PGAL Check In 11/7

kbeers13 · November 2018

How many weeks are you?

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

Any appointment updates?

Rants/Raves/Questions?

Any milestones coming up?

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL?

chloe97 · November 2018

How many weeks are you?
11+3

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Tired and VERY hungry. Emotionally much much better.

Any appointment updates?
Got our Panorama results- low risk and it's a boy! NT scan on Monday. Still a bit nervous b/c we had a very bad NT scan with our 2nd MC, BUT that baby had triploidy and so I am trying to tell myself that since this one DOESN'T have triploidy, it will be fine.

Rants/Raves/Questions?
I am super huge and so I have had to start telling more people at work (my team has known since week 8). Hoping this won't come back to haunt me.

Any milestones coming up?
My last milestone- NT scan is Monday. After that, I will feel a lot more in the clear.

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL?
DH is super sensitive about announcing the pregnancy to those who we know or suspect have struggled. It's hard b/c most of my friends with IF (and since I am older, I have a lot of them) are adamant that they rather NOT be the last to know. But it's still not fun to tell them. He was very cautious with DD's pregnancy, but I think he is letting himself believe that everything is okay. We have never had a low risk Panorama and had it not be okay.

optbaby2017 · November 2018

How many weeks are you?

11wks

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

Sometimes nauseous, a little tired. Emotionally less anxious, but still a bit.

Any appointment updates?

I had an appointment today. Follow-up u/s from my bleed two weeks ago. Baby looked great and we got to actually hear the heartbeat. I am off all restrictions, yea! I also had to do an early 1hr glucose tolerance test and failed by one point, boo. So I have to track my blood sugars 4x a day for a week, and we will decide what to do from there. Assuming all looks good, I won't have another appointment until I am 16weeks and no u/s until 18weeks, both of which sound so far away!

Rants/Raves/Questions?

Ugh - daycare rules. DD keeps popping fevers and daycare has a rule that she has to be fever-free for 24hrs. I get it, but two weeks ago she missed 3 days because of a fever for an ear infection. Yesterday she got her normal 15mon vaccines (rescheduled because of the ear infection fevers) and popped a fever after, so she had to stay home today. Neither of these are contagious and her doctor attested to such, but daycare stuck to their policy.

Any milestones coming up?

I'm pretty much done with pgal milestones. Today's u/s would be the last one, since we found out mid-week-11 that the baby had stopped developing. Next general milestone is just getting to 2nd tri.

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL?

He's chill about it. I'm sure that it floats in the back of his mind, but he mostly operates in a "it's all good until I'm told otherwise" mindset. Which sometimes that optimism is super helpful and others I feel like he's out of tune.

kbeers13 · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 11w3d

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Emotional rollercoaster and physically I still have my cyst and because of the transvag ultrasound and were having to poke around to see around it. So physically hurty due to my cyst being angry but it should feel better tomorrow

Any appointment updates? Early 12w appointment went well yesterday! NT scan set for next week.

Rants/Raves/Questions? None

Any milestones coming up? Second tri but we're passed all PGAL milestones

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL?
Now that we're passed PGAL milestones, DH feels like he can breathe and has told almost everyone he knows. Makes me uneasy but I'm happy he feels like he can breathe.

missy052819 · November 2018

Good morning ladies!

How many weeks are you? 11+2

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically I feel pretty good (besides fatigue), emotionally up & down.

Any appointment updates? I'm getting a scan today at 5:00 pm & most likely I'll have to go alone.

Rants/Raves/Questions? PGAL is hard, end of rant.

Any milestones coming up? This is the week last time I found out the heart beat had stopped. I went at 11+2 same as today.

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? He's relaxed but he's better at hiding it. He believes he has to stay strong for both of us.

GeorgiaGirl1230 · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 14w1d

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically I'm feeling good. I still can't completely get over all the fatigue, but I'm falling asleep on the couch at 8:30 instead of 6:30 now, so that's good. Emotionally I'm going mostly well also. Everyone knows, we find out the sex Saturday, and I'm mostly confident

Any appointment updates? We had a great low risk NIPT and NT scan was perfect. They've improved what you can see since DD 6 years ago. It's amazing how quickly technology can improve. I have an OB appt this Tuesday the 13th and I'm guessing they'll do a doppler. I hate that I'm nervous for it. Everything as been perfect, but I still question.

Rants/Raves/Questions? My weekend coming up is too busy, and I don't like that. I'll be glad when it's over. I kind of wish we weren't doing our gender reveal this Saturday bc an event came up that I have to attend after it, and I feel like I'm not just going to be able to enjoy knowing the rest of the day. We aren't doing anything big, just special for DD.

Any milestones coming up? We've passed all out loss milestones, I'm in the 2nd trimester now...so why won't the nerves go away?

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? He's been so helpful and good about it. We had a good talk one night last week where we both just opened up about the loss. He did such a great job being there for me through it, but I hate that I'm not sure I ever asked him if he was ok. He admittedly said he knows he wasn't as attached as I was, but it still made him sad; and that it's hard to see me so sad. He was right on board with the timeline I thought would be good for telling folks, and I think it's real to him now.

robyn2201 · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 14w1d

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Both good!

Any appointment updates? Appt today and everything looks good.

Rants/Raves/Questions? About one week till we hear about our NIPT results!

Any milestones coming up? No. Passed them all. Whew!

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? He seems to be doing ok. I could tell he breathed a big sigh of relief after our NT scan as he immediately wanted to announce.

robyn2201 · November 2018

@missy052819 How did it go today?

Courtster5609 · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 13w 3D

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Pretty good. Just tired and not as nauseous which is amazing. Emotionally I’m just ok. I just know I’ll be nervous until I’m holding a baby.

Any appointment updates?
we had our NT and that went well. We got to see the baby moving around and opening his/her mouth. We got our genetic test results back and they were low risk.

Rants/Raves/Questions?
Nothing right now. I’m just happy I’m starting to feel better coming into the 2nd trimester. We get to find out what we’re having in 10 days, eeek!

Any milestones coming up?
We passed our big milestone at 10 1/2 weeks thank goodness. I hope the rest of you mamas pass yours as well.

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL?
He’s excited. We’re both just nervous, and don’t want to wish the time away but also can’t wait for May to be here!

missy052819 · November 2018

@robyn2201 very good! Moving and chilling! I feel so much better. I love see how much the little peanut grows! I'm so amazed!

MelissaMay82 · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 14w1d

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically my nausea is improving. I am still so tired though, I’m hoping to get a little more energy in the next couple of weeks. And I am having crazy dreams/nightmares so that is not helping.

Any appointment updates? I have an appointment with OB next week with one of the PAs.

Rants/Raves/Questions?

Any milestones coming up? I am getting super anxious for the anatomy scan. We have it scheduled with MFM on 11/27, I’ll be 17w5d at that point. The anatomy scan was when I found out the baby had a chromosomal abnormality that was incompatible with life during my first pregnancy.

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? He is cautiously optimistic and getting excited but like me, anxious for the anatomy scan.

journey721 · November 2018

@MelissaMay82 did you do the genetic blood testing this time?

MelissaMay82 · November 2018

@journey721 I got all the standard genetic testing the first time and the NT scan, everything looked great. The pregnancy was going well, no concerns at all. It wasn’t until the anatomy scan that showed all the abnormallies and it was a condition that could really be 100% confirmed with an amniocentesis. So needless to say we were blindsided by unexpected terrible news at the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. This time I have also had all the genetic testing (harmony because I’m AMA) and it all came back low risk.

Edited to add: the diagnosis was thanatophoric (skeletal) dysplasia.

lizeybee · November 2018

Hi all, first time posting here. I’m 15 weeks along with what I hope will be my first, after 4 consecutive early losses in 2 years (all 8 weeks or earlier). I held off on participating in any communities until last week, to keep myself from getting my hopes up, but as we’ve passed a few milestones I’m starting to feel more optimistic.

How I’m feeling: generally feeling better than first trimester. Back pain easing up, nausea less frequent, more energy. I’ve had headaches nearly every day this week, but most have been manageable.

Appts: my 14 week went well - heartbeat still strong. Next check in and anatomy scan at 18 weeks. We did Counsyl prelude testing, and everything came back normal, so fingers crossed!

Rants/raves/questions: have any of you purchased an at-home Doppler? DH thinks it’s a bad idea, but wondering if that could help on bad days.

Upcoming milestones: telling my parents. They’re.. challenging. We shared news with his parents a little while ago, but wanted to hold off with mine until we’d passed milestones. Seeing dad and SM next week, and mom at thanksgiving. Once we’ve told them, will share openly.

How SO is dealing: he’s good. Honestly, he’s been fine for a while - convinced that strong numbers at week 6, and passing week 8, put us completely in the clear. That’s easier for me now that I’m also feeling more optimistic, but for a while was a strain - I felt a little alone in my darker place. @optbaby2017 I feel you.

kbeers13 · November 2018

@lizeybee welcome! I'm sorry to hear of your losses and I'm sure it's been tough to get to week 15 without spilling PGAL feelings. I don't know how I could have done that. Congrats on the good results so far!

optbaby2017 · November 2018

@lizeybee welcome. A few of us have dopplers - I am one of them. It's a double edge sword. When you can't find the heart beat right away or the reading is different than you expect (and mine at least is often not true to the doctor's doppler or to what I count) it can quickly activate pgal brain. At the same time, being able to check anytime can be helpful, too. Also remember that you are just a few weeks out from feeling kicks, which is such a great reassurance.

DressageDarling · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 13w3d

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
I am feeling better physically, which has really ramped up my anxiety. I’m having a hard time connecting this time and just feel like I’m waiting for something to happen. We’ve had two good scans, genetic testing came back normal, and have heard the heartbeat via Doppler, but it’s just always there in the back of my mind.

Any appointment updates? Next appointment isn’t until the end of the month

Rants/Raves/Questions? Nope

Any milestones coming up? We’ve passed our loss milestone

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? Honestly, he is completely fine so far. He is a very positive person, so he doesn’t really understand why I am so nervous.

Courtster5609 · November 2018

@lizeybee I have a Doppler, and I have to agree with @optbaby2017 on it being a double edged sword. There have been times that I can find it so quickly, and other times it takes me a couple of minutes. I try not to use it more than once a week for this reason.

I just find it reassuring during this time where I won’t have another scan until 20 weeks at the anatomy scan, and I can’t feel the baby moving yet.

bpietronicco · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 13+5

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Feeling better than earlier weeks so super anxious about that- still get some nausea in the evenings. Still get tired easily. Wish I could see more of a bump and not blump/bloat.

Any appointment updates? Next appt is not until end of the month- so hard to go from appts every week to every 4 weeks. I may try to go in this week for a Doppler check.

Rants/Raves/Questions? None at this time.

Any milestones coming up? We are past all of our loss milestones.

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? He keeps telling me to enjoy the pregnancy but hard not to be super nervous - especially with everything we have been through to get here.

keighty80 · November 2018

How many weeks are you? 12w6d

How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically, I'm feeling okay. I'm still tired but starting to feel more like myself. Emotionally, I'm feeling alright. We've passed 2 out of the 3 milestones. The last one was due to my incompetent cervix and I'll be having a cerclage done within the next week or so, so I feel better about that one.

Any appointment updates? I had my first MFM appointment on Thursday and the high risk doctor was great. She 100% agreed that I need a cerclage and she also was very thorough. I met with a diabetic counselor (I'm back on insulin for the remainder of this pregnancy...yay?) and due to my family history and previous losses, she had me do the NIPT genetic testing. So that's pretty cool. I feel like she really listened to everything I said and I appreciated that.

Rants/Raves/Questions? My fiance is being a weirdo (see Monday Bitch Fest) about taking time off from work to take me to my cerclage procedure... ugh.

Any milestones coming up? Just excited to get the cerclage. Stitch that sucker closed!

How is the SO dealing with this PGAL? He wasn't my SO for my losses, so I don't really think he quite grasps how scary pregnancy is for me. He's trying to understand but (luckily) he hasn't had to experience any of the bad stuff.

chloe97 · November 2018

I just passed my last milestone today. 12 weeks today and had a gloriously boring NT scan! Baby looked perfect. I am keeping my fingers crossed that everything continues to go smoothly!

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