How do you get excited again for the pregnancy? I’m 10 weeks and have had two good appointments. Our previous loss was found at 10 weeks, baby had stopped growing at 8. I’m past my milestone but stil having trouble getting attached or even thinking about telling more people. I wish I could just fully jump in again. Now I keep saying to myself, maybe after the anatomy scan at 20 weeks if everything looks good.
@aels12 Honestly, I’m not going to lie I never did with DD. And this is what I think people understand least about PGAL, it robs you of joy in future pregnancies. I had all textbook appts and I still didn’t believe I would give birth to a healthy baby until she was in my arms.
That at being said, today with this next pregnancy I’m feeling good. I’m very hopeful and hopeful that everything will run as normal as last time, but I will be able to enjoy this time. But it’s ONLY because I know it can actually happen now. I may be broadsided again like the first 2 times, but today I feel good and that’s all I can ask for!
2. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Some days I feel completely normal, some days nausea and exhausted all day. Still super anxious.
3. Any appointment updates?
First u/s is next Wednesday.
4. Rants/Raves/Questions?
5. Any milestones coming up?
Just making it past the first u/s.
6. GTKY: Tell us about your loss(es) (if you’re up for it). How far along were you and how did you find out?
We found out I was pregnant the week of our first wedding anniversary. Went to the clinic affiliated with one of the major health systems and the only thing they did to confirm was a urine test. My normal NP "didn't do pregnancy," so I was assigned to one of the midwives, who each time was running over an hour late and introduced herself anew. At almost-12wks I went in for my first u/s. Baby was measuring 9+2 (which I was fairly certain about dates, and that would have been too far off). The tech left the room to get the doc and I realized that there hadn't been a heartbeat and broke the news to DH. So the doc I'd never met came in, whispered to the tech like we couldn't hear, and decided to use the term "failed abortion" to announce my missed miscarriage. Then we had to sit in the waiting room for an hour again, because (surprise) the midwife was running late. She came in, handed me a sheet of options and left for ten minutes, then came back and basically scared me into scheduling a D&E. This was a Friday afternoon, and we scheduled for Monday morning. On Sunday I started bleeding. I had gone through two super-maxi-pads in under an hour, so we went to the ER. I ended up bleeding on the floor and then passing out in the waiting room (super fast way to get moved to a room, btw), and as I as still coming-to they jammed an IV in my arm and did an internal u/s without asking either me or DH for consent. We spent the night in the ER, where we got to listen to patients on either side detoxing and waiting for a psych bed. Not allowed to eat/drink in case I still needed the D&E (I didn't), or get out of the bed for fear that I would faint again... The follow-up appointment back at the clinic two weeks later was a continuation of the awful, so I decided to transfer, which was even more drama with the old clinic. At the direction of the new doc, we took a month break before trying again, while they ran a bunch of tests to see if they could find anything wrong (the hospital/old clinic had by that time lost both the fetal tissue from my m/c and messed up some other labs). While waiting for those results, I got pregnant again. That pregnancy stuck, and I now have a wonderful 14mo daughter.
2. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Today I'm feeling good
3. Any appointment updates? Appointment yesterday showed a healthy baby with a strong heartbeat. My EDD got moved back 3 days to may 12th.
4. Rants/Raves/Questions? Raves: Was told I could discontinue my progesterone suppositories now. Excited to be done, but nervous too.
5. Any milestones coming up? I'll be 10 weeks in a week and will go for trisomy and gender testing
6. GTKY: Tell us about your loss(es) (if you’re up for it). How far along were you and how did you find out? 10 weeks and 7 weeks. July 2017 and march 2018
Re: PGAL checkin 10/3
That at being said, today with this next pregnancy I’m feeling good. I’m very hopeful and hopeful that everything will run as normal as last time, but I will be able to enjoy this time. But it’s ONLY because I know it can actually happen now. I may be broadsided again like the first 2 times, but today I feel good and that’s all I can ask for!
Hugs! I know how hard this is.
2. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Rants/Raves/Questions?
1. How many weeks are you? 9w +0
2. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Today I'm feeling good
3. Any appointment updates? Appointment yesterday showed a healthy baby with a strong heartbeat. My EDD got moved back 3 days to may 12th.
4. Rants/Raves/Questions? Raves: Was told I could discontinue my progesterone suppositories now. Excited to be done, but nervous too.
5. Any milestones coming up? I'll be 10 weeks in a week and will go for trisomy and gender testing
6. GTKY: Tell us about your loss(es) (if you’re up for it). How far along were you and how did you find out? 10 weeks and 7 weeks. July 2017 and march 2018