@mrskoz428 even more reason he should just tell her that she's not helping and to please leave it alone as you are communicating with your medical staff.
My MIL is good about certain things but bad if she can't relate and just puts her foot in her mouth all the time, then plays the victim if anyone calls her on it. She is 100% the most stressful part of our marriage but over time, DH has gotten really good at stepping in which is a huge positive for everyone involved. It's easier for him to say to her that I feel like crap during the first trimester (which she did not, lucky pregnant lady) and just wanted a banana and peanut butter and if she asks what I want from the store while she's out and then refuses to buy peanut butter (told me she doesn't buy it, did not forget), I'm going to go to my mom's house where I can have my damn peanut butter which is the only thing I can stomach at the moment. This actually happened last pregnancy when we were staying with them for a few days over the holidays. She got all upset when I left and DH and FIL had to explain to her that she wasn't being very accommodating. I can buy my own peanut butter but I'd rather just be able to cook for myself at my mom's, 4 miles down the road if she's going to be like that. Anyways, the next time we visited 4 months later, she had plenty of peanut butter
My Monday complaint has spread to Wednesday! I called my fertility doctor Tuesday, to verify that they sent the correct ultrasound/if they could straighten out my OB. I was driving home, since they close at 4:00, so the call was clearly on speakerphone, with my 2yo hollering in the back. The lady gave me all kinds of sass because I didn't know the OB's fax number off the top of my head! Seriously?!? She makes me stay on hold (further enraging DD) while she looks it up, only to tell me she'll send over the correct one. So why did I have to stay on the line? I figured I would hear from my OB today, either to move up my next appointment or just to confirm they got the updated ultrasound. But nothing. So once again I have to call while DD desperately needs my attention (eye roll), only to end up leaving a message. I never understand places you spend lots of money (fertility doctors, cable, etc) closing before the end of the normal work day (5 pm). How can anyone with a job, aka the people who can afford these services, ever schedule a time to use them?!? Luckily my teacher hours give me a little more wiggle room, but seriously.
@kvh22 DH is trying very hard. His mom becomes very emotional (cries) when any stands up to her so he struggles with it. Plus we’ve only been married 6 months (together for 7 but we were 16 when we started dating) so he hasn’t needed to do this a lot. He’s working on it, and I’m proud of him. I just wish she would pack off on her own.
@mrskoz428 lol do we have the same MIL? I was 16 and DH was 18 when we started dating so I hear you. We've been married for 2 1/2 years now but had a 2+ year engagement. I'd say we started on this journey of him standing up to her on my behalf (she really didn't get ridiculous about stuff towards me until wedding planning started) when we were your age (hope that doesn't sound too condescending). It's tough and everyone walks on eggshells around her. I was talking to BIL about this - he's 14 years older than DH. Apparently when he was growing up, MIL and FIL fought like crazy ALL THE TIME and by the time DH came along, FIL just decided it was easier to not fight her on most things when she's being ridiculous. I literally cannot picture them fighting the way BIL described and I've known them for more than half of my life. It frustrates me that everyone just bows down to her wishes. It has taken some finesse but also some willingness to upset his mother for my sake but OUR marriage is stronger for it.
@kvh22 no, not condescending at all. We’re only 24 and learning the whole standing up for each other thing. :-) Wedding planning with her was miserable. We may have the same MIL! 😂😂
I realize it’s not Monday anymore but I swear to God, if my mother in law gives me one more Web-MD fucking diagnosis she thinks I have, I’m going to explode! She just suggested that I have a plenty aburption. Uh, nope, I don’t. Never even gave you any indication that that was even possible! Lady, there is a reason I’m not telling you things. You can’t keep your mouth shut! You are quickly getting yourself cut out of this pregnancy altogether. Just enjoy the good shit and let me and DH worry about the other shit. We’ll share if we want to.🤬🤬🤬 End Rant...maybe.
Edited to add strong language warning!
@mrskoz428 Girl, you are so tame! I was expecting some full blown Dennis Rodman kind of profanity! Lol. Also, your MIL sucks. She seems obsessive about the whole thing. Im sorry about that. But it sounds like you've already tried everything I would have suggested.
@expandcontract that’s tame for me too but some people prefer not to swear so I just wanted to be considerate. When I vented to a coworker about it, the f words were streaming out like “the”! 😂😂😂🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ Hopefully it gets better. She asked us to call after our ultrasound Friday. We’ve already decided that’s not happening. We are posting our announcement after that appointment if all looks well so that will have to do for her.
Re: Monday Bitch Fest 10/22
My MIL is good about certain things but bad if she can't relate and just puts her foot in her mouth all the time, then plays the victim if anyone calls her on it. She is 100% the most stressful part of our marriage but over time, DH has gotten really good at stepping in which is a huge positive for everyone involved. It's easier for him to say to her that I feel like crap during the first trimester (which she did not, lucky pregnant lady) and just wanted a banana and peanut butter and if she asks what I want from the store while she's out and then refuses to buy peanut butter (told me she doesn't buy it, did not forget), I'm going to go to my mom's house where I can have my damn peanut butter which is the only thing I can stomach at the moment. This actually happened last pregnancy when we were staying with them for a few days over the holidays. She got all upset when I left and DH and FIL had to explain to her that she wasn't being very accommodating. I can buy my own peanut butter but I'd rather just be able to cook for myself at my mom's, 4 miles down the road if she's going to be like that. Anyways, the next time we visited 4 months later, she had plenty of peanut butter
I figured I would hear from my OB today, either to move up my next appointment or just to confirm they got the updated ultrasound. But nothing. So once again I have to call while DD desperately needs my attention (eye roll), only to end up leaving a message. I never understand places you spend lots of money (fertility doctors, cable, etc) closing before the end of the normal work day (5 pm). How can anyone with a job, aka the people who can afford these services, ever schedule a time to use them?!? Luckily my teacher hours give me a little more wiggle room, but seriously.
Also, your MIL sucks. She seems obsessive about the whole thing. Im sorry about that. But it sounds like you've already tried everything I would have suggested.