I’m ok if my husband gets sex outside of our marriage. It hasn’t happened yet. But we’re looking into ethical non-monogamy. It came up before marriage but we revisited it due to my sex drive tanking. My husband loves me and wants to have sex with me, of course. But I’m ok with outsourcing some aspects of our sexual relationship.
So last night I had a Sesame Street dream where the topic of the day was safety words. Nobody was having sex, but Big Bird and Snuffy we’re having a conversation and for some reason needed a safety word. At first Big Bird made it something way too common and relevant to their conversation so they kept saying it even though they didn’t need to use it. Then he came up with some gibberish word and Snuffy couldn’t remember or say it. So then Alan and Chris come over and explain to Big Bird that a safety word needs to be a real word they can remember but something more obscure that wouldn’t naturally come up in conversation. I can’t remember what word Big Bird eventually came up with because I woke up laughing so hard.
@mamabear1010 I feel like I could have written that same stuff word for word.
My “confession” is that when DH and I started dating a few months into it I broke up with him to date someone else. It didn’t work out because he moved a few states away but I always wonder if DH and I would have gotten married if the other guy had stayed.
I’m also completely guilty of checking out ex-boyfriends FB pages to see what I didn’t miss out on, lol.
Finally my best friend and I use to make out in bars to get free drinks when we were in college.
@tumblefluff I’m guilty of the ex-bf thing, too. But my ex bf before DH was just..... AWFUL.
My secret is that I wish I had never gotten married. I was engaged at 21 and married at 22, and the last few years haven’t been easy. I sometimes feel that I pushed DH into marriage when he wasn’t ready, either. So much talk of rings and weddings and babies. We drove ourselves into debt with our wedding, which is another regret. I’m proud of myself and I really feel like I’ve done a lot of growing up, and my marriage is solid. But I’m JUST now feeling comfortable as a wife and partner. So maybe I should adjust this to say that I wish I hadn’t gotten married so young. We should have eloped or just moved in together.
My somewhat secret is that I was adopted and recently reunited with my biological mother. People who know me are aware of that but they don’t know that I feel much more connected to a woman I met this past May than I do to my mother who raised me for the last 30 years.
I’ll throw in that I’m a Christian and feel like it is more uncommon than common these days. Though a lot of people feel Christianity is more of a culture to subscribe to. I definitely have a dirty past. I was sexually assaulted twice and raped once growing up. I won’t pretend like they’re the sole reason for my promiscuity in college but I did realize why I was so numb and would just have casual sex and then run away from any guy who wanted to involve emotions. I feel like I just took y’all to therapy. Lol
@middy411 hugs I know exactly what you mean. I was drugged and raped by two guys when I was 18. I went from almost no sexual history to sleeping with several random guys because I thought the more I was with the less I would care about that night. It definitely backfired and I regret sooo many hookups. It never once numbed the pain.
@harveyisaboysname hugs to you! It’s unfortunate how common things like this are. I definitely regret how I was but am lucky to be with my amazing husband now!
I want to participate but I have no idea what to share. I'm so boring.
Um... I've been known to sing in my sleep. At Girl Scout camp back in 4th or 5th grade, I was given the nickname "Midnight Crooner" because of it. It still happens from time to time. Friends call me the human jukebox because I have a song for every situation, and I guess I can't turn it off even when I'm asleep.
Re: GTKY - What's Your Secret??
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
So last night I had a Sesame Street dream where the topic of the day was safety words. Nobody was having sex, but Big Bird and Snuffy we’re having a conversation and for some reason needed a safety word. At first Big Bird made it something way too common and relevant to their conversation so they kept saying it even though they didn’t need to use it. Then he came up with some gibberish word and Snuffy couldn’t remember or say it. So then Alan and Chris come over and explain to Big Bird that a safety word needs to be a real word they can remember but something more obscure that wouldn’t naturally come up in conversation. I can’t remember what word Big Bird eventually came up with because I woke up laughing so hard.
And I’m blaming this thread for that dream!
My “confession” is that when DH and I started dating a few months into it I broke up with him to date someone else. It didn’t work out because he moved a few states away but I always wonder if DH and I would have gotten married if the other guy had stayed.
I’m also completely guilty of checking out ex-boyfriends FB pages to see what I didn’t miss out on, lol.
Finally my best friend and I use to make out in bars to get free drinks when we were in college.
My secret is that I wish I had never gotten married. I was engaged at 21 and married at 22, and the last few years haven’t been easy. I sometimes feel that I pushed DH into marriage when he wasn’t ready, either. So much talk of rings and weddings and babies. We drove ourselves into debt with our wedding, which is another regret. I’m proud of myself and I really feel like I’ve done a lot of growing up, and my marriage is solid. But I’m JUST now feeling comfortable as a wife and partner. So maybe I should adjust this to say that I wish I hadn’t gotten married so young. We should have eloped or just moved in together.
I’ll throw in that I’m a Christian and feel like it is more uncommon than common these days. Though a lot of people feel Christianity is more of a culture to subscribe to. I definitely have a dirty past. I was sexually assaulted twice and raped once growing up. I won’t pretend like they’re the sole reason for my promiscuity in college but I did realize why I was so numb and would just have casual sex and then run away from any guy who wanted to involve emotions. I feel like I just took y’all to therapy. Lol
Um... I've been known to sing in my sleep. At Girl Scout camp back in 4th or 5th grade, I was given the nickname "Midnight Crooner" because of it. It still happens from time to time. Friends call me the human jukebox because I have a song for every situation, and I guess I can't turn it off even when I'm asleep.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019