@hannelorre We had my husband go in first and had our dog smell my DD's newborn hat she wore at the hospital, I have no idea if that was necessary or helped or not, but we did it and he did great. He's kind of an anxious dog so we were worried about how he'd acclimate to the crying and what not, but he has been a champ. He went right into protective guard dog mode like *instantly* which was crazy. Related to that, the only things we did have an issue with were 1.) he was very protective of her in her stroller when I walked her, so I learned that stroller walks were (at first) not the time for him to meet and interact with strange dogs or people. (He has since mellowed and is fine about that now.) 2.) at first he thought he had to be awake at ALL times she was awake. If she cried, he was the first responder, lol. And he would stay up through every wake up, day and night, until at about 3 months he realized he didn't have to do that, which was good because the poor guy was EXHAUSTED. But the intro part was pretty seamless and the other things worked themselves out in the first year. Good luck! I remember being nervous about this too!
@hannelorre like others said I brought home the blanket they wrapped the baby in and put in his kennel or bed. Had all the baby stuff up but even with all that my dog acted up big time the first night we were home I just cried. And he has had his moments where he still goes into my kids rooms and pees on a hamper
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@texas_t our 20 something neighbor always comes home with the bass & music blaring, I can hear it in my house at 11pm or whenever. My mind is always "damn kids!" lol
@maureenmce I was having a sad/emotional day yesterday & totally cried thinking about my son not being my only in 2.5mo
My son is 6.5 & I will be having a c-section. I'd like to drop him off at school that a.m. then go have the baby at 10am if possible (1st scheduled section is at 8, second at 10). Then have DH bring him by after he picks him up from school. I had a hospital tour today & they said siblings are allowed in. I don't know if I'm going to bar other visitors from meeting baby before my son or not. I was "I don't know about that" when friends did it, but now that it's me, I'm "hmm, maybe".
The good news about a newborn is they just lay there and don't make a lot of sudden movements or grabs like toddlers. That kinda gives the dog time to acclimate.... Kinda like a slow boil and before you know it, your toddler is riding the dog around the house
Yes, my dog loved my son... until he became mobile. lol. Now she tolerates him, but doesn't try to be near him most of the time. Small dog syndrome. My ILs big dogs are way more chill with him.
I 100% plan on DS being the first person after DH and I to meet his baby brother. I've been drilling that into DHs head from the beginning lol. I thought about having him make a Build A Bear for baby, but we'll see. I do like the idea of a gift for him mostly as something to keep him entertained while in the hospital, but I doubt we'll keep him there for too long anyways, otherwise he would be the disruptive toddler. I do understand what you're saying @hkom about it not needing to be perfect, but I also think @maureenmce explained it wonderfully. I also always thought it was weird that mom's would think about how they could love both kids equally, or give their attention to both kids, or how do I not let my toddler feel leftout/ignored, but now that I'm here I get it. I'm not worried so much about loving both kids, I'm mostly worried about how DS will adjust to not having our attention 24/7. We already teach him to be pretty independent though, so I think that'll definitely help some.
Re: music (I forget who originally mentioned this, and it's 3 pages back lol), DH is ALWAYS playing music out loud on his phone when he's in the kitchen cooking. He'll also turn it on the tv, just a music channel. I don't mind so much when it's on the TV, but something about phone speakers out loud really gives me a horrible headache. I can't stand it. Also slightly related...my boss has a radio on her desk, which is right next to mine. I'm okay with the radio on when she's there, but anytime she's gone another coworker turns the radio on because apparently she doesn't like the quiet. It really annoys me for some reason when her radio is on but she's not there that day. I actually prefer when it's off, too many people are already chatting and making too much noise, I LIKE working in silence!! The best time is lunch time when at least half the department is out lol.
@CecilB93 I also cannot stand loud music blaring out of a phone and that is how DH always works around the house. I like listening to music, and loud while I’m cleaning, but not out of my phone. Then the kids with the TV, I’m always turning it down. Right now DH and DS1 are working on the nursery using an alarm clock for music super loud (which may even be worse than a phone). DS3 is watching a show, again, super loud, so he can hear it over the alarm clock music. DS2 and I are hanging out in his room cleaning it up. It’s so peaceful in here.
I think it’s hysterical reading through all the FTM/STM comments. Last go around I HATED when people told me “you don’t understand because you’ve never been there.” That was seriously my biggest pet peeve. Now I totally get it. It’s hard to understand when you haven’t been in someone else’s shoes. I’d like to say it’s made me less judgmental (but let’s be honest, only ever so slightly. I’m still a Judgey B
@awells189 I’m not sure why it’s “hysterical”? It's not like there was any drama. No one ever actually told me that I didn’t
know what I was talking about since I’m a FTM.
That’s not a sentiment I’ve seen much on this board at all, in any
thread. Some STMs said that their
experience was different, but others pretty much agreed with what I said. It can be difficult to understand being in someone
else’s shoes but based on all of the comments, not all STMs wear the same
shoes.
@hkom I didn’t take @awells189 comment that way. When I was a FTM I constantly got the “just you wait” comments. But Your experience will not be like any other mom’s. I actually think it’s funny on the reverse take. Sure I could never fully prepare myself, I have done things I swore I would never do but there is nothing I couldn’t handle. Saying “just you wait” is a negative Nancy move!! Lol
@LLynde5 Maybe not, but as the FTM who started the conversation, that’s
exactly how it came off to me. If there
was another point to the post, I’m genuinely not sure what it is.
Ooh sorry. I didn’t think it was directed at you, @hkom. I read it more as a blanket statement. I do stand by saying your experiences will be yours solely. I may not always agree with others but I can’t stand when people devalue others opinions. If you felt that way, I am sorry.
Random thought! Not sure if this is a uo or not but; I cant STAND when men say "we" are pregnant or "we" had a baby. YOU arent pregnant. Your not sick, your body isnt growing and stretching at a rapid rate, you dont have a little alien doing cartwheels inside you, And YOU dont have to push out, or cut out said alien and then heal...... I'm triggered obviously lol. Ive been watching birth videos and ran across a few where these poor woman didnt make it to the hospital and delivered in the car. The trend i see is the partners saying "no, dont push, wait" when she obviously doesnt have that option. Then when the baby is born they say "yay WE just had a baby".............seriously bruh......you. did. absolutly. nothing...... ok ok rant over lol
@hkom I agree that the comment could be taken two ways, especially since the poster is not someone I’m familiar with.
@lavenderlisa Yes! I can’t stand that. It annoys me when women do it too. “We had our membranes stripped. We pushed for x hours”. No you did that! Your H may have been there supporting you, but he was not actually doing the work!
@lavenderlisa I agree to an extent. No "we" aren't pregnant, but I don't see any issue in saying "we had a baby" in a general sense. That's just my opinion
@hkom I’m SO sorry if you felt attacked. I in no way meant to make you feel that way.
ETA: I was just sharing that I thought it was funny looking back on my experiences. It’s like the whole “I’ll never put my baby in front of a screen” and then I realized not to judge the moms who do because of course my toddler ends up with an iPad of his own.
@awells189 No worries. It just came off as a little bit of "Haha look at this FTM. Isn't it funny how all the STMs told her how wrong she was?" But that's just my perspective, plus I'm a Sensitive Sally lately. I believe you didn't mean it that way.
I don't mind my "we had a baby". My husband does do alot during pregnancy and after. I do really feel like we are a team bringing this baby into the world. But, if he said "we got our membranes stripped" or "we labored for x hours", I would definitely give him the stink eye:)
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6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP
@texas_t our 20 something neighbor always comes home with the bass & music blaring, I can hear it in my house at 11pm or whenever. My mind is always "damn kids!" lol
@maureenmce I was having a sad/emotional day yesterday & totally cried thinking about my son not being my only in 2.5mo
My son is 6.5 & I will be having a c-section. I'd like to drop him off at school that a.m. then go have the baby at 10am if possible (1st scheduled section is at 8, second at 10). Then have DH bring him by after he picks him up from school. I had a hospital tour today & they said siblings are allowed in. I don't know if I'm going to bar other visitors from meeting baby before my son or not. I was "I don't know about that" when friends did it, but now that it's me, I'm "hmm, maybe".
I've talked with DS about how people will be getting baby gifts because she doesn't have anything that's hers yet & he has everything he needs already. I don't know if it will be a gift from baby, but I was more thinking of giving him a gift at the baby shower for him about baby. It's called The Big Sibling Book ( https://www.target.com/p/big-sibling-book-baby-s-first-year-according-to-me-hardcover-amy-krouse-rosenthal/-/A-11845966?ref=tgt_adv_XS000000&AFID=google_pla_df&CPNG=PLA_Entertainment+Shopping&adgroup=SC_Entertainment&LID=700000001170770pgs&network=g&device=m&location=1028357&gclid=Cj0KCQjww8jcBRDZARIsAJGCSGv1MdOK67DeVdIiVXU3UvhplmOuz_xKYkiaglXM8zKrt64BCXwfERIaAo_jEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds )
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Re: music (I forget who originally mentioned this, and it's 3 pages back lol), DH is ALWAYS playing music out loud on his phone when he's in the kitchen cooking. He'll also turn it on the tv, just a music channel. I don't mind so much when it's on the TV, but something about phone speakers out loud really gives me a horrible headache. I can't stand it. Also slightly related...my boss has a radio on her desk, which is right next to mine. I'm okay with the radio on when she's there, but anytime she's gone another coworker turns the radio on because apparently she doesn't like the quiet. It really annoys me for some reason when her radio is on but she's not there that day. I actually prefer when it's off, too many people are already chatting and making too much noise, I LIKE working in silence!! The best time is lunch time when at least half the department is out lol.
DS2 due 12/12/18
@lavenderlisa Yes! I can’t stand that. It annoys me when women do it too. “We had our membranes stripped. We pushed for x hours”. No you did that! Your H may have been there supporting you, but he was not actually doing the work!
DS2 due 12/12/18
ETA: I was just sharing that I thought it was funny looking back on my experiences. It’s like the whole “I’ll never put my baby in front of a screen” and then I realized not to judge the moms who do because of course my toddler ends up with an iPad of his own.