@kangstadt I get it. There was a period of like 6 months when my husband made $0 (they back-paid him later), and another period when he was unemployed. However.... During the 7 years I was in grad school I made like 1/5 of my husbands salary. Now I still only make a bit over half. They don’t pay starting profs all that well. But, on the other hand, I have wayyyy more flexibility. So we bring different things to the relationship. I don’t think $$ is a good measure of true contribution! Hopefully y’all can have a good conversation and clear the air so things don’t fester.
@professormama I completely agree about the $$ not being the best measure of contribution. When DH and I first moved in together he was doing better financially and helped me out but now I'm making the majority of the household income but we make it would percentage wise between the two of us for bills obviously. He is at home a lot more with DD though, which may be why she's such a daddy's girl but it's extremely helpful since it takes away from the time needed to have her at daycare and that saves a ton in the long run.
I feel like I got pretty lucky that DH helps out immensely around the house. Especially when I'm pregnant. He's never once complained if I don't feel good and just want to lay on the couch for an hour. There is a definite give and take but I've also gotten better at saying thank you and not being so nit-picky about things.
I’m terying to catch up today. I didn’t get into my hotel room until midnight last night because of a reservation fuck up. And I’d been up since 4am. We had to sleep three in a room with my boss. So tired. I almost just told my coworkers I was pregnant because I felt like crying because I was so tired and didn’t want to sleep on a cot.
That M19 drama was crazy. But it was mostly from people who headed over from TTGP to jump on that one person, who doesn’t know how to apologize to save her life.
I didnt see the oart about not telling thenhusband right away. I told DH after he ate dinner because my pee stick was a squinter and I needed to give it a few more minutes.
Bump autocorrect sucks, but I’m ass tired to fix it. Up at 6 for a full day after my shitty evening of running around finding a hotel room in SF.
I have sooooo much work today. But I’m tired and grumpy and I don’t want to do anything. If anyone finds my lost motivation, please return it to me. I really need it.
Anybody ever stay in an airbnb? I have a hotel booked for our mini vacation but on a whim looked at airbnb and found an entire apartment for half the price. But I’ve never stayed at one before, anything to know?
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Anybody ever stay in an airbnb? I have a hotel booked for our mini vacation but on a whim looked at airbnb and found an entire apartment for half the price. But I’ve never stayed at one before, anything to know?
I love staying in AirBNBs. I would just be sure to check the individual policies of each place and make sure they have solid reviews. And be sure to learn about the surrounding area - like making sure you're in a decent neighborhood if that matters to you. I love having a kitchen and more than JUST a hotel room.
@thatbaintforbetty I second what @MRDCle said about reading the reviews- I’ve had good and bad experiences. I would also highly recommend that you ask if you get the entire space to yourself as some of them are shared space set ups, and if you want privacy that can be kind of awkward.
@thatbaintforbetty we run three of them. Generally, people give 5 stars to anything that meets their expectations so don’t use the star system as a gauge of whether it’s high end, but rather as a gauge of whether the photos accurately reflect the space. Read the reviews to see what it’s really like, but if it’s 99% “awesome place” and one person saying “this place sucks” that one person is probably a grump.
read the whole listing to know what is and isn’t included and feel free to ask to confirm. Def download the app so you can use it as a texting service with your host.
Thank you! I will definitely look into it more but it sounds like it might be a viable option. I may have more questions when I have more time to look into it tonight after work.
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Well, today was shitty. My dad had a stroke this morning, completely out of the blue, not that that's atypical for a stroke. Luckily there doesn't appear to be any mental deficits, but his speech is slurred and he has a weak side, so I'm really hoping everything gets better because it would devastate him not to be able to speak well or be physically capable.
I am irrationally irritated at H for being away on a business trip when this happened, and kind of think he should have dropped everything and flown home immediately instead of waiting until his scheduled flight tomorrow morning. My dad is the one that usually watches my son, so for me to go visit him before everyone else I know gets out of work, I had to bring the baby with me to the hospital and take turns with my mom leaving the room to watch him since they don't allow babies in the CCU.
@Piccola1988 ::hugs:: How scary. This is the kind of situation where other moms from storytime at the library would pitch in - don’t be scared to ask people you wouldn’t normally burden.
Thanks all for the positive thoughts and wishes, and sorry to post and ghost last night. I fell asleep ungodly early next to DS, but I guess I needed it. Aside from the emotional toll it’s definitely physically taxing to stand around a hospital all day pretending not to be pregnant and feeling like garbage, but I’m kind of glad nobody knows because I don’t want them worrying about me too!
Thats all from me, sorry to drag down the mood around here! In other more pregnant news, I treated myself to a boatload of Taco Bell last night and felt momentarily amazing...and then of course extremely nauseous. Still probably worth it.
@lyse01 I love that they linked the July14 story. I FULLY intend to go back and reread that. I remember when I was KU with my son and that thread first happened. I sat in a McDonald's parking lot smashing a 10 pc nug and reading it on my lunch hour. What a ride.
@lyse01 you win my favorite this morning. @Piccola1988 I’m glad you got some good rest. I’m so sorry about your dad. FX for continued healing and recovery.
@MRDCle I was in the July 14 board. Which drama is our legacy? I moved with a group to Facebook after the babies were born and didnt really come back till this year. Off to investigate....
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The one with the lesbian and her wife came in to intro and then it all came undone. It's linked in that May19 FB post. It didn't happen till fall of 14. Man TB was really a trip back in the fall/winter of 14.
I should be focusing in class but instead I’m eating cheese and going to go enjoy some drama! I’m so glad I’m not the only one who loves this stuff (at least from the outside looking in)
Edit: what did I just read??? Both in May19 and July14. Geez.
@Piccola1988 I’m so sorry about your dad. I also had a scary health issue with mine last week that’s still ongoing. This stuff is tough as it is but so much worse when pregnant. I really hope he heals quickly, and I hope you’ll be able to breathe and relax soon.
Oh god I remember that. She stole the pictures from some girls blog in like Norway or something. I had moved to Facebook by then and didn’t come back to the bump often.
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I have zero appetite this week. I've eaten yogurt, fruit, pretzels, and chili basically since Sunday afternoon. I seem to get nauseous whenever it's mealtime, yet if I try to get ahead of it and eat BEFORE the meal would come, I start gagging while eating or getting food ready.
I have zero appetite this week. I've eaten yogurt, fruit, pretzels, and chili basically since Sunday afternoon. I seem to get nauseous whenever it's mealtime, yet if I try to get ahead of it and eat BEFORE the meal would come, I start gagging while eating or getting food ready.
Yesss. This has been me for almost 3 weeks now. It’s miserable.
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I feel like I got pretty lucky that DH helps out immensely around the house. Especially when I'm pregnant. He's never once complained if I don't feel good and just want to lay on the couch for an hour. There is a definite give and take but I've also gotten better at saying thank you and not being so nit-picky about things.
That M19 drama was crazy. But it was mostly from people who headed over from TTGP to jump on that one person, who doesn’t know how to apologize to save her life.
I didnt see the oart about not telling thenhusband right away. I told DH after he ate dinner because my pee stick was a squinter and I needed to give it a few more minutes.
Bump autocorrect sucks, but I’m ass tired to fix it. Up at 6 for a full day after my shitty evening of running around finding a hotel room in SF.
How do I find the admin page?
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
I have sooooo much work today. But I’m tired and grumpy and I don’t want to do anything. If anyone finds my lost motivation, please return it to me. I really need it.
DD born: 3/31/19
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read the whole listing to know what is and isn’t included and feel free to ask to confirm. Def download the app so you can use it as a texting service with your host.
ask anything else you have in mind
Thank you! I will definitely look into it more but it sounds like it might be a viable option. I may have more questions when I have more time to look into it tonight after work.
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I am irrationally irritated at H for being away on a business trip when this happened, and kind of think he should have dropped everything and flown home immediately instead of waiting until his scheduled flight tomorrow morning. My dad is the one that usually watches my son, so for me to go visit him before everyone else I know gets out of work, I had to bring the baby with me to the hospital and take turns with my mom leaving the room to watch him since they don't allow babies in the CCU.
DD born: 3/31/19
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L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Thats all from me, sorry to drag down the mood around here! In other more pregnant news, I treated myself to a boatload of Taco Bell last night and felt momentarily amazing...and then of course extremely nauseous. Still probably worth it.
July 14 never came up in my Aug 17 board, so this is the first I’ve heard of it. F’ing epic.
@Piccola1988 I’m glad you got some good rest. I’m so sorry about your dad. FX for continued healing and recovery.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
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Edit: what did I just read??? Both in May19 and July14. Geez.
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Now off to stalk M19.