MBF 9/24

leighbrek · September 2018

Thank god someone can still gif!

I'm filling in for my manager for a couple weeks while she's on holidays, which is fine... But she didn't leave me with any information. I don't have data on our finances, escalation paths for various issues, or contacts to resolve basic HR problems. Annoying. So I've been going around and collecting data from people so that I can get work done, and people from HQ keep responding with crap like, "Hey, don't stress! Remember to breathe! You're doing a good job!"
Um... Okay? I'm not stressed about anything, not being uppity when I ask for information, and I sure as hell am not delicate. One guy keeps taking over tasks that I'm doing, defending himself by saying that I'm pregnant and he wants to keep my stress down.
Dude, I took this acting manager position to keep my skills up to date and to get things done. Do NOT patronize me! This is what is getting my blood boiling. The work itself - meh, easy.

ladystout08 · September 2018

So far today I woke up with swollen hands and a sore wrist(pretty sure carpal tunnel has arrived), my systems admin text me on my way into work and told me one of the servers was alarming and now my work phone (it's one of those stupid software VOIP phones) won't let me make calls. Oh and I realized I'm almost out of synthroid and have no refills left so I had to message my OB.

ladystout08 · September 2018

@cait32 I'm with you. Ideally I'd love to work PT from home which I likely could do b/c I'm in IT so I'm trying to make that happen but so far all I'm finding is help desk stuff. Not to toot my own horn but I'm a server site engineer so help desk is like two steps back for me.

nononorman · September 2018

@cait32 I too basically want to work part time (and get paid full time) to be an ice cream taster (or similar job which involves no work and all pleasure).

But for real work has been “okay”... I have a presentation I have to travel for next week and I’m completely dreading it. I’d like to tactfully leave the term “any questions?” out of the end of the presentation if possible. Not qualified to answer any.

Also ive reached the point physically where people feel comfortable asking me about the baby at work and saying things like “oh that’s great you’ll have the set!” (One boy and one girl) and I’m just very UGH about it.

kianarain · September 2018

I'm sure people are tired of hearing me bitch about work lmao but +3 to not working full time or staying at home. Why aren't I a social media influencer or blogger extraordinaire? Or damn right, I'd be the best ice cream taster there ever was @wolfmum

Regardless of what it looks like, I think I'm going to need a change of pace after maternity leave. I just can't bring myself to quit/look for another job when I'm over the halfway mark. So zero work fucks give on this end lately lol.

sweetyjenj · September 2018

just left my second chiropractic appointment this pregnancy. I had my first last week and it did nothing and this weekend was REALLY painful for my SI Joint. The pain is all in my right SI joint. I couldn't wait for today's appointment, then it really seemed like he did nothing and called it good and it doesn't feel any different and feels a little aggravated. Fuuuuuuuuuck. I hate paying someone to do something that doesn't have immediate results and I don't know if it's really going to help in the long run anyway.

I tell my own clients "therapy is a process, some sessions you'll have great progress, others not so much, but it's a journey and blah blah blah...." but that's mental health, and this is physical health. I'm trying to "trust the process" of what he's doing..but it's hard when he bends me this way and that, asks if there's pain (NOPE because it's isolated and for some reason he can't recreate it) tries to crack my back, then says "good adjustment today!" and asks if I want to come twice a weekly or as needed. The fact that he's asking ME what I prefer, and even suggesting to come as needed, when I'm leaving his office feeling exactly like I did when i came, gives me no trust in his process. If it's a process, tell me that and don't expect quick results yourself, doctor. If he's surprised there's no relief, then shouldn't I also be? Grrrrrrrrrrrr

kaf1788 · September 2018

@cait32 I am right there with you! Is it normal to be dreading coming back from maternity leave before you even start? I think I'd be fine with being a stay at home mom if I could somehow keep our same salary. It doesn't have the same appeal when you factor in that we wouldn't have any money leftover for vacations or basically anything fun ever.

My MBF is that my husband and I finally decided we're too old to be on our parents' cell phone plans so we went and got our own family plan. After doing a ton of research we decided that T-Mobile had the best coverage in our area as well as the best prices and we got two new phones for the price of one. Seemed like a total no-brainer until my husband gets to work today and realizes he has no coverage at all in his office building anymore. Like can't even send or receive texts. And it's not like he's out in the boonies, he works like 5 miles outside of Boston. Soooo annoying and I don't even know what to do about this.

ladystout08 · September 2018

@sweetyjenj that's annoying! My chiro will suggest me upping my appointments or spreading them out if I'm ok with it. I often leave there still sore but feel exponentially better within a day or two. However, the pain in my SI joint is almost always immediately relieved when he realigns my tailbone. I see him every three weeks for maintenance at this point but at first I was seeing him 2x a week, then 1x a week, then bi-weekly, etc.

Mandamay1414 · September 2018

For ladies with cell issues... We use to use Republic Wireless (can make/receive calls via wifi, and uses sprint's network) when we lived in Boston. The wifi thing was nice because I spent most of my time at work or home with good wifi access, so my phone always worked.

Since moving, we switched to Total wireless (uses verizon's network). The customer service SUCKS, but you can bring your own phone (you can input your serial number on the company's website before signing up to make sure it works). We get like 8 GB of data shared a month for about $60/month.

leighbrek · September 2018

@sweetyjenj I always find chiropractors to be hit or miss. I went to several years ago with severe pain that felt, to me, like it was originating in my shoulder and going up my neck behind my eyes. They all said the same thing; give it time and it'll start to feel better.
Well, it never did. A couple years ago the pain was so bad that I decided to try one last time, because what else could I do? I walked into a place near my work and the chiro was immediately able to trace the line of pain with her finger, like right from the beginning to the end. She told me it was just a rib, and she did some voodoo and nothing felt any different... But then she crossed my arm in front, applied pressure, and BAM, searing pain for about 5 seconds before ALL the pain just magically went away.
It just took someone who actually knew what they were doing rather than people who just cracked for the sound effect. If your chiro isn't helping you, find a new one.

alexandraseattle · September 2018

@kianarain +1 to zero fucks given. My current job is so boring that I just put in the minimum. Also, I heard my boss on a phone interview today, so...

Rachel2066 · September 2018

I am in the same boat with wanting to both work and stay home. My current job is not something that would be possible to do only part time. We are actually planning for me to not return after my maternity leave and take 1 year off to be home with the baby. We are very fortunate in that DH has a really good job and we have been saving like crazy for the last 4 years (essentially since I got this job) so we will be able to afford for me to do this. After 1 year, I will be looking for a different job in my field that allows me more flexibility in my hours/schedule.

sfgiantsgamerbabe · September 2018

It’s supposedly fall but you wouldn’t know it here. Highs in the mid 90’s until Saturday. The mornings and evenings are really nice but I want my nice, fall days back! Summer refuses to die.

We are watching my parents’ dogs this week while they are on a cruise. We currently have 4 dogs in our house (2 of our own). I’m so sick of them barking at everything, especially early in the morning. Is it Sunday yet?

Edit: spelling

drabong88 · September 2018

@kaf1788 my DH and I are on a plan with my parents and my sister. We have thought about getting our own plan but it's just cheaper to stay on theirs. I know at some point we will have to get our own but we are good for now

mtengl · September 2018

I am on board with the whole part time job stay at home part time working... unfortunately I just finished school for the second time and have been in my job for almost a year now so we have to much debt (we are on a five year pay off plan for the debt) for me to not work.
I honestly could work part time but we would be back to not being able to save and no matter what we would have to pay for full time daycare. Plus I would have to find another job and that is just a risk on its own...

nononorman · September 2018

@cait32 I can even stretch my own dough so I’d be a great candidate for the pizza taster job!

immaagain · September 2018

My new nanny quit after just 6 days because she finds life to be stressful. My old landlord accidentally sued us. Luckily he sent a email admitting he used a third party who sued the wrong tenet. There is a state law that protects us from such mistakes ( we will receive money for fees and time)but my husband still has to take a day off work when we are under a lot of deadlines to show up at court. I spent the hole day on phone trying to resolve. Our old place has to be empty by Sunday and my husband admitted he can’t handle taking the day off and doing the extra cleaning so I guess I’ll have to do it on my own.
My in laws are visiting. They are rude and high maintenance. He stuck a spoon from his mouth into the new Costco size yogurt. This action caused me to have mean and evil thoughts! The backhanded comments, the making me wait hand and foot on them etc I could cope with but not the rude grossness in my kitchen.

galactickates · September 2018

I don't really need advice I just need to vent. I am really pissed at my H right now. He's a type A control freak and complains about everything. He'd probably be very hurt that I described him like that because most of the time he is amazing but he's not here and this is my rant. My best friend designed our baby shower invite and he literally hasn't said a word about them. I asked him what he thought when they were done and he said cute and that was it. Cut to this morning he messages me and says there are 2 typos on our invite. Regtets only and surprize. Surprize was on purpose because they were trying to be cute and mix surprise and prize. Regtets is a legit typo but who cares??? I don't see his family or friends offering to throw us a shower. And that's all he has to say about it is there is a typo. I'm just so pissed at him. How about thank you and they did a great job and it's nice they are doing this for us

molosmiles · September 2018

@galactickates I feel you so hard on this. My SO would never let it go either. He'd bring it up and probably be rude about whoever made the invitation for way too long. Men can be so different in their thought processes than women, especially when it comes to thoughtfulness.

leighbrek · September 2018

I was going along with what people said here about maternity coats not being hugely necessary, because pregnant women tend to run warm, etc. HOWEVER, I took my dogs for a (very) short walk yesterday, and I was freaking frozen. I even put on DH's jacket because my jacket no longer fits, and had a sweater on underneath. Nope, I felt like a block of ice. So... I went in search of a size medium maternity jacket and... Nada. Sooo expensive brand new - more than I'd pay for a normal coat that I'd wear for years - and nothing available used! What the hell, man!

libertymomrn · September 2018

leighbrek said:

@sweetyjenj I always find chiropractors to be hit or miss. I went to several years ago with severe pain that felt, to me, like it was originating in my shoulder and going up my neck behind my eyes. They all said the same thing; give it time and it'll start to feel better.
Well, it never did. A couple years ago the pain was so bad that I decided to try one last time, because what else could I do? I walked into a place near my work and the chiro was immediately able to trace the line of pain with her finger, like right from the beginning to the end. She told me it was just a rib, and she did some voodoo and nothing felt any different... But then she crossed my arm in front, applied pressure, and BAM, searing pain for about 5 seconds before ALL the pain just magically went away.
It just took someone who actually knew what they were doing rather than people who just cracked for the sound effect. If your chiro isn't helping you, find a new one.

I second this. (Although to be frank, I find all types of healthcare practitioners to be hit or miss- chiros, dentists, family doctors, specialists, etc.) I live about 20-30 minutes from our chiropractor and there are dozens who are closer, but I like our chiropractor. He does a great job, and while there are probably good ones closer, I don't want to risk going to a bad one to find another good one, so we keep driving 20-30 minutes to see the chiropractor.

bradleysmommy28 · September 2018

@sweetyjenj I have seen a chiro 3 times and I'm now a complete believer. This guy is amazing and I haven't had an ounce of pain, numbness or tingling since my first visit. Apparently what I thought was bad sciatica is actually a misaligned pelvis and super tight piraformis muscle. I feel like the entire muscle is bruised when I leave his office but it's totally worth it. I'd maybe look into a different provider. Also, a friend recommended this guy and my husband was super excited we found him because he needs an adjustment bad and his last chiro did nothing that helped!

sarahsaurus-2 · September 2018

So yesterday I found out through my husband, who heard from his mom, that his grandmother has been crib-shopping for us. She wants to get us something really nice crib, rather than the cheaper one on the registry.
Now, I really do appreciate her wanting to spend more and get us something that would be above our own budget...But I still really want to have some input into the crib to make sure it's something I like, and that will work with the nursery. Since I didnt hear any of this directly from her, I'm a little concerned that shes not looking for my input...
On top of that, now my husband is pressuring me to call off work tomorrow (I work part time anyway), so that we can go visit them (he has to go near there anyway tomorrow), and then I can go crib shopping with her. However, I already sort of made a big deal to HR about getting next friday off so that I could go do the 3 hour glucose test. And I STILL have to tell work I'm pregnant because apparently I am always going to be scheduled to work when the HR guy is off. But back to the point, now I feel like I have to choose between either pissing my work off (as a new employee), or probably receiving an expensive mystery crib at my shower.

CoastieGirl79 · September 2018

@leighbrek I, too, though I wouldn't need a coat. I can't zip the majority of mine. I can fit into my husband's coats. I did buy a maternity fleece from Old Navy that I know I will get plenty of use out of, both now and throughout the winter. It doesn't scream maternity, if that makes sense. Have you tried the app Thred Up? They have nice maternity clothes on consignment. You may be able to find something there.

leighbrek · September 2018

Thank you @CoastieGirl79! I hadn't heard of that, but I'll definitely check it out. It's just that we have to buy a second vehicle, and our current primary vehicle needs new tires and some maintenance, so I'm trying really hard to not buy anything frivolous. I can't help but feel a coat that I'll wear for a couple months had better be pretty damn cheap! lol

galactickates · September 2018

@sarahsaurus-2 why can't you guys go on a day off? Why does it have to be a work day?

mrsmang · September 2018

Work today has been a shit show. I’m pretty sure this is the first day I’ve actually missed alcohol this whole pregnancy. My best friend is in town visiting and we’re going to a hockey game tonight, so that’s going to make it even more disappointing to not join in a round of beers (or 4) with everyone else. I still can’t get over the guilt of anything more than a sip, so I won’t actually have anything, but it’s going to be sad.

leighbrek · September 2018

@CoastieGirl79 I didn't have any luck with ThredUp. I was actually going to bite the bullet and just buy a damn coat when... This woman at the store said, "Oh jeez, just buy a jacket extender. You'll save so much money."
Now I feel dumb. Poof, jacket extenders on Amazon... $45 Canadian. Sure beats a $200 coat!

CoastieGirl79 · September 2018

@leighbrek never heard of a jacket extender. I'll have to check it out.

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