My DH knows this about me and so do my parents but I don't think my siblings or my friends know the extent that I am crazy about finances/Dave Ramsey. I listen to his podcasts and still keep a register in our checkbook. (I only write checks to daycare and the housecleaner, so I'm not stuck in the 90's!). I love reading family finance blogs and paying off debt blogs.
@mrstmoose I got you. I used to sell my dirty panties online for extra cash. I made pretty good money. I stopped because I didn’t have enough time between that, work, and planning my wedding. I’m wondering if I should pick it up again to pay for baby stuff
@harveyisaboysname - Yaasss. H and I seriously looked into it. You want to pay ridiculous amounts for my dirty laundry? Have at it. I just never followed through.
I was thinking like "I can throw my voice" or "I was an extra on a movie once". Haha.
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@mrstmoose I’ll go dirty. The ladies of parenting informed me that is is weird and not the norm. I can orgasm from clitoral stimulation in like under a minute.
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@thatbaintforbetty like going in cold? or has there been any warm up? Like I don't think I could do that at the drop of a hat but in the right mood I could see it going that way.
This thread is awesome . Kudos to you ladies who can get off so quickly - I tend to need a little more warm up first, but I also have issues with sex that give me a stigma about taking care of myself.
As for me, I can't really think of a major secret... uhh, when I was first dating my now-husband, I made out with our mutual (female) friend in a club. Needless to say, my DH wasn't too thrilled with me at the time even though we weren't exclusive.
It's also made me wish I had more time to explore sexuality before settling down into a serious relationship and marriage, haha. I don't fully consider myself bisexual, but it's definitely a route I wish I had explored.
@kangstadt I’m bi. I was actually engaged to a woman before DH but she lied to me about something big and it was enough to end us. Part of what made me think that a minute was not the norm was that I’ve never been with another woman that could get off that fast.
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Like @kangstadt I don't really have a lot of secrets. One you all don't know is that DH and I knew each other for under a month when we conceived number 2. But obviously our family and friends know that.
I don’t know if I can do it in 60 seconds, but not much longer than that. I was single for a LONG time so I learned how to take care of myself quickly.
My “secret” probably isn’t that juicy, but I’m an atheist. I tend not to tell people because they instantly think less of me because they think you can’t be a moral, loving person without some sort of deity guiding you.
Not really a secret to family and friends, DH and I basically moved in together (he still went “home” once a week) within 1 week of our first date. We try to justify it that it was so he didn’t have an hour commute each way to and from work, when I lived 5 minutes from his office, but the reality is that we hated to be apart. Clearly it worked for us, but I don’t recommend it for everyone.
@wearegroot I’m some where in the realm of agnostic/atheist. DH says he is Buddhist but I think is actually more of a Taoist.
I’m sorry people can’t be more understanding. I haven’t really encountered that thought process from anyone but I’m saddened that you have. Do you live somewhere with a lot of religious influence? I live in CA and it’s ridiculously liberal (which is one of the reasons DH won’t convince me to move to Wyoming).
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Ok one random fact that actually not a lot of ppl know is I can read books really fast lol
Another thing is I am the queen at giving head... like I can make my husband cum really quick. But in all honestly I don’t like it haha. Only after a couple cocktails I really enjoy doing it.
Last thing I can think of is I have a huge collection of sex toys. Obviously only my husband knows but we are really into toys lol. 50 shades of grey has nothing on my sex life
@thatbaintforbetty Yeah, I live in VA, so it’s not like super bible belty, but it’s still the south. And I was a special ed teacher before being a SAHM, so people tend to assume that if you work with kids with disabilities, it’s because you’re religious (although I actually have several SPED friends who are atheist/agnostic). I just usually tell people I’m not into organized religion, which is true, when I get asked what church I go to.
@mamabear1010 I may need to get some lessons. I suck (no pun intended) at getting DH off any way other than traditional sex. I usually get him worked up but he has to finish himself off, and it makes me feel a little guilty, cause he’s really good with me!
@wearegroot *waves* fellow atheist. I mostly keep it a secret because I also live in the bible belt and it becomes exhausting having people want to save you or pray for you when they find out. I actually had to break up with my last nail tech because she wouldn't stop trying to talk me into believing.
AFM, my dirty secret since I just outed myself as an atheist is that I don't really care about receiving oral sex. It just doesn't do it for me the way penetrative sex does. But I'm also weird and can finish from sex alone so there's that too *shrug*
@wearegroot I'm in the agnostic realm which to my family is basically atheism. It's never fun to feel judged either, I tend to just avoid the topic. DH holds the same beliefs, DD was never baptized and honestly she'll decide what she wants to do with her beliefs when she's older. No pressure from us.
AFM I don't have a big secret but something random and a little different than most is that I was engaged 3 times before finally settling down with DH to the point that we weren't ever going to get married because I stopped believing in the concept. Just turns out that he was the perfect person for the job and obviously I ended up changing my mind.
this isn’t scandalous but it is a secret... my husband and I completely made up our “how we met” story. We met online in the much earlier days of online dating and didn’t want to admit it to our friends/families so we came up with a whole story about how we met through friends and have stuck to it to this day! It’s been 8 years and to this day only about 3 people know the real story. And now all of you haha
Any medical marijuana moms? I gave up my stash a few months before we started TTC I’m looking forward to my last day of nursing this baby so I can start at it again. Some moms like wine, I like weed.
Wow. This thread really went there fast. I think I’m going to keep my dirty stuff to myself.... i have trouble coming up with secrets to tell and after these I feel like mine are no good anyway. I don’t know if I even have any hidden talents.
Well I now officially feel boring! @harveyisaboysname My BIL use to sell his EXs dirty shoes and socks online, and people bought the crap out of it.
My secret is I play a semi nerdy online phone game. DH and I started to play it together, but I got better than him so I kept playing. Haha. I wouldn’t tell many people because they would flame me for it. Anyways, sorry for my snooze fest! Hahaha
@wearegroot, I'm also atheist and grew up in a rather religious area. DH is from a Catholic family, but he's agnostic and just hasn't really told them, lol. His aunt still tries to give me religious books for our son.
@sheknows6, is it uncommon to finish from just sex? I don't talk sex with enough ladies to know, haha. That's usually how I finish. DH and I are actually really good at getting off together.
@harveyisaboysname, I am not, but my siblings have suggested it for my dad's Parkinson's. It hasn't been made legal where I am yet though.
@Bringmemylongswordho, definitely not tame! DH and I have actually talked about a threesome, but I don't think we'll ever go through with it. We're both worried it would end up with too many mixed emotions or us resenting each other.
@professormama , it's cause someone made the challenge of taking it dirty and everyone jumped on it . Talking dirty secrets with internet strangers is easier than in person! (Although personally, I love playing Never have I ever with new friends because I always win. I'm a goody-two-shoes for the most part :P)
Oh! I have one more that most people don't know or would assume I'm lying about. I've only ever had sex with my husband. Not for religious reasons or waiting for marriage or anything (DS was unplanned before we could get around to the wedding part, whoops), but because I was waiting for the right one.
@kangstadt DH isn’t the only one I’ve had sex with but the only one I’ve had sex with more than once. I’m a major committmentphobe so I always ran away before I could get emotionally involved with anyone. Actually I ran away from DH when we first started getting close, but I came back...eventually
So I am religious, and now a Catholic, and am generally known for being pretty moral...but in college I would randomly hook up with guys, sometimes after just texting with then a bit on the internet! Pretty sure my husband doesn't know that ;-) (he knows I had premarital sex...just not how rediculously causually).
And FFFC, despite my choices as a younger (ok so like 5 years younger...lol and I've been married 4 yrs...wow that looks bad hah) person, I fully intend to encourage my children to wait until marriage.
@kangstadt I’ve only ever done it with my husband too. We didn’t wait until marriage. But I had decided that I wasn’t going to have sex as a teenager - by the time I was 20 (the age that I had decided was old enough for sex) we were already together. I had some weird hang ups... Also, I’m with you on always winning never have I ever. I grew up pretty sheltered, goody-two-shoes, and I’ve only ever been with my H. So I just can’t “compete” most of the time.
@wearegroot two pieces of advice I can give you with out showing you lol. It’s all about the penis. Lots of (tmi) spit and moaning lol. Worship his penis... men like to feel superior in the bedroom even though we all know the women really run the show lol.
Also, @wearegroot, don't know you or your husband obviously, but my DH is really difficult to get off with a blowjob. He enjoys them immensely, it just means me committing like 20 minutes of sore jaw to get him there . Sometimes he even says he prefers a handjob as foreplay. Just saying, it might be him not you!
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My DH knows this about me and so do my parents but I don't think my siblings or my friends know the extent that I am crazy about finances/Dave Ramsey. I listen to his podcasts and still keep a register in our checkbook. (I only write checks to daycare and the housecleaner, so I'm not stuck in the 90's!). I love reading family finance blogs and paying off debt blogs.
DD born: 3/31/19
I was thinking like "I can throw my voice" or "I was an extra on a movie once". Haha.
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I think my FFFC was that I was kinda worked up and got off in a work bathroom in like 45 seconds.
They made it seem as though they were quite shocked at the amount of time and it was NOT the norm. It was a running joke for months.
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As for me, I can't really think of a major secret... uhh, when I was first dating my now-husband, I made out with our mutual (female) friend in a club. Needless to say, my DH wasn't too thrilled with me at the time even though we weren't exclusive.
It's also made me wish I had more time to explore sexuality before settling down into a serious relationship and marriage, haha. I don't fully consider myself bisexual, but it's definitely a route I wish I had explored.
I think I get it done in around a minute, too. I know what to do and how do I'm usually good to go.
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My “secret” probably isn’t that juicy, but I’m an atheist. I tend not to tell people because they instantly think less of me because they think you can’t be a moral, loving person without some sort of deity guiding you.
I’m sorry people can’t be more understanding. I haven’t really encountered that thought process from anyone but I’m saddened that you have. Do you live somewhere with a lot of religious influence? I live in CA and it’s ridiculously liberal (which is one of the reasons DH won’t convince me to move to Wyoming).
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Ok one random fact that actually not a lot of ppl know is I can read books really fast lol
Another thing is I am the queen at giving head... like I can make my husband cum really quick. But in all honestly I don’t like it haha. Only after a couple cocktails I really enjoy doing it.
Last thing I can think of is I have a huge collection of sex toys. Obviously only my husband knows but we are really into toys lol. 50 shades of grey has nothing on my sex life
@mamabear1010 I may need to get some lessons. I suck (no pun intended) at getting DH off any way other than traditional sex. I usually get him worked up but he has to finish himself off, and it makes me feel a little guilty, cause he’s really good with me!
@wearegroot *waves* fellow atheist. I mostly keep it a secret because I also live in the bible belt and it becomes exhausting having people want to save you or pray for you when they find out. I actually had to break up with my last nail tech because she wouldn't stop trying to talk me into believing.
AFM, my dirty secret since I just outed myself as an atheist is that I don't really care about receiving oral sex. It just doesn't do it for me the way penetrative sex does. But I'm also weird and can finish from sex alone so there's that too *shrug*
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she wants to do with her beliefs when she's older. No pressure from us.
AFM I don't have a big secret but something random and a little different than most is that I was engaged 3 times before finally settling down with DH to the point that we weren't ever going to get married because I stopped believing in the concept. Just turns out that he was the perfect person for the job and obviously I ended up changing my mind.
this isn’t scandalous but it is a secret...
my husband and I completely made up our “how we met” story. We met online in the much earlier days of online dating and didn’t want to admit it to our friends/families so we came up with a whole story about how we met through friends and have stuck to it to this day! It’s been 8 years and to this day only about 3 people know the real story. And now all of you haha
: P my "H & I are into s&m and have threesome's with a highschool friend of his" feel kinda tame now tame lol.
i have trouble coming up with secrets to tell and after these I feel like mine are no good anyway. I don’t know if I even have any hidden talents.
My secret is I play a semi nerdy online phone game. DH and I started to play it together, but I got better than him so I kept playing. Haha. I wouldn’t tell many people because they would flame me for it. Anyways, sorry for my snooze fest! Hahaha
@sheknows6, is it uncommon to finish from just sex? I don't talk sex with enough ladies to know, haha. That's usually how I finish. DH and I are actually really good at getting off together.
@harveyisaboysname, I am not, but my siblings have suggested it for my dad's Parkinson's. It hasn't been made legal where I am yet though.
@Bringmemylongswordho, definitely not tame! DH and I have actually talked about a threesome, but I don't think we'll ever go through with it. We're both worried it would end up with too many mixed emotions or us resenting each other.
@professormama , it's cause someone made the challenge of taking it dirty and everyone jumped on it
Oh! I have one more that most people don't know or would assume I'm lying about. I've only ever had sex with my husband. Not for religious reasons or waiting for marriage or anything (DS was unplanned before we could get around to the wedding part, whoops), but because I was waiting for the right one.
And FFFC, despite my choices as a younger (ok so like 5 years younger...lol and I've been married 4 yrs...wow that looks bad hah) person, I fully intend to encourage my children to wait until marriage.
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