@ksdelong20 Yes, I used to be a 10, now I'm a solid 11. My cowboy boots are then only shoes that still fit me. However, I wouldn't get anything remotely tight on your ankles in case you swell while wearing them. I've heard horror stories of people cutting their boots off. I've already gotten a pair of 12's for this winter just in case me feet swell or grow again.
Mine haven’t grown. But I wouldn’t mind if one did bc my left is .5 size different than my right!
This wasn’t asked, but I wanted to share in case FTMs feel like something is wrong with them - I didn’t feel that immediate bond with DD when she was born. I loved her and would do anything she needed, but that OMG THIS IS MY CHILD AND IM HER MOM OMGILOVEHER feeling didn’t happen right away. Maybe not even for a few weeks or months. I can’t remember when it clicked. It was almost like I felt like a caregiver instead of mother. Like I said, I absolutely loved her and thought she was amazing, but it took awhile for the mom feeling to set in. So don’t feel like you’re broken if you don’t feel that life changing feeling when he/she is placed on your chest for the first time. It will come. Especially after you get in a routine that involves some good sleep.
To add to the list of things that will make you feel like something is wrong with you - breastfeeding, while natural, doesn’t always come easy. It was easy with DS, but not at first with DD. I cried almost every time she needed to eat the first few weeks because it hurt. Use the resources offered to you and get help sooner rather than later.
Thank gawd my feet did not grow permanently because I already wear an 11! They did swell however really reducing what shoes I could wear in the last months.
@kayjay44- Second That on nursing. It was very challenging for me and never just was fine and easy, even after months, because I always had to supplement with formula, was always pumping and trying to get my supply up in vain. I’m literally dreading it!
Mine grew a tiny bit (I used to be 7-7.5, now I'm 7.5-8), but I always buy a few pairs in a half size bigger (so 8-8.5, depending on what socks I want to wear) when pregnant because of the swelling.
I’ll die if my feet change sizes permanently. I had to replace almost all of my shoes a couple years ago due to a mold issue. I do NOT want to do that again.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Something else I wish someone told me with my first - don’t even bother baby proofing until the kid is mobile and even then, do it in stages. It’s not worth the time or the energy now or when the baby is non-mobile.
@nataliezbrungart I got a post-partum wrap from the hospital after my second and it was just too uncomfortable to keep wearing. They help more for c-sections, and if your doctor recommends one I would definitely try harder to wear it, but otherwise I wouldn't worry about it.
3rd time mom here - anyone else have choleostatis with any of your pregnancies? Specifically, did you get it with one pregnancy but not the next? I didn't have it the first time, had it with the second and am hoping I don't get it again but am being told by my Dr that I should expect to get it again. Just curious.
@nataliezbrungart- I bought one - a belly bandit. Wore it maybe a few days and found it restrictive and uncomfortable while endlessly sitting on the couch, nursing and holding my newbie, and I pretty swiftly ditched it. For me it was a waste of $40, and frankly, my biz went back to normal pretty much by itself. I did not have a C though.
I have used a belly bandit after each c/s and have one for this time too. Loved it because I could cough, sneeze, etc without feeling like my incision was going to pop.
I used one that the hospital gave me and it was great for that extra support post c section. It really made my incision less painful when doing certain things like coughing, laughing etc. Once I was pretty healed up I didn’t use it as often anymore though.
I agree with @ginger1228 about not binding right away. I was that way through pregnancy as well. I just never felt super connected. It took me a few weeks-month to really start to feel a connection and be like “okay, this little human is mine and so sweet”. It’s okay to just be in survival mode.
I always wore a tighter nursing tank top that helped hold things in but I might try a belly band this time, esp because I can’t see myself not picking up DD even though she is a giant 2 year old she’s pretty needy
This is my 3rd pregnancy, 4th baby. First babies were twins that I carried to 38+ weeks. Youngest was almost 9 lbs. And with neither of those do I remember feeling like my pelvis split and the bones were rubbing together when I walk. Or that the head of my femur bone was going to pop out if it's socket. WTH is this?? I feel like I'm falling apart below the waist!
@bellebaby221 - I also had that with my first (toward the end like @kayjay44)and already been feeling it with the second for a while. I’m sorry to say it only gets worse. I know this sounds dramatic, but with my first I had to use a walker to get up from the couch bc it hurt SO bad. Needed the weight off my lower half when getting up, so I used the walker to pull up.
@ginger1228 - I'm just glad we have a high bed - I wouldn't be able to get out of the low one in the guest room. A ball chair at work is already helping. I also sleep with something between my legs to keep my hips inline. I'm hoping that these new tank tops with support will help (Blanqi - they're having a sale right now) so I don't have to resort to a support belt (which looks weird) or PT (which I don't have time for).
Anyone have any recommendations for good books that help you with what to do once baby arrives? The articles on TB and books on pregnancy have been very helpful throughout my pregnancy and I'd like to find a book or two that will help get me prepared and be informed once the baby comes! Basically looking for an instruction manual for taking care of a baby
@eliseirene31613 - Honestly, we used google and I never actually opened any book (until my kids got older and needed to be sleep trained (maybe 4 months) and dealing with parenting a toddler (at like 2-3 years).
@kayjay44 that makes me feel better. I feel a little guilty for not having read any preg or child related books at all. Got as far as downloading What to Expect on my Kindle and... that’s it
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I didn’t read any books either. Just kind of winging this parenting thing.
Honestly it’s pretty true what they say - you figure it out as you go. Some stuff (like sleep training or whatever) might be good to read different methods. Although I did rely on my BMB for some things/opinions - so we’ll be here to help too.
@grebretso - I don't have time to read and since I basically read for work, it's not what I want to do with my spare time (I listen to audiobooks and do read some fiction for pleasure). It's quicker to just google stuff and I don't have more things cluttering up my home. And my kids would just get into and destroy the books anyway,
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This wasn’t asked, but I wanted to share in case FTMs feel like something is wrong with them - I didn’t feel that immediate bond with DD when she was born. I loved her and would do anything she needed, but that OMG THIS IS MY CHILD AND IM HER MOM OMGILOVEHER feeling didn’t happen right away. Maybe not even for a few weeks or months. I can’t remember when it clicked. It was almost like I felt like a caregiver instead of mother. Like I said, I absolutely loved her and thought she was amazing, but it took awhile for the mom feeling to set in. So don’t feel like you’re broken if you don’t feel that life changing feeling when he/she is placed on your chest for the first time. It will come. Especially after you get in a routine that involves some good sleep.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
@kayjay44- Second That on nursing. It was very challenging for me and never just was fine and easy, even after months, because I always had to supplement with formula, was always pumping and trying to get my supply up in vain. I’m literally dreading it!
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I agree with @ginger1228 about not binding right away. I was that way through pregnancy as well. I just never felt super connected. It took me a few weeks-month to really start to feel a connection and be like “okay, this little human is mine and so sweet”. It’s okay to just be in survival mode.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
*TW*
TWIN LOSS 7.2.15
BFP 9.7.15 CP
BFP 12.31.15 MC 2.28.16
BFP 10.14.17 CP
BFP 3.10.18 D&C 4.13.18
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Honestly it’s pretty true what they say - you figure it out as you go. Some stuff (like sleep training or whatever) might be good to read different methods. Although I did rely on my BMB for some things/opinions - so we’ll be here to help too.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019