Monday BF 9/3

cjx95 · September 2018

I swear guys I'm losing my mind when it comes to starting threads so feel free to start whatever you dont see posted like this one (:

Anything to vent about or get out?

knottieamusements · September 2018

Only that I have to go back to work tomorrow.

jennybean80 · September 2018

I’ve spent all day thinking it’s Sunday...

cjx95 · September 2018

I'm so bored.. I want to do something but it's so hot! I'm so ready for this heat and humidity to go.

cjx95 · September 2018

New BItch fest! My best friend has literally become a flake. I saw her before announcing our pregnancy to tell her in person then one other time this summer.. I've tried making plans throughout the summer and she's continuously agreed to the plans then when the day comes she doesn't get back to me or answer her phone then texts me the next day with some excuse that's always been just valid enough for me to not get upset. But DH made a point that the least she could do is let me know if something's coming up. Well it happened again and I'm so irritated!
Was supposed to see her last Thursday but she had work when she was supposed to be off, but her phone died so I wasted two hours waiting until I gave up and went home, she said she felt bad and would come see me since she had today off. Texted her last night to confirm we were still doing something and again she never got back to me.. I don't want to just give up on the friendship because shes been my best friend for 8 years but I'm so tired of being the only one to put in effort and even that isn't paying off.. I just miss my best friend..

jwebbbber45678 · September 2018

Ugh that sucks, it's no fun when friends grow distant. That happened with a good friend of mine as well. Just don't give up, even if you hang out less than before, just enjoy the few times you can. I noticed I just see my friends so much less since we all had kids, but we try to get together when we can, even if it's been months.

rabtaido1214 · September 2018

That’s such a crappy feeling! You’ve done more than your share of trying. It’s one thing for her to cancel, even last minute, but totally another to completely blow you off and leave their very pregnant friend waiting for them for hours! I think it’s time to give her space and see if she decides to come around again at a later time when she is over whatever is up in her life and when she wants to try to make an effort. Then you can hear her out.

mytrueloves · September 2018

I'm sorry you're dealing with that. My sister is the same way and it's the most frustrating thing to deal with. Hugs.

knottieamusements · September 2018

@mamabearcj

I tend to agree with @rabtaido1214.

But I will also add this- there may be things going on for your friend that you are not aware of and that she doesn’t know how to or chooses not to communicate with you. So, instead, she is acting like an ass.

One of my closest friends became a complete asshole after I told him I was pregnant. He didn’t avoid me, but he started treating me like shit. I called him out on it because what he was doing was not cool and also not typical for him. It turns out that my being pregnant was bringing up for him a whole bunch of issues that he was then taking out on me. Once we figured out what was going on, we both made some changes so that we were not inadvertently hurting each other.

knottieamusements · September 2018

Also - I am truly sorry that your friend is being an inconsiderate bitch.

ummibtihaj · September 2018

@knottieamusements has a point worth considering. I know when I got pregnant right after I married dh, I had a friend who would act like a total psycho. Turns out she had some personal issues as well that were triggered by my pregnancy. She never really resolved her issues and we eventually grew apart anyway, but at least I knew and tried to continue to maintain the friendship without animosity.

KFrob · September 2018

We had our inspection on the house we're buying on Friday. The first part of the BF is that seller had the power turned off so now the inspector needs to come back to finish. And the second BF is the inspector is almost certain we need a new boiler. We're almost positive the seller knew this and didn't disclose it (there was a sale that fell through a couple of months ago due to financing, but they had an inspection done too) our agent is POed about all of it. We're really hoping that the seller is willing to just give us the cost of the new boiler install and be done with it.

sammierose464 · September 2018

My neighbor used to hang out with my husband all the time and hasn't really hung out with him much lately. I thought about it, and realized it really started around when we told them we were expecting. I know they have had a lot of issues trying to have a child, so while they said they were excited and it didn't bother them...I think it did more than they were willing to tell us.

nugget2ehf · September 2018

We got an infant car seat from my brother and brought it back from OK in July to CO. It was dirty but just needed to wash the cover and wipe it down. We put it in a plastic bag in the garage. Well we opened it up yesterday to wash everything to install, and the cover and the straps are covered with mold! Like, a lot of it. I wouldn't have thought it was wet, but maybe bringing it from one humidity to the other?

I looked up ways to clean it, but getting conflicting reports. On one hand, people say they wash it and scrub everything and it's fine. But on the other hand, you're not supposed to use any harsh cleaners on it. I don't know that I'd trust just wiping it down, or if it's in the foam or something. Pretty sure we're just going to buy a new one, because I just don't want to start out parenthood with my baby breathing in mold as soon as we leave the hospital.

mytrueloves · September 2018

@hannaht8516 I wouldn't be worried about the cover really but if the straps are covered in mold, I'd be worried about the integrity of it. I'd think using bleach on the straps would also compromise their integrity. I'd bite the bullet and get a new one.

sunnyknightsarah · September 2018

My mom is so generous and kind hearted but she makes everything more complicated than it needs to be. If you truly want to be helpful, please just be helpful instead of asking me 5 zillion unnecessary questions that I have to think about and find answers to... and then she does it her own way anyway.

nugget2ehf · September 2018

@mytrueloves that's pretty much what I read online. And I just don't want to start out that way. So we're just going to do it. And we'll know for next time when we have to store it. Just was very irritating to me. But the bases are fine, so we'll at least have 2 extra bases.

jandmnumber1 · September 2018

Long weekend has me all messed up. I thought it was Monday today. So my bf is that my little sister had her baby about a month ago, we don’t talk much at all anymore and she lives 24 hours away from me and never visits her hometown anymore. Well long story short, I sent her a package for the new baby and big brother about 3 weeks ago and it says it was delivered but I haven’t gotten a thank you or a picture of baby in the clothes I bought. If someone sends me a gift I call them right away and let them know if received it and how grateful I am for it. Very disappointed!!

sunnyknightsarah · September 2018

@jandmnumber1 Aww I'm sorry, that's so disappointing! Hopefully, she's just been adjusting to having a toddler and infant and the thank you is coming! Can you text her and just say something general like "Hey! Congrats again on the new baby! I sent you something and just wanted to make sure it made it to you - did you get it?" and kind of prompt the conversation to start? Maybe then she'll apologize for the delay and let you know she got it and appreciates it.

Laumb11 · September 2018

@hannaht8516 I'd prob get a new car seat, but I am skeeved out by things like that.

nugget2ehf · September 2018

@Laumb11 yeah, I don't mess with mold. It was all fuzzy, and I could see the little spores spread all throughout the fabric. I don't even want to try to clean it, because it's more of the things I can't see. And for something that she's going to be in a lot and breathing in closely, I just don't trust it. Already sending husband to go get a new one today. I didn't even consider that something like that could happen.

So PSA for all, for when you store the car seat for the next kid. Make sure it's clean and dry and stored properly or it'll grow stuff.

cjx95 · September 2018

You ladies made great points, I wish I was able to have a discussion about it in person with her but it isnt going to happen at this point before I have the babies. I am going to give her space and hopefully when shes ready or getting through her stuff she knows where I live and knows what my number is. The last thing I want is to lose my best friend.

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