@wkuandrea - did you see serial season 3 started today! I listened to the first 2 episodes at work today. I started listening to teachers pet, but I can't get through it. It's an interesting story. I listened to the second season of In the Dark and it was really good!
Dirty John was really good! Sometimes those stories drive me bananas with how they go in circles because people are so stupid, but that podcast really kept moving forward. There were small interjections of personal opinion, too, which was good.
A tornado hit my hometown in Minnesota tonight. Thankfully my parents are safe and there is no damage to their house, just a downed power line. Lots of damage and trees down throughout the city from what I see online (we live about an hour away and are currently on vacation).
Glad everyone is a ok @UnbreakableKimmySchmidt just getting caught up on the boards. Went on a mini vacation with DS to visit my girlfriend in Florida. DS was sick but he did great on the plane both ways and slept well down there for the most part. The red tide just hit the beaches near my friend the day or 2 before we flew down so that was a bummer. We let the kids play in the sand but didnt stay long because of the smell. We still had a good time though. And I just read through the May 19 board and I almost couldn't get through it lol. I'll probably lurk there and see what other drama unfolds
@UnbreakableKimmySchmidt so glad to hear your parents and their house is safe. That has to be so scary!
Somebody recommended the podcast Radiolab and their gonads series. It was super interesting. I also like to listen to Happier. I need to make more time for podcasts!
So yesterday morning there was another mass shooting that hit way too close to home - it was 15 miles north of where I live and is the third one in my general area in a year. The first one was a small office and I didn't know anyone involved, the second one was the result of a news story that was written by my cousin's BIL and his picture was all over national news for days. Then I wake up this morning to see that the woman who orchestrated the one yesterday lived in an apartment complex that is directly across the street from my neighborhood. DH had to fight through media trucks to leave for work this morning (at 5:15) so I'm sure I'll have the same issues when I take DS to school. This crap is too real and people are just crazy.
@bradleysmommy28 and @UnbreakableKimmySchmidt those are both horrible events. I'm so sorry for the added worry and stress Glad to hear no one close to you was hurt in either event, but it still makes it seem all too close and too much when it's right there where you live.
@ladystout08 you aren't kidding. I just hate that this is the norm for our kids. And I wish the private island thing was a real possibility because I'd do it in a heartbeat!
@bradleysmommy28 ick my anxiety in big crowds has been extra terrible lately because of exactly what you're talking about. Being pregnant just adds a huge additional layer of responsibility and self-preservation. Terrifying that we even need to think about it, but I'm always looking for an escape route if anything like that should happen. I almost didn't go to a concert a couple months ago because I'm so scared about shootings, and none have happened here for a while! There was a bomb threat like a year ago literally down the street from where we lived, there was FBI everywhere and I stayed home for like 2 days. Trying not to let anxiety get the best of me, but it's easier said than done in the crazy world we live in.
@kianarain I think I might drive myself crazy if I still worked in an office. I'm lucky enough to work from home but I think about it every time I'm in a store or anywhere indoors because I always feel trapped. It's also sad that when we went to open house for my son's school, the first thing I questioned was why Kindergarten was at the very back of the school because its an incredibly long walk to get to the class and I was afraid the young kids would get lost. The teacher said the school is laid out so the oldest kids are towards the front of the school because,in the event of a tragedy, they would respond to directions better. Also, the Kindergarten wing has individual classroom doors but also doors that shut and lock to secure their wing from the rest of the school. And the exit doors in that wing cannot be opened from the outside. Its frightening how much thought goes into something like school layout.
@bradleysmommy28 I literally won't go to Ikea (or will take a Xanax in the parking lot if I MUST go) because it's the absolute worst w/feeling trapped. I am cringing hard reading about the planned layout of your son's school... On one hand, I'm glad they take that into consideration - on the other, I'm appalled that they have to. Ugh ugh ugh.
I think DS passed his cold into DH and me. So far, I just have a scratchy throat. Being pregnant and sick is is the pits AND just in time for me being on call for jury duty next week.
I FINALLY got an appointment with my new OB after two weeks of them not being able to find the records my former OB sent. I called every single day and all I got was “we’ll look into it and call you back.” I called yesterday morning and got the same crap so I called in the afternoon and my records magically appeared! I’ve heard great things about this doctor but his office staff sucks.
And I really hate how mass shootings have become the norm. I feel like Columbine was the first one I remember and back then it was one every couple of years.. now it's a yearly/multiple times a year thing. disgusting.
Oh man, I slept nine hours or more last night! Hubby was out, I fell asleep early, and I woke up around 8 ( of course with pee breaks in between). I can't even think of the last time I slept that much, but jeez, I feel good.
I can't believe that dec has already had its first birth... guys that means we're next but hopefully not for a couple more months. I just hit 25 weeks today and feel so happy to reach each week.
@galactickates actually there have been two births. They were within days of each other. The first mom posted that she had the baby and was leaving. We all tried to encourage her to stay but she hasn't posted since. Or at least not on our board.
Hey guys I don’t post much on the random thread but thought I’d pipe in on podcast recommendations!
@wkuandrea and others check out The Longest Shortest Time - it’s a podcast about parenting- not tips but mostly real parenting stories- it’s wonderful!
Environment Canada announced that Ottawa was hit with an EF3 tornado, followed by an EF2 in Gatineau. Thankfully no one was killed, but lots of injuries. So much crazy weather in Ontario this year.
@leighbrek I'm glad no one was killed in the bad weather! It was rainy and actually fall like where I am (ohio) today and I loved it.
We are having DS second birthday party tomorrow and I feel like all I did today was clean and cook but i still feel like my house is a mess. I feel like I have so much left to do. I really procrastinated on getting anything ready for the party until today so I guess only have myself to blame. Sometimes I wonder why I even stress about it because hes not going to remember anything about this party lol
@gorgeousariel that's crazy she had the baby this early and left!! Like left the baby there?? Going back every day? I couldn't imagine.
@UnbreakableKimmySchmidt I'm glad to hear your family is safe! Is their house ok? Those were some big storms to pass through MN, thankfully they didn't hit hard in Twin Cities
I went crazy yesterday and made chili and apple cake. It is still super warm here but I miss fall and wanted to feel like I still lived somewhere with seasons. Also DH doesn’t liked apple cake so I guess it is all mine.
Total rant here but I'm hormonal and thinking about when my son was in the NICU and I'm just mad. I really hate when people say "I can't imagine" when it comes to having a preemie and being forced to leave them in the hospital while you're left to pick up the pieces of the hell you just endured.
I will never forget the feeling I had when I was discharged from the hospital. There was no wheelchair out, everyone admiring you and your new little bundle of joy. Nope. I opted to go down 4 flights of stairs because I didn't want anyone to see my bawling my eyes out, while wearing slippers because when I went into the hospital a week before, it was warm out. I remember falling to the floor when I got home and hugging my dog because I missed him so much and he looked so nervous to see me because he knew something g was wrong.
The day I was discharged was also my baby shower day. I facetimed my little sister because there was no way in hell I could just go to the party and act like everything was okay. I looked at my husband and told him I just want to shower and go back to see our son. And that's exactly what we did. Every day for 10 days.
Trust me when I say that having to leave your brand new baby in the NICU is like having your heart ripped out every single day of your life. I hated the incredibly insensitive comments I received from family members and friends who didn't exactly understand our situation. And I hope and pray that if we have anyone from our bmb give birth prematurely, we can support her and try not to pass any judgement.
@gorgeousariel ooh! That makes more sense. I thought you meant "we all tried to encourage her to stay" meant that she left the hospital after giving birth when she could have stayed. Oh man, my misunderstanding was way different than what you meant!
@jgil85 I totally get that rant!!! FWIW I thought that the mom I was referring to had "left" her baby at the hospital, see my above comment. I know other moms personally who have had to leave their babies in NICU and it was like ripping away a piece of themselves each day when they had to visit then leave. I *can* imagine needing to leave for various reasons and it being a painful experience, my misunderstanding this morning when i first read the comment was a different scenario in my mind.
@jgil85 I use to do rotations during my dietetic internship in NICU and it was always so painful to know the parents could only visit and would have to leave eventually. I can understand why someone who had a baby early too couldn’t stay on the board... it would be difficult to be going through that and reading about everyone still possibly going full term. I really hope everyone has good experiences and from what I have seen of the ladies here so far we all seem pretty supportive each other’s situations.
Adding to the NICU life - I don’t blame the mom for leaving Dec board at all. It’s hard to even get through the day knowing her baby is not where she is - at home. It’ll be hard to continue and stay on the board when everyone else is still pregnant.
Echoing @jgil85. I waited for DH in L&D sitting area bc he had to use the restroom. In that 2-3 minute time span, I saw so many families with “It’s a Boy!” and “It’s a Girl!” balloons. Some dads excitedly bringing an empty carseat only to exit and pass me by again with a baby in the carseat. I could still feel my eyes burning trying to fight back tears knowing I was sitting there helpless while DD was two floors below me hooked up to a machine that helped her breathe better. Wtf. I thought I survived the wave of emotions when DH came out and we headed towards the parking garage.
Nope. We both got in the car and couldn’t help but notice a fully installed carseat in the back, empty. No words could describe the pain we felt. We couldn’t say much but as soon as we got in the car, we just held each other and cried our eyes out.
My heart goes out to all the NICU moms. I would not wish this on my worst enemy, ever. I also hope we can all bake these babies as long as possible.
DH was unloading the crib and change table with the help of a neighbour yesterday so when I realized we were out of dry white wine which I needed for our dinner recipe, I just ran out to the liquor store myself.
When I got to the cash (surrounded by "risks of drinking alcohol while pregnant" posters) I said to the guy "I'm cooking with it, not drinking it" and he responded with "don't worry, I'm not judging you".
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I was talking to DH about the holidays and that I may not be up for traveling to his family for Christmas (about 2 hours away) since I will be 36 weeks (and delivering by 38 weeks) and he wasn't really happy about it. He tends to think I'm overly cautious about things in general.
@tosh24 I haven't felt awkward about buying alcohol, but I have braced myself for someone to make a snide comment. I'm fully prepared to launch into a lecture that would make someone seriously regret opening their mouth lol.
@AshVA I don't know why it bothers me so much. The only person I ever judged while pregnant was an old trashy neighbour who smoked like a chimney and drank every day. But I wasn't totally honest with the guy I guess because I got home and promptly poured myself an oz of wine in a shot glass lol. First I've had all pregnancy. It was so good my eyes might have rolled back in my head. DH (jokingly) grabbed a a sharpie and marked the wine level in the bottle haha!
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I am a FTM so I am probably overly paranoid right now... but is it normal to feel like your stomach is extra heavy in the lower abdomen? It isn’t all the time and I know she hangs out low a lot of the time.
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 9/17
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
Somebody recommended the podcast Radiolab and their gonads series. It was super interesting. I also like to listen to Happier. I need to make more time for podcasts!
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
@bradleysmommy28 ick my anxiety in big crowds has been extra terrible lately because of exactly what you're talking about. Being pregnant just adds a huge additional layer of responsibility and self-preservation. Terrifying that we even need to think about it, but I'm always looking for an escape route if anything like that should happen. I almost didn't go to a concert a couple months ago because I'm so scared about shootings, and none have happened here for a while! There was a bomb threat like a year ago literally down the street from where we lived, there was FBI everywhere and I stayed home for like 2 days. Trying not to let anxiety get the best of me, but it's easier said than done in the crazy world we live in.
I think DS passed his cold into DH and me. So far, I just have a scratchy throat. Being pregnant and sick is is the pits AND just in time for me being on call for jury duty next week.
I FINALLY got an appointment with my new OB after two weeks of them not being able to find the records my former OB sent. I called every single day and all I got was “we’ll look into it and call you back.” I called yesterday morning and got the same crap so I called in the afternoon and my records magically appeared! I’ve heard great things about this doctor but his office staff sucks.
And I really hate how mass shootings have become the norm. I feel like Columbine was the first one I remember and back then it was one every couple of years.. now it's a yearly/multiple times a year thing. disgusting.
@wkuandrea and others check out The Longest Shortest Time - it’s a podcast about parenting- not tips but mostly real parenting stories- it’s wonderful!
We are having DS second birthday party tomorrow and I feel like all I did today was clean and cook but i still feel like my house is a mess. I feel like I have so much left to do. I really procrastinated on getting anything ready for the party until today so I guess only have myself to blame. Sometimes I wonder why I even stress about it because hes not going to remember anything about this party lol
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
I will never forget the feeling I had when I was discharged from the hospital. There was no wheelchair out, everyone admiring you and your new little bundle of joy. Nope. I opted to go down 4 flights of stairs because I didn't want anyone to see my bawling my eyes out, while wearing slippers because when I went into the hospital a week before, it was warm out. I remember falling to the floor when I got home and hugging my dog because I missed him so much and he looked so nervous to see me because he knew something g was wrong.
The day I was discharged was also my baby shower day. I facetimed my little sister because there was no way in hell I could just go to the party and act like everything was okay. I looked at my husband and told him I just want to shower and go back to see our son. And that's exactly what we did. Every day for 10 days.
Trust me when I say that having to leave your brand new baby in the NICU is like having your heart ripped out every single day of your life. I hated the incredibly insensitive comments I received from family members and friends who didn't exactly understand our situation. And I hope and pray that if we have anyone from our bmb give birth prematurely, we can support her and try not to pass any judgement.
@leighbrek hopefully all are safe with the tornadoes in Canada.
Hard to believe some Dec babes are already here!!
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
I can understand why someone who had a baby early too couldn’t stay on the board... it would be difficult to be going through that and reading about everyone still possibly going full term.
I really hope everyone has good experiences and from what I have seen of the ladies here so far we all seem pretty supportive each other’s situations.
Echoing @jgil85. I waited for DH in L&D sitting area bc he had to use the restroom. In that 2-3 minute time span, I saw so many families with “It’s a Boy!” and “It’s a Girl!” balloons. Some dads excitedly bringing an empty carseat only to exit and pass me by again with a baby in the carseat. I could still feel my eyes burning trying to fight back tears knowing I was sitting there helpless while DD was two floors below me hooked up to a machine that helped her breathe better. Wtf. I thought I survived the wave of emotions when DH came out and we headed towards the parking garage.
Nope. We both got in the car and couldn’t help but notice a fully installed carseat in the back, empty. No words could describe the pain we felt. We couldn’t say much but as soon as we got in the car, we just held each other and cried our eyes out.
My heart goes out to all the NICU moms. I would not wish this on my worst enemy, ever. I also hope we can all bake these babies as long as possible.
DH was unloading the crib and change table with the help of a neighbour yesterday so when I realized we were out of dry white wine which I needed for our dinner recipe, I just ran out to the liquor store myself.
When I got to the cash (surrounded by "risks of drinking alcohol while pregnant" posters) I said to the guy "I'm cooking with it, not drinking it" and he responded with "don't worry, I'm not judging you".
So awkward
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019