FFFC 11/2

keighty80 · November 2018

*Warning: not always flame free*

eatinwatermelonseeds · November 2018

Mine is kind of a funny one. I am OBSESSED with Eminem. I listen to his music on a very regular (sometimes daily) basis and know probably too much about him. I have dreams about him sometimes i think because I listen to his music so much. My fitness goal is to be able to rap Rap God without being out of breath and feeling like I'm going to die at the end 😂 realistically, I just respect him as an artist (though I don't always agree with some of his choices or lyrics). Oh, but I do have to say that MGK's diss was amazing. Eminem's was ehhh but I mean, it's Eminem, he's so influential it really doesn't matter.

peachy13 · November 2018

A friend of mine is pregnant for the first time and she has been a big time oversharer on social media about her pregnancy. I'm usually pretty supportive and like/comment on things, but this morning she posted a picture of her 3D ultrasound on instagram and I cringed and kept scrolling. Those things aren't cute.

eatinwatermelonseeds · November 2018

@peachy13 how far along? I think they're sweet further along when baby typically has little chubby cheeks and you get an accurate picture of what he or she may look like. But really early on they creep me out.

mrsclark731 · November 2018

Lol... I agree @eatinwatermelonseeds

I did an “elective ultrasound” with my first pregnancy at 16 weeks because I was DYING to know the sex. The only place I could find by me was a 3D, and let’s just say I didn’t share those.

mrskoz428 · November 2018

I’m a pregnancy oversharer on social media. 🤷🏽‍♀️ FTM and I’m loving every moment of this pregnancy that makes me feel like shit!

peachy13 · November 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds she is about 16 or so weeks. Baby is in alien mode, not cute/chubby yet.

expandcontract · November 2018

My mom has bipolar and she currently has stopped taking her meds. She usually comes over every weekend which I love, but I've noticed the past month or so she's been saying stupid shit. So I lied to her and told her she can't come over this weekend because "we're busy." I can't tell her the truth that it's because I know she's not taking her meds... because otherwise she becomes super defensive and literally does not leave me alone. But either way, I can't win with her right now cuz now she's being all "but I miss the baby!"
🙄🙄🙄
Take your meds, lady!

keighty80 · November 2018

Okay, this one sounds horrible even to myself...
So my son was an actual cute baby. Not just a baby that I thought was cute and that others politely said was cute just to humor me. He was, and continues to be, truly adorable. I'm not sure why...but I've had this little nagging at the back of my mind that says "what if this baby isn't cute?". Of course I'll love this baby no matter what and I have no idea why this is bothering me at all...maybe I'm just vain? I don't know...but I feel like a jerk for even thinking it.

eatinwatermelonseeds · November 2018

@keighty80 I have felt the same. My son is a cute kid and was an undeniably cute baby. I worry the next one won't be. I'm just hoping I don't notice. They say you can't tell if it's your own kid.

keighty80 · November 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds I really hope so. I just loved having a kid that everyone fawned over. Made me weirdly proud.

expandcontract · November 2018

@keighty80 You're not alone! I've thought about this on more than one occasion. It's only natural that we would want our kids to be good looking and have a good easy life. Try not to feel guilty for your thoughts.

mrsclark731 · November 2018

It’s November in the northeast. My 14 week pregnant ass just turned on the air. I’m getting chili in the crockpot and I’m sweating just chopping.

missy052819 · November 2018

@mrsclark731 omg yes. It was so hot last night, I couldn't get comfortable to fall asleep.

megsb615 · November 2018

@peachy13 I agree. 3d is creepy in the beginning, but I lovee the ones we did around 32 weeks!

@keighty80 I think I brought this up last Friday! I feel the exact same way, and I’m so glad I’m not the only one. My husband was telling me about his boss in college saying he’s never seen an ugly bride or an ugly baby, and my husband was like.. 🤔 I’ve seen both 😂 DS has such pretty hair. I know I’ve said it before but it’s thick and beautiful. He definitely got his daddy’s hair. I’m worried this baby will get my super thin hair. I’m also curious if this baby will look similar to DS or completely different. Genetics are so interesting to me.

FFFC: I take way too many pictures and love to AW them. Maybe I should live in the moment more, but when DS starts growing up and has his own life, I’m gonna need all these sweet pictures to cry in my ice cream over. Not really, but I’m super sentimental, and in my defense, if I didn’t take any, we would have none because husband never takes them unless I ask.

Picture of DS’ luscious hair because.. curls. 😍

k2k2tog · November 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds my best friend in elementary school went from fawning over Nick Carter to swearing she was going to marry Eminem in the span of a single summer. It was bit of a shock to my 12 year old system.

@keighty80 in my experience, cuteness multiplies from one baby to the next. DD1 was a cute baby - same thing, fawned over by random strangers. DD2 was even cuter, even though they also looked almost exactly the same.

Here's my FFFC: we are really messy people. Like, dirty dishes piled on the counter for a couple of days, and often left on the coffee table in the play room or the dining room, laundry all over the laundry room and our bedrooms, random crap piled on every surface. I know we're worse right now because of pregnancy related exhaustion and the renovations - there are a lot of things that still aren't back to normal - but I really really hate it and I worry about the habits we are (or are NOT) passing on to our children.

chloe97 · November 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds I saw Eminem's lake house by water this summer We were staying at a friend's house who also has a second home on the same lake. I do not think he was there though.

@keighty80 DH and I feel the exact same way about DD! She literally got the best features from both of us. And I worry that the next one will get our worst features!

My FFFC is that today I am 10 weeks and 4 days and I SWEAR I am feeling this baby move. Not as certain as I was at 13+5 when I felt DD move. That was a lot more obvious b/c it felt like a small toothpick hitting the place in my uterus where I had a scar after my CVS. This time, it just feels bubbly movement.

megsb615 · November 2018

@k2k2tog Me too. I wish I was better about cleaning up, but I’m just tired. Our kitchen table is a drop off surface for mail, DS shoes and socks, whatever it may be. The living rooms stays a mess with DS’ toys everywhere. The landing to our stairs collects items that need to go upstairs. Our clothes have been sitting in a basket in our bedroom for a week bc I get tired of having to put mine, husband’s and DS’ clothes up by myself. We just spend the day before cleaning if we have people coming up the next day. 😂 I will say lately that the clutter has been driving me crazy. I just don’t know when I’ll have time to do anything with it.

sleepy33 · November 2018

@expandcontract I'm sorry to hear that about your mom. That is so frustrating. My dad's lived with schizophrenia his whole life, and dealing with parents who don't want to take their meds sucks.

eatinwatermelonseeds · November 2018

@k2k2tog same. My home growing up was disgusting. I never learned good habits in that regard. My mother was often incredibly depressed and she just didn't clean. Some days she didn't get out of bed until 8pm, right before I went to bed. It was rough. I worry so much that I'll be like her. I have horrible depression and it does impede my ability to function properly and keep my home clean. However, I have my husband to help me out of it. I swear this man has saved my life and I'm not sure what I'd do without him, it's made me forgive my mother because I couldn't imagine doing it alone. My threshold for how dirty I let my house get is significantly lower than hers was, but I really wish I was different in that regard.

kvh22 · November 2018

@k2k2tog OMG I was going to FFFC that our laundry is clean but not folded and I don't give an F and this isn't even that much worse for being pregnant and on modified bed rest. Usually I would get around to folding it and right now we just keep taking things out of the clean hamper and piling more clean laundry on top. I mean, there's little things I usually do that DH isn't picking up the slack on but our dishes are consistently out of control and our huge farmhouse dining table only has enough room on it for the 3 of us to eat (with DD in her highchair with tray), the rest is covered with crap. We are not the most organized (although I do a big straightening once a month when not on bed rest) and it's just exacerbated right now. Usually I cook and DH does dishes so you'd think going out to eat or something would help but if I'm not actively cooking, DH won't clean a damn thing.

@expandcontract I'm sorry, that's so hard. MIL had depression issues. I have a few friends with anxiety and depression who are really open about it which has been a great learning experience for me. I've known MIL has issues for about 5 years (just my diagnosis) but it got bad 3 years ago when we were getting married (I actually think caused by the fact that she was "losing" her son, but coupled with her MIL having to move into a nursing home and her feeling like she was burdened with that). She singlehandedly made our wedding planning extremely difficult, but apparently this made her realize she needed treatment (at 70+ years old, finally). I have no idea if this was therapy or medication but it has been slightly better although there are times when I can't tell if it's circumstances or if she was on medication and decided to go off of it. The whole family is basically constantly on egg shells around her.

DuchessOfCambridge · November 2018

I don’t like 3D ultrasounds at all. I don’t think they’re cute. I didn’t want one with DS but when we thought there was an IUGR issue (I measured four weeks behind, he was fine though), the tech just did it without me asking. And darn it all if that wasn’t the cutest thing I’ve ever seen! I only shared with people who specifically asked and our parents. MIL called it creepy and even though I don’t like anyone’s 3D pictures, I was SUPER offended. Like, you can think that but don’t say it to me!!

I still dont think others are cute though, they’re like all fleshy and stuff 🤷‍♀️ Sorry

Also DS was the cutest newborn and is still so cute (obv I’m biased) and people have told us that often without being prompted so I assume they aren’t lying. I did worry he was going to be ugly but I never thought he looked like a weird potato, he was cute from the second I saw him.

kvh22 · November 2018

Lol the doula who taught the childbirth class at my hospital said all babies look like little old men. Then my brother (before he'd even had any kids) said "wow, she doesn't even look like an old man" which made me laugh. The hair definitely helped. @keighty80 maybe it makes us vain but you are definitely not alone. DD still gets comments constantly. She has cheeks for days and tons of adorable red hair. We'll even be out with moms and babies from our moms group and people will specifically comment on her and ignore the other babies, sometimes to the point where I'm kind of mortified it can be so offensive ("aww look at that cute baby...I mean that one" with pointing at DD or calling out her red hair). I mentioned this last week but I'm not as worried if this baby is a boy but if we have a girl, even if she's cute, she won't get as much attention as DD if she's brunette instead of a redhead which I imagine wouldn't be good for their relationship or for the second daughter's self-esteem.

nopegoat · November 2018

I love looking at ultrasounds, 3d ones included! They fascinate me.

I think one of my boys is cuter than the others. I would NEVER EVER EVER let them know that and make sure to compliment them the same. But yea..

megsb615 · November 2018

@nopegoat I love your honesty. I’d like to think I’d be blind to it being my own baby, but part of me is like, ehhh I think I’d notice it. 🙈

nopegoat · November 2018

megsb615 said:

@nopegoat I love your honesty. I’d like to think I’d be blind to it being my own baby, but part of me is like, ehhh I think I’d notice it. 🙈

I will say I don't think any of my boys are ugly by any means but they have a few features where I kind of go "bless their heart". Mostly because I know later in life they could possibly be picked on because of it because I have been picked on for it. BUT that doesn't change how much I love them. I think it's only natural to find certain physical characteristics in people more attractive or cute. That's why I find my H to be the sexiest man alive (to me obviously) and other guys not so much. It's all preference.

megsb615 · November 2018

@nopegoat Completely agree. I was picked on in elementary school about my ears sticking out (obviously having thin hair didn’t help), and I’ve always been self conscious about them since. That’s one of the characteristics I worry about my child having. DS doesn’t, so I’m hoping this baby won’t either. Kids can be so mean, and I realize if it’s not ears, it’d be something else. It just breaks my heart to think about that stage and seeing my child’s feelings hurt.

robyn2201 · November 2018

We are a mess right now. Dh travels a ton for work and is gone till Monday for work. He suffers from depression and is absolutely emotionally and physically exhausted from work, so he doesn’t help out when he is home. My kids are driving me insane with their constant fighting and the house is an absolute mess. And I look at it all, the dishes and the floor, and say eh I’ll do it later. But I bring a lot of it upon myself when I decide to spend four hours making poodle skirts for 50’s dress up day at school.

mariposa_767s · November 2018

I think all ultrasounds have a hint of creepy, but the 3D ultrasounds are the worst.

@DuchessOfCambridge I can vouch for his legitimate cuteness

My FFFC...I am terrible at remembering to brush my daughter's teeth. I feel super guilty. She's one and has 9 (maybe 10) teeth and I often forget to brush them. Someone tell me the trick to remembering...because having a routine isn't cutting it

k2k2tog · November 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds I know that my lack of good habits definitely comes from the way my mom taught us to keep house. She kind of rejected her own upbringing in which women were homemakers and little else. She and my dad were 100% partners on our farm and housekeeping came second. We had to help with things like dishes every day, but most other things were done in big cleans on the weekend. Which is all well and good, and I'm fairly decent at doing big sweeps, but sometimes I wish I learned more strategies to keep things tidy on a more consistent basis versus letting things build up and tackling them all at once.

I know I do better than my sister but some days I just wish my house wasn't quite so embarrassing so we could actually feel comfortable inviting people over spur of the moment.

kvh22 · November 2018

@mariposa_767s We do vitamin D drops and teeth brushing at bedtime. We do stories in our bed before DD gets put in her crib in her room (hold over from when she used to sleep in the PnP in our room). She's 14 month and until recently, only had the bottom 2 teeth lol, but now she loves the routine and she has 6, so it works for us. She knows she gets in bed with me and our books and while we're reading she gets her drop on her wubbanub and holds it out when she sees the bottle and then she gets to play with the toothbrush (we used to do it but now she wants to so it's a fight to actually clean them these days). Our water doesn't have flouride so we also give her a bit of Tom's kid's flouridated toothpaste (grain of rice size per the ped). It's really a cute routine she would miss if we didn't do it now. The toothbrush is literally on my end table and DH rinses it, gives it back to me, then gets in bed to read her another story.

SpaceBurger · November 2018

@keighty80 I love the Seinfeld reference

SpaceBurger · November 2018

One of my high school friends had THE CUTEST kid. Big, brown eyes, adorable face, etc etc. Then he had his second.....which looks.....................not cute at all haha. I always wonder what he secretly thinks. Who knows though, ugly babies often turn into really really great looking adults.

Casas1989 · November 2018

@keighty80 omg that is hilarious, so when I wa pregnant with my DD, my mom said she had a dream that the baby was ugly. I was hoping she didn’t jinxed me. The day DD is born, I see her, she was ugly lol . I didn’t know how to react. Now, my DD IS 2 and beautiful 😊

peachy13 · November 2018

@spaceburger and on the other end, once I heard someone say, about their own baby, "cute baby, ugly adult." That was a new one to me!

sleepy33 · November 2018

@mariposa_767s I help DS brush his in the tub every night, just add it to the clean routine so I don't forget. Easy.

chloe97 · November 2018

@mariposa_767s We started this summer after her birthday by singing a song about it after we do the diaper change and put on her PJs. We sing "brush brush brush....brush brush brush, brush our teethies, brush our teethies." As she is getting changed- she points to her teeth and says "teeeeeeeeeth....teeeeeth" and then we go into the bathroom, put toothpaste on her toothbrush and let her try to brush them herself. Then we read the story and she goes to bed.

Fun story, DH and DD actually just filmed PSA for my work about importance of toddler teeth brushing. I can't wait for it to come out because she was soooo cute in it.

nonlinear_function · November 2018

I dislike the early or 3D ultrasound overshares, especially on Facebook. This reminds me, remember when Facebook first introducedbthe status function, so it was automatically started "Name is"? There was this girl I only kinda knew who posted, "Sara Lastname is 3 cm dialated." I was only 19 and didn't need to know that much about her cervix!

k2k2tog · November 2018

@mariposa_767s we're the same way. I have never been good at brushing my kids teeth and they both fought it like crazy when they were wee, so now that they're older, it's even harder to remember. Once DD1 potty trained, it was actually a lot easier to remember. Her routine before bed is to go pee and brush her teeth before going to her bedroom to get PJs on. Now that she's 4, she knows the routine and will not let us skip any of it.

DD2 on the other hand... we brush her teeth so rarely, which is terrible because she also still gets bottles in bed - a HUGE no-no for teeth. I'm sure she's already got cavities. I worry because DD1 has some good sized cavities that our dentist is just monitoring and waiting until she's old enough to sit through a filling or having symptoms of tooth pain.

DuchessOfCambridge · November 2018

I don't mind non-3D ultrasound shares. And old coworker once was like "omg but that's a UTERUS" and I was like...yeah? Haha. Uteri themselves don't bother me, it's just muscle and yeah it's part of the reproductive system but it's not like, an actual sex organ like a vagina. 3D ultrasounds do bother me just because I think they look weird. If it was a better picture that didn't make them look so fleshy bumpy I'd probably be fine with it!

I had a FFFC earlier but I don't remember. I forgot as soon as I got to the FFFC board, naturally.

mrsclark731 · November 2018

I have another—I encapsulated my placenta first pregnancy and I will go out of my way to find someone certified to do it again. I don’t care if it’s a “placebo effect.” It’s worth my $200 bucks to do it again. Thus far everyone I’ve mentioned it to at my new OB’s office (I moved and will be delivering at a different hospital with a different doc than my first) has basically laughed at me. IDGAF and will do it again.

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