Weight gain/loss during first trimester?

Melanntor · October 2018

Hello - I am in Week 9/10 of my first pregnancy and I have lost 4 pounds since I found out. I am eating plenty and taking my vitamins and not doing too much exercise. I have been pretty nauseous, but when I throw up, only bile/liquid comes out. Should I be worried? Am I dehydrated? My doctor said that because of my starting weight I should only gain 15 pounds throughout the pregnancy, but the web tells me to gain 1-5 pounds in my first trimester.

My next doctor appointment is next week so I will discuss with her then, but right now I am kind of nervous. Anyone else in the same boat?

mrskoz428 · October 2018

Weight loss can be completely normal first trimester because of the nausea and difficulty eating that a lot of people experience. Plus, many women take it upon themselves to start exercising and eating healthier, which can contribute to weight loss. I lost 8 pounds and have gained back about 2 of that after having the stomach flu and not being able to eat normal for almost 6 days. I wouldn’t worry about it at all!

Melanntor · October 2018

@mrskoz428 thank you!!

mrsdee15 · October 2018

Weight loss can be normal - I lost 5ish pounds my first trimester of my last pregnancy, and then didn't really gain until I was coming up on 20 weeks. I had a lot of food aversions. My doctor wasn't worried (especially in the first trimester), just told me when I got to 20 weeks that it was time for me to start gaining.

MaggieG183 · October 2018

I’m currently down 8 lbs from when I started this pregnancy. My last one I lost 3 and then, like @mrsdee15 said, didn’t start gaining anything until I hit 20 weeks. I only gained 18 lbs last time and this time I’m hoping to keep it to 15 as I’m starting higher than I’d like. You’re all set, girl. Listen to your doc and not Dr. Google.

elliebo · October 2018

@Melanntor from what I’ve been told that’s totally normal. I’ve lost about 4 lbs and I haven’t even been vomiting. Just nausea and food aversions. And the fact that I can’t drink my wine each night lol

kvh22 · October 2018

I lost 5lbs the first trimester last pregnancy. My OB asked about it then and I said it was normal morning sickness lack of desire to eat plus less working out (so less muscle tone) over the two months. I'm trying to keep up the working out this time and also am breastfeeding still so really focusing on eating more. I mentioned I was worried about losing too much with the addition of BFing at my appointment on Friday at 8 weeks and my OB said I'd be fine. Right now the baby's nutritional needs are so tiny and you can get pretty much all of the important nutrients from your PNV. As long as you are taking that and keeping it down, don't worry, although try to eat when you can and maybe talk to your doctor about a B6 supplement.

expandcontract · October 2018

I don't know how I feel about this thread. My last BMB was against it since weight can be a touchy subject for many people. I don't really want to know who has lost or gained weight. I think we can do without this since our doctors are the ones best suited to have this conversation with.

k2k2tog · October 2018

@expandcontract I agree, but I also see how this is a part of pregnancy that people may want support and to hear others experience with. I think the rule in my last BMB was that we could talk about weight, but not specific numbers, which I think could be a decent compromise?

kvh22 · October 2018

@expandcontract @k2k2tog I hear you later on - we didn't really talk about it in my last BMB either - but losing weight in the first trimester was really concerning to me and I didn't know what was okay as a FTM because it was so taboo. I still thought it was bad that I lost that much last time until I asked my OB this time. Comparing weight gain in the second and third trimester is a different story IMO. I'd rather not feel like crap with morning sickness and be at a steady weight or even gain a little in the first trimester than feel like this and know that I'm not eating healthy or getting enough calories, but it's reassuring to talk to others in the same boat.

If others disagree, I'm open to putting a flat out ban on weight conversations, just offering up an opinion. I think everyone can agree it's better to not lose weight in the first trimester but it might be hard for some to see others having numbers going down while they're gaining weight considering how our society places its values.

k2k2tog · October 2018

@kvh22 I really don't think a flat out ban is a good idea for exactly what you experienced. Even later on, weight is a part of pregnancy and one that can cause a lot of worry and concern, so I think saying that we can't talk about it at all isn't the answer.

zuuls_mom · October 2018

I think weight should be able to be discussed as long as we keep things informational and not try to one up or shame each other (not that I think that would happen, but you never know). It's a part of pregnancy and some people really just need peace of mind that what they're going through is normal or when to be concerned. Some ladies gain a large amount of water weight and that can be really hard so it's nice to have a safe space to air frustrations.

beccaneu · October 2018

Hey ladies, as someone who has struggled with eating disorders I just wanted to jump in here and add my perspective on the issue of whether or not weight should be discussed here.

First off I’m not a fan of any pregnancy related topic being outright banned on the board. We are all struggling with our own issues and making certain things feel even more taboo can lead to some feeling even more alone in their frustrations and concerns. This should be a place where we can feel comfortable discussing what we are going through with even other, and weight gain or loss during pregnancy is something I can understand people being concerned about.

On the other side, it can be really easy for weight related discussions to get competitive and judgmental - even if that may not be the original intention of whoever is posting. I know I personally do not plan on stepping on a scale at all throughout my pregnancy. My doctor can know my weight, and I’ve already asked that he not give me my actual numbers - just feedback on whether or not I’m on track. The last thing I want is to feel pressure to have to lose weight during pregnancy.

Personally the thing I think would be best is if discussion of weight was limited to threads specifically made for that topic. I can easily skip over a thread labeled as weight related discussion, where as I can’t avoid weight related conversation that shows up in the symptoms/weekly check ins/Randoms etc.. threads. I also feel like discussing specific numbers can open things up to becoming competitive - but if that’s what people want I’m ok with it as long as it’s easy to avoid reading through.

Sorry, I know that as long. I should really learn to keep things more brief

expandcontract · October 2018

@beccaneu I think that's a good idea to keep the weight conversation limited to one thread. I second your motion.

megsb615 · October 2018

@beccaneu I agree 100%.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · October 2018

Agreed! In addition to all the great points others mentioned, rapid weight gain later in pregnancy can also be an indicator of pre-eclampsia, so I do agree it makes sense not to fully ban the topic.

bumbly_b · October 2018

I disagree with banning or limiting weight to one thread but I understand what you guys are saying. I dont see it coming up enough to be a concern but maybe as we continue it will become more of an issue. I'm happy to go with whatever is decided.

I know for me weight has been an issue my whole life. Having PCOS just increases the importance of weight. And it was one of the big reasons I chose the Dr I'm seeing. He let me bring it up and then helped me make a plan for pregnancy and beyond.

The competition over weight gain or loss is disturbing so I get wanting to limit that.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · October 2018

@bumbly_b I totally agree, the competition is just unnecessary. First it's pregnancy, then it's people comparing newborn weights. Enough already!

sleepy33 · October 2018

bumbly_b said:

I disagree with banning or limiting weight to one thread but I understand what you guys are saying. I dont see it coming up enough to be a concern but maybe as we continue it will become more of an issue. I'm happy to go with whatever is decided.

I know for me weight has been an issue my whole life. Having PCOS just increases the importance of weight. And it was one of the big reasons I chose the Dr I'm seeing. He let me bring it up and then helped me make a plan for pregnancy and beyond.

The competition over weight gain or loss is disturbing so I get wanting to limit that.

One of my 2 abuse reports was someone who was a regular on our old board (she didn't report me) who was like gee, after I got home from delivering, I threw up for 4 days and lost all my baby weight and now three months later I'm BFing and I've lost another 10 lbs, should I be worried, my doc already checked my thyroid and said I'm fine... I sent her the Cinderella step mother glare gif lol. It will come up, pretty regularly, and even by people who ought to know better. I think making people aware of it is helpful, but it's gonna happen regardless.

notsoblissylissy · October 2018

Losing weight in the first tri is a variation of normal. A lot of times it is a mixture of morning sickness, aversions, eating healthier, being more active, and not drinking wine 😉. My last pregnancy I lost 10 pounds over a few weeks, and my Dr wasn’t concerned, other than making sure I was hydrated.

bumbly_b · October 2018

Lol solid gif response. @sleepy33

I thought beating my weight and getting pregnant was going to be the end of it. Thank you for the insight.

kvh22 · October 2018

@notsoblissylissy lol I totally forgot that the wine was part of my thought process but I left it off my list when explaining to my OB why I thought I lost weight in the first trimester. I love wine!! Sighhh

notsoblissylissy · October 2018

kvh22 said:

@notsoblissylissy lol I totally forgot that the wine was part of my thought process but I left it off my list when explaining to my OB why I thought I lost weight in the first trimester. I love wine!! Sighhh

Oh yeah! Before DD I was drinking lots of wine and heavy beer. My body didn’t know what to do without all the delicious empty calories 😂

mrskoz428 · October 2018

I agree with limiting weight related discussions to one board and agree that avoiding numbers would limit the possibility of competition. I totally get how it could be competitive. I do think that it is important to allow the discussion about weight, however, since it may be difficult for some to reach the OB or CNM or whoever their provider is to get insight. Just my two cents. :-)

notsoblissylissy · October 2018

We had two separate threads, essentially an “oh no, am I gaining enough” and an “oh no, I’m gaining too much” thread. When we only had one, there would be ladies freaking out about gaining 50 pounds and then the next person would be freaking out about only gaining 20 (😒). Things were much more pleasant when they became separate threads.

mrskoz428 · October 2018

@notsoblissylissy oh, I like that idea!

MaggieG183 · October 2018

@notsoblissylissy I second this! I don’t ever want to make anyone feel uncomfortable with weight talks. I have battled with anorexia for decades and the anxiety it brings doesn’t go away...constant battle. I also agree with @beccaneu that nothing should be considered taboo on our boards. I, personally, need a community that I can discuss issues freely.

Thanks for bringing up such a great points, ladies!

psychobutthead · October 2018

I think being able to talk about our weight but not specific numbers would be helpful.

Especially for the mama's who end up with GD. My last BMB was not very supportive when struggling GD mom's would try to ask for input or advice. I was really struggling and struggling with my weight which led to me being voted most dramatic of the group. One of the ladies who had GD and was overweight came crying and asking for advice because she was so upset she broke her scale one morning stepping on it. She was made fun of with Gifs! She was a regular and had always participated and as far as I had ever seen never been super dramatic. But she was given runner up of 2nd most dramatic on the group just for that one post the whole 9 months!

I do think 2 separate groups could be beneficial. But then I wonder where would the moms who are trying to just stay on track with what weight range we are given fall if we are on track? Because if we are on track for being over weight and GD we won't fit into either group because we won't be gaining too much or not enough.

eatinwatermelonseeds · October 2018

@psychobutthead I'm sorry that was your experience, that's really shitty. I think I might've been spoiled in my last pregnancy, my group was always so sweet and supportive. Would it be weird to have a specific GD thread later on where all GD concerns can be discussed?

ETA it could be weekly like the stm, pgal, etc ones.

psychobutthead · October 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds I think a thread like that would be great. But even so we could probably use it now because some of us 2nd or 3rd moms are going to get it super early if we don't already have it.

I think a check in would be a bit too much because I feel like people quit reading them and just post so a sort of randoms thread for GD would be great. That way we aren't clogging threads up with our carb advice and theories and whether keto is the way to go.

marshmallowmadness · October 2018

I haven’t actually lost any weight yet but if this nausea keeps up, I’m going to

expandcontract · October 2018

@psychobutthead Thats a good idea. And yes, we def will need the GD thread without the check-in.

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