First trimester check in - w/o 22 October

hildy11 · October 2018

Hi all,

Just come across this forum recently and would love to connect with others in their first trimester after infertility.

I figure better that we start this group even if it’s very late in the week.

Questions below!

How far along are you/ EDD?

How is everyone feeling?

Any upcoming appointments?

Any thoughts/questions/concerns?

GTKY: How/when are you telling people you’re pregnant? (Sorry if you’ve already done this one, I’m new here!)

hildy11 · October 2018

So here are my answers to kick us off:

How far along are you/ EDD:

7w6d, EDD: 9 June

How is everyone feeling?

Feeling a bit nauseous, but mainly exhausted. And of course, the sore boobs!

Any upcoming appointments?

Going in for my final scan with my fertility specialist on Monday. I’ll be 8w1d.

Any thoughts/questions/concerns?

*TW* I’m still feeling a bit anxious/worried after a small bleed last weekend. Scan immediately afterwards at the ER showed the little embryo still in the right spot and right size with a heartbeat, but am desperate for the reassurance from a proper scan on Monday.

GTKY: When/how are you telling people?

We’ve been really open about the process and the early pregnancy. I go in circles about whether this has been the right approach. But for now I’m feeling good, even with the little scare along the way.

Bababatty · October 2018

@hildy11 Thanks for getting us started! I’m new, too. :-) I’m sorry about your bleeding scare! I’d be anxious, too, and I hope you get the reassurance on Monday!

How far along/EDD: So my RE says 6/23, which TB says makes me 5+6, but yesterday my nurse said I was 5+2 on Monday, so I’d be 6 weeks today. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I’ll get some clarity next week.

Feeling: Exhausted—I fall asleep at 9 every night! And crampy. Yesterday i had some more intense, period-type cramps, which I haven’t had yet and therefore stressed me out. No bleeding, though, so I’m trying not to be too anxious.

Appointments: I have my 6-week scan with my RE next Wednesday. I also made my first appointment with my current OB for 11/19 and an appointment with an OB I’m considering switching to for 11/16. Sorry, insurance company.

Thoughts/Concerns/Questions I’ve already started freaking out about everything we have to do during the pregnancy. And then I try to remind myself that I’m not behind if I haven’t found a doula yet and there are hopefully plenty to go around.

GTKY: My Family at least suspects something because we were with them the weekend after my FET and we had to tell them about the FET as I had gotten a cold and fever and was refusing to take cold medicine/was making calls to my clinic’s emergency line about the fever. So we need to tell them soon. I’d rather be able to wait a bit longer.

bpietronicco · October 2018

How far along are you/ EDD? 11+ 4

How is everyone feeling? Feeling okay- nauseous on and off- terrible headache from weaning of the progesterone

Any upcoming appointments? Tuesday- u/s to check on my SCH and glucose test

Any thoughts/questions/concerns? Just hopeful everything is still good and that he is growing still.

GTKY: How/when are you telling people you’re pregnant? We have told people from the beginning throughout our IF journey.

[Deleted User] · October 2018

@Bababatty. Congratulations!!!! So happy to see you posting on the other side! Try not to worry, you'll have plenty of time. We actually got our doula some time in 2nd Tri... only to have her back out. :/ We still found someone to work with us pretty last minute, and I really believe she was the support person meant to be there. You'll be fine! :)

autumnlvs · October 2018

@hildy11 Thank you for starting this! First, congratulations! I really admire your honesty - I feel like no one ever talks about IF and it’s been a lonely road which felt so much more supported by women willing to share their journey. So exciting that you got to see the little heartbeat! FX for Monday!

@Bababatty hello, again! Love the updates - you must be so exciting for Wednesday

@bpietronicco

home stretch to graduating 1st Tri! Hoping your appt on Tuesday goes well - it seems so early for a glucose test but it's better to be safe

How far along are you/ EDD? 5w3d

How is everyone feeling? Nervous

Any upcoming appointments? First ultrasound on 11/1

Any thoughts/questions/concerns? Anyone working out? I’ve been trying to alleviate some of this nervous energy with meditation and walks but am so dearly missing swimming.
@Bababatty you’re so far ahead of me - I haven’t even thought past graduating from my RE. I may try to convince him to continue my care!

GTKY: How/when are you telling people you’re pregnant? Not sure yet. Still kind of getting used to the news myself.

mbradfo2 · October 2018

Nice to see some new faces over here

@hildy11
Was it some spotting or fresh red bleed? I'm guessing all looked well on the u/s but there's always the possibility of a SCH which caused the bleeding. Generally my RE is not phased by any bleeding if the sac looks good and intact so unless they were concerned at your ER scan, I think it's probably nothing to get worried about. Good luck at your next scan!
@Bababatty
Glad to see you posting on this side -- we're not -that- scary and we all understand the nerves that go along with this whole process. Exhaustion was one of my major first trimester symptoms as welll.....well, let's be honest, I was tired the whole pregnancy! Get your sleep!
@bpietronicco
Almost of the 1st trimester now! Exciting - and scary, I'm sure! Just keep at it one day at a time. Have you thought about a home doppler for peace of mind inbetween appointments? I know it helped me alot, but everyone is different. You're getting to the point where you should be able to find the HB fairly easily -- usually around 12 or 13 weeks. Good luck on your glucose test! Those things suck. I failed my 1 hr and had to do the 3 hr one at 28 weeks >.<
@autumnlvs
Welcome! Good luck on your first u/s. Are you feeling well in general? Everyone's symptoms vary so much! I didn't start feeling sick until 6 to 7 weeks. Does your RE want you to avoid physical exertion like swimming? I used use my RE's advice to get out of doing household chores lol. I also wish we could stay with our RE's forever!!! It was so hard to transition to the regular OB's office, even though I know my OB very well.

We didn't tell anyone other than my immediate family (parents and sister) prior to our official announcement at around 14 weeks. Even then I still felt nervous about sharing the news...we just get so used to disappointment.

FX for everyone's upcoming appts and scans!!!

autumnlvs · October 2018

@mbradfo2 thank you for checking in

feeling a little fatigued, a little nauseated but I think the all the supplemental hormones make me feel that way in general. RE just replied back saying yoga, elliptical with HR < 120 in addition to walking were ok but to hold off on swimming (I'm guessing to prevent infection) although your Irma story makes walking sound pretty dangerous!

Bababatty · October 2018

@BusinessWife!! First, I think some congratulations are in order!!

Also thank you for calming me down. :-) This weekend I did almost nothing pregnancy planning related and I feel more relaxed. Can I ask how you found your doulas? I don’t even know where to start anyway, although i’ll definitely ask my OB. Also, I’m sorry your first doula put you through so much stress! But really glad your second was meant to be.

@autumnlvs Yay!! I’m so glad you’re here now! I actually asked my nurse on Friday about exercise and she said my RE is very conservative, so nothing until we hear the heartbeat. I have started walking at my normal city pace, and yesterday I did have to power walk for a ferry, but I just make sure I’m not breathing too heavily and that I can still talk.

And believe me, on Wednesday I plan to beg my RE to be my OB, even though I know he can’t.

@mbradfo2 Hello!! Haha, I am all about the sleep. I think I’m going to move my PIO time down because right now I’m falling asleep on the couch and then walking up 30 minutes later for the shot. Saturday I got 11 hours—no shame!

@bpietronicco I’m so happy to hear you’re almost to 2nd tri! Good luck tomorrow—hope everything looks good!!

Griffin5413 · October 2018

HI ladies... I was checking out this side last week and beginning to think there wasn't anyone in the 1st trimester. lol!

How far along are you/ EDD? 6w2d

How is everyone feeling? Nausea started in full swing this morning. I am going to be interested to see if this time around is different. With my son, my symptoms were really mild. I had a great pregnancy. We are having a girl this time and my mom's pregnancy with me was awful so I'm really hoping it's not quite the same. Sore boobs and being tired are just a staple these days.

Any upcoming appointments? my last appointment with my RE is on Friday where we will hopefully see the heartbeat. I feel like he "graduates" us so early but he likes to tell me that it's his job to get me pregnant and my ob's job to keep me pregnant.

Any thoughts/questions/concerns? For some reason this time around I am sooo nervous even though I don't really have any reason to be. I don't know if it's because I'm older or what but I really am.

GTKY: How/when are you telling people you’re pregnant? we have always been really open with our infertility journey. This time around we didn't tell anyone that we had started the process. We ended up telling my MIL and SIL b/c we were with them the weekend after transfer and I couldn't get in the pool which was the whole reason we had rented the house we did. It was my MIL's bday so she was thrilled with the "present." We are going to tell my parents this week when they are in town. I don't think we will announce anything on FB until closer to end of first trimester.

[Deleted User] · October 2018

@Bababatty Thank you!!! ❤❤❤ we certainly have our hands full, in the best possible way. :smiley:

I started off by doing the Google for my zip code, and searching dona.org as well. While I did find a local person on the DONA site, I reached out first to someone I found who had a website and was close by. (We met and she seemed very nice, would have been happy to work together, I'm sure, had she not had her family issues come up.) I was hesitant to reach out to anyone else and figured we would make do. But then it was my chiropractor who asked me again if we had one, and recommended the one we ended up using. I'm not sure how I didn't find her website before, (SEO issues I guess), but I'm so glad the chiro made the recommendation. Word of mouth means so much! Do you have anyone you can ask, in addition to the internet searches?

Bababatty · October 2018

Thank you @BusinessWife! I’ll start searching/using that site, and I have a few friends who I think used doulas, so i’ll ask them, too. I’m so happy to hear everything is going so well! Hooray!!

autumnlvs · October 2018

@Griffin5413 welcome! Is Friday your first ultrasound?

@Bababatty thank you! Looking forward to some updates this week

@hildy11 Congrats on the beautiful US and graduating your RE! So exciting!

How is everyone else doing this week?

bpietronicco · October 2018

Just had my scan yesterday and baby measures great and mySCH is gone- just finished my last progesterone shot so a little nervous about that. Next appt is not for another 4 weeks now.

northbeach3 · October 2018

Hi IF warrior ladies,

I've been lurking for the past several weeks, but superstition was preventing me from posting. I just had my 9w u/s and passed my previous MMC milestones, so exhaling a bit. Have been discharged from my RE (eek!) and will see new OB in 2 weeks. Happy to see some familiar faces and hope to share many more victories with you ladies.

How far along are you/ EDD? 9weeks ; June 5, 2019
How is everyone feeling? mentally, relieved. physically, a bit gross, but nausea at bay today.
Any upcoming appointments? just had last scan at RE this morning. measuring 9+1 and strong FHR at 188. RE thinks it's a girl. first OB appt in two weeks (11w).
Any thoughts/questions/concerns? my RE said i could stop meds cold turkey. seems crazy, so going to try tapering off at least for one more week to get to 10w. otherwise, i have no idea what's next... i've never gotten this far. maybe some recommendations for what to ask the OB?
GTKY: How/when are you telling people you’re pregnant? Right now, besides DH, only 2 closest friends and SIL who did IVF know. Given our last two losses, we're trying to take a more private/measured approach. DH's mom is particularly intrusive, so we've been evading her questions... but we're going to her house for Thanksgiving, and I should be almost 12w by then, so we'll probably wait to tell her in person. I just don't deal well with all her questions bc i still don't feel 100% about making it to THB-status. DH tries to remind her but she can't help herself.

As far as broader broadcasting to colleagues and extended friends, I'm hoping to make it to 2019. DH and I are in education so we'll get winter break off... since this is my first, i'm hoping i don't pop until winter break and then can come back for spring semester with a surprise! haha. i quit facebook, so will probably have to form some kind of email to the extended friend network. most don't know we've been doing IVF, so want to think about how I want to tell our story.

mayflower513 · October 2018

Hi @northbeach3!!

bpietronicco · October 2018

Hi @northbeach3!

northbeach3 · November 2018

Crowdsourcing poll: What’s the typical range to start showing for first time moms? Or when did you start showing? I presume it may be different based on height and weight.

mayflower513 · November 2018

@northbeach3 I had no bump til 18 weeks last time.

ETA I started as 5’3 115 lbs.

mag1cbeli3ver · November 2018

@northbeach3 Welcome! I started to have a bump around 17 weeks that was noticeable to me and DH. I would say it was noticeable to others by 20 weeks, when I really popped! I started at 5' 8" 175 lbs.

mbradfo2 · November 2018

@northbeach3 I never had a really noticeable bump because of how I carried but I definitely felt bigger (rather than just fat) around 23-24 weeks. By 30 weeks I had to lift

tosh24 · November 2018

@northbeach3 With my first I didn't show until 21-ish weeks but could still wear my own clothes until at least 24-25 weeks and some even into 3rd tri. I was 124 lbs @ 5'5". I showed/bloated significantly earlier with each pregnancy. I was in mat pants by 8-9 weeks this time around.

Griffin5413 · November 2018

autumnlvs - Friday is my 2nd. We had our first last Wed and this will be our last with RE.
@northbeach3 - I feel like last time I was starting to show around 16 weeks but I really popped somewhere between 21 & 26 weeks where you could tell I was prego. I feel like this time around I'm going to be pulling out those maternity pants sooner.

DecemberDoll27 · November 2018

@northbeach3 this is my first and I started showing at 15-16 weeks. I was 5'2" and 120 lbs pre pre-pragnacy. I think I started showing this early because I have narrow and shallow pelvis so baby grew out of it fairly fast.

mbradfo2 · November 2018

I do recommend switching to maternity jeans/slacks sooner rather than later though; it is a BIG difference in comfort. The jeans I got had an elastic section on each side and so they would adjust perfectly to your body's shape. Even when I wasn't showing yet, they were super comfortable. And they weren't obviously "maternity" clolthes since my tops hid the elastic sections so I wore them before we told anyone (which was around 14 weeks).

northbeach3 · November 2018

Thanks ladies. I feel like i should take bets on the week. I’m not as slender as most of you. I’m a size 14, so I imagine my fat may obscure any bump that may be trying to appear. Haha.

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