Sexy Time

ebk20 · August 2018

How are things going in the bedroom since you got pregnant?

clbness · August 2018

What has 2 thumbs and ZERO sex drive? This girl.

PensiveCrayon · August 2018

@clbness Saaaame. Also no time. This reminds me though, I promised myself I would initiate at some point this week to bring up our average/based on a talk we had on Saturday. Guess I should do that tonight.

morgantu · August 2018

ditto. We have been so freaking busy the last few weeks and by the time bedtime hits, I am exhausted. Though, when we do have sex, it feels great, I just am having trouble getting the energy to get to that point. Luckily, H is also tired from working on the house, so it's not causing any problems.

LLynde5 · August 2018

It’s been the same for us but we like each other a lot! Our biggest thing is my husband has been coming home on his lunch break because he knows I am sicker at night.

CecilB93 · August 2018

I said same as before, but I'm in the mood so much more than before, we just don't because of time/being tired/he's not home when I'm in the mood lol.

echo-charlietango · August 2018

We have been significantly less active

I just don’t feel sexy at all, plus I’m constantly “burping” all day, moreso at night (reminder - I can’t actually burp, and my body’s work around solution is less effective...I think). Luckily DH is really busy and isn’t offended that we haven’t had much intimate time.
I look forward to getting back at it later when I feel like me again!

westcoastfoodie · August 2018

I generally have zero sex drive, pregnant or not so there’s not difference there, except I was on pelvic rest so I had an excuse for no sex lol. Lately I’ve never felt more unattractive so sex is really not happening much.

katy0990 · August 2018

Confession: I love pregnant sex because I don’t feel like I need to suck it in

kristah2 · August 2018

zero drive around here. H gets so mad because he says I use him to get pregnant. But when I come off the pill my sex drive increases a bunch. Then I get pregnant and I'm sick and hormonal and want nothing to do with it.

I had 1 week of an increased drive. Now I'm back to not wanting to even look at H. woops.

Activebaby · August 2018

I have a 2 and 4 year old that are constantly jumping in our bed. I’ve just been too tired to make them
go back to their own beds. Dh has been doing school work after work so he doesn’t have the energy to make the kids go to their own beds either. Stellar parenting for sure ... clearly no one should listen to any of my parenting advice lol.

hkom · August 2018

Well this is a little bit cruel. I've been on pelvic rest for 5 weeks and will remain on it for the rest of the pregnancy, + the 6 or whatever weeks after baby is born. Other than obviously wanting to just go home while also keeping baby safe, I want nothing more than to have sex with my husband. We aren't even crazy sex maniacs usually - our normal tends to hang around twice per week - but not being able/allowed to is the worst. I think I've had dreams about it every night since I've been here.

Anyway, sorry to be a Debbie Downer but there's my sob story lol.

asun123 · August 2018

My husband and I have had sex maybe twice since I got pregnant. I feel really bad about it but can't find the energy or time to do something about it. Average before getting pregnant was about 1-4 times a week. Now we are averaging 0 times a week. I was too scared to have sex in the first trimester of pregnancy because I kept having miscarriages and somehow I felt I was being more careful by cutting out sex in the beginning.

binxybaby · August 2018

What is this sexy time you speak of? The last time I had sex, I got pregnant so probably should stay away from that!

kadeephd · August 2018

This poll makes me feel better. I don't really have much drive right now and it doesn't help that I'm afraid I'll bleed whenever we have sex.

misscheapandchic · August 2018

I want it a lot more, but it’s not happening a lot more. It’s also been hard trying to find positions that work for both of us since I can’t stand any pressure on my belly at all.

LLynde5 · August 2018

@misscheapandchic two words wedge pillow! (Or folding a snogle pillow up works too!)

lexidawg · August 2018

I was on pelvic rest for 18 weeks of this pregnancy split into different time frames. There really has been little sex. I was released 2 weeks ago but... meh. LOL

gorgeousariel · August 2018

I should be coming off pelvic rest this week. I've been on it 14 of my 21weeks. So I'm with @hkom and I want it!

whitneyb89 · August 2018

I want to say my husband and I have been just as sexually active as we were before (which was only once every once in awhile), but it does seem like there was a time we were both interested several times in one week. But, unfortunately there have been plenty of times where I was wanting something, but my husband wasn't interested.

orangecrush29 · August 2018

We’ve been so busy this summer, I like to think that’s why we haven’t been doing it as much but in reality, I feel so blah and sex has felt uncomfortable the last couple of times. We’re still averaging 1-2x a week which I’m pretty proud of but, I won’t lie, I’m not sad when he goes out of town and I don’t have to think about it, lol.

barristerninja · August 2018

Pelvic rest is so hard. It was self imposed by us after some early scares but the docs were telling us we were clear to go for it. Then we did after waiting 12 weeks since the last scare and I started contractions a few days later. I’ve got the high risk condition that we now know about but we can’t help wonder if we set it off.

AGK2015 · August 2018

I want it more, but we're not doing it more (or much at all). Husband's libido crashed shortly before we married for reasons we've never quite figured out, so we're doing pretty well if we bone in two consecutive months.

But hey, he knocked me up twice, so I can't really complain!

flamingomomma · August 2018

Well, my libido skyrockets during pregnancy. But my marriage is falling apart, so I refuse. Maybe once since we made the baby. I’m now on pelvic rest due to contractions & starting to dilate.

LLynde5 · August 2018

@flamingomomma I’m sorry to hear this.

rosebud332 · August 2018

We haven’t been doing it at all. I’m willing but haven’t pushed it. I asked a few nights ago if he felt weird about pregnant sex and he said he didn’t want to do it until our anatomy scan because TW—he’s still nervous since our loss a couple of years ago. End TW.

I felt bad about that. We’ve had the a/s already but exhaustion and being crazy busy mean it’s pretty much off the radar currently.

clbness · August 2018

@PensiveCrayon Solidarity, girl! I told myself I was going to initiate the other night too and he did something to piss me off, so I didn't. I feel like I always convince myself I'm up to it during the day and then by the time night rolls around, I'm feeling gross and tired.

texas_t · August 2018

DH has been catching me in the morning when I get up to pee for the 9 millionth time. I don't have it in me at night (that's what she said), so I've accepted the morning, lol

hkom · August 2018

@texas_t That had been our routine as well. Or weekend afternoons. Even before getting pregnant that was always our preference. We're not evening sex people at all for the most part (some exceptions of course). By the time we get to bed at night we're usually just too tired. A little bit of pillow talk and snuggling, and then H reads while I go to sleep.

donnawicks · August 2018

This post makes me feel so much better I think we have done it's twice may be three times since getting pregnant he was weird about it for the first few months and now I just don't even wanna think about it I'm hoping maybe my hormones might be nice and kick in I miss the intimacy

deutschmama · August 2018

Between leaky boobs, hating anyyy pressure on my stomach, and falling asleep around 9 PM each night, it's just not happening. I feel a little bad for DH, but also, screw that- I'm growing a human.

Jens_Hoes · August 2018

DH and I got into a tiff the other night because we haven't been having sex. He told me that "everyone" he talked to said that they had more sex when their wives/gf/whatever were pregnant. I told him they were all lying lol

katy0990 · August 2018

Has anyone else had some colostrum come out from nipple stimulation during sex. Asking for a friend

hkom · August 2018

@Jens_Hoes Oh of course his friends said that! Guys are so weird. Just show him this thread!

morgantu · August 2018

@Jens_Hoes one of my good friends apparently get SUUUPPPPPER horny when she's preg; like to the point that her H turns her down. I'm so glad for this thread because I thought I was doing something wrong lol. Nope, she's just a unicorn.

clbness · August 2018

@Jens_Hoes Yeah, they're ALL lying! I mean, no guy wants to admit to his buddies they aren't getting any.

@morgantu I was hoping I would be one of those unicorn women this time around! Instead, I hate the thought of sex even more than I did with my first pregnancy! That's what I get for hoping. *eyeroll*

mommythlegend · August 2018

Exactly the same here @asun123!

Was too scared to for 1st Tri. Have maybe 2-3x since. I have zero desire.

AdorkablePixie · August 2018

We're having sex what feels like less, but only because my DH's work schedule. When he isn't working we have sex every other day or every two days. When he works late though, we obviously don't get any sex in.

deutschmama · August 2018

@katy0990 yes, and it’s so unsexy and distracting for me!

AdorkablePixie · August 2018

@katy0990 YES!! Not this pregnancy yet, but towards the end of my pregnancy with DS it would happen. One time, it was two days before I went into labor, it was literally running out! I was like what the heck?! I hid it from DH because I thought it would gross him out. lol

@morgantu & @clbness I am the same. During the day I'm all about sex and so ready for it, but by the time it's time for sex I am so tired and just ready for bed. I usually do I anyway though, because I know I'll enjoy it even though I am tired.

@hkom Aww, I'm sorry. The sex dreams though! I had one last week. I wanted sex but we had been so tired and DH hurt his back. Then I wanted it one night but his back still hurt. Then the next night he was ready but my stomach hurt. The sex dreams feel so real sometimes, it's crazy!

katy0990 · August 2018

@deutschmama and @AdorkablePixie i’m glad it’s not just me! I awkwardly left the room to go wipe them off and my husband so confused. He thought he hurt me. I waited until after we were done to tell him what happened, because that is so not sexy!

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