruined everything. It doesn't help that he seems much more affected than I am, hates to be around babies, hates even the mention of it on tv. I am about to take control of his phone and just message (with his permission) a few of the people I know he wants to talk to. Tearing up just thinking of how depressed he is at the moment.

    Any testing coming up/any recent results? Just called the hospital and while they can see I have done the last 2 tests I needed but the results haven't come through yet, so as soon as they do I can get booked in with a specialist.

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why?  Aesthetically the late 18th century England, but in the end this era is the best one to actually live in healthcare, hygiene and human rights wise.

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • Options
    lokibear89lokibear89 member
    @kgg2241 Glad the Dr was so thorough you hear such bad stories sometimes. On the bright side something to work towards. Did he give you any meds for the cholesterol or are you going to try and reduce through diet?
    Report Reply
  • Options
    kgg2241kgg2241 member
    @lokibear89 I am so sorry DH is having such a hard time. Honestly, I almost wish DH would have texted some of my girlfriends that I was having a hard time and needed support. It is so hard to ask for what you need and I think that would have helped. Has he thought about going to therapy for a bit? That also helped me a lot. Also, FX for you this month. 

    I'm just going to try diet and exercise. I actually eat pretty healthily, but I hardly ever exercise. I do need to cut our sugary drinks though. I don't eat sweets, but drink a lot of sugary coffee drinks. 
    Report Reply
  • Options
    lokibear89lokibear89 member
    @kgg2241 I have suggested it but he really isn't keen. I think he is hoping we get KU again and all of this will just go away. 
    Its good to look at the kind of oil you are having in your diet, unsaturated over saturated and omega 3 can be great for cholesterol levels.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    prpl11butterflyprpl11butterfly member
    @kgg2241 I'm glad your RE was very detailed with you. I completely get your frustration with being benched but in the long run, it's best to correct what we can now.

    @lokibear89 I'm sorry YH is struggling. It's so hard to help them navigate. I think it would be good for him to talk to someone (friend or professional). 
    Report Reply
  • Options
    lokibear89lokibear89 member
    @prpl11butterfly I hope your birthday is okay, take a social media break for a few days and just chill out with your SO. You deserve to be able to relax and take a me day.

    Report Reply
  • Options
    kels0091kels0091 member

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MMC

    Status: TWW CD 19

    How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? Had my drs appointment today and he went through all my blood work he has me do and everything looked great. He wants me to go on thursday for a progesterone blood test and a pregnancy blood test. i feel like absolute crap but I think my body is just fighting off a sickness. Of course my bf keeps saying I'm KU and I know its going to be crushing to him when I'm not. The referral has been put in for the fertility clinic which seems super fast but only because it takes almost a year to get in. 


    Any testing coming up/any recent results? Thursday two blood tests 

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? 1920's only for the clothes lol

    Report Reply
  • Options
    kindbytealikatkindbytealikat member
    @kgg2241 Sorry about being benched, but hopefully some time to focus on just you will help, physically and mentally.
    @lokibear89 I’m so sorry DH is struggling so much, it’s hard when there is nothing you can do really.
    @prpl11butterfly I don’t know where you stand with your openness on FB but if it were me I’d put out a post on your BD acknowledging your babies and your grief.
    Me: 35 DH: 47

    HX
    DSS: 20
    DSD: 17
    DS: 4(Nov'14)
    MMC:8/17
    MMC: 1/18
    BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19

    Tickers
    BabyGaga
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker


    Report Reply
  • Options
    prpl11butterflyprpl11butterfly member
    @kindbytealikat I was thinking about it. I haven't been open at all there (not for lack of wanting to, but not able to find the right words). Maybe I'll make that a healing project for the weekend.....
    Report Reply
  • Options
    kgg2241kgg2241 member
    @kels0091 Hope you feel better soon. I'm glad the fertility clinic can get you in so soon!

    @prpl11butterfly I completely agree with Suzy. If you want to acknowledge your bday by grieving, that is 100% okay. Don't force your feelings and try to celebrate when you aren't up for it. I also like the idea of writing your feelings out, even you if you don't post it to Facebook.  <3
    Report Reply
  • Options
    minnek8minnek8 member
    @kgg2241 Sorry about the benching, but you have a good attitude about it! I self-benched for many months just to get my head back in the right space and I am glad for that. So happy your RE was thorough-- there are so many awful stories of doctors being so flippant.
     
    @lokibear89 I am so sorry YH is struggling. We have, at times, really struggled with navigating each other's emotions around TTC. I hope he finds the right outlet and people for support! 

    @prpl11butterfly I think it's your birthday, so you can do whatever you want. I think if you want to do whatever you can to ignore it this year, you definitely should. Just, turn off social media notifications and ignore it? I hate hate hate having to wait a long time for appointments/between appointments! I know they have other patients who probably deserve the same good care that I am seeking, but also... clear your schedules, please and thank you! Hang in there and hopefully the days pass quickly.

    @kels0091 Glad the blood work looks good so far, but boo for sickness. Hope you are feeling better soon.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    kindbytealikatkindbytealikat member

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. 2 early losses 8/17, 1/18

    Status: WTO

    How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? 

    I’m starting to feel healthy this week, the past two weeks I’ve been miserable. My husbands family is here as of last night, so there’s 11 people in my house until Friday. Crowded and busy but fun. Fertile time starts Wednesday so it will be interesting to try and get that accomplished. I filled out my paperwork for RE, they never called me so I’m just going to take in my paperwork and records and see if I can get anywhere that way. I’m struggling with what if I do end up pregnant this month. I’d love for that to happen, but it with out timing right with my last loss so emotionally it probably would be a bad situation. Idk I’m not hopeful anymore that it’ll happen anyway.

    Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I have no idea 

    Me: 35 DH: 47

    HX
    DSS: 20
    DSD: 17
    DS: 4(Nov'14)
    MMC:8/17
    MMC: 1/18
    BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19

    Tickers
    BabyGaga
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker


    Report Reply
  • Options
    minnek8minnek8 member

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. 2 MC in 2017; diagnosed with uterine septum 8/2017, septum removed last week (!!)

    Status: Benched for at least 1 cycle, but probably 2-3 post-op. So. We've got time... 

    How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? I am super happy to have had this surgery completed last week. Surgeons felt it went really well and recovery has been easy. I did have a panicky moment last week when I was trying to calculate when we might have a baby if everything went PERFECTLY and we could start TTC right away and got pregnant right away and all that and I was like, "UGH. It will still be at least a year!" [Insert incoherent sobbing]. It just felt like still such a long wait and I know it really isn't but I was just kicking myself for not having this surgery sooner. I have not enjoyed talking to my family about it all either, and the weird questions they ask or assumptions they make. Thanksgiving should be a real treat. I'll probably bring a flask and then everyone can gossip, "Well, I guess she's STILL not pregnant!" 

    Any testing coming up/any recent results? Pathology results of removed uterine tissue show nothing abnormal, which we expected but I love checking the boxes so it made me feel better. Post-op follow-up is next week.

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? DH and I have gotten really into jam bands in the last two years or so and I've been trying to listen to more bada** lady rockers (Joni Mitchell, Stevie Nicks, etc.) so right now I think I would just slide back a bit to the late 60s to early 80s. I'd probably have been a great hippie. 

    Report Reply
  • Options
    kgg2241kgg2241 member
    @minnek8 I'm so glad your surgery went well! I am in the same boat as you about the holidays. Since most of our immediate and extended family know about our miscarriage, I know they are all going to be on bump watch. It is making me so anxious and uncomfortable. Maybe carrying this around will get the message across? 

    Image result for massive wine glass
    Report Reply
  • Options
    SpongeWorthySpongeWorthy member
    Sorry everyone I just realized I bumped the old thread last night instead of this one. 

    @kgg2241 I'm glad your RE was thorough, but I'm sorry that you are benched.
    @lokibear89 Having to go through a loss is one thing, but then having to watch your partner also go through it is like a kick in the ribs.  Is he the kind who would like an internet forum?  Reddit might be a place where he feels more comfortable since there are a lot of men in the loss forums.
    @prpl11butterfly Oh girl.  I am so, so sorry.  I know what you mean - it seems so cruel that the world keeps spinning while your world is crashing down.
    @kels0091 I'm glad your blood work looks good so far.  Sorry your BF is getting his hopes up.
    @kindbytealikat I'm glad you are having fun hosting Thanksgiving!  Hopefully you can get some sneaky BD in :)
    @minnek8 I'm glad your surgery went so well!  Hopefully you make it through Thanksgiving unscathed.

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. DS was born in June 2017 with a genetic disorder that caused many birth defects.  He unexpectedly died of heart disease 3 months ago.

    Status: WTO, CD 14

    How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? I am struggling with Thanksgiving coming up.  We're going to my in-laws and I had a mini meltdown  last night about it.  I feel like such a child around them and I hate it.  Like, I want to be hosting Thanksgiving this year - I'm a 30 year old mom now.  But no, I'm not really a mom anymore.  I have no one to take care of.

    Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope.  We met with our MFM last month, and she gave us the all clear to try again.  We don't know the genetic cause of DS's issues, so we are supposed to try again and see what happens.

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I'm going to go with being a hippie like @minnek8
    Me: 31 DH: 31
      <3 DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018 <3
    CP 3/2019
    Report Reply
  • Options
    drewsdarlindrewsdarlin member

    Status: In 2ww after embryo transfer on Saturday 17th

    How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? Trying to enjoy the embryos and praying they implant and stick and grow

    Any testing coming up/any recent results? Beta test on 29th

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? Not sure

    Report Reply
  • Options
    nomangos23nomangos23 member
    @minnek8 lol love it!!!!
    Report Reply
  • Options
    holly321holly321 member
    @minnek8 that is awesome!  I love it! I have had many people comment about my weight loss and not shut up even though I am obviously uncomfortable, so I like to point out it is from the chemo from my pregnancy giving me cancer, that usually shuts them up.  
    I am glad that your surgery went well.

    @prpl11butterfly I think what you typed up is perfect  <3. I am sorry you have to wait for your appointment. 

    @spongeworthy I an sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine how hard the upcoming holidays will be for you,  I hope you can find peace. 

    @kindbytealikat good luck trying this week!  I could not imagine having so many people in my house (I do imagine it is fun and stressful ). I hope you enjoy the time with your family.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    lokibear89lokibear89 member
    @dpjennifer making him text his uncle to meet up for a beer or coffee in town as we were going to go and watch a movie. I get the feeling he has been waiting for me to interfere for a while. 
    Report Reply
  • Options
    maserrano714maserrano714 member

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: MC August 2018 @ 9W

    Status: TWW 4DPO

    How are things going?: I waited for 3 cycles to start trying again but I'm scared and nervous of another MC happening again. I worry that if I do get pregnant, I won't be able to enjoy it since I'll constantly be worried about MC. I also worry that we might not be able to get pregnant and that was our 1 shot. On the plus side, I don't cry everytime I think about MC anymore. 

    GTKY? (Stolen from June BMB) If you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I do love a poofy dress a la Marie Antoinette. The idea of dressing up and going to balls sounds fun. 

    Report Reply
  • Options
    kgg2241kgg2241 member
    @maserrano714 welcome. I'm so sorry you find yourself here. I totally get how you feel. I am so worried that it was our one shot too and it won't happen again. I think most of the ladies here can also relate to the fear of getting pregnant again. It is truly the worst feeling like that joy has been robbed from you. I'm glad you are feeling a little better, but remember it is okay to grieve when you need to and feel your feelings when they come. <3
    Report Reply
  • Options
    SpongeWorthySpongeWorthy member
    @dpjennifer Thank you for that.  I feel inspired to host Thanksgiving next year, no matter where in our TTC journey we are.  I can’t keep putting my life on hold for something that may or may not happen.
    @lokibear89 How did the texting go?  I hope YH can find someone to talk too soon.
    @maserrano714 Welcome.  Your fears are totally valid.  Unfortunately we have all been on the wrong side of the statistics.  But I hope if you do get KU, it can bring you healing.  Hugs  <3
    Me: 31 DH: 31
      <3 DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018 <3
    CP 3/2019
    Report Reply
  • Options
    kindbytealikatkindbytealikat member
    @maserrano714 I’m so sorry you find yourself here. Welcome to our community. Trying again is such a hard place to be after loss. I don’t think those fears ever go away, but I hope you can find some relaxation.
    Me: 35 DH: 47

    HX
    DSS: 20
    DSD: 17
    DS: 4(Nov'14)
    MMC:8/17
    MMC: 1/18
    BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19

    Tickers
    BabyGaga
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker


    Report Reply
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"