UO 9/27

nononorman · September 2018

Let’s think of some good ones today ladies!

nononorman · September 2018

Not an UO but TB has been trash and I’m bitter about the lack of functionality re: gifs.

tosh24 · September 2018

Basically, if you want to talk to me, text me or email me. Yes I saw you called, no I didn't pick up my phone, and no I didn't check the vm you left because I can't be bothered. I hate talking on the phone.

mtengl · September 2018

@tosh24 I feel like I have gotten pretty antisocial... I tend not to reach out to people unless they text me.

saltedcaramel518 · September 2018

Designer purses are a wasteful expense.

kianarain · September 2018

@saltedcaramel518 yup!!! Designer everything IMO. As long as it's well-made, idgaf where it's from.

Lol fully aware that I may be contradicting myself here, but I love Uggs. They're so basic but arguably the coziest shoe of all time. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for knock offs/off brands, I just haven't found ones that are as comfy & durable. Plus I'm getting to the point where slip on shoes are basically a necessity.

kaf1788 · September 2018

@kianarain @saltedcaramel518 I totally agree that I'm willing to pay more for quality, but buying designer just for the sake of buying designer is dumb. I had a moment when I wanted one of those LV totes everyone has but then I noticed that all the ones I saw on the streets are all cracked and janky. My $100 Madewell tote is awesome quality leather and still looks great after years without the obnoxious branding. (That being said I do have a used Balenciaga bag that is way too expensive but is my baby and I was never able to find anything comparable in style and quality for less)

kaf1788 · September 2018

My UO is that I don't think it's that hard to find "gender neutral" baby clothing and I feel like people have way too strict rules on what's "boy" vs "girl" clothing. My sister gave me all of my niece's baby clothing as hand me downs and, besides the dresses and bows, I really only weeded out one or two outfits as being weird for a baby boy. I've also bought clothes from the baby girl section too. Why can't my little guy like unicorns?? lol. I find that most people equate "gender neutral" with "gray" which just seems so boring to me. My baby will wear ALL the colors and ALL the patterns regardless of gender! (Until he's old enough to actually express an opinion of course)

leighbrek · September 2018

@kaf1788 It's true. And you know, I sent my first nephew a stuffed pig when he was born (along with baby clothes and some stuff for mama), and all anyone could say was, "He's a boy and you sent him a pink toy."
um... Yes. Pigs tend to be pink....

UO - I'm not a liberal, but I think automatically assuming that street beggars are all drunks and alcoholics is pretty narrow. The other day I was walking with a colleague and we saw a man who used to live in the same apartment building as I did when I was in school. He was in a wheelchair, and he's definitely not all there upstairs, but he was always very kind and out and about, chatting with neighbours, etc. My colleague made some snide comment about how the guy was probably burned out from drugs, but... No, the guy just has some mental issues! I handed him a toonie to get a coffee. I know a lot of street people have major issues, and I know some are scammers and whatnot, but sometimes there is just someone who is down on his/her luck.

sfgiantsgamerbabe · September 2018

@kaf178 I agree with you. If this baby would have been a girl, lots of DS’s old baby clothes would have been fine. I also hate shirts with sayings like “I’m on Santa’s naughty list.” No thanks.

@leighbrek I get what you’re saying. However, the homeless where I live can get super aggressive. If they are panhandling and you say “no” or ignore them, they will bang on your car door and scream at you. Our local rescue mission has about 100 beds and less than half are filled each night because the homeless don’t want to follow rules. I used to volunteer at a call center that helped connect people with local churches and charities and I got that excuse a lot when I would try to refer them. We have a lot of amazing charities here who want to help but some of the homeless don’t want help.

leighbrek · September 2018

@sfgiantsgamerbabe Oooh, that's a whole different game! If they're being violent or aggressive, that's totally something else... Mental health, addiction, desperation. The people you're talking about who don't follow the rules are definitely the ones making it harder for the people who really want help to get help.
I remember watching a homeless woman in Toronto attack a woman because the woman wouldn't give change. That's totally unacceptable.

nononorman · September 2018

I hate ruffles and bows anyways so it will be easy to use most/all of DDs clothes for this boy. There’s def some rainbows and unicorns but my goal was to not have DD wear obnoxious things - so we should be fine

i am the person who buys designer bags and “name brand” coats. But I also buy cheap stuff and use that too, just depends on how basic I want to look!

kianarain · September 2018

@leighbrek I am pretty liberal, but living in Portland has really challenged my view of homelessness. I've always been very sympathetic but find myself getting more calloused lately. There's a huge population of young, seemingly healthy (making an assumption here - I'm not saying everyone who "looks" healthy is capable) people who are making a lifestyle choice to be a "traveler" and live on the streets. The programs for homelessness in Portland attract people who are looking for an easy way out, which sucks because it's taking resources from those truly in need.

Not to mention, the amount of used syringes I see on the street every day is alarming. And getting my car stolen right outside my building earlier this year. And my dog slicing his paw (resulting in a hefty vet bill for me & weeks of discomfort for him) on the broken glass littering the streets/green spaces. And seeing companies (many small businesses) go out of business because of crime/vandalism.

I don't want to seem like a dick - I truly believe in our society's responsibility to help those less fortunate. I just live in a place where people are taking advantage of it and I'm trying to not get jaded.

kaf1788 · September 2018

@kianarain I think that was what shocked me the most when I first visited Portland! I've never seen so many young homeless people in my life.

leighbrek · September 2018

@kianarain We have a major issue with junkies here, too, though probably not as big an issue as Portland. Needles freaking everywhere. It's pretty terrible.
My semi-rant was mainly just the auto assumption that EVERY homeless person is a drunk or a junkie. Definitely not saying they're not out there, because holy smokes they totally are there!

CEBB11 · September 2018

@kaf1788 agreed! I hate the whole boy thing, girl thing nonsense. My in laws are super into traditional gender norms and gave me a ton of crap when I got a pink bottle cover for my son. It was part of a multicolored pack, what am I supposed to do? Not use it? Besides, my son likes pink.

Here's my UO, and it's a doozie. I hate going to a bridal or baby shower where the guest of honor doesn't open gifts. The point of the shower is to give the guest of honor things they might need in their new life chapters (especially moms to be), and that generosity should be celebrated as part of the party, not cast aside like a requirement for admission. I spend a good deal of time and money trying to craft meaningful gifts between the registry and an emotional little something extra, so i appreciate the public opening. Fully understand that others have different mindsets, but that's just my own personal and fairly meaningless UO.

kianarain · September 2018

@kaf1788 seriously! I have to travel to Atlanta a bit for work and I didn't realize how different it was until I was there.

@leighbrek oh totally! It just opened it up for a rant of my own lol. Like I said, there are truly people in need and assuming every single person on the street is on drugs instead of a victim of circumstance is ridiculous.

Re: drug use - I haven't followed this closely & don't pretend to be up to date, but a while ago I stalked an intense FB post about the monitored places where you go to use drugs. Like almost a drug sanctuary? Where (trained) people are monitoring ODs & distributing meds when they do happen, providing clean needles & a place to dispose of dirty ones, etc. I'm so torn on where I land on that (at least it would keep drug use off the streets? But is it enabling?). Haven't heard about it recently but this thread reminded me of it.

leighbrek · September 2018

@kianarain Safe injection sites. Yep. We have those here, and our provincial government du jour wants to shut them down. In theory they're a good thing - like parents that say, "If you're going to get stupid drunk, please do it at home where we can keep you safe."
The problem is... It is enabling. Needle exchange programs don't work because the junkies don't bring back the dirty needles. It's all a big money pit.

@CEBB11 I actually really appreciate your UO. I'm having an open house shower because no one likes shower games, and people don't want to be locked down for hours... And I was wondering about the gift thing... Like should I open them later and socialize in the moment? Open them while the person is standing there? I'm starting to lean toward opening with person there for exactly the reasons you stated!

ladystout08 · September 2018

@kianarain there's some places like that in Philly and they've been hugely successful actually. I could probably dig up the articles that give the theory/idea behind it if you're interested.

kianarain · September 2018

@leighbrek @ladystout08 interesting to read both of your comments! And yes, send the articles my way! Especially with a baby on the way, I want to learn more about the ways different places are improving their communities. At this point I'm likely to keep her tight to the 'burbs and certain boujee areas of the city because you never know when you're going to see someone nodding out or shooting up on the streets. Luckily I haven't had much experience with conflict/violence from users, but even passive drug use in front of my baby is a big eff no.

ladystout08 · September 2018

kianarain said:

@leighbrek @ladystout08 interesting to read both of your comments! And yes, send the articles my way! Especially with a baby on the way, I want to learn more about the ways different places are improving their communities. At this point I'm likely to keep her tight to the 'burbs and certain boujee areas of the city because you never know when you're going to see someone nodding out or shooting up on the streets. Luckily I haven't had much experience with conflict/violence from users, but even passive drug use in front of my baby is a big eff no.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/01/24/580255140/whats-next-for-safe-injection-sites-in-philadelphia

rooonilwaazlib · September 2018

kaf1788 YES! Even though we know the sex of our baby, we are not telling anyone...not even grandparents! We are claiming we don't know at all. People seem personally affronted when we tell them we "don't know the sex" of the baby and ask things like "HOW WILL I SHOP FOR IT?!?!" IDK, with a credit card?

We put some basic onesies and outfits on our amazon registry, including an item or two from Carter's that say "boy onesies" or "girl pants." I already get texts from people saying OMG you know the sex now? Um no, Sally, I just think pants with cat faces on the knees are adorable and I don't think it will affect my child in any way if the pants are pink or purple. I generally think "boy" clothes are cuter than "girl" clothes, or at least I gravitate more because I see them as less gendered. But there's plenty of "girl" clothes that I will totally put on my little boy because it's just plain adorable.

gorgeousariel · September 2018

Re: homeless

While I agree that the ones who truely do need help should get it. But Like @sfgiantsgamerbabe I've seen them literally turn their nose up at food. There was a church that would provide lunch EVERYDAY at the park downtown. DH would watch them wait it line, get their food and if they didn't like what was served them would immediately throw it in the trash. Another time, my friend and I had just finished an event and they handed out chips and bottled water. We were approached by a man asking for money for food. While I didn't have my wallet with me at the time I offered him my chips and water and he refused them because " the water wasn't cold".

not_another_knottie · September 2018

My UO is I H A T E HATE pink camo. And honestly don’t like camo in general for babies, whether they are boys or girls. I don’t see the point in dressing your baby like they are going hunting in the woods. I’ve made it explicitly clear that if anybody gets my LG camo of any kind it will be returned. If she wants to learn to hunt at an appropriate age, her father can take her and buy camo. But only when it’s needed and not for a fashion choice.

Also so not a fan of rhinestones on baby clothing. Not a fan on adult clothes either. Looks very tacky and white trash to me. Reminds me of those ugly eddy hardy trucker hats everybody was into a while back. 🤷🏻‍♀️

mtengl · September 2018

UO I don’t like T-shirts that say things like “Bun in the Oven” or other sayings that are about being pregnant... I am a poor sport I know but I just don’t like them.

alexandraseattle · September 2018

@kianarain Hello from your Seattle neighbor to the north! The homelessness here is out of control. The homeless population has increased 4x in the last year in my neighborhood. And we had a significant number to start with. I live in a townhouse and have legit had people smoke crack in my front yard. We have two tents that have popped up down the street from us and I can no longer walk that way because it smells SO bad and I can't hold my breath long enough to get through it. I hate it. I want to move.

molosmiles · September 2018

We have an empty river bed that runs along our town in California. It had been overrun with homeless people and families. They have created communities down there. They have generators and everything. It used to be somewhere for kids to go ride dirt bikes and there was a walking trail made along the river bed. People can't even use it anymore because of how bad the situation is down there. It has caused so many arguments in our community on how to handle it. One of my coworkers cas a foundation that helps those that want help to find affordable housing. A lot of them don't want help . But it's certainly nice to know that there are people willing to help those that do. It's crazy and scary how quickly this is spreading across the US.

galactickates · September 2018

@alexandraseattle - you're not imagining the increase of homeless population in seattle. Other cities are busing their homeless there because it's the cheapest way for them to handle it. I just learned this was happening from my MIL who lives north of seattle. @kianarain - We're outside of portland but almost never go into the city anymore, between the homeless and parking police we don't even bother.

kianarain · September 2018

@alexandraseattle there are usually a couple tents outside of my workplace and, especially as it gets darker in the mornings and I get more pregnant/slow, I don’t feel remotely safe over there. It sucks because I know not all homeless people are out to get you, but with the rampant drug use you can never be too careful. Edited because I forgot to mention the SMELL omg first trimester I walked around literally covering my nose. Pee, stale alcohol, and whatever they’re smoking that smells like shit.

@galactickates I live in the suburbs to the west and we’re even starting to see some this way! It’s ridiculous - there are no programs and minimal public transportation in my area. I guarantee they’re just over here because people in Portland proper have gotten smarter about handing out change.

Also lol parking police

the actual worst.

sfgiantsgamerbabe · September 2018

@galactickates I heard the exact same thing about our area. I heard they were busing them in from the Bay Area. They are having huge problems in San Francisco where the homeless are pooping on the sidewalk. There are people who work for the city whose job is to wash poop off the sidewalk. There are also buildings with special paint where if anyone tries to pee on it, the pee will splash back at them.

sweetyjenj · September 2018

@ms_stevens87 I can't stand pink camo, either!! Or any camo!

I also don't like when people are weird about boys wearing pink or purple or anything slightly feminine. I went through DD's clothes to pull out anything neutral for boy to wear, and there's a few things that I pulled out for him that were a bit feminine, but don't need to be seen that way. Like a light blue onesie with an orange fish, but the fish has eyelashes and there's a little heart next to it. He'll be wearing it at some point! Also, some of DD's old thick sleeper sacks are amazing, but they're pink. If we use them, he'll be sleeping in it, and i don't care what color it is.

greenhillgirl · October 2018

kianarain gorgeousariel here as well. I live in the Bronx in a precinct rated the second safest in all of NYC and lately we have a gang of guys roaming around on crack and bath salts, apparently. I hate it. On the train I always feel annoyed when people give money to those asking- we have a ton of resources both govt and non-profit in New York and typically people who ask for food on the train already have a bag of it in their hand. People can be so naive.

kaf1788 My UO is similar to yours but is about all the messaging on baby clothes. I don't need a baby shirt or onesie to say something sassy on it. I guess some of them are harmless enough, but I absolutely hate the things about little man, daddy's princess, stud, handsome, heartbreaker, etc. Your baby is not a little man. He is a tiny being who poops and pees himself and has no sense of sex. I find them silly and creepy, but I know I'm probably in the minority.

kianarain · October 2018

@greenhillgirl omg yes to your comment. Especially "stud"...it grosses me out. I saw an article making fun of all the gender reveal parties where they're WAY over stereotyping sexes. (Cupcake or stud muffin? Lashes or staches? My SO has WAY better lashes than I do, so the latter hurt me real bad lol) Just let a precious baby be a baby before you start with the projection.

kaf1788 · October 2018

@greenhillgirl ugh those majorly creep me out! It's so bad on little boys clothing too. Everything's like "hey ladies" or "chick magnet" and I'd rather not sexualize my tiny infant sorry

CoastieGirl79 · October 2018

@greenhillgirl @kaf1788 @kianarain I feel the same way. Someone bought DS a shirt with "heartbreaker" written on it. I refused to dress him in it.

wkuandrea · October 2018

@greenhillgirl totally on team no weird sayings! I do appreciate the current ones that are very women empowerment (A woman's place is in the House... and the Senate), but I hate the ones that say things like "most eligible bachelor". GROSS.

UO: I'm not really loving this being pregnant thing. I know this makes me a monster. I am 1000% into the actual baby thing, and wish she was here already, fully grown and healthy (TW: the due date from my loss was last week, and my sister had her baby as we were due the same day. So it makes it that much more in your face. TW) I'm just tired of being sick all of the time and wish I would get to that cool non-exhausted, ooh some food craving sounds delicious, here DH feel the baby kicking part of pregnancy. (just now 23 weeks, so while I can feel her bopping around, can't really feel from the outside yet)

AliKay20 · October 2018

@wkuandrea I get your UO. Mine partly comes from anxiety - between now and January, I just want to be inside the house and be a hermit. Insert Green Day’s “Wake Me Up When September Ends,” and replace September with January.

galactickates · October 2018

@wkuandrea & @AliKay20 +1 to being over this pregnancy thing. Last night I was feeling my stomach for movement and I felt this little nub and it was so freaky. Lol I didn't know what it was! I go back and forth from thinking it's cool to "what is happening??"

leighbrek · October 2018

@wwkuandrea I think you'll find your opinion to be more popular than you would have expected!
I'm not big on it, either. I miss real exercise, not gaining 10 lbs by looking at a cookie, having actual energy instead of dying by 4:00 every day. I even miss thinking about other things! My brain will not let me forget baby is there.
Sooo I'm right there with you. 😊

greenhillgirl · October 2018

I've been into it overall but have my moments. Yesterday, I leaned down and said to her "I guess you can stay in there..." like I was sharing my sofa with a houseguest. wkuandrea

wkuandrea · October 2018

haha @greenhillgirl I talk to her a lot, mostly to say "sorry that my intestines are doing some crazy dance in there and probably bothering you, baby"

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